Ladies, list your biggest turn-ons

[cockycarp]

Just curious, what each of you find as the biggest turn-on about a guy....the things that get you really into him and wanting him....

From the guy you just met... the guy you have known only for a few months (a friend of a friend thing)

and a guy you have known for a year or longer.....

 

[jaguar_woman]

Interesting questions, Cocky

Just curious, what each of you find as the biggest turn-on about a guy....the things that get you really into him and wanting him....

From the guy you just met... the guy you have known only for a few months (a friend of a friend thing)

and a guy you have known for a year or longer.....

The same thing applies, whether it's an appraising look from a stranger in an airport to a colleague I've lusted after for years and all men in between. The answer is a sexy, attractive intelligent man who genuinely likes women.

Everything else is a detail at that point. But some of the more interesting details for me include sexy, sparkling eyes, silver or salt-and-pepper hair (which rules out the boys looking to bait a cougar—wrong cat—sorry fellas), a wicked smile, and a good body.

Hope that helps.

--JAG

 

[Meara_Fyre]

I really like a guy whos strong in body and mind. A guy who can handle himself and knows when to take control and let it go. Like, I love it when my BF comes up behind me and interrupts whenever i was doing, gets me all excited with kisses and touching me in all the right spots, than drags me to the room whispering details of what he's gonna do to me on the way there. XD gotta love it

I have a thing for long hair too, but thats just me. lol

 

[shyasianguy]

why not add turn offs?

Why don't we add turn offs as well? Such as, what we say or do, that way we know better and avoid them when given the circumstances ^^

 

[cockycarp]

Thanks for the replies so far......I have always felt confidence was the primary thing, or atleast in my personal experience...

 

[daddysgirl83]

so many to list...

well one of the biggest turn ons for me is a guy who is in control, a dominant man, one who isn't afraid to do what he wants to me one who can sneak up behind you while you're doing the dishes and grind against you and tell you that you better not drop a single dish or you'll be in trouble! men who can come up with little teasing things like that and be in control is definitely a turn on for me!!
i also like a guy with big strong arms and hands - for the same reasons as above. besides - gotta have nice *spanking* hands too hint, hint

 

[cockycarp]

well I happen to have both a black belt in tongue fu....and third degree belt in hand fu.....spanking.....

 

[dawn_of_night]

humor and confidence. an open mind. physically: broad shoulders, nice smile, maybe some facial hair and a bald head. each man has his own turns. imo.

 

[imnauti]

Well I'm sure there are lots of answers to that question, and no doubt after I post this I'll think of six better things I could have said, but I really get turned on by guys who are genuinely into ME. I really like it when I'm not just some girl they they're hitting on or think they might have a chance with, or worse, just can't find anyone else they want to talk to more. When a guy is into me he will talk to me and look at me in such a way that I really feel the focus of his attention. And that's incredibly hot.

 

[anneski]

Intelligent conversation - though probably not rocket science as that's SO last year...
Wicked sense of humour.
Confidence, yep, preferably enough for both him AND me.

And, Imnauti has it summed up there, not just making do with me as a time killer...

If they happen to have a bit of an 'edge' too, something about them that says 'don't be too sure you know me' then that's a plus Feeling too safe isn't always what I want... Guess that's why it's easier to feel attracted to a stranger, or semi stranger, than to someone I know really well.

Physically I don't have a type, though I guess older men tend to have more of the serious confidence as opposed to the bravado of youth, but that's a generalisation. As is the fact that I don't tend to look at smaller, baby faced, shy men in the same way.

 

[amy amy]

Humor, confidence and honesty. Being able to share their thoughts without worrying about how they sound. Expressing erotic desires and being explicit while at the same time being sweet and honest. I've only known one man who did this very well, but he's still a constant subject of my fantasies!

 

[HowMayIPleaseU]

hmmmm I pretty much echo the thoughts of the women who have gone before me... I like a man who is intelligent and has a wicked sense of humor - sometimes they have trouble keeping up with mine... someone who is confident, but not arrogant... someone who wants to please and be pleased...

physical - it really varies with me... if I find a man attractive mentally, that goes a long way towards helping me find him attractive physically... but i like the strong hands... generally prefer larger over slight (though that varies as well)... the physical is much less important to me than the mental...

 

[loisofthelow]

I just discovered a turn-on that I didn't realize was important to me.

Gentlemen, please know how to dress. Ask yourself if you know how to dress for:

1. Tennis/golf
2. Dinner party/backyard BBQ
3. Wedding/church service

You don't have to be James Bond, but at least don't be Gilligan.

 

[LibraStud]

I just discovered a turn-on that I didn't realize was important to me.

Gentlemen, please know how to dress. Ask yourself if you know how to dress for:

1. Tennis/golf
2. Dinner party/backyard BBQ
3. Wedding/church service

You don't have to be James Bond, but at least don't be Gilligan.

Golf - I have a green shirt from the pro shop at Augusta that I would wear with a pair of form fitting pants and my well-shined shoes.

Dinner party - I like to wear a pair of tan kaiki pants with an oxford blue button down shirt for an informal dinner party.

Wedding - I like to make sure that the bride and groom are the spotlight. I would pick a navy blue suit, white shirt, and a tie with the bride's colors.

 

[Pleasureableguy]

I just discovered a turn-on that I didn't realize was important to me.

Gentlemen, please know how to dress. Ask yourself if you know how to dress for:

1. Tennis/golf
2. Dinner party/backyard BBQ
3. Wedding/church service

You don't have to be James Bond, but at least don't be Gilligan.

I do hope climatic variation is catered for in that list.

 

[TMNT]

I can post and endless list of things that turns me on about males BUT to be honest the one and only must-have trait is Dominant. I am a sucker for that kind of male. You know, the kind I can't push around.

 

[avvikande]

OK, I'll split this answer into two parts, the turn-ons and the turn-offs. I will try to keep this brief, but alas, sometimes I ramble.

Turn-ons
1. Confidence - not to be confused with ego, or with bravado, or with alcohol. Alcohol will not give you confidence, in any quantity, and the quiet sober guy will always get into my pants before you do.
2. Sense of humor - not to be confused with cruel jokes at another's expense. Sarcastic humor preferred, there seems to be some innate intelligence lurking behind someone that can quip sarcasm which a Three Stooges type guy can never match.
3. Body hair - yes, I'm ok with the the proverbial "hair shirt". I don't care if you're bald, but body hair is a keen plus. Waxing and laser hair removal are for women, please.
4. Maturity - every man who is 60 does not qualify by default. I have met plenty of 55 year old men whom still had 3 decades worth of growing up to do before they hit mature. A well seasoned man, whom can carry on a conversation in and out of the bedroom, thumbs up. I admit, the entire "old enough to be my dad" bit turns me on in a dirty pleasing way also.
5. Romance - I guess it falls into this category, not sure what else to call it. Putting a rose on my pillow for me to find. Opening the shower curtain to see a dozen candles scattered about ready to be lit. Having a jar of my favorite jam next to the toaster in the morning. Romance doesn't always mean big $$$ guys. It can be the stupid shit too. Send her a post card from the post office in town, I guarantee it will make her smile when she gets it. All that's needed is enough effort to try and the possibilities are endless. And she'll adore you for it. If she doesn't, write and I'll supply my address.

Turn-offs
1. Bad breath - if you don't know if you have it, find your best friend, breathe in their face and tell them to give it to you honest. Then proceed to the dentist and keep going until you get the "your breath no longer smells like ass" bill of health.
2. "Groomed" body hair - see #3 above. Please don't wax, shave, shape or gel your hairy body bits. Prickly cock isn't cool cock. Hedges shaped like hearts are cute, your body hair groomed into a poof poof is fruity.
3. Effeminate men - I like my men to be men. Long finger nails on men, gah. Gelled up hair, more cologne than a cheap whore house and tweezed eyebrows are not for any man in my life. Also, comb-overs and other lame attempts at hiding your balding head - just admit it ffs and shave it down. Then park your head between my thighs. Thanks.
4. Me, me, me men - oh you know the type. Beg for you to suck their cock 5 days a week and make a big processional sized deal out of going down on you. Want to be a ridden when you fuck, and rarely want to put the effort into getting on top and learning how to screw.
5. Childish anything - using kid words during sex - boobies, dinky, titties, etc. is a HUGE turn off. Also, tickling. Tickling is always associated with that creepy guy, be it an old uncle or bad date, that didn't have the balls to make a move on you. He would skitch a little closer on the couch and start tickling you so as to hope for a cheap feel and then he would desperately hope that cheap feel did it for you and start all out grabbing at you. Gah. Die in a fire tickle men.

Sorry, but I warned you I ramble

 

[cockycarp]

well thank you for the responses...it is very interesting to see the common threads in them....

 

[BlackJABaby]

turn ons: clean fingernails, shiny bald head, deep voice, rough hands
turn offs: bad breath and B.O., dirty and long finger nails, high pitched voice, soft hands (seriously)

 

[julybaby04]

I guess everyone has their own ideas about this.

How about ...there is nothing really special a guy has to do. If he can just be himself....that can be a huge turn on. Every girl will like something different...may take a few kissing of frogs to find the right one.

If the girl is truly honest from the beginning and the guy is also, then each will find out quickly if they click.

As it says in my profile, I'm learning about myself....this includes likes and dislikes in a guy. One thing I have learned is that being appreciated for a talent that you didn't know you had....and that being celebrated is a nice and welcomed benefit of the learning experience.

If a guy looks for something like that in a woman and celebrates that....I am sure she would respond.

 

[cockycarp]

i have found being me works best for me.....my shaved / bald head has overall been favorable....as well....

but when i was younger, i knew little

 

[ima6uldv8]

One that can mix being dirty and nasty with making love and cuddling. Oh, and one that loves to cum on me

 

[AnitaMann]

turn ons

I'm definitely going to have to go with big, strong hands. Working man hands. But they have to be attached to a man who knows when to be strong, and when to be gentle with them.

 

[mark_j]

I just discovered a turn-on that I didn't realize was important to me.

Gentlemen, please know how to dress. Ask yourself if you know how to dress for:

1. Tennis/golf

Tennis --- whites or club regs.. or at minimum athletic shorts and a well fitting t-shirt preferable tucked in.

Golf -- Minimum pull over golf shirt and casual slacks depending on course dress code

2. Dinner party/backyard BBQ

Formal Dinner -- Black Tux (the only way)

Informal Dinner -- Minimum Sport coat, matching slacks and dress shirt (Tie optional depending on company present) unless dinner is billed as casual..

BBQ -- could be anything depending on company present... so long as it is clean nice and in good repair (no torn jeans and t-shirts please)

3. Wedding/church service

Wedding -- Good suit minimum unless you are in the wedding party
Church -- Again you can't go wrong with a good suit

 

[KingOrfeo]

The answer is a sexy, attractive intelligent man who genuinely likes women.

But, how is that possible? Intelligent men know that women are meant to be used and discarded like Kleenex.

::ducks & runs::