What does a "straight" person need to know about...

[BlueSugar]

oral sex?

What are we missing?


I'm doing an oral sex seminar at work, we're going to try it and see how it goes. Hopefully we can do 4 a month if they hit big. Two nights, two classes... "how to" in class one and "advanced" in class two. Blow jobs one night - Licking pussy the next.
I know plenty, my coworkers are really chipping in too. But I want what men know about giving fellatio. I want what other women know about cunnilingus.

If this was a class you were teaching in the art of going down under - what would you say? Visual aids? Tricks? Tips?
What was helpful to you when you were learning?

think about it, get back to me, I really want to talk to everyone I can

 

[Etoile]

Whoa, where do you work?!

 

[Around_the_bend]

Ditto! Need some new co-workers? lol

Hmmm.... well as a guy who has blown another guy and loves eating pussy...

I think the biggest advice I would pass on is ...

For a blowjob going nice and slow at first while focusing on the tongue is a good start. I enjoy receiving and giving a blow job where I swirl my tongue around the head of the penis while keeping constant pressure and slowly working down and up. I will tend to speed up taking more and more into my mouth as I can or as my partner can. I am not a swallower so a nice signal near the climax with a quick slick jerk of the head of the penis usually finishes the job nicely

As for eating pussy ... first of all I love it ... it is by far one of my favorite sexual things to do. I love the taste and feel of my partner squirming underneath my nimble tongue. I usually start out nibbling my way down and starting to slowly lick the lips of the pussy. Flick my tongue over them and start moistening the area if it's not already there ... then I start to dig my tongue in prying the lips apart as my tongue probes deeper. Then after I have applied ample lubrication to the outside I press my tongue to the entrance of my partner and flick it a bit sending shivers up her spine. A nice slow and hard lick brings us up to the clit where I start to go to work. I use the tip of my tongue to get inside the hood and start teasing it to swell slightly. By now my partner is breathing heavy and moaning as I flick my tongue on her clit faster and faster alternating with sucking it in and touching it just lightly with my teeth ... almost a nibble but not even that much pressure. As I can tell my partner is about half way to her orgasm I slide back down for a quick penetration with my tongue slamming it in as deep as I can go before going to town on her clit. When I am trying to make her cum hard I will use my upper lip to pull up the skin to more easily expose the clit and heavily attack it with my tongue. I use my bottom part of my mouth to make a tight seal with her labia lips and use it to stimulate that area. As I increase speed so does the rate of her climax and right when I am at my fastest and she is almost tipping over the edge I add one last physical stimuli. It might be pinching her nipple or even light nails down her side... i try to change it up ... but that last little bit sends her over the edge into a screaming orgasm where she either A) needs me to leave her be for a few seconds to recover or B) she wants me to bang the hell out of her until I cum lol

Now this is just my life and my sexual experience but maybe there is a pearl of wisdom somewhere in ther I hope your training goes well and keep us up to date.

Peace,

AtB

 

[emap]

Enthusiasm.

Here I'll say it again.

Enthusiasm.

Nothing gets him or I think her off better and generally faster for you to be down there humming, groaning and talking about how good they taste in your mouth. Lots of eye contact to.

The proper method varies by person your doing that to, but they all love when your down there sucking slurping humming and groaning your enjoyment. You don't have to actually love doing it, you just gotta look and sound like you are. Helps tons if you do really love going down on your lover, they generally can tell when your faking the enjoyment, I've been on the receiving end of that one.

I've had guys who wanted to grab my head and move me about as they want, i've had guys who let me do all the work, with and without hands. I had one guy who just wanted my hands until the end, he helped me along on the hands part. I actually had the most fun with him, gave me a little while to talk dirty before my mouth came into the action. Sadly it took him longer than I wanted to get up again, all that dirty talk had a most moistening effect on me.

Every single one of them commented on how great it was that I was enjoying being down there, they all shot juices faster with me than anyone else. Which in and of itself is a great experience, not to mention the effect on your self esteem.

Oh yeah and where do you work? That sounds like a great place to work at.

 

[ReadyOne]

From the Darkroom Forum

From the Darkroom Forum

Do you include finger work, or just the tongue and lips?

For enhancement by fingers...

females -- the g-spot and finger fucking

males -- the prostate

both sexes -- the anal ring

And will rimming or fisting be in the syllabus?

Certainly include visuals. There's probably better drawings out there, but Scarleteen (dot) com site has a good "101" aimed at beginners. Also look at sexuality (dot) org.

Some things like the difference between circumcised and uncircumcised is a good illustration -- could be by the time someone see someone else's penis, it's erect and the difference isn't as noticeable.

Labeling some things like the sweet spot on the penis makes discussion easier.

Then there's the whole "where the heck is clitoris hiding?" For that, you almost need a model where you can poke around in the folds! Betty Dodson has a bunch of different vulvae illustrated at Scarlet Teen.

 

[BlueSugar]

I work at an outter borough sex shop in NY

great tips - keep them coming everyone, first we're going to focus on the blowjob, then going down on the ladies !

DEC 5th is the big day

 

[Creutair]

As was mentioned already, enthusiasm is the most important part I think.

 

[emap]

My bad I forgot the second most important thing. Playing with the face.

No not the other person's face, that little folded area just under the helmet on the bottom, the side the guy can't see normally. There are alot of nerves there, it varies on how effective they transmit feeling, some guys can't stand there to be played with directly until they are about to orgasm. Some guys don't get that much pleasure out of there anyway, those tend to take forever though. I'm talking have to stop blowing and going on to the regular sex before they orgasm forever.

Takes practice to do it right, but what you do is when your looking up to see his face, run your tongue along the bottom of him. Basically puts your tongue pressing into the face everytime you pull back. Also good to stay there twirling on it and humming, the sensations goes through your tongue and go right into that face. I tend to do that when I know he's close so I can taste my reward.

Possible to do that even when he grabs your head and starts face fucking and they will love you for it. Though best to play around with him before sucking to see how he reacts to what you do to his face. If he's really senstive he will let you know, if he's regular he will either groan or tell you to keep doing that.

If your in a 69 it's possible to stimulate there with your mouth, though harder in it requires pulling back so your lips are there and then making kissy face. I don't really have a better way of saying it, basically you make kissy faces which makes your lips move on that face. You can also suck in your lips, same principle with a different direction of movement.

 

[sterculius]

Has anyone mentioned enthusiasm? What I find most pleasurable however,is deep throat, both as a cocksucker and cocksuckee. The sensation of having my cock massaged by the throat muscles of an enthusiastic practitioner is as exquisite as the feeling of having a hard, thick cock sliding in and out of my own throat. And I love the way it pulsates as it ejaculates into my esophagus!!! What happens on Dec. 5th?

 

[Etoile]

Has anyone mentioned enthusiasm? What I find most pleasurable however,is deep throat, both as a cocksucker and cocksuckee. The sensation of having my cock massaged by the throat muscles of an enthusiastic practitioner is as exquisite as the feeling of having a hard, thick cock sliding in and out of my own throat. And I love the way it pulsates as it ejaculates into my esophagus!!! What happens on Dec. 5th?

Only been mentioned twice so far...check out the whole thread to read about what is happening on the 5th

 

[sterculius]

Only been mentioned twice so far...check out the whole thread to read about what is happening on the 5th

Yes, I saw the previous posts Etoile, I was joking.

 

[Etoile]

Yes, I saw the previous posts Etoile, I was joking.

Oops...I am dim

 

[BlueSugar]

My bad I forgot the second most important thing. Playing with the face.

No not the other person's face, that little folded area just under the helmet on the bottom, the side the guy can't see normally. There are alot of nerves there, it varies on how effective they transmit feeling, some guys can't stand there to be played with directly until they are about to orgasm. Some guys don't get that much pleasure out of there anyway, those tend to take forever though. I'm talking have to stop blowing and going on to the regular sex before they orgasm forever.

Takes practice to do it right, but what you do is when your looking up to see his face, run your tongue along the bottom of him. Basically puts your tongue pressing into the face everytime you pull back. Also good to stay there twirling on it and humming, the sensations goes through your tongue and go right into that face. I tend to do that when I know he's close so I can taste my reward.

Possible to do that even when he grabs your head and starts face fucking and they will love you for it. Though best to play around with him before sucking to see how he reacts to what you do to his face. If he's really senstive he will let you know, if he's regular he will either groan or tell you to keep doing that.

If your in a 69 it's possible to stimulate there with your mouth, though harder in it requires pulling back so your lips are there and then making kissy face. I don't really have a better way of saying it, basically you make kissy faces which makes your lips move on that face. You can also suck in your lips, same principle with a different direction of movement.

that fun knot of flesh is called the Frenulum.
thanks for your input!