Sub Fem Rebellion…

[Dominant_Chef]

I’m having a couple of problems with my current sub fem regarding D/s toys. About 7 sub fems ago I bought a few NEW items of D/s equipment which I proceeded to use on my then submissive.

That relationship ended and I then used the same equipment on that subs’ replacement. Once that relationship ended, I used the equipment on the next sub and on the next sub and so on…

However, my current sub thinks that is it “unhygienic” to use the same buttplug and gag on her which I’ve used on all of her predecessors… Further, she is insisting that I purchase a new buttplug AND a new gag to use on her…

So, is this a case of my current sub topping from the bottom? Should I just dump her and find another sub who is willing to have these BDSM artefacts used upon her…

Have any other Doms encountered stubborn subs and if so, how did you resolve the situation?

Ladies, your thoughts on this matter are welcome too…providing that you start your reply with “Dear Chef”

 

[Kajira Callista]

I’m having a couple of problems with my current sub fem regarding D/s toys. About 7 sub fems ago I bought a few NEW items of D/s equipment which I proceeded to use on my then submissive.

That relationship ended and I then used the same equipment on that subs’ replacement. Once that relationship ended, I used the equipment on the next sub and on the next sub and so on…

However, my current sub thinks that is it “unhygienic” to use the same buttplug and gag on her which I’ve used on all of her predecessors… Further, she is insisting that I purchase a new buttplug AND a new gag to use on her…

So, is this a case of my current sub topping from the bottom? Should I just dump her and find another sub who is willing to have these BDSM artefacts used upon her…

Have any other Doms encountered stubborn subs and if so, how did you resolve the situation?

Ladies, your thoughts on this matter are welcome too…providing that you start your reply with “Dear Chef”

pffft@ Dear Chef...buy new toys ya cheap dirty bastid!

 

[graceanne]

I have to say that I'd have a problem using a toy that's been used on someone else, no matter how clean it is. Don't know why, it'd just seriously squick me.

 

[Dominant_Chef]

pffft@ Dear Chef...buy new toys ya cheap dirty bastid!

Oh that's nice, side with my current sub why not...

Infact, that's a great idea, she wants me to use the toys well, she can supply the items herself...

 

[Dominant_Chef]

I have to say that I'd have a problem using a toy that's been used on someone else, no matter how clean it is. Don't know why, it'd just seriously squick me.

Comment ignored as it didn't start with "Dear Chef"

 

[EmpressFi]

I have to say that I'd have a problem using a toy that's been used on someone else, no matter how clean it is. Don't know why, it'd just seriously squick me.

Comment ignored as it didn't start with "Dear Chef"

fights the urge to point out to the unhygenic chef that by quoting her comment proves that the comment WASNT ignored.

 

[Sir_Winston54]

Since I'm neither a lady nor any version of pyl...

Dear dumbass:

Your current sub is absolutely right. Using insertable items that have been used with someone else IS unhygienic. Using insertables that have been used on (by your account) approximately a half a dozen someone elses is completely beyond the pale of any version of common sense.

Get out of your mother's basement and off your fat ... wallet, and buy new toys specifically for her.

Sincerely,

Sir Winston​

 

[00Syd]

I am not going to say start my comment by calling you Dear because I don't know you and thats ridiculous,

But anyway,

Yes, many toys are easily sanitized (assuming you know how, and that you were planning on doing so before asking to use them on her), but if your current gets the heeby jeebies knowing that the buttplug you want to shove into her has been shoved into other asses, well, her asking you to get new ones hoestly doesn't seem like such an unreasonable request.

 

[Kajira Callista]

Since I'm neither a lady nor any version of pyl...

Dear dumbass:

Your current sub is absolutely right. Using insertable items that have been used with someone else IS unhygienic. Using insertables that have been used on (by your account) approximately a half a dozen someone elses is completely beyond the pale of any version of common sense.

Get out of your mother's basement and off your fat ... wallet, and buy new toys specifically for her.

Sincerely,

Sir Winston​

I heart you

 

[Dominant_Chef]

fights the urge to point out to the unhygenic chef that by quoting her comment proves that the comment WASNT ignored.

Has the urge to point out that the reply you mentioned didn't start with the word "Dear" hence, the remainder of the sentence WASN'T read...

Also points out the fact that there's an apostrophe in "WASN'T"

 

[Dominant_Chef]

I am not going to say start my comment by calling you Dear because I don't know you and thats ridiculous,

But anyway,

Yes, many toys are easily sanitized (assuming you know how, and that you were planning on doing so before asking to use them on her), but if your current gets the heeby jeebies knowing that the buttplug you want to shove into her has been shoved into other asses, well, her asking you to get new ones hoestly doesn't seem like such an unreasonable request.

Don't you just hate it when people assume... I wanted to place the buttplug in her mouth and NOT in her back passage...

Kindly get your facts right in future.

 

[subbie_333]

Dear Cookie,

Many intelligent and well behaved submissives have their very own toy bag to avoid the diseases that can be transferred via toys. If she can afford her own toys, it will be a good investment for her for when she moves on to her next dominant. Glad i could help.

 

[EmpressFi]

Dear Cookie,

Many intelligent and well behaved submissives have their very own toy bag to avoid the diseases that can be transferred via toys. If she can afford her own toys, it will be a good investment for her for when she moves on to her next dominant. Glad i could help.

I heart you and Sir Winston

 

[Sir_Winston54]

...

Also points out the fact that there's an apostrophe in "WASN'T"

We're sorry, DC, but membership in the BDSM Forum Grammar Nazi Committee is by invitation only.

I will also point out the following:

... on that subs’ replacement ...

and

artefacts ...

and

... reply with “Dear Chef”

The singular possessive of sub is "sub's," not "subs'."
"Artefacts" is correctly spelled "artifacts."
The end of a sentence requires a period, e.g., "... reply with 'Dear Chef.'"

Please return to high school freshman and sophomore English class for a refresher course before you again attempt to usurp the prerogatives of the BDSM Forum Grammar Nazi Committee. Thank you.

 

[CutieMouse]

Has the urge to point out that the reply you mentioned didn't start with the word "Dear" hence, the remainder of the sentence WASN'T read...

Also points out the fact that there's an apostrophe in "WASN'T"

Hmm... we do enjoy pissing matches, don't we?



I can probably cite half a dozen or more BDSM publications/websites/organizations/yadayadayada that recommend toys between fluid bonded partners remain fluid bonded. If said toy comes in contact with any bodily fluid which is considered a risk factor in the transferal of HIV, STDs, HPV, etc, the safest and most conservative course of action is to replace said toy when entering a new relationship. It is rather wise of submissives to own their own toys, thus circumventing those pesky health issues.

It seems to me that you don't have a "stubborn" submissive on your hands, you have an intelligent one...

 

[Dominant_Chef]

Since I'm neither a lady nor any version of pyl...

Dear dumbass:

Your current sub is absolutely right. Using insertable items that have been used with someone else IS unhygienic. Using insertables that have been used on (by your account) approximately a half a dozen someone elses is completely beyond the pale of any version of common sense.

Get out of your mother's basement and off your fat ... wallet, and buy new toys specifically for her.

Sincerely,

Sir Winston​

What a pompous sounding ninny...

Thank God you ended your lacklustre reply with the same name that indeed appears in your details block or we would have never guessed who posted it…

(NAME WITHHELD!)

 

[Kajira Callista]

We're sorry, DC, but membership in the BDSM Forum Grammar Nazi Committee is by invitation only.

I will also point out the following:


and



and



The singular possessive of sub is "sub's," not "subs'."
"Artefacts" is correctly spelled "artifacts."
The end of a sentence requires a period, e.g., "... reply with 'Dear Chef.'"

Please return to high school freshman and sophomore English class for a refresher course before you again attempt to usurp the prerogatives of the BDSM Forum Grammar Nazi Committee. Thank you.

*giggles*

 

[rida]

Dear current submissive of DC:

Get yourself your on toy bag and since you are at it, replace the Dom as well.

To the OP:

If your kink is to get your sub sick ... specify it in your next ad and I'm sure you'll get yourself one that willingly will let you use your old equipment.
There is a match for everyone ... almost.

 

[00Syd]

Don't you just hate it when people assume... I wanted to place the buttplug in her mouth and NOT in her back passage...

Kindly get your facts right in future.

I don't think its wildly out of the ordinary or presumptuous of me to assume that you want to use a buttplug in a butt when you don't specify otherwise. Please, give us all the facts in future, so that we can avoid making you act like a dick.

 

[Sir_Winston54]

What a pompous sounding ninny...

Thank God you ended your lacklustre reply with the same name that indeed appears in your details block or we would have never guessed who posted it…

(NAME WITHHELD!)

For your (apparently uneducated) information, the indentation of the material you quoted was intended to imply (to the intelligent) a representation of an old-fashioned letter. (Look it up in Wikipedia if you're unfamiliar with the concept.)

And by the way, an ellipsis (...) is used to indicate that some material (usually quoted) has been left out. In your case, mayhap it indicates rather that you left out the thoughts you were unable to complete?

 

[LilyBart]

Can you please stop assuming that every woman who responds must reply with "Dear" to begin her reply?

And ditto to everyone else's replies. New sub (or partner of any kind). New toys.

I don't care who buys them.

Don't be an ass.

 

[subbie_333]

I don't think its wildly out of the ordinary or presumptuous of me to assume that you want to use a buttplug in a butt when you don't specify otherwise. Please, give us all the facts in future, so that we can avoid making you act like a dick.

Which would make him a candidate for "ding dong ding dongs" - strangely appropriate for a chef, huh?

 

[midwestyankee]

I've heard of not feeding the trolls but it's somewhat new to my experience to encounter a troll who claims to be able to feed us.

I sure hope he keeps his kitchen implements safer than his toys.

 

[00Syd]

Which would make him a candidate for "ding dong ding dongs" - strangely appropriate for a chef, huh?

Oh man, that makes me laugh every time I read it. I have the sense of humor of a 7 year old.

 

[midwestyankee]

Oh man, that makes me laugh every time I read it. I have the sense of humor of a 7 year old.

How rude of you. Now you go return that sense of humor to that poor youngster right now!