Am I bisexual?

[Gods_Favorite]

I know this topic has been done over and over but I just really don't know if I am bisexual or not, I have had 2 encounters with men, I have had an erotic massage where the guy fingered my ass and finished me off with a handjob, and I met a guy on craigslist and he came over and gave me a blowjob when I was single. I have a girlfriend now for the past 2 years and I haven't done anything since with a guy, but I can't stop thinking about doing more with another guy. I told my girlfriend about the encounters and surpisingly she says she is turned on by it and has encouraged me to get another erotic massage, and we have dirty talked about me being with guys everytime we have sex now. She says she is ok with me getting a massage and even meeting a guy for oral sex, but so far I have chickened out because even if she does say it is ok, I am scared she may feel differently once I do it, maybe even think I'm gay, and what if I do it, and actually like it and want to keep doing it? I want to do it all with a guy, I want to suck his cock, have him suck mine, give each other rimjobs, play with each others nipples and cocks, and if it feels right I am willing to let him top me, even kissing is open, and this is huge for me because 2 years ago all I was open for was a guy sucking my cock, now ever since I told my girl about it and we talk about it in bed, its got me thinking about being in bed with another guy, having a few hard drinks at first to relax, and then playing with each others cocks and just seeing where it goes from here, 99% of my mastabatory fantasies are now about men, any advice would be appreciated, anyone think I should meet a guy for a massage or more?

 

[Missouribiguy]

Yeah, it sounds like you're bisexual my friend.

I say go for it. It sounds like your girl is into it, so I say go for it and see if you like it. I know that I would regret it if I don't.

 

[Gods_Favorite]

Yeah, it sounds like you're bisexual my friend.

I say go for it. It sounds like your girl is into it, so I say go for it and see if you like it. I know that I would regret it if I don't.

So do you think I should go for a massage, have her come with me and watch? or should I meet a guy alone for oral sex, or more? I don't know where to start and I'm very nervous.

 

[Rider500]

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[Missouribiguy]

So do you think I should go for a massage, have her come with me and watch? or should I meet a guy alone for oral sex, or more? I don't know where to start and I'm very nervous.

I think that having her come alone and watch is the better idea. As you said, man to man action seems to turn her on.

 

[Gods_Favorite]

Congrats your Bi!

Start by watching a gay or Bi porn video. If she still is hot about it then discuss what you would both like to have happen. If its still a go then find a guy ( together) and enjoy yourselves. Make sure both of you pay lots of attention to her (unless she just wants to watch). The experience is incredible. The most intense sexual expeiene i have ever had was looking into my girls eyes as your friend was cumming inside me. He was a good friend and we were bareback and we loved every second of it.

I forgot to mention we have already watched gay porn together twice, and she was very hot during it we had sex watching it and masturbated while watching the movies.

 

[Missouribiguy]

If she likes gay porn, I would say she will like the real thing.

 

[infinity706]

I think you're just worrying for nothing. Just going on and have fun.

 

[Gods_Favorite]

I have low self esteem, and I am worried I will feel like less of a man if I suck a cock and especially get topped, but I fantasize about a dominant guy making me suck his cock and fucking me while making me watch in a mirror, so I don't know whats going on, my mind is telling me one thing and my body another

 

[LadyC]

I know this topic has been done over and over but I just really don't know if I am bisexual or not, I have had 2 encounters with men, I have had an erotic massage where the guy fingered my ass and finished me off with a handjob, and I met a guy on craigslist and he came over and gave me a blowjob when I was single. I have a girlfriend now for the past 2 years and I haven't done anything since with a guy, but I can't stop thinking about doing more with another guy. I told my girlfriend about the encounters and surpisingly she says she is turned on by it and has encouraged me to get another erotic massage, and we have dirty talked about me being with guys everytime we have sex now. She says she is ok with me getting a massage and even meeting a guy for oral sex, but so far I have chickened out because even if she does say it is ok, I am scared she may feel differently once I do it, maybe even think I'm gay, and what if I do it, and actually like it and want to keep doing it? I want to do it all with a guy, I want to suck his cock, have him suck mine, give each other rimjobs, play with each others nipples and cocks, and if it feels right I am willing to let him top me, even kissing is open, and this is huge for me because 2 years ago all I was open for was a guy sucking my cock, now ever since I told my girl about it and we talk about it in bed, its got me thinking about being in bed with another guy, having a few hard drinks at first to relax, and then playing with each others cocks and just seeing where it goes from here, 99% of my mastabatory fantasies are now about men, any advice would be appreciated, anyone think I should meet a guy for a massage or more?

You don't need a label to enjoy sex in whatever form you find comfortable. The only reason I ever use the term bisexual when speaking about myself is to make others understand where I am in regard to sexual preference. Actually, I consider myself to be simply put; a sexual person.

 

[PhoebeGB]

I have low self esteem, and I am worried I will feel like less of a man if I suck a cock and especially get topped, but I fantasize about a dominant guy making me suck his cock and fucking me while making me watch in a mirror, so I don't know whats going on, my mind is telling me one thing and my body another

The low self-esteem is from how you think others may view you, but you are on a journey of self-discovery and should give yourself more leeway. You have the opportunity to feel more complete by exploring these feelings. "Less of a man" is only one way of looking at it. "More alive as a human being" may be another. I'm not pushing one way or another here - just trying to help you think your way through this without trauma.

 

[Phydeax69]

First of all, I think it's great that your girl is willing to let you experiment! Great stuff! I think she may have ulterior motives and be wishing for a little 2 on 1 action! Good for her also!

Go with what you have! you ARE BI...no if's ands or butts! You like a choice, and are taking a choice...if after you have your encounter, she thinks less of you, then it wasn't meant to be....move on, make yourself happy!

party on!

 

[Gods_Favorite]

The low self-esteem is from how you think others may view you, but you are on a journey of self-discovery and should give yourself more leeway. You have the opportunity to feel more complete by exploring these feelings. "Less of a man" is only one way of looking at it. "More alive as a human being" may be another. I'm not pushing one way or another here - just trying to help you think your way through this without trauma.

I appreciate the advice, it took me years to finally get the courage to have the m2m encounters I already had, it took alot for me to pick up the phone and actually speak to the guy who would give me my first male on male blowjob. Just thinking about the things I want do is very exciting but nerve wracking at the same time.

 

[Gods_Favorite]

First of all, I think it's great that your girl is willing to let you experiment! Great stuff! I think she may have ulterior motives and be wishing for a little 2 on 1 action! Good for her also!

Go with what you have! you ARE BI...no if's ands or butts! You like a choice, and are taking a choice...if after you have your encounter, she thinks less of you, then it wasn't meant to be....move on, make yourself happy!

party on!

One of my biggest fantasies is to share my significant other with another man, I've had this fantasy for years even with no m2m contact involved, I would totally be ok with having a threesome with another guy and we can focus strictly on my girl.

 

[Gods_Favorite]

Another thing I should mention is I don't really find guys attractive, what I mean is I don't look at a guy on the street or on tv and think wow he is hot, but I do oggle hot girls when I see them, thats where the confusion is, but when I see 2 guys in a porno together I get hard and wouldn't mind joining in.

 

[Phydeax69]

Another thing I should mention is I don't really find guys attractive, what I mean is I don't look at a guy on the street or on tv and think wow he is hot, but I do oggle hot girls when I see them, thats where the confusion is, but when I see 2 guys in a porno together I get hard and wouldn't mind joining in.

I'm definately the same way...I can look at a guy fully clothed and go "ho hum" (well unless I catch a view of a nice package....) but let me catch a glimpse of a cock in the mens room, or in the locker room at the gym and YEAH BABY!

 

[Phydeax69]

One of my biggest fantasies is to share my significant other with another man, I've had this fantasy for years even with no m2m contact involved, I would totally be ok with having a threesome with another guy and we can focus strictly on my girl.

yeah, but think of the fun you can have once the girl is satisfied!

I've had a few incidents where me and another guy were taking care of a girl, but unfortunately any male to male contct never transpired...although it's great to have your cock firmly planted in one hole, while the other guy is pumping the crap out of the other hole! I was with a friend and his girl years back, and I was firmly planted in her ass, while my friend was pounding her pussy...man that was a great feeling, I came in buckets! Especially thinking that it was him getting me off!

 

[The_Good_Sub]

I say go for it.

 

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[Gods_Favorite]

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I would not hesitate to peel off your boxers and wrap my lips around your cock If I saw you in my bed like that.

 

[Gods_Favorite]

Anyways I have been corresponding with a guys on craigslist, we are supposed to jack off together and he is supposed to give me a massage and a blowjob, I will keep you guys informed on whether this happens or not.

 

[Powertone]

well...just be glad that the ACLU has your back if you "come out" as bi.

 

[SouthernAlberta]

Hear! Hear!

Really, cmon on now - does it really matter if you're bisexual or not? I mean what I might call bisexual someone else might call gay and someone else might call whatever. I say to hell with the labels - go out and be who you are and enjoy what you enjoy and forget about the stereotypes! Life's too short to worry about whether or not you're wearing the right label.

Absolutely! Don't get your head twisted around labels. Sounds like you seem to enjoy it. So does she.

Don't let society guilt you into a mold. You are who you are and thats it. Everyone else and their hangups be damned. If you want to, go for it. Don't mentally torture yourself.

Good luck.

 

[limplizzard]

I enjoy sex with either sex, am I bi? No, I just like sex.

 

[Gods_Favorite]

well...just be glad that the ACLU has your back if you "come out" as bi.

What is that supposed to mean?