Bi Couple trying to rekindle the passion

[PredatorSmile]

Picture this, if you will. You're a young bisexual woman working in corporate America while also mothering two precocious, lively twins. Your husband is also bi, and a new urban police officer. You used to have a fun-filled, wonderfully kinky and adventurous relationship. Yet at some point, it fizzled and the passion vanished. " Doing it anytime, anywhere" became twice a week usually on weekends. Your friends tell you it could be worse. You disagree. You KNOW things can be better.

how do you rekindle the passion ?

 

[DS_Curious]

Picture this, if you will. You're a young bisexual woman working in corporate America while also mothering two precocious, lively twins. Your husband is also bi, and a new urban police officer. You used to have a fun-filled, wonderfully kinky and adventurous relationship. Yet at some point, it fizzled and the passion vanished. " Doing it anytime, anywhere" became twice a week usually on weekends. Your friends tell you it could be worse. You disagree. You KNOW things can be better.

how do you rekindle the passion ?

Are you each other's best friend?

 

[robbie_boy1]

You're OK!!

Picture this, if you will. You're a young bisexual woman working in corporate America while also mothering two precocious, lively twins. Your husband is also bi, and a new urban police officer. You used to have a fun-filled, wonderfully kinky and adventurous relationship. Yet at some point, it fizzled and the passion vanished. " Doing it anytime, anywhere" became twice a week usually on weekends. Your friends tell you it could be worse. You disagree. You KNOW things can be better.

how do you rekindle the passion ?

Hello there.
Isn't love grand. I remember when the two of you were single, in school, no kids and you were looking at other stuff. It looks as though you got by those things and moved on to Work and Family. Growing up stinks... (just kidding)

Children and responsibilities have a way of putting a damper on ones love life. It happened to me and I am sure to countless others that have scrolled these boards. I am not going to tell you what to feel or even begin to imagine how you're feeling. All I can say is that you are not alone. Your babies are infants I would imagine. Gettng any sleep? Do you know if you have PP Blues? Have you been able to get a night out alone or with your significant other?

There are no easy answers but I do hope the two of you have other people to talk to besides yourselves. There is light at the end of the tunnel. I hope that the two of you are still each others best friends.

Good luck. If this place is your only release I look forward to hearing about your success...

 

[colmestoopid]

Picture this, if you will. You're a young bisexual woman working in corporate America while also mothering two precocious, lively twins. Your husband is also bi, and a new urban police officer. You used to have a fun-filled, wonderfully kinky and adventurous relationship. Yet at some point, it fizzled and the passion vanished. " Doing it anytime, anywhere" became twice a week usually on weekends. Your friends tell you it could be worse. You disagree. You KNOW things can be better.

how do you rekindle the passion ?

If my lady looked as hot as you there would be no rekindling necessarry. You are absolutely fucking gorgeous and without a doubt the hottest woman I have seen on here!

 

[webber1998]

Thats a TOUGH one

The stresses of daily life WILL put a strain on your relationship. NOT to mention the two kids.

My biggest suggestion: Make time for JUST the two of you and as often as you can.

 

[PredatorSmile]

If my lady looked as hot as you there would be no rekindling necessarry. You are absolutely fucking gorgeous and without a doubt the hottest woman I have seen on here!

lol, thanks. It's not that ALL the passion is gone. we still do it. fairly often. it's just that sex has become routine. scheduled for saturday mornings, sunday nights and friday nights. or when we're both off from work. I never thought this would happen to us. I've felt up Aaron during the night and asked him to get busy, and he claimed he was too tired. Two years ago, merely touching him or looking at him meant we'd fuck like rabbits till kingdom come. Now look at us !!! Is there a pill or something we can take to reenergize ourselves ?

 

[HardNightDay]

I mostly think of an old saying, "if you want different results, do something different."

What is the issue, not enough time, not enough energy, no idea what to do differently? Have you considered the obvious option of a threesome - something I do NOT recommend unless you are certain that your marriage is stable and committed, but if it is can be an incredible source of excitement.

 

[Rider500]

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[PredatorSmile]

Kids (twins no less. That alone will kill any couples drive for a while), careers,...it happens. Every couple gets in a slump once in a while. Your a beautiful woman and from the two pics I`ve seen of you, extremely sexy and desirable as well, so unless your guys a eunic the slump shouldnt be too long.

Speaking as a Bi guy that was in a relationship with a beautiful Bi Woman, it doesnt get any hotter than that. Our sex life was compleley off the scale in terms of openness and kinky, erotic passion but at times it waned simply because life got in the way. As long as you love each other and communicate you`ll get through it and the next thing you know you`ll be dialing up some guy to come over and take care of both of you.





Call me soon

wow, this is strange. sorry to hear things didnt work out. My Aaron and I are ok....its just that sex has become predictable and routine.
doing it more often seems like fun and I'm fine with that, I just want some changes. he's open to whatever. we seem to have....run outta ideas. its not because we're new parents. we both work and have a nice nanny to take care of them. somewhere along the way we lost...it.

 

[Rider500]

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[PredatorSmile]

Thanks for being sorry, but in the long run it was better that things did`nt work out. Aside from the unbelievable sexlife we had nothing in common and she was very very high maintenance.

Do something to rekindle you sex life. I`ve done this and it works. Each of you write out a list of at least 3 sexual fantasies ,your obviously very open with one another so dont hold back, write out as many as you wish and as wild as you wish then give them to the other. Each of you is to pick your 2 favorite fantasies then get together and discuss each of them in great detail knowing that one of them will come true. After discussion place all 4 in a hat or other container and draw one. This will be your fantasy come true.

Within the next couple weeks plan everything out together, set a date and make it happen. Dont have any sex, alone or otherwise for a week before that day. You both will be so aroused with anticipation and desire by the time it happens your heads will spin. I guarantee you an incredibly orgasmic time.

You said,"wow this is strange" in your reply. Whats strange?

thanks for the advice, guy. I will heed it. I thought the waning part of your past relationship was unexpected, thats all. how can love just fade ?

 

[pa-guy]

There are different kinds, or different phases, of love. That "lover's high" you seem to missing, is just that, a high. Its actually one of the biggest suspects in infidelity. People like that feeling of new love. Relationships are not constant. They fluctuate quite a bit. Sometimes its up, sometimes its down.

The key, as people have been saying, is to make sure you make time for just the two of you. if you both commit to trying, maybe you'll experience that high again. Some people call it falling in love all over again. Maybe you won't. I dont know.

There's a great quote from a movie called Captain Corelli's Mandolin:

"When you fall in love, it is a temporary madness. It erupts like an earthquake, and then it subsides. And when it subsides, you have to make a decision. You have to work out whether your roots are become so entwined together that it is inconceivable that you should ever part. Because this is what love is. Love is not breathlessness, it is not excitement, it is not the desire to mate every second of the day. It is not lying awake at night imagining that he is kissing every part of your body. No... don't blush. I am telling you some truths. For that is just being in love; which any of us can convince ourselves we are. Love itself is what is left over, when being in love has burned away. Doesn't sound very exciting, does it? But it is!"


So the key is: "it is inconceivable that you should ever part. " If thats the case, well congrats. If not, well, best of luck.

 

[PredatorSmile]

There are different kinds, or different phases, of love. That "lover's high" you seem to missing, is just that, a high. Its actually one of the biggest suspects in infidelity. People like that feeling of new love. Relationships are not constant. They fluctuate quite a bit. Sometimes its up, sometimes its down.

The key, as people have been saying, is to make sure you make time for just the two of you. if you both commit to trying, maybe you'll experience that high again. Some people call it falling in love all over again. Maybe you won't. I dont know.

There's a great quote from a movie called Captain Corelli's Mandolin:

"When you fall in love, it is a temporary madness. It erupts like an earthquake, and then it subsides. And when it subsides, you have to make a decision. You have to work out whether your roots are become so entwined together that it is inconceivable that you should ever part. Because this is what love is. Love is not breathlessness, it is not excitement, it is not the desire to mate every second of the day. It is not lying awake at night imagining that he is kissing every part of your body. No... don't blush. I am telling you some truths. For that is just being in love; which any of us can convince ourselves we are. Love itself is what is left over, when being in love has burned away. Doesn't sound very exciting, does it? But it is!"


So the key is: "it is inconceivable that you should ever part. " If thats the case, well congrats. If not, well, best of luck.

Oh, if Aaron and I ever split.....lets just say our worlds would both end that day. I love him something fierce. even when his teammates from BSC b-ball shunned him for being bi. recently, we reunited with his mother, who also rejected him when he came out. his dad was more accepting. I've always been there for him, physically, mentally, sexually, spiritually and financially. and all I ask is his love and loyalty. we live in a nice home. we both have jobs. and we're great parents.

If someone or something came along that made him want to throw away all that we are......I don't know what I'd do but it wouldn't be pretty.

 

[SpeX125]

Picture this, if you will. You're a young bisexual woman working in corporate America while also mothering two precocious, lively twins. Your husband is also bi, and a new urban police officer. You used to have a fun-filled, wonderfully kinky and adventurous relationship. Yet at some point, it fizzled and the passion vanished. " Doing it anytime, anywhere" became twice a week usually on weekends. Your friends tell you it could be worse. You disagree. You KNOW things can be better.

how do you rekindle the passion...in the Twilight Zone?

http://i80.photobucket.com/albums/j195/spexpics/TR-RodSerling.jpg

I'm sorry,but for some reason,when I read this I heard it in Rod Serling's voice.

 

[PredatorSmile]

http://i80.photobucket.com/albums/j195/spexpics/TR-RodSerling.jpg

I'm sorry,but for some reason,when I read this I heard it in Rod Serling's voice.

lol, funny.

 

[SilkyDave]

lol, thanks. It's not that ALL the passion is gone. we still do it. fairly often. it's just that sex has become routine. scheduled for saturday mornings, sunday nights and friday nights. or when we're both off from work. I never thought this would happen to us. I've felt up Aaron during the night and asked him to get busy, and he claimed he was too tired. Two years ago, merely touching him or looking at him meant we'd fuck like rabbits till kingdom come. Now look at us !!! Is there a pill or something we can take to reenergize ourselves ?

welcome to parenthood ! it has the same effect as an ice cold shower...i can't imagine not being a parent but i miss the sex so much. i guess its a trade off, i never thought i would say "i am too tired" but it happens. hey when you find that pill, i want a damn case of them !

 

[Programmer Cat]

You're both bi, right? When was the last time you two acted on that? I'd suggest finding another bi couple and just letting things happen.

 

[bi golly]

Some tips:

1) Try to see how long you can go without fucking in bed. Do it anywhere but in bed.

2) Be willing to take turns to do everything for the other person. He does you in the way you want and doesn't expect satisfaction in return. And vice versa. The first time you do this, it may not be all that good, but you are communicating what you want.

3) Have a date night and fuck before going out. That way, it isn't on your mind that it is something you will do when you get home. The sex may not be great if you know you are banging it out just so you can get out of the house, but when you do, it will take the pressure off to be with the other person and you will enjoy each other's company more.

4) Have license to take charge periodically. Odds are both of you want sex, but don't want to be in charge all the time. In other words, you do him the way you want and vice versa.

5) Sex is only one of the five forms of intimacy that make up a good relationship. Work on the other four and the sex will get better.

Types: emotional, social, sexual, intellectual and recreational

See "PAIR inventory" on the web.

 

[Mv_Name_Is_Cade]

Nothing screams of more passion than an influx of cock, I always say.

 

[nolaboy]

your hubby is pretty brave if he came out to his police friends! I'm bi but am waaaay deep in the closet...next to the golf clubs I no longer use!!

find another good looking bi couple or bi male and end up in the same sweaty bed! one of my best sexual memories was when my wife and I shared cock for the first time, we were both sucking him at the same time...was a bonding moment!

Just know that love conquers all so don't stress about it too much!!

 

[PredatorSmile]

your hubby is pretty brave if he came out to his police friends! I'm bi but am waaaay deep in the closet...next to the golf clubs I no longer use!!

find another good looking bi couple or bi male and end up in the same sweaty bed! one of my best sexual memories was when my wife and I shared cock for the first time, we were both sucking him at the same time...was a bonding moment!

Just know that love conquers all so don't stress about it too much!!

The Gay Officers Action League is pretty active in Massachusetts.

 

[lostforwords_no]

So how did 2009 work out?

Having kids certainly changes the physical relationship of a couple, I found the main reasons were energy (or lack of) and children being not just a major chunk of your time, but a priority as well.

It's tough to go from the every-day, twice on Sunday's sex life to what I like to term as 'tri-weekly, try weekly, try weakly' sex, but as a few people here have stated it's short-term in the life-long view of it.

My wife and I are also working on how do we make sex (or really time for each other) more of a priority without impacting how we want to view each other as parents. I don't think my wife would find me very attractive if I couldn't find time to play with the kids, setup hockey nets, watch kids movies, etc. That's one of the reasons she married me, was she saw great father material.

I like a couple of the suggestions on here, and will be trying them out myself!

Bob

 

[Samuelx]

Picture this, if you will. You're a young bisexual woman working in corporate America while also mothering two precocious, lively twins. Your husband is also bi, and a new urban police officer. You used to have a fun-filled, wonderfully kinky and adventurous relationship. Yet at some point, it fizzled and the passion vanished. " Doing it anytime, anywhere" became twice a week usually on weekends. Your friends tell you it could be worse. You disagree. You KNOW things can be better.

how do you rekindle the passion ?

Love one another.