goodbye my friends......

[lil_slave_rose]

This will probably be a long rant, so if you're not interested, i'd stop now. There are so many things going on in my mind and in my heart. MasterPhoenix and i were together for 5 years. yes, it was an LDR, but we also did meet and have "real time" experience together also. so if you've read the distance thread, you know He and i have "split up" so i find out tonight not only has he let go, He's moved on, with someone from Lit. so i guess this is it, i can't be here on lit anymore, because i don't feel i'm gonna get the suppot i need and i don't want this shoved in my face.i am truly lost right now, and hurt and angry. angry at myself as well as them and the situation.

This post is honestly not meant to start any type of drama, it's meant as a goodbye to my friends on here. i feel like a fool right now, i really do. He let go of "us" AND moved on with someone else long before i even knew we had ended. i'm not trying to run Him down, what happened, happened and we are both to blame for the ending of our relationship. i love HIm with every beat of my heart i love Him and i always will. i wish i could go back and change everything back to the way it was, but i can't. i've been on the phone with him for hours, both of us crying.

i am so lost right now and i have NO ONE to turn to. no one who understands the lifestyle we live, except everyone here on lit who i've gotten close to, but now i have to say goodbye to that too, because i just can't be here and have this thrown in my face. I've been sitting here reading over posts made, and everything makes sense now. i'm an idiot, a fool. so i guess, i will end this thread by saying, thank you everyone for being there when i needed you. i've met lots of great people on here, and you'll never be forgotten. :::hugs::: to everyone.

 

[marieR19]

Wow. I go away for a few weeks and obviously something huge happens.

*HUUUUUUUUUUGGGGSSS* I'll miss you very very much.


Heather

 

[lil_slave_rose]

Wow. I go away for a few weeks and obviously something huge happens.

*HUUUUUUUUUUGGGGSSS* I'll miss you very very much.


Heather

thank you for the hugs...really, i need them. i've been gone a while too, been busy with work. i'll miss you too, but i just can't do this right now. i'm hurting and i have to heal myself and i won't be able to do that on here. i might be back one day. *sighs* thanks again........

 

[garmon]

You are still You

Unsolicited advice for our Rose...

Do not let others, or your relationship with others, define you or direct you away from what makes you happy. You will have another lover. He wasn't your first and won't be your last. He might not even be the best you'll ever have.

You still have your Lit friends.

This is the time to move forward, and to relax...don't react.

The pain that you feel is a reflection of the love that YOU are capable of expressing.

Peace and love to you.

 

[Evil_Geoff]

Hi rose,

I know you are hurting right now, and I can't change or take that away from you. But there is no need for you to lose contact with anyone on Lit. You can take a break from the Boards, but you can still PM your friends and they can PM you. This is not a competition, it's not a field of battle. Things did not work out.

That happens.

But to give up your other friends here? That's cutting off your nose to spite your face. Bad move on your part and one you may regret.

Of course... you _could_ come and join the crowd of Litsters that are now on FetLife...

 

[shy slave]

Unsolicited advice for our Rose...

Do not let others, or your relationship with others, define you or direct you away from what makes you happy. You will have another lover. He wasn't your first and won't be your last. He might not even be the best you'll ever have.

You still have your Lit friends.

This is the time to move forward, and to relax...don't react.

The pain that you feel is a reflection of the love that YOU are capable of expressing.

Peace and love to you.

This is good advice, and I don't say that often.

Lit has a wealth of wonderful people.

I don't come too often now, but I had no idea of your break up, nor do I know who he is with now.

You are still you, Rose, people who care about you on Lit, will continue to care; don't be too hasty to run away forever.

The door on Lit is always open and on your return you can let us know how wonderfully well you coped with such an event.

And you will cope, because you are who you are.

x

 

[catalina_francisco]

I'm sorry you are going through this pain right now. You have had your ups and downs but I know you truly believed that in the end you would be together...when that dream dies, it hurts. I am with others in hoping you decide to stick around to let us support you in the steps you make in your own moving on.

Catalina

 

[sexycaz22]

We have not met properly as yet, but rose, I have read your posts with keen interest, and I have always enjoyed reading your posts, very much.

I am really sorry to hear about your break up, and knows that you are going through a difficult time.

But like some other people have said, I sincerely hope that you will keep in contact with your Lit friends, if not on the boards, then through PMing or other ways. I am sure that your Lit friends will support you and be a sounding board for you.

Lots of and hugs coming your way.

 

[EmpressFi]

*hugs* Rose...

I agree with Geoff. Believe me, I know the urge to leave is strong, you dont want to see posts about them etc. But we're your friends too and you need us right now. Leaving this part of the board doesnt mean you have to leave Lit.

My PM box is always open

 

[greeneyed_Lady]

rose, I know what you are feeling and can empathize completely with you. I know we are not friends, but I have enjoyed your posts. As EG said.. don't let this force you to lose the friends you've made here. Stay off the forums for a while until you feel strong in yourself again. *We* will be here when you are ready to come back.

Many hugs.

 

[ecstaticsub]

Big hugs to you Rose. I'll just echo what others have said. Take a break from the boards if that is what you need. But keep in touch with your friends. Also as hard as it is and even though it hurts, try to look on the positive side. You are now a free woman who can make new friends--male and female when ever you want.

Give yourself some time and then make some new friends.

 

[Sir_Winston54]

Mostly just an echo of what others have said {said said said} - especially the sorrow that you and MP are no longer together, but also especially that to distance yourself from what you say is your only "support network" will only make things harder for you. Even if you don't read or post to the forum, you *do* still have friends here with whom you can PM or use one or more of the various Messenger applications, who will be more than happy to talk with you whenever you need and they can. All the best to you, and I look forward to finding that you've taken the next upward step on your journey through life.

 

[FurryFury]

*HUGs and HUGs*

I'm so sorry.

I think you'll find that a lot of people have had this sort of thing happen on here and folks won't be judging you.

Give it some time but leave the possibility open that can come back here anytime.

 

[ataxia.girl]

i don't know you rose but i have read your posts and felt some of the ups and downs of your relationship through them. i am truly sorry you are in pain right now. That is the worst kind of hurt there is.

 

[lil_slave_rose]

i don't know what to say. i love you all. thank you for all the support. i'm just hurting right now EG, and i'm not trying to cut my friends off i just don't know if i can hang around here and read the posts that i know are going to take place. the one thing i do want to say is that MP IS a great man, and i do still love Him, and i know that he still loves me. this thread was in no way a way of calling him out or making him look bad to everyone here.

He is hurting just as badly as i am and luckily we are sticking by each other to get us through this time. things happen, nothing lasts forever, all good things come to an end, etc...i will be ok, he will be ok, and we will always have each other and we will always have the memories and love that we once shared. He came into my life for a reason and we had 5 great years, we just...lost it somewhere.

i am happy that he has someone and now i need to work on me. someone said he's not my first, no,, he's not my first lover but he was my first Dominant and honestly, i don't want any others. i don't think i could submit to anyone else. He was/is my air. so i guess i'm gonna work on me. i won't leave Lit but i won't be around much for a while, i need a break from everything. thank you all so much for your love, concern and support. it means ALOT to me.

 

[greeneyed_Lady]

rose, my first sub.. when he left I felt the same as you do now. While our relationship wasn't a long one, it was intense for both of us, and it was basically my first D/s experience.

What I learned, is while he and I were good friends to start with, the deeper emotions that had developed were a hinderence to my healing process after things ended. I needed him in my life, but having him in my life was stopping me from being able to move on.

Only reason I post this is while I am glad that two of you are helping one another, sharing the sadness of this part of your relationship, it might eventually not be helpful for you, or him for that matter.

 

[purrrrrrr]

rose, my first sub.. when he left I felt the same as you do now. While our relationship wasn't a long one, it was intense for both of us, and it was basically my first D/s experience.

What I learned, is while he and I were good friends to start with, the deeper emotions that had developed were a hinderence to my healing process after things ended. I needed him in my life, but having him in my life was stopping me from being able to move on.

Only reason I post this is while I am glad that two of you are helping one another, sharing the sadness of this part of your relationship, it might eventually not be helpful for you, or him for that matter.

Yes it is very hard to move on if the person is still in your life . At the moment you are feeling very sad, I am pretty sure that sadness will turn to anger, as he has moved on he has someone else .

I wish you all the best .

 

[BeachGurl2]

{{{{{HUGS}}}}}

It is very hard to keep up 'your' places when a relationship ends. Especially when both of you still frequent them. And then there's always, who gets which friends. But at the same time, I agree with everyone else. Take a break from the boards, maybe explore fetlife, as EG suggested. Many of us are active there as well. Hang in there, sweetie.

 

[cherokee_dove]

~~~huggggggggssss~

Rose hon,

As many have already said, and you have decided to take their advice...step back from Lit for awhile.

Don't lose contact with your friends. We are here for you.

And not to put MP or whoever he's gotten with down, but if when you come back; you see posts of theirs that still emotionally hurt you, just put their names on iggy for awhile.

i think MP would understand.

My pm box is always open if you want to cry, rant, scream or just talk.

 

[wicked woman]

Might I suggest a compromise of putting them both on ignore so you can control when, if at all, you see their posts. That will let you partake of the rest of Lit and those here.

Wishing your heart recovers soon.

 

[00Syd]

I can't say that we've ever been introduced, but I'm still sad to see you hurting like this.

I offer my *HUGS!!* and support. Best of luck to you, and I hope you won't stay away for too long.

 

[VelvetDarkness]

I haven't looked at the Distance thread for a while as it's not a situation that's currently relevant to me so I missed this.

LSR, I really hope you do stick around. Take some time away from Lit if you need to, I have before when things got really bad and although everyone was really supportive of me, I just needed some space, some time away where I didn't have to think about anything.

So I can understand your reasons. Lit isn't going anywhere, most of us will still be here when you feel able to return. FWIW, my pm box is open if you'd like someone to talk with.

There's nothing wrong with lurking for a bit, sometimes posting can be too difficult or painful. I hope that you will at least, pick this thread up occasionally and let those who care for you know you're healing. Like us, the thread will be here whenever you feel able to chat.

Lots of hugs and positive vibes to you.

 

[FurryFury]

After checking his posting history, he doesn't appear to be trying to hurt your or throw anything in your face.

I think y'all both still care for one another.

I hope you don't leave.

 

[Etoile]

I have my thoughts about what has happened, but this isn't the time or place for them. Instead I will just wish you the best, rose, and I hope you'll come back when you feel ready.

 

[graceanne]

*hugs*