Teenagers...why, just why???

[ownedsubgal]

okay, it's summertime, so Daddy's son is out of school. he gets home from camp around 3.30 every weekday. today, he comes in, walks the 4 flights of stairs up to the master bathroom, and "accidentally" walks in on me as i'm changing clothes. last night, he "accidentally" walked in on me in the shower. his excuse last night, "i was looking for the ironing board"...his excuse just now, "i thought i left my ps2 in here." sigh...he's 13, tries to play the role of innocent asexual nerd but meanwhile is constantly peeking at me, ordering "busty models" on cable and going to www.bigtitsand*ss.com. Parents...this is just a short adolescent phase right? it'll end soon? i just hope against hope that no part of me is masturbation fodder for the lil dude...*shudders*

 

[Primalex]

Shouldn't you please him?

 

[Jenny_Kawaii]

Time to put a lock on that door! On all the doors apparently...

 

[Netzach]

Parents...this is just a short adolescent phase right?

It ends sometime shortly prior to death in most human males, I think.

 

[xPureAdorationx]

I'm still kind of young just getting out of the teen age myself. But I have a brother in-law and a two younger siblings.

When I was a lot younger me and my sister used to fight for my father's attention. I myself was still quite curious about the male anatomy and my sister simply thought he was Brad Pitt. He thought we just wanted a pony. I used to sit in his lap all the time and "accidently" barge in on him every now and then. Of course it stopped when I got a boyfriend. But of course the curiousity or whatever it is goes away after a while. It was a phase for me, my sister on the other hand still has a little thing for my dad.

My little brother. When he was about three he would grab anything that had to do with a woman's bustline. If I picked him up he'd grab me, if my mother picked him up he'd grab. Normal three year old right? He's about fourteen now. He likes to watch my sister swim, enjoyed watching me try my wedding dresses on, watched the bridesmaids try on their dresses (using a camera he hid sneaky kid), and then watched my mom and my mother-in law put on their dresses. Though my mom and mom-in law thought he was just giving advice so they let him watch. Then the night after I ran into his room because I needed his tux measurements. Walked in on him jerking off to the cam and pictures of all the females in my wedding portfolio.

So I'm hoping it's a phase...I really am

 

[ownedsubgal]

It ends sometime shortly prior to death in most human males, I think.

gee, thanks Netz. lol.

 

[ownedsubgal]

... Then the night after I ran into his room because I needed his tux measurements. Walked in on him jerking off to the cam and pictures of all the females in my wedding portfolio.

So I'm hoping it's a phase...I really am

OMG....that is terrible. if i ever walked in on that i think i'd just faint, call me prudish. if it is a phase, your brother's seems to be mighty, mighty long...lol

 

[xPureAdorationx]

Yeah.

Lol I wish I had fainted. No for some reason kid didnt' stop till he came. Ugh. I was just pushing myself into a corner of his room screaming "omg, omg and a long list of cursewords."

Haha eventually my mom came in and did the same.... Lol I really hope if I have a kid they really don't go through that phase

 

[Primalex]

No for some reason kid didnt' stop till he came.

There is a guy masturbating and a good looking girl walks in - why the fuck should he stop?


Despite this, I draw the bullshit card on this one.

 

[xPinkxStarsx]

Ha I sure hope its a phase cause my sister is currently going through it right now. She just turned 13, and I'm 19 for all of you that dont know. She, about 3 weeks ago, found all of my lovely toys stashed away in my room meaning she has digged through all of my things to find what I have and even more recently has been trying to access porn on our computer and gave it a lovely virus. I hope she gets out of this now and stops snooping in my room and fucking up my computer!

 

[xPureAdorationx]

Oh...you have one of those too?
My fiance's brother. That's all I have to say. Richard's always complaining that his brother has been trying to spy on us. Recently he's been stuck between packing at home and helping me out with our new house. So while he's been packing my brother in-law has been all over Richard's room trying to find whatever it is he can to get himself off.

Ugh and recently he teemed up with my git of a brother. So now they want to try and put a camera in my house to spy on me and Richard and possibly get something juicy. Not to mention they crashed my laptop. They better hope I get a new one as a wedding gift.

 

[intothewoods]

Surfing for porn? Not gonna stop probably ever.

Walking in on someone in their own home when they are trying to get dressed? It stops when a parent or authority figure says do not do that or there will be consequences, and puts a lock on the door and uses it.

Three year olds do grab at body parts. Parents of three year olds tell them not to. And yes, mine never did it again.

 

[YourCaptor]

okay, it's summertime, so Daddy's son is out of school. he gets home from camp around 3.30 every weekday. today, he comes in, walks the 4 flights of stairs up to the master bathroom, and "accidentally" walks in on me as i'm changing clothes. last night, he "accidentally" walked in on me in the shower. his excuse last night, "i was looking for the ironing board"...his excuse just now, "i thought i left my ps2 in here." sigh...he's 13, tries to play the role of innocent asexual nerd but meanwhile is constantly peeking at me, ordering "busty models" on cable and going to www.bigtitsand*ss.com. Parents...this is just a short adolescent phase right? it'll end soon? i just hope against hope that no part of me is masturbation fodder for the lil dude...*shudders*

American society does an impressively good job at suppressing sex, as a result kids develop problems with it.

It’s not a phase, it’s a stage. He is becoming aware of sex and wants to explore it, only problem is there is no way to explore it.

Honestly, I think you would save the guy years of problems if you just get him some porn once in a while, and openly talk about sex with him.

Explain to him that it makes you uncomfortable for him to walk in on you, and that if he wants to see naked bodys you can get him some magazines.

This would also be a good time to discuses safe sex, because if you like it or not, he’s probably gonna get some girl in bed within the next 2 years.

Poor guy is just trying to cope with hormone levels he has never experienced before. Its your job as a parent to guide him, show him proper directions to take his energy into.

 

[ownedsubgal]

well the porn surfing thing is honestly not a big deal, Daddy doesn't mind so much as long as he sticks to FREE porn on his own personal laptop, and doesn't use the main computer. his mother and her family are uber conservative though and DO mind, and though he's over here far more than he's with them (and only actually sees his mom maybe one wknd a month), she put all these blocks and trackers on his computer. one of those deals where you can't even google "breast cancer." so now we have to keep the main comp. passworded.

a lock on the bedroom door would be nice, i might just ask Daddy about that. but the lil perv has already been lectured and yelled at umpteen times by Daddy about walking in on me, and of course for ordering all the cable porn, he just doesn't seem to be able to stop himself. he knows all about the birds and bees, Daddy had that talk with him years ago. right now though he's in a state of complete denial...denial that he's interested in sex, girls, masturbation, etc. and i guess i can understand not wanting to discuss that kind of thing with a parent. but dang he just really gets on my nerves sometimes...lol.


oh and YC...just to clarify, i am in NO WAY shape or form a parental or authority figure to my Master's son, he sees me as his father's companion and servant, and as someone who cooks his meals and cleans his room, who he can occasionally play playstation with, lol.

 

[RawHumor]

I'm still kind of young just getting out of the teen age myself. But I have a brother in-law and a two younger siblings.

When I was a lot younger me and my sister used to fight for my father's attention. I myself was still quite curious about the male anatomy and my sister simply thought he was Brad Pitt. He thought we just wanted a pony. I used to sit in his lap all the time and "accidently" barge in on him every now and then. Of course it stopped when I got a boyfriend. But of course the curiousity or whatever it is goes away after a while. It was a phase for me, my sister on the other hand still has a little thing for my dad.

I hate that this turns me on.

 

[the_mgp]

Perhaps it is a good time to have a discussion with him on privacy, personal space and why it's a good idea to be respectful of it?

When I was a teenager I had the opposite of this problem - my mother would walk in on me when I was showering/getting dressed etc. I think she was trying to see if I had any body piercings done because my parents knew I was interested in it, but they were dead set against it. This drove me nuts... I am the kind of person that really needs some privacy, I had a lot of image issues at that point, and having her constantly barging in on me was doing my head in

 

[BiBunny]

I'd make sure to tell your Daddy all about it. I'm pretty sure, like itw said, it'll come to a screeching halt when he tells his son to back off. And I have a feeling that him barging in on you while in the shower or getting dressed isn't going to go over too well with your Daddy.

And I disagree. This doesn't have anything to do with suppressing the sex drive or whatever the hell YC was saying and everything to do with respect for others' privacy. If I had done something like that when I was his age, I'd have gotten my ass beaten for sure, and I wouldn't have done it again, either.

 

[Mrs. Sanj]

I would get a lock on that door asap or go on strike and refuse to shower or change clothes until the problem is resolved.

By the way what they all said. It's not a phase, it's the beginning.

 

[EmpressFi]

Considering that my Uncle Floyd was in his 80's or 90's when he "accidentally" walked in on my new sister in law taking a bath just so he could spit.. (btw, he walked past two trash cans and the back door where he could have spat outside)... I dont think this is a phase.

If, as your Master's servant, you feel uncomfortable telling a kid that you feel uncomfortable with him walking in on you, then please, tell your Master so he can deal with it. Someone needs to. I agree with YC in that this is the perfect opportunity to begin to talk to him about sex, etc, but he has to also be taught that there are boundaries and making up reasons to see a woman naked is one of those boundaries.

 

[midwestyankee]

making up reasons to see a woman naked is one of those boundaries.

Damn. Now what do I do?

 

[sanjuaneros]

I think I am still in that “phase”.

 

[EmpressFi]

Damn. Now what do I do?

why not just use the truth

"I'm a perv and I wanna see your boobies"

 

[ownedsubgal]

Considering that my Uncle Floyd was in his 80's or 90's when he "accidentally" walked in on my new sister in law taking a bath just so he could spit.. (btw, he walked past two trash cans and the back door where he could have spat outside)... I dont think this is a phase.

wow, 80s or 90s?? frightening indeed. i guess i just have to look forward to him going off to college in 5 yrs.

but i did tell Daddy about the incident this afternoon, and he has already disciplined the kid about this sort of thing in the past. it just seems to be some sort of compulsion. so a lock is being considered. also i am to avoid being in the shower or in any state of undress when the two of us are home alone together.

 

[midwestyankee]

why not just use the truth

"I'm a perv and I wanna see your boobies"

Because I prefer to be the one who does the slapping?

 

[YourCaptor]

wow, 80s or 90s?? frightening indeed. i guess i just have to look forward to him going off to college in 5 yrs.

but i did tell Daddy about the incident this afternoon, and he has already disciplined the kid about this sort of thing in the past. it just seems to be some sort of compulsion. so a lock is being considered. also i am to avoid being in the shower or in any state of undress when the two of us are home alone together.

Just my opinion, but I don’t think discipline will work in this case. The only way to suppress a teenagers sex drive is to cut off their balls. You got to consider that when a male is 13, his dick is getting hard every 15 minutes, plus every time something reminds him of anything even remotely related to sex. When testosterone over loads a boy who has never experienced it before, he is going to do a lot of stupid things. I doubt he even wants to have sex at this point, he just wants to fuck something to relive those mind controlling hormones for a few minutes.

You can’t make him stop, but you can give him an appropriate direction to channel it into. At the moment it sounds like he has not place to go, so he is making his own as best he can, and that while under the stupefying influence of testosterone.

PS. When I say you I usually don't actually mean "you". It's a figure of... writing. -shrugs-