"Little Girl" Voices

[Big Poppa]

Not really sure where to put this thread, but since it partly involves D/s I think i'll post it here.

Ill start with something I heard on love line a few years back. Dr. Drew said that women who had little girl voices were sexually abused at some point in their life.

I don't know if this is true for all women with little girl voices, but in my experience the ones iwth the voices are a bit difficult to deal with.

My story starts from a girl I met, shes cute, sexually open, submissive, has that little girl voice. When it came down to us meeting up she chickened out. Got really defensive, told me to go find someone else. Its like a complete 180 from what we talked about. She admits to wanting to be submissive sexually, but gets scared when it comes to meeting guys.

This is also quite similar to a different girl I met who had all the above qualities, but once she got too close to a guy she would flip and push them away.

Is this a sign of sexual abuse or am I just meeting really fucked up chicks?

 

[nh23]

*sighs* I think that you are probably just meeting individual people. I hate the misconception that people who were abused in childhood all have odd behaviors etc.. It's not just the little girl voice, it's why we are submissive, why we are maso's..all kinds of bullshit. Do I sound like I've argued this one before..lol. As someone who lived a life like that it annoys me that people put characteristics on us all the time.

Maybe they have other reasons, maybe the were just bitches, maybe they didn't like you...who knows. No idea why you would just jump to sexual abuse.

Sorry if I'm ranting here..just it gets old.

 

[BiBunny]

You're just having weird luck.

Until Dr. Drew or someone performs real scientific research on this, it's all speculation. And I'm not sure how you'd do that because how do you answer questions like "What's a 'little girl' voice?" How are you going to determine what is and what isn't? The answer can't be "I'll know it when I see it." It's gotta be something quantitative.

Incidentally, it's also relatively easy to plant fake "memories" in someone's head if you're a reasonably competent psychologist, so I don't know that I'd believe it just because Dr. Drew said it.

Also, since this thread is about anecdotal evidence, I'll add my own. I have the voice of a 12-year-old. I was never abused a day in my life. Go figure.

 

[LittleJade]

I have lived through abuse and trauma... and I don't have a little girl voice. My voice is lower-pitched, though feminine, and more husky than sweet.


Except, of course, when I'm begging for cum.

 

[Evil_Geoff]

Also, since this thread is about anecdotal evidence, I'll add my own. I have the voice of a 12-year-old. I was never abused a day in my life. Go figure.

I don't think your voice is that of a 12 year old, hon. And I don't think I would classify anything we've done as abuse buuuut...

I will vouch for the fact that BiBunny is NOT afraid to meet guys from Literotica!

 

[BiBunny]

I don't think your voice is that of a 12 year old, hon. And I don't think I would classify anything we've done as abuse buuuut...

I will vouch for the fact that BiBunny is NOT afraid to meet guys from Literotica!

*Snort* I should've said my phone voice is that of a 12-year-old.

And I'm definitely not afraid of you boys. Bring 'em on!

 

[LittleJade]

I don't think your voice is that of a 12 year old, hon. And I don't think I would classify anything we've done as abuse buuuut...

I will vouch for the fact that BiBunny is NOT afraid to meet guys from Literotica!

*envy!*

 

[Yasashii_Kaze]

I was abused and no, I don't have a "little girl" voice. In fact, my singing voice is slightly lower than the average woman's.

 

[Netzach]

Dr Drew tends to think that almost every woman has been abused in some fashion. Because an overwhelming number of women are, in fact, abused, molested, and messed up by their families, his assertions are almost always spot on.

I have a grown up voice indeed, I have not been abused sexually by a family member. Non sexually leaves a wide gamut I guess, but I don't think I'm playing out childhood stress vocally.

 

[midwestyankee]

*Snort* I should've said my phone voice is that of a 12-year-old.

And I'm definitely not afraid of you boys. Bring 'em on!

Which phone voice?

 

[BiBunny]

Which phone voice?

*Snort* Good catch.

 

[MelancholyBaby]

As someone who has a little girl voice (the last time the doctor's office called me they asked me if mom or dad was there ) and has been abused I really don't think there is a correlation. I had a similiar voice growing up before any abuse, a "sweet" voice, same range, affect, etc. I think perhaps an abused girl may revert back to a more childlike voice sometimes (I've got called out on that) in certain situations but I don't think that little girl voice should always be associated with abuse.

 

[Marquis]

Dr Drew tends to think that almost every woman has been abused in some fashion. Because an overwhelming number of women are, in fact, abused, molested, and messed up by their families, his assertions are almost always spot on.

I have a grown up voice indeed, I have not been abused sexually by a family member. Non sexually leaves a wide gamut I guess, but I don't think I'm playing out childhood stress vocally.

I have to agree with this.

We're really not all that far from the original shock of the Kinsey report on women. I'm really looking forward to the development in psychotherapy where childhood abuse doesn't account for every and all behavior of the adult.

That said, I've always had a tough time with women who can't find their grown-up voice.

 

[kinkyknickers]

Chick probably just sobered up...... Not everything has a deep meaning, some people are just fickle (take it from someone who knows ).

 

[John Doe]

I think it's hot.

Like What's-Her-Name from that movie with Gina Gershon except maybe not quite that much because her voice is actually annoying after a while.

 

[Guest]

I'm a musician. I sing.

We have several different types of voices, men and women.

For women, chest voice is generally the speaking voice. Place your hand on your chest and feel it vibrate while you speak. The voice is generally lower, and to the untrained singer, they may actually believe that is their complete singing voice.

Not so. You generally don't take the chest voice up high. It could actually be damaging and it's certainly difficult to hear the strain. (think the little girl shouting in the musical Annie. "The - sun'll come out - to-morrow!"

Bleah.

Of course, Kathleen Turner trained herself to always speak in the chest voice. It was sexy, but now I think it makes her sound aged. And don't get me wrong, I adore Kathleen Turner.

Head voice is next. That's the slightly higher voice, it could be breathy, and generally is if women choose to speak from that range. Voice instructors will often tell their soprano students to speak in that voice in order to keep the overall vocal range higher.

Most middle to high range of singing comes from the head voice. It's a more pure sound. Sopranos are all about head voice.

If you can read music many sopranos switch over from chest to head voice around the F or G directly above middle C, but it just depends on the person.

This would be the little girl voice people are talking about, I guess. Head voice. Physically, all women have it. (In men it's called falsetto, but men are build differently vocally, too.)

I hear many people speaking in this voice. It's not a mental thing.

So - what does this mean? It means I think Dr. Drew should take voice lessons. The physicality of vocal sound production depends on the person, how they were taught, trained, or just how they are made.

Just my, um $2.00.

 

[midwestyankee]

Sopranos are all about head voice.

Somehow I always knew this, but then I've met some altoes who were no slouches in the head area either.

 

[Guest]

Somehow I always knew this, but then I've met some altoes who were no slouches in the head area either.

Sopranos give much better head than altos.

*sniff*

 

[kittenartist]

I'm a musician. I sing.

We have several different types of voices, men and women.

For women, chest voice is generally the speaking voice. Place your hand on your chest and feel it vibrate while you speak. The voice is generally lower, and to the untrained singer, they may actually believe that is their complete singing voice.

Not so. You generally don't take the chest voice up high. It could actually be damaging and it's certainly difficult to hear the strain. (think the little girl shouting in the musical Annie. "The - sun'll come out - to-morrow!"

Bleah.

Of course, Kathleen Turner trained herself to always speak in the chest voice. It was sexy, but now I think it makes her sound aged. And don't get me wrong, I adore Kathleen Turner.

Head voice is next. That's the slightly higher voice, it could be breathy, and generally is if women choose to speak from that range. Voice instructors will often tell their soprano students to speak in that voice in order to keep the overall vocal range higher.

Most middle to high range of singing comes from the head voice. It's a more pure sound. Sopranos are all about head voice.

If you can read music many sopranos switch over from chest to head voice around the F or G directly above middle C, but it just depends on the person.

This would be the little girl voice people are talking about, I guess. Head voice. Physically, all women have it. (In men it's called falsetto, but men are build differently vocally, too.)

I hear many people speaking in this voice. It's not a mental thing.

So - what does this mean? It means I think Dr. Drew should take voice lessons. The physicality of vocal sound production depends on the person, how they were taught, trained, or just how they are made.

Just my, um $2.00.

That was very interesting to read, thank you for sharing Just when I thought I had another thing I could blame on the abuse you go and blow it for me! Sincerely, thank you.

Although, I do think that some people revert to a childlike mode of speaking in some situations that could be associated to abuse. Not the tone of voice, but rather the actual structure of phrases and pronunciation of some words. I catch myself doing this around males that make me uncomfortable/nervous. On the flipside, I catch myself doing it when playful too. It might just be letting the "inner child" out because as an actual child that part of me was locked away to survive. *shurgs* Just rambling out my thoughts here

 

[Guest]

That was very interesting to read, thank you for sharing Just when I thought I had another thing I could blame on the abuse you go and blow it for me! Sincerely, thank you.

Although, I do think that some people revert to a childlike mode of speaking in some situations that could be associated to abuse. Not the tone of voice, but rather the actual structure of phrases and pronunciation of some words. I catch myself doing this around males that make me uncomfortable/nervous. On the flipside, I catch myself doing it when playful too. It might just be letting the "inner child" out because as an actual child that part of me was locked away to survive. *shurgs* Just rambling out my thoughts here

I'm glad I could help. for all victims of abuse.

I agree with the childlike phrasing. We do it for babies, our pets, our significant others when playing aorund . . .

 

[kittenartist]

I'm glad I could help. for all victims of abuse.

I agree with the childlike phrasing. We do it for babies, our pets, our significant others when playing aorund . . .

A very good point. Perhaps I am not doing it from abuse but am just more playful more often. I like that reasoning better

 

[Guest]

A very good point. Perhaps I am not doing it from abuse but am just more playful more often. I like that reasoning better

I like that, too.

I know I do it.

 

[midwestyankee]

Sopranos give much better head than altos.

*sniff*

It happens that my sampling includes slightly too few sopranos to be sure of my conclusions, but I'll hold to them until I can be confident of a new result.

 

[Guest]

It happens that my sampling includes slightly too few sopranos to be sure of my conclusions, but I'll hold to them until I can be confident of a new result.

Cheeky.

 

[midwestyankee]

Cheeky.

I prefer to think of it as logical with a side of reliance on empirical data.