May-December Relationships

[lesbiaphrodite]

When I was very young, I was involved with a woman who was about 10 years older than me. The sex was incredible and she was fascinating. But, it was just an affair, nothing more.

Now, I'm older, and I'm involved in a May-December relationship with a woman who is about 15 years younger than me. This is not just an affair. It's a love relationship. The relationship is getting more serious and we're even contemplating a commitment ceremony in August....

I've never been happier in all my life with anyone. She is all I could want in a partner. Her age doesn't factor into it at all for me. And, it seems that mine doesn't for her. But, I wonder how it will feel years down the road?

Anyone out there with May-December experiences? I'd be so grateful for any input from you.

 

[Liar]

You know, when you say May-December, it brings up images of Anna Nicole Smith and that 97 (or something) year old.

I don't know your age, but if you consider her to be May, wouldn't that make you at 15 years older at the very most late July?


When I was 20 I was involved with a 30 year old. It didn't last, because I got tired of dealing with her immature ways. (I attract crazy people, it's a blessing and a curse.) When I was 30, I was involved with a 20 year old. We broke up for other reasons, but she admits that she did find me pretty juvenile at times.

So what's in a number?

 

[SpicyPepper]

What exactly IS a May-December relationship?

 

[JAMESBJOHNSON]

It means she's a cradle robber.

 

[Guest]

What exactly IS a May-December relationship?

It's just when there is a huge age difference between the couple.

 

[impressive]

I don't know your age, but if you consider her to be May, wouldn't that make you at 15 years older at the very most late July?

By that measuring stick, I gots me a younger man who's maybe May 10th to my May 1st.

 

[lesbiaphrodite]

Well, I'm 40-something and she's 20-something, so that should help clarify. The gap is definitely not a problem for either one of us at this juncture. Plus, she's European, and from that side of the pond, the view of women over forty is mercifully less bleak than here in the US. In any case, she makes me happier than I can express, and I guess I just want her to always find me beautiful, even when I'm older and grayer.

 

[FeatherNails]

when I was 25, I was involved with a woman who was in her early forties.
It was insanely sexy.
The sex was great, and the connection we had was intense.
We ran into issues, of course, but I don't think it was markedly different than any other relationship except in how others saw us

 

[matriarch]

For those of you who aren't aware of it......there is a very large age difference between me and the wife.

She's 32 and I'm ..............just short of 59.



And life is fantastic - for both of us.

We complement each other in our styles, moods, energy.

 

[OhMissScarlett]

I'm 34 and hubby is 49. I'm the mature one in the relationship, believe it or not.

We do have substantial gaps in our interests in music, social opinions, hobbies, etc., but we try to at least pay attention to what the other person likes or dislikes and respect that. Personally, I think our relationship works because neither of us smokes, we have the same politics, and we have amazing sexual chemistry. If we didn't have those things in common, I'd be so outta here.

 

[Elianna]

For those of you who aren't aware of it......there is a very large age difference between me and the wife.

She's 32 and I'm ..............just short of 59.



And life is fantastic - for both of us.

We complement each other in our styles, moods, energy.

My best friend is 29 and her boyfriend is 58???? She has never been happier or healthier. Whatever floats your boat, I suppose.

 

[SydneyScorpio]

If you're both happy with the relationship, then enjoy the moment and just be there for each other. The future will take care of itself. It's not only Americans who are age obsessed. We have the same obsession here in Australia too. According to the media here, any woman over 40 is way past her prime. Thankfully we have people like Elle McPherson, Kylie Minogue, etc, who then make the media do a double take. Cherish every moment together as a gift.

 

[BoomerP]

well I'm with someone just 11 years older then me. It's not working out though but that's my fault. I always liked older women.
I think she's tired of me always nagging at her and I'm tired of her always working or being busy

 

[iluvyou3638]

the guy i'm with right now is 11 years older than me, and it's basically a non-issue for us.

 

[matriarch]

My best friend is 29 and her boyfriend is 58???? She has never been happier or healthier. Whatever floats your boat, I suppose.

That sounds almost puzzled.

There's nothing to puzzle about, none of us choose who we fall in love with, it just happens. I never set out to find myself a woman the same age as my eldest son, it just happened. And once it happened, once that connection had been made, neither of us could walk away from it, or wanted to. I've never been happier in my life, and she tells me she feels the same, and I have no reason not to believe her, she gave up everything to leave the States and come to UK to live with me, so we could be together legally.As there was no huge monetary pay back involved, I believe it was because she loves me and wants to be with me.

Did we worry about the age difference? She never has, occasionally it worries me, not because of the difference, but because of the simple fact of me dying a long, long time before her, and leaving her on her own. That worries me.

Occasionally we joke about the fact that she is the same age as my eldest son, and my daughter in law, and I'm the same age as her mother......and it is only joking. There's no fear, no sideways looks. We love each other, want to be together, and thats the only thing that matters.

 

[Guest]

That sounds almost puzzled.

There's nothing to puzzle about, none of us choose who we fall in love with, it just happens. I never set out to find myself a woman the same age as my eldest son, it just happened. And once it happened, once that connection had been made, neither of us could walk away from it, or wanted to. I've never been happier in my life, and she tells me she feels the same, and I have no reason not to believe her, she gave up everything to leave the States and come to UK to live with me, so we could be together legally.As there was no huge monetary pay back involved, I believe it was because she loves me and wants to be with me.

Did we worry about the age difference? She never has, occasionally it worries me, not because of the difference, but because of the simple fact of me dying a long, long time before her, and leaving her on her own. That worries me.

Occasionally we joke about the fact that she is the same age as my eldest son, and my daughter in law, and I'm the same age as her mother......and it is only joking. There's no fear, no sideways looks. We love each other, want to be together, and thats the only thing that matters.

Having been witness to the conception and birth of your relationship (that sounds so bloody weird, haha!), I so know how strong and true you two are. You are good for each other, you love each other, you "work".

Simple. As. That.

 

[Trinique_Fire]

I've been part of one "extreme" M-D relationship. Some of you know, some of you don't. I think the age difference was more of a problem for her than me. I prefer older women. I was 19 and she was in her early 30s.

I've had various M-D trysts...so to speak. I must be going about this the wrong way though, because while I'm attracted to older women...it seems that women who are younger or at least my age are attracted to me. I can't be mad though, because like someone else said on here, we don't choose who we love or are attracted to. You make each other happy and that's all that counts. She may just find you sexier with age. Fine wine and all that.

 

[matriarch]

Having been witness to the conception and birth of your relationship (that sounds so bloody weird, haha!), I so know how strong and true you two are. You are good for each other, you love each other, you "work".

Simple. As. That.

Thank you sweets. You got it exactly. It works.

And it really is time we got together for a post wedding drink. (Can you believe its 3 years since the meet, and its getting towards Min's and mine 2nd wedding anniversary? Wow. )