Is tactfullness and respect a lost art form?

[TenderBranson]

I have been looking over the ads and responses on this and some other areas of this forum for a while now. One thing that I am consistently seeing from at least a large majority of the guys is a complete lack of tact or respect. Granted, I'm sure there are people who enjoy that, but it seems to me that the average male ads and responses to female ads are just insane. It makes me question whether an ad of my type is even worth posting...but I guess maybe I'll give it a shot.

I'm a nice guy. I don't want to "fuck you so goddamn hard" or "hit that shit"...I just want to meet someone who shares the same interests as me. I would like to meet someone who is interested in a long term phone sex relationship, but I would also like that person to be someone who I can have a decent conversation with as well. I am submissive, and enjoy incorporating that aspect as well.

Anyway, if you are interested in talking to someone who is a little less "in your face", feel free to respond. Otherwise, good luck in your search.

 

[kaycee217]

I don't think there is a lack of tactfulness or respect here on lit. Many posts seem to be made with the intention of eliciting such crude responses. I've never seen a female posting that she wishes to have a deep conversation and an online friend, and in return, she gets responses telling her she will be the guy's cum bucket...or something along those lines. However, female posts asking to be dominate or used often do evoke posts you refer to.

 

[TenderBranson]

I don't think there is a lack of tactfulness or respect here on lit. Many posts seem to be made with the intention of eliciting such crude responses. I've never seen a female posting that she wishes to have a deep conversation and an online friend, and in return, she gets responses telling her she will be the guy's cum bucket...or something along those lines. However, female posts asking to be dominate or used often do evoke posts you refer to.

I guess that was part of my point. As someone who is interested in the bdsm lifestyle, it just seems like a really strange way to go about trying to meet someone. There are obviously people that seek that out, but more often than not, a fairly normal post evokes some really intense responses.

 

[misosoup]

TenderBranson, cool name. Survivor was a great book. Lose the "I'm a nice guy" attitude and you'll probably get better response. Just because it's right doesn't mean it works.

It's a weird name for a phone sex tag, considering that the dude in the book refused to have phone sex with the girl.