My wife and her bestfriend
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Thats something I would want to know too markie if I was you.
Some people in relationships dont consider it cheating if your partner is hooking up with someone of the same sex but thats just sexual stuff, not love and emotional feelings like it sounds like your wife had for her best friend. That is a bigger deal than just hooking up.
Good luck with it.
Some people in relationships dont consider it cheating if your partner is hooking up with someone of the same sex but thats just sexual stuff, not love and emotional feelings like it sounds like your wife had for her best friend. That is a bigger deal than just hooking up.
Good luck with it.
Markie, I agree with blueyz22. How do you feel about it though. Since lesbians are my favorite kink, I would some how try to encourage it as long as I knew she was coming home to me with at least some good stories and I could at least tolerate the other woman. But if you consider that cheating I don't know what to say because its sure to happen again somewhere down the road and this time she will be more careful. Unless of course she is letting you see these things as a way of testing the waters.
Be very careful about mentioning under age stuff on this board. Some of the other posters have a very inflated opinion of themselves and feel they have the right to police all posts involving any number less than 18 showing up in any post. Unless of course their own post do it. Then its ok. Strange considering the moderator seems to have no problem with any of the post that this person finds so offensive.
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Be very careful about mentioning under age stuff on this board. Some of the other posters have a very inflated opinion of themselves and feel they have the right to police all posts involving any number less than 18 showing up in any post. Unless of course their own post do it. Then its ok. Strange considering the moderator seems to have no problem with any of the post that this person finds so offensive.
Disclaimer- Any similar persons or persons are purely coincidental and bare no connection to real life situations or people. Thank You.
silverwhisper
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markie, if you consider it cheating, then obviously there's a significant problem, as you seem at least partially unconvinced.
me personally, my wife is bi and she's free to explore that with other women if she wants. i don't consider that cheating b/c i know about it--but not everyone feels that way about it: what works for my marriage probably wouldn't for many.
given the part of the conversation you heard: maybe it's her friend that's having trouble letting go? and while i'll admit i think listening in was a bad idea, you can't exactly "un-know" what you heard.
anyway: so is it possible the impetus is coming from her friend, not from her? the conversation certainly seems to suggest that.
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me personally, my wife is bi and she's free to explore that with other women if she wants. i don't consider that cheating b/c i know about it--but not everyone feels that way about it: what works for my marriage probably wouldn't for many.
given the part of the conversation you heard: maybe it's her friend that's having trouble letting go? and while i'll admit i think listening in was a bad idea, you can't exactly "un-know" what you heard.
anyway: so is it possible the impetus is coming from her friend, not from her? the conversation certainly seems to suggest that.
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have you been able to ask her why things are different now? and how old are your kids?
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yeesh--they're teens? i was thinking that i know some women have difficulty reconciling being mothers and being sexual but after 1.5 decades, that shouldn't be an issue in most cases, i would think!
all right, i'm afraid i've got nothing else.
i'm assuming you've tried discussing this outside the bedroom, in a "i just want to understand what's different now vs then" way, right? if so, what did she say? for that matter, what did you say? or was it just "is the reason we don't do the horizontal mambo that you're having an affair with [best friend]"?
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all right, i'm afraid i've got nothing else.
i'm assuming you've tried discussing this outside the bedroom, in a "i just want to understand what's different now vs then" way, right? if so, what did she say? for that matter, what did you say? or was it just "is the reason we don't do the horizontal mambo that you're having an affair with [best friend]"?
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She likes the taste of pussy. Your main option, now, is to get in where you fit in.
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sauce for the goose
l had this problem in me first marriage, so l had sex with her best friend and let her find out after a while.we talked about it made up and stayed together for another10 yrs.we divorced in the end because of me working away.
l had this problem in me first marriage, so l had sex with her best friend and let her find out after a while.we talked about it made up and stayed together for another10 yrs.we divorced in the end because of me working away.
I am so sorry to be rude, but I hear so many people say how "loving, kind and generous" their wives are...and then go on to say how the sex dept. is bad or doesn't exist....not even a bj on the birthday....well in my book, part of being loving...generous...etc etc is getting it on with the one you LOVE. If you have sexual issues talk about it.... I wish my fellow sisters would wake up and realize how awesome and what a gift a sexual man is.....
Recently, my wife freed me from my usual subservient status and had me accompany her and her "friend" Kay to Atlantic City. Prior to that weekend Kay had never been fucked by any man but her husband and I was to be her first "other" man. I was honored that my wife and Kay were allowing me the pleasure and it was fantastic. Kay was trembling. Claire was lying beside her, holding her hand and kissing her as I buried my face in her furry pussy. I licked to the brink of coming, then I slowly eased my cock into Kay. She moaned a sound like the word "No" but then she arched her hips off the bed and impaled herself on my cock. I would have come in an instant except that Claire placed her hand between Kay and I and squeezed my cock to prevent my cum from jetting into Kay. She kept me from cooming until Kay had shuddeered through two or maybe three orgasms, only then was I allowed to come....come and come and come. And it was only the first hour of a great weekend. I would like to write more, but m'Lady says I have had enough play time for today.
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I'm glad that my first reply was deleted. If I were in your shoes, I'd hire a PI for a few weeks. As soon as evidence was found, I'd file for divorce. I don't know all of the details, but it sounds like she sees you as a bank with arms. Good for late night hugs and a full refrigerator, but she doesn't want you anywhere near her privity. "For better and for worse" shouldn't mean that you live the life of a priest while she gallivants around with her ladyfriend! After all, if the tables were turned, I doubt that she'd be anywhere near as accomodating with your needs as a gay man. In fact, I'll bet that she'd have papers waiting on the kitchen table as soon as she found out about your "horrible secret life".
Bottom line, barring grievious illness/injury or abuse, there's no reason for her to avoid sleeping with you. And, in case I haven't made it clear, you may have to bite the bullet in this case and forget the stereotypical "I'm a man, so I don't need to do any better than I have to", bullshit. If it's your technique or stamina ( the usual reasons given by women for persuing an outside affair), the How To board can help both of you achieve a serviceable conclusion. If she's a lesbian, and your town is that small, she's probably been outed already. If my experiences bears me out, you're the "talk of the town" at this very moment. Allowing yourself to wear the horns isn't the optimal solution. And you don't want to be the next "Tragedy in a Small Town" story on your local news station.
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Well, it sounds like the answer might just be to see about getting a threesome with her best friend. 
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I think it is time to stop accusing and start disscussing you and your relationship with your wife with her. Get everythng out in the open. You should tell her how your wife's relationship with her friend is affecting you. You should also state why you think she is having an affair and how that is affecting you.
Then you should ask her how she would feel if she knew you told your best man friend you loved him and hugged and kissed him on more than one occasion? You should also ask how she would feel if you had a homosexual affair of your own?
Then state if she can answer those questions then she would know how you feel?
Then you should ask her how she would feel if she knew you told your best man friend you loved him and hugged and kissed him on more than one occasion? You should also ask how she would feel if you had a homosexual affair of your own?
Then state if she can answer those questions then she would know how you feel?
If she isn't withholding anything (sex) from you, it shouldn't bother you. Let her enjoy keeping her secret (if there is one to keep) until she is ready to tell you. Perhaps, if your are fortunate, she may even include you one day. I know I love making love to my girl friend and husband at the same time.
Markie, if your basing alot of this on your sex life drying up, dude that happens to most of us. It's like they have a limited supply and once you use it up thats it. To me if your wife(read any one's wife) cuts you off and after discussing it and things never change for awhile, I'm sorry that gives you license to look for another source in my book. I'm not talking a week or a month but a long time. Like in your or my case. I mean why should she be able to say no more sex for you?
If you love her that much and are happy with her in every other way, is it worth breaking up your marriage and all the trouble that goes with it for your pride? If you don't plan on doing anything about it, let it go and don't think about it. What is fretting over something that you can't or won't change do but tear you up inside. Also over what may not even be happening.
Also you yourself haven't come to terms with yourself yet if its cheating if its with a woman. Only behind the back is bothering you. You have to figure that out first before anything. I mean if she's cheating with a woman and you come to the conclusion it dosn't bother you as much as if with a man. you may not even have a problem.
If you love her that much and are happy with her in every other way, is it worth breaking up your marriage and all the trouble that goes with it for your pride? If you don't plan on doing anything about it, let it go and don't think about it. What is fretting over something that you can't or won't change do but tear you up inside. Also over what may not even be happening.
Also you yourself haven't come to terms with yourself yet if its cheating if its with a woman. Only behind the back is bothering you. You have to figure that out first before anything. I mean if she's cheating with a woman and you come to the conclusion it dosn't bother you as much as if with a man. you may not even have a problem.
