New faces, come say hello...

[DVS]

I'm a 35 year old bifem and brand new domme. While I do enjoy a sound spanking from time to time, I don't know if that qualifies me as a switch.

In the real world I'm a single mom, a writer and professionally I do freelance web design and search engine optimization work.

I've been a literotica reader for a while but a friend of mine who has been in the lifestyle for years suggested the forums as a source for the kind of info a new domme might find useful.

I was very recently asked by a guy I barely know if he could be my sub. His desire is to be sexually submissive to one woman and he asked me because he trusts me for some reason and we don't know each other well enough for there to be any emotional attachments yet. I agreed because of the latter and because the more we talked about it, the more turned on I became by the fact that this man wants to serve me, that he's willing to do whatever I say and that his only desire is to fulfill my desires.
Through my friend and the reading I've done, I have a rough idea but am turning to the forum here for more specifics on how to learn to be a good domme.

This is all requiring a major change in my thinking because when a man asks me what he can do to please me, the first thing that comes to mind is domestic chores. LOL. (I can't help it that a guy vacuuming, even fully clothed, turns me on as much as having clean carpets) Luckily my new sub wants to do those things.

My current strategy is to give him assignments which usually result in him having to tell me what he desires. Doing this I'm discovering he's way more dedicated than I first thought. For example he told me he can't wait until he can wake up at my feet ready to serve me after licking and rimming my ass until I fall asleep. His feedback gives me ideas for where he wants to go. And as far as where I want to take this? LOL. At this point I'm mostly thinking of him as a sexual cabana boy and gathering ideas from the stories and forum.

We are both very excited about this new endeavor and being the perfectionist that I am, I want to make sure I'm doing the best job I can. Any feedback any of you can provide would be very much appreciated, particularly from dommes.

OK, this is just me, but I was amused when you said seeing a male vacuuming turns you on. You are very much a Domme! LOL. Probably a domestic Domme, but you have at least one follower.

Now, to put a little twist on your adventure and because you are a perfectionist, maybe you could tell your male sub that you will inspect his vacuuming for perfection and if it doesn't pass your perfection test, he will be punished. Many sub men enjoy servicing their Domme. I'm sure you could find ways for him to service you as a punishment? No, not a real punishment, for sure, but if he doesn't service you to your satisfaction, i.e. his tongue isn't used just as you instruct, you can spank him. After all, you did say you were a Domme, right? Don't Dommes enjoy spanking male behinds?

Anyway, go with the flow. Give him domestic chores to do, and you'll get a clean house. Inspect his work and show him his errors and you'll get a spotless house. And of course, you will need to back up your Domme demands with some action. He will need to feel punishments now and then, just so he knows you mean business.

Of course, it's all part of the fun and games. He enjoys giving you pleasure. You, in turn, give him what he wants...your stern instruction and repremands. And those repremands must surely be punishments that can only happen in the bedroom, sometimes...when he's been an especially naughty boy.

No, I'm not a sub male. I'm a Dom. I just took what I'd maybe like to see a submissive female do for me and how I'd um...reward her. LOL.

Oh, and welcome to Lit. I hope you find what you're looking for, and because your a perfectionist, I'm sure you will.

 

[khobuck]

Hi there, we, my husband and i are new to this site. We live in Christchurch, New Zealand.

 

[FurryFury]

Welcome Khobuck.

 

[ironman150]

Please allow me to introduce myself...

Hello I'm an average Joe (pun intended). I've been writing Erotic BDSM stories for a friend for about a couple years, have loved the idea of being a Dom for my adult life and am now starting to act on it.
A friend said this would be a good place to get suggestions and critiques for my stories. I'm looking forward to participating in the forum.
I hail from Atlanta at the present but lived in SoCal longer than anywhere else. Well that's all I can think of for now.

 

[FurryFury]

Welcome Ironman150

 

[lilylicious]

. . . I was amused when you said seeing a male vacuuming turns you on. You are very much a Domme! LOL. Probably a domestic Domme . . .

Thanks for taking the time to respond DVS. I don't know if a guy vacuuming turns me on because he is serving me or because it means I don't have to do it. LOL. I mentioned it more or less because as a single mom, when someone asks what they can do for me, that's the first thing that comes to mind - help me around the house. LOL. This shows you just how much of a change in mindset this is taking for me. Until I read your response, my mind was working toward non domestic activities for him, but now that you've got me thinking about an immaculate house, I may reconsider

Whether it's domestic chores or in the bedroom, I'm sure the perfectionist in me will find (or create) some flaw in his service to me that will require that he be punished. I'm very much looking forward to that and I know he is too.

Thanks again for the feedback!

 

[licker4450]

Author Here

Hello A/all.

I am a writer in the BDSM arena. I joined this group to interact with other like minded folks who life either in a D/s or M/s relationship.

 

[akittenone]

hello kitten is an owned slave, she has been a sub/slave for many years and joined this site to speak to O/others, no matter how long a P/person has been in this lifestyle kitten feels Y/you never stop learning and growing, and as such kitten looks forward to reading the posts and chatting with Y/you.

>^..^<

 

[FurryFury]

Hello Licker and welcome.

Unless you enjoy or have been ordered to type the whole W/we type of thing, it's not common protocol here. You can use it if you wish and/or must of course.

 

[FurryFury]

Welcome Akittenone.



Do you always speak of yourself in the third person and use the whole W/we thing? Is it required?

 

[akittenone]

Welcome Akittenone.



Do you always speak of yourself in the third person and use the whole W/we thing? Is it required?

Thank you for your welcome, yes kitten does speak in the third person as that is what her Master requires kitten to do, smiling,, at first was hard but now it is easier than saying i or me etc,

The W/we etc is something that has become habit, guess after awhile its something that is not thought of, although there are times kitten knows she doesn't use it in the right place,

Look forward to reading and learning more on this site

 

[FurryFury]

Thank you for your welcome, yes kitten does speak in the third person as that is what her Master requires kitten to do, smiling,, at first was hard but now it is easier than saying i or me etc,

The W/we etc is something that has become habit, guess after awhile its something that is not thought of, although there are times kitten knows she doesn't use it in the right place,

Look forward to reading and learning more on this site

That's good to know.

I hope you enjoy reading, learning and posting here.

 

[RedHotHoneyPot]

Introducing Myself

Hey! My name is RedHotHoneyPot, I'm a 31yr old female living in South Carolina. I found Lit. a few weeks ago and since I've always wanted to write, I joined. I hope to post a story soon but am finding it difficult to settle on one idea as there are so many always bouncing around in my head.

I have been obsessed with sex for as long as I can remember. My first introduction to BDSM etc, outside of my own imagination, was reading Story of O at 17 and I've been an avid reader ever since. I'm basically a virgin when it comes to the lifestyle/experiences, however, in my mind, it's virtually a daily event. LOL

I'm definitely more attracted to being a sub, but I don't think I could ever truly be a slave. At least not 24/7/365, but I would try it with the right person - who I suspect does not exist in real life.

I have been beaten with a belt on one occasion and found the experience to be transcendent. I especially love to have my tits tortured. I love bondage and double penetration. I'm bisexual, but I've always been very shy around women and unsure of myself. I'm more attracted to women, but more comfortable with men.

I am in a committed relationship with a man who has very little sex drive and absolutely no sexual imagination - my cross to bear. We have a child (6) who is the joy of my life.

So, I hope that's a good intro and y'all will say "Hey" when I'm out and about!

 

[pariste74656]

Hello to you from the upstate. Hope to be able to talk with you.

Hey! My name is RedHotHoneyPot, I'm a 31yr old female living in South Carolina. I found Lit. a few weeks ago and since I've always wanted to write, I joined. I hope to post a story soon but am finding it difficult to settle on one idea as there are so many always bouncing around in my head.

I have been obsessed with sex for as long as I can remember. My first introduction to BDSM etc, outside of my own imagination, was reading Story of O at 17 and I've been an avid reader ever since. I'm basically a virgin when it comes to the lifestyle/experiences, however, in my mind, it's virtually a daily event. LOL

I'm definitely more attracted to being a sub, but I don't think I could ever truly be a slave. At least not 24/7/365, but I would try it with the right person - who I suspect does not exist in real life.

I have been beaten with a belt on one occasion and found the experience to be transcendent. I especially love to have my tits tortured. I love bondage and double penetration. I'm bisexual, but I've always been very shy around women and unsure of myself. I'm more attracted to women, but more comfortable with men.

I am in a committed relationship with a man who has very little sex drive and absolutely no sexual imagination - my cross to bear. We have a child (6) who is the joy of my life.

So, I hope that's a good intro and y'all will say "Hey" when I'm out and about!

 

[wld4sx]

I am in a committed relationship with a man who has very little sex drive and absolutely no sexual imagination - my cross to bear. We have a child (6) who is the joy of my life.

So, I hope that's a good intro and y'all will say "Hey" when I'm out and about!

I can completely relate to your introduction... almost sounds like I wrote it my self except for the gender!

I'd love to chat with you sometime if you're interested...maybe even collaborate on a story or two!

 

[PrincessGoddess]

Hi, my name is Leslie

Hi! My name is Leslie (my birth name, not something made up), and I have been posting on the Literotica boards under a couple of different pen names for about six years (Every time I have a computer blow up, it so stresses me out that I cannot remember my login ), but, I promise to continue to use this one . As an author, I have received awards from writing guilds in the non-fiction category for work that was previously only published within governmental circles. For 20 years, I slugged away, saying things that others did not want to accept or agree with. Being a researcher of law and things like regulation is an occupation that pays less than a sports stringer (which I have done covering the NFL). I feel honored that my work actually initiated social and political changes, and impacted hundreds of thousands of people. But politics is a dirty game; and one that I have chosen to end my participation in. In fact, I am giving a farewell to the world of politics in written testimony before a Texas House committee next month, but I am choosing not to attend. It is my fiinal point in simply saying that it is too disgusting for me to have my face associated with it any longer (politics, that is).

I guess that I could say that I am a transsexual submissive whose experience goes back to 1974. I'm not sure if that makes me old or not. But, as I declared today, I believe in reality I am a bi-poly switch transsexual (is that more than a mouthful?). I only do real-time encounters, and when not attached, I have been known to cross the country in my Camaro for a good caning or whipping. You can do that when you have a small, round, bottom.

Thank you for the honor of allowing me to introduce myself. The pleasure is all mine, I'm quite sure.

 

[FurryFury]

Welcome PrincessGoddess



You certainly seem to have had an interesting personal and professional life so far.

 

[Lil_Anisa]

Hello!
I'm new here to the BDSM board. My daddy/dom said that I could post here if I wanted to, so here I am. I've been on Lit before under different names but I thought I'd start fresh with a new name in this part of the forum. I've been with my daddy for just over 3 weeks (mostly online) and I've learned quite a lot. I'm glad to be here and I look forward to learning more...
Thanks!
Lil_Anisa

 

[FurryFury]

Welcome Lil_Anisa

 

[the_mgp]

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[kittenartist]

Howdy.
I think it is appropriate to give a bit of an introduction since I've been spyin' on you all for awhile and just may give in to temptation to post/reply more than once in a blue moon.
I've been on Lit for awhile. It has seen my through a lot of growth. From desiring to be a sub, to grudgingly calling myself a switch, on to accepting that I am, and ever will be, a Domme. Heh, accepting that part was a trial (for many reasons) but all my friends were like, "D'uh! Its about time you figured it out!" Denial, oh so fun, right?
So. I am at the point where I know what I am and am content. Good place to be, all things considered. I am in my first ever monogamous relationship (previously I was strictly poly) with my fiance/sub. We have been together for a bit over 8 months. We met on a bdsm website, fell in love hard and fast, lived together for a few months, and now he is in the military. Unfortunately, until legally married, we are forced to live far apart. The separation is leading to some great growth and communication which is helping all aspects of our relationship. Lately, we have been discussing the D/s side of our relationship a lot more and better understanding what each of us need and want... It is interesting.
I am prone to over analyzing things. No, more truthfully I obsess over things. Makes sense for someone with OCD, eh? I think it puts a strain on the relationship but also helps keep communication flowing. I do find myself obsessing on how our relationship is "suppose" to look but try to let it go and just enjoy our own special dynamic.
So yeah. That is a brief introduction. Just want to say howdy to everyone I look forward to enjoying the more social aspect of bdsm -- especially with a group of people who are as fun/insightful/friendly as you all seem to be from what I've seen as a lurker.

 

[VelvetDarkness]

Hi there kittenartist and the_mgp. Hope you both stick around.

 

[SubKekiLee]

I'm a 35 year old bifem and brand new domme. While I do enjoy a sound spanking from time to time, I don't know if that qualifies me as a switch.

In the real world I'm a single mom, a writer and professionally I do freelance web design and search engine optimization work.

I've been a literotica reader for a while but a friend of mine who has been in the lifestyle for years suggested the forums as a source for the kind of info a new domme might find useful.

I was very recently asked by a guy I barely know if he could be my sub. His desire is to be sexually submissive to one woman and he asked me because he trusts me for some reason and we don't know each other well enough for there to be any emotional attachments yet. I agreed because of the latter and because the more we talked about it, the more turned on I became by the fact that this man wants to serve me, that he's willing to do whatever I say and that his only desire is to fulfill my desires.
Through my friend and the reading I've done, I have a rough idea but am turning to the forum here for more specifics on how to learn to be a good domme.

This is all requiring a major change in my thinking because when a man asks me what he can do to please me, the first thing that comes to mind is domestic chores. LOL. (I can't help it that a guy vacuuming, even fully clothed, turns me on as much as having clean carpets) Luckily my new sub wants to do those things.

My current strategy is to give him assignments which usually result in him having to tell me what he desires. Doing this I'm discovering he's way more dedicated than I first thought. For example he told me he can't wait until he can wake up at my feet ready to serve me after licking and rimming my ass until I fall asleep. His feedback gives me ideas for where he wants to go. And as far as where I want to take this? LOL. At this point I'm mostly thinking of him as a sexual cabana boy and gathering ideas from the stories and forum.

We are both very excited about this new endeavor and being the perfectionist that I am, I want to make sure I'm doing the best job I can. Any feedback any of you can provide would be very much appreciated, particularly from dommes.

Welcome.. Lily I knew YOUD love this place.. xoxoxo these guys around these parts do give great advice and are wonderful people....

 

[kittenartist]

Hi there kittenartist and the_mgp. Hope you both stick around.

Thanks for the welcome

 

[the_mgp]

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