How Does It Feel To Deep Throat?

[Rob_mDear]

Okay, this is real work... story research... so no playful banter confusing things, please.

I, a heterosexual guy, need to write a section where a woman deep throats a man for the first time, and then gets better at it.

I'd like details, from experienced women that have done it, to help me to flesh this out and to allow me to describe it with some depth and believability. Senses... feel, taste, touch, smell. Thoughts. Impressions. Fears. Joys. Anything.

[My request for women's opinions is not based in homophobia... women's minds and psyche's work very differently, so their impressions, focus and emotional reaction is going to be very different, or at least so I would expect. That's the viewpoint I want. If a gay guy does feel the need to comment, please just identify yourself as such so that as a writer I can sort things out.]

[And, yes, I could fake it, and all of the hetero guys and a lot of the women would never even know it, but I'd rather get it right.]

So please, without letting your author-half get the better of you, without metaphors and similes and clever adjectives... how does it feel to deep throat a guy? How does it play out, before, during and after?

 

[Rob_mDear]

Just bumping this up to try to lure in a post or two.

Come on. You're telling me there are no female authors out there that can do this?

 

[scheherazade_79]

I did it once and I was violently sick out of the window

 

[tickledkitty]

I think, Rob, that in your situation, I might do the research myself. Seriously. You could use a kielbasa or something. Just make sure it's long enough. Then try blowing it. You know how it's done, right?

Now, lean your head back and try to relax your throat. Slide it a bit further. What? You're gagging? No shit. Keep working on it. Oh, I know it's hard to breathe, but you get used to it. You have to time your breaths with the thrusts.

Still gagging? Tears rolling down your face because of it? Sorry. Consciously suppress your gag reflex. Relax your throat muscles and let the sausage slide in. Then out.

Sure it's easier when you're controlling it yourself, when you don't have some guy holding your head and forcing his dick down your throat. But, hey, you know, sometimes it's sink or swim.

 

[SlickTony]

I like doing it all right, as long as I don't have to keep it up for too long. I have TMJ issues as well as a somewhat small mouth and after a while it's not much better than being at the dentist's.

 

[S-Des]

I think, Rob, that in your situation, I might do the research myself. Seriously. You could use a kielbasa or something. Just make sure it's long enough. Then try blowing it. You know how it's done, right?

Now, lean your head back and try to relax your throat. Slide it a bit further. What? You're gagging? No shit. Keep working on it. Oh, I know it's hard to breathe, but you get used to it. You have to time your breaths with the thrusts.

Still gagging? Tears rolling down your face because of it? Sorry. Consciously suppress your gag reflex. Relax your throat muscles and let the sausage slide in. Then out.

Sure it's easier when you're controlling it yourself, when you don't have some guy holding your head and forcing his dick down your throat. But, hey, you know, sometimes it's sink or swim.

I've read and talked to a number of women (and dated a couple) who were very skilled at the act, and took a great deal of pride in it. One woman told me she got off on the act (something to do with control and pleasing her partner), including laying her head back and having the man control the action (pretty much describing your last paragraph). I'm not sure why this sounds so hostile, but there is plenty of testimony to back up that many women enjoy oral sex, and those that have the ability to deep throat don't find it any of the things you're describing.

On the other hand, there are sites that feature a lot of the choking fetish, which I find pretty distasteful. It seems based mostly on degrading your partner and going out of your way to enjoy their suffering. I guess the bottom line is, people have to do what they like to do, and as a partner you have to accept that.

BTW, I've also heard a doctor explain that for someone with a serious gag reflex, trying to ignore it can be quite dangerous. If deep throating is something that doesn't come natural to someone, they should never try to force it. I like the fact that Rob is asking the question. So many of the stories come down to stereotypes and acts that strain credulity (and that's being generous). I think we need more male authors who actually take the time to find out what it's really like for women (the good and the bad). That will make for better stories, and fewer uneducated people blithely trying to duplicate something they saw on the net.

 

[tickledkitty]

I've read and talked to a number of women (and dated a couple) who were very skilled at the act, and took a great deal of pride in it. One woman told me she got off on the act (something to do with control and pleasing her partner), including laying her head back and having the man control the action (pretty much describing your last paragraph). I'm not sure why this sounds so hostile, but there is plenty of testimony to back up that many women enjoy oral sex, and those that have the ability to deep throat don't find it any of the things you're describing.

On the other hand, there are sites that feature a lot of the choking fetish, which I find pretty distasteful. It seems based mostly on degrading your partner and going out of your way to enjoy their suffering. I guess the bottom line is, people have to do what they like to do, and as a partner you have to accept that.

BTW, I've also heard a doctor explain that for someone with a serious gag reflex, trying to ignore it can be quite dangerous. If deep throating is something that doesn't come natural to someone, they should never try to force it. I like the fact that Rob is asking the question. So many of the stories come down to stereotypes and acts that strain credulity (and that's being generous). I think we need more male authors who actually take the time to find out what it's really like for women (the good and the bad). That will make for better stories, and fewer uneducated people blithely trying to duplicate something they saw on the net.

Actually, Des, I do enjoy it a great deal and have been told that I'm quite skilled at it, as well. I do think there is a learning curve, though, which is why I suggested Rob try it himself, in addition to trying to be funny. Sorry you weren't amused.

ETA: And, no, it does not "come natural."

 

[SlickTony]

Actually, Des, I do enjoy it a great deal and have been told that I'm quite skilled at it, as well. I do think there is a learning curve, though, which is why I suggested Rob try it himself, in addition to trying to be funny. Sorry you weren't amused.

ETA: And, no, it does not "come natural."

I don't think there's a woman alive who hasn't had a negative experience with fellatio at one time or another, no matter how much she likes it in general.

 

[S-Des]

Actually, Des, I do enjoy it a great deal and have been told that I'm quite skilled at it, as well. I do think there is a learning curve, though, which is why I suggested Rob try it himself, in addition to trying to be funny. Sorry you weren't amused.

ETA: And, no, it does not "come natural."

But there is a large difference between someone who can do it right away (or at least come moderately close), and someone who can't even come close, right? Not being gay (or even bi), I have no frame of reference other than what I've been told (there have been three women in my life who could do it with ease, while others struggled at different levels). Experience didn't seem to be a major factor, because ones who'd done it for years weren't automatically better (in fact, 2 of the three were about 20 years old). There have definitely been some women who despite any level of effort (and even practice) were not able to do it.

BTW, it wasn't me not being amused, I just thought your post sounded like you were offended. Sorry if I misread.

 

[fieryjen]

There are women who can so this the first time they try? Those must be the ones without a gag reflex, I can't see that happening any other way.

I do take pride in being able to deepthroat S and I'm happy I can do it for him, even though I cannot keep it up for long. I trained myself to do it. The first time I swore I'd never try it again, then I got into the habit of trying to go really far once during every blowjob. I couldn't do it more than once at the beginning because I'd start gagging like crazy, but over time, I got used to it and now I can do it for several seconds at a time. I'm still working at it though.

And it feels to me very much like TK was describing, at least it did at the beginning, because the gag reflex kicks in so brutally.

 

[S-Des]

And it feels to me very much like TK was describing, at least it did at the beginning, because the gag reflex kicks in so brutally.

I have an exceptionally bad gag reflex, so I guess it's a good thing that I don't lean that way. It also gives me a lot of empathy for my partner, so although it does feel really good, I never expect it from anyone (not even as a goal). It's weird with the women who've been able to do it for me because it was so easy for them. It has to be more than just the gag reflex (actual physical size of the throat, etc...), because they all did it so smoothly (one did it while I was driving, then stayed down for a lot longer than I would have thought possible, continuing to do things with her tongue, lips, & throat while remaining in that position). With the others, whether they made it 3/4 or even less, it was obvious that it wouldn't happen...ever. I've only been with a couple that I thought might be able to make it if they wanted to keep working at it, but even with them it seemed like it would be very difficult and something they wouldn't be able to keep up with for long.

 

[Stella_Omega]

I know that I was able to do it back in my illegal years and that at some point my gag reflex made it too uncomfortable for me. Until that time though, hitting the back of my throat triggered a sucking reflex that I totally loved-- And really, I now understand why I kept sucking my thumb until my middle teens.

As far as emotional responses, I was very into being able to control my partner and I loved teasing the hell of of a guy and then-- just swallowing. For my pleasure, the guy needed to either be on the small side, which made the physical sensation feel best for me, or else very vocally appreciative.

The pleasure was not an orgasmic pleasure, but it seriously felt good, and since it happened during sex, definitely contributed to my orgasms

I remember how shocked I was the first time I gagged badly.

 

[SlickTony]

For my pleasure, the guy needed to either be on the small side, which made the physical sensation feel best for me, or else very vocally appreciative.

Yes. One of my pleasantest memories of sucking a man off was with a man who, while he wasn't all that small, was less well endowed than either of my husbands (this was between); moreover, no one had ever done that to him before. He came from a very conservative culture which, theoretically, disapproved of this sort of thing, but it blew his mind.

 

[voluptuary_manque]

You ladies are all making me very jealous. Hot Mama has a very vigorous gag reflex, poor thing. Great tongue, though . . .

 

[impressive]

I think, Rob, that in your situation, I might do the research myself. Seriously. You could use a kielbasa or something. Just make sure it's long enough. Then try blowing it. You know how it's done, right?

Now, lean your head back and try to relax your throat. Slide it a bit further. What? You're gagging? No shit. Keep working on it. Oh, I know it's hard to breathe, but you get used to it. You have to time your breaths with the thrusts.

Still gagging? Tears rolling down your face because of it? Sorry. Consciously suppress your gag reflex. Relax your throat muscles and let the sausage slide in. Then out.

Sure it's easier when you're controlling it yourself, when you don't have some guy holding your head and forcing his dick down your throat. But, hey, you know, sometimes it's sink or swim.

Well said.

 

[mansome]

I've been told by more than one woman how easy it is to deep throat me and how accommodating I am.....

I guess being hung like a frightened turtle does have its perks...

 

[tickledkitty]

Well said.

Thanks

 

[Rob_mDear]

Thanks so far, but more...

All of this is good so far, but it misses a lot of details, and things that I can't get by trying it with a cucumber or something such myself.

What do you feel? Is it hot? Cold? Smooth? Do you feel it stiffen before he comes? Can you move your tongue or lips when it is all the way in? How long can you hold it? Are you conscious of its shape? Bend? Stiffness? How does it feel on the way out versus in?

Emotionally (and again, being a guy, I can't begin to predict this), how does it feel? Does it require complete trust in your partner to attempt? Does it have the same feeling of being "taken" that fucking seems to often have for women? Is there a feeling of power over the guy? Satisfaction? Does it make you feel like more of a lover... or more wanton... or more "successful?"

FYI, at least one person PM'd me, because she felt more comfortable discussing it in private. I think that was a good idea, for anyone else that hesitates to post what they think on the board. And I got loads of info, but I don't want to stop with one point of view. If I've learned anything, it's that I've learned nothing until I've learned everything. Which is to say, every question has a hundred answers, all of them true.

Come on... here's a sensitive, caring kinda guy that really wants to understand women... so he can write about them properly.

More details!

 

[Stella_Omega]

I've been told by more than one woman how easy it is to deep throat me and how accommodating I am.....

I guess being hung like a frightened turtle does have its perks...

I could introduce you to more than one woman who would appreciate your size...

 

[impressive]

All of this is good so far, but it misses a lot of details, and things that I can't get by trying it with a cucumber or something such myself.

What do you feel? Is it hot? Cold? Smooth? Do you feel it stiffen before he comes? Can you move your tongue or lips when it is all the way in? How long can you hold it? Are you conscious of its shape? Bend? Stiffness? How does it feel on the way out versus in?

Emotionally (and again, being a guy, I can't begin to predict this), how does it feel? Does it require complete trust in your partner to attempt? Does it have the same feeling of being "taken" that fucking seems to often have for women? Is there a feeling of power over the guy? Satisfaction? Does it make you feel like more of a lover... or more wanton... or more "successful?"

FYI, at least one person PM'd me, because she felt more comfortable discussing it in private. I think that was a good idea, for anyone else that hesitates to post what they think on the board. And I got loads of info, but I don't want to stop with one point of view. If I've learned anything, it's that I've learned nothing until I've learned everything. Which is to say, every question has a hundred answers, all of them true.

Come on... here's a sensitive, caring kinda guy that really wants to understand women... so he can write about them properly.

More details!

Maybe we could just write it FOR you.

On second thought, I already have. In September, I'll have a story called "Down on the Beach" in this book. Or, if you don't wanna wait that long, check out the 4th sex scene in the lead story in this book. And, there's a damned fine face fucking in this novella, too.

Or, you could experience it yourself -- as TK suggested.

 

[mansome]

Maybe we could just write it FOR you.

On second thought, I already have. In September, I'll have a story called "Down on the Beach" in this book. Or, if you don't wanna wait that long, check out the 4th sex scene in the lead story in this book. And, there's a damned fine face fucking in this novella, too.

Or, you could experience it yourself -- as TK suggested.

you are so helpful.....


watch out for plagiarism

 

[damppanties]

All of this is good so far, but it misses a lot of details, and things that I can't get by trying it with a cucumber or something such myself.

What do you feel? Is it hot? Cold? Smooth? Do you feel it stiffen before he comes? Can you move your tongue or lips when it is all the way in? How long can you hold it? Are you conscious of its shape? Bend? Stiffness? How does it feel on the way out versus in?

Emotionally (and again, being a guy, I can't begin to predict this), how does it feel? Does it require complete trust in your partner to attempt? Does it have the same feeling of being "taken" that fucking seems to often have for women? Is there a feeling of power over the guy? Satisfaction? Does it make you feel like more of a lover... or more wanton... or more "successful?"

FYI, at least one person PM'd me, because she felt more comfortable discussing it in private. I think that was a good idea, for anyone else that hesitates to post what they think on the board. And I got loads of info, but I don't want to stop with one point of view. If I've learned anything, it's that I've learned nothing until I've learned everything. Which is to say, every question has a hundred answers, all of them true.

Come on... here's a sensitive, caring kinda guy that really wants to understand women... so he can write about them properly.

More details!

I don't doubt your sensitivity, caring nature and guyness, but really, this is going farther than story research, don't you think? Do you ask murders how it was to murder before writing about it? How did it feel sinking the knife in, how much the give was, how did it feel when the blood ran over your hands, how cold was it, how warm.... etc. Seriously. You've got enough information here for the story. Write it.

 

[john-the-author]

You ladies are all making me very jealous. Hot Mama has a very vigorous gag reflex, poor thing. Great tongue, though . . .

I was deeply surprised the first time the Babe went deep on me. We hadn't seen each other for a couple months and I don't know if she'd been practicing on something or what. All I know is that all of a sudden, she had her lips pressing up to my pubic hair. Mmmmmmmmmmyyyyyy!!!! What a welcome home that was!

 

[fieryjen]

I don't doubt your sensitivity, caring nature and guyness, but really, this is going farther than story research, don't you think? Do you ask murders how it was to murder before writing about it? How did it feel sinking the knife in, how much the give was, how did it feel when the blood ran over your hands, how cold was it, how warm.... etc. Seriously. You've got enough information here for the story. Write it.

I gotta agree here. Authors write about stuff they haven't personally experienced all the time. If you're really so dedicated to getting it right, TK's suggestion to try it yourself it exactly what you should take. Yet you don't even seem to have seriously considered it, which makes me doubt your motives as little bit. No offense, but DP is right, telling you to go write your story already. Not every woman feels exactly the same sensations, and the one you write about might just feel things the way you imagine them.

 

[Stella_Omega]

I was deeply surprised the first time the Babe went deep on me. We hadn't seen each other for a couple months and I don't know if she'd been practicing on something or what. All I know is that all of a sudden, she had her lips pressing up to my pubic hair. Mmmmmmmmmmyyyyyy!!!! What a welcome home that was!

Etiquette suggests that you groan, gasp, and scream during the event-- and maybe offer her heart's desire afterwards.