Beginner BDSM Roleplaying Question (ideas?)

[curiousboy14]

Hi all!

I (a male) have been intimate with a woman for a little bit now. Recently, the past 2 times we had sex, it drifted very quickly into roleplaying a master/slave relationship. I would be fucking her and she would tell me she wants to be my slave, etc. etc. I would tell her to do things I felt she'd be comfortable with, and I think we both really enjoy this role-play dynamic.

What I am looking for is advice on how to roleplay, how to be a better master. Again, at this point it is mostly dirty talk during sex with a little bit of me telling her what to do, but I think it could be taken a little further with me being her master in bed. I'm trying to be creative and think of as many ways as possible to both pleasure and torture her (simultaneously!), but, alas, I cannot always come up with ideas.

Do any of you have ideas/suggestions for a brand-new master to increase the fun during sex during our roleplaying? What are some actual things I could do to drive her more wild? in terms of physical things, but also in terms of mental games... To clarify, we are not looking at all to get into the bdsm "lifestyle" if you will, only to roleplay as much as possible this master/slave relationship during intimate moments.

Thanks so much and I eagerly await to hear from some of you! I am keeping my head, heart, and mind as open as possible in trying to explore all of this.

 

[Yang4yin]

Again, at this point it is mostly dirty talk during sex with a little bit of me telling her what to do, but I think it could be taken a little further with me being her master in bed.

Make her beg for whatever kind of sex she wants (or whatever you want), and don't give in quickly. The begging will allow her inner slut to surface, and when it does, you can "throw it back into her face." For instance, if she's begging you to put your cock in her ass, you can respond with, "You're just a dirty, horny slut, aren't you?" (Or worse, if you feel up to it.)

Does that give you any ideas?

 

[Evil_Geoff]

You are being the Master, what turns you on? Having her suck you off? Forcing her to do anal? Have her get another girl and have them both do you? Or watching her and another girl go down on each other? Or having some other guy fuck her brains out because she is _your_ slave and you are being a genial host?

Have her fetch your snack and drink wearing nothing. Make her wear a collar and leash, then parade her in front of your roommates. Make her eat her meal from your plate after you've eaten your fill, or feed her from a stainless steel pet dish on the floor without using any utensils.

Do her in the shower. Tell her she can't cum. And punish her if she does.

Spank her, paddle her, tie her up. Cane her. Call her names.

Dude, it's _your_ fantasy to run. You ought to know what fantasies make you hot, hard and horney. If you are playing Master, make it happen. Just make sure you know the line between the fantasy and the reality. If you are role playing you need to make bloody sure you have her consent for anything that you two are doing.

Hope that helps,

 

[kinkyknickers]

Curious, I won't give you any pointers myself. I'm a switch/masochist in a poly relationship with a devoted Sub and Master, it's probably a little complicated for me to put two cents worth in. My dynamic is probably a little left of starter BDSM.

Check out the "Dom lessons in here, no subbies allowed" thread in BDSM Cafe (I bumped it, shouldn't be too far down the list).

Wade through the random conversation and you could find some ideas.

Just don't pull anything too nutty until you both are comfortable with your roles.

KK

 

[BiaTcHiNFiRe]

To OP....

*drool*

They gave you get very good ideas!!! lol

Dom's... sigh

 

[BiaTcHiNFiRe]

Curious, I won't give you any pointers myself. I'm a switch/masochist in a poly relationship with a devoted Sub and Master, it's probably a little complicated for me to put two cents worth in. My dynamic is probably a little left of starter BDSM.

Check out the "Dom lessons in here, no subbies allowed" thread in BDSM Cafe (I bumped it, shouldn't be too far down the list).

Wade through the random conversation and you could find some ideas.

Just don't pull anything too nutty until you both are comfortable with your roles.

KK

lols about the thread, its full of brats. Just sayin.

Do what Geoff and Yang told you and your sub will fukin love ya!! lol

 

[kinkyknickers]

lols about the thread, its full of brats. Just sayin.

Do what Geoff and Yang told you and your sub will fukin love ya!! lol

I figured that, that's why I said wade through it.

Having said that, I haven't really ever spent time on that thread. I don't need bloody lessons! Hehe.

 

[SirLeo]

I agree with Yang. My advice is to go slow as you expand your boundaries until you both have a better understanding and can communicate better about how and what you feel. Once you have achieved a level of genuine and honest trust and commitment, then go for EG's approach. Have fun!

 

[cati]

curiousboy14
I've only been crossdressing for about 4 months now, and have only been out in public once. But a very consistent and strong desire is to get a belly button ring. Something simple but dangly. I really feel it adds a LOT to the femme feeling.

I'm sitting here job searching and have lip gloss on, thinking about a belly ring. I'm so hard, can't concentrate...

Hmm sounds like you have alot on your plate already.

 

[TerragonSix]

It seems that to me that in the beginning, you should start out easy.

Try some soft restraints, see how she likes them. If she gets really turned on, you know you've found something. Sense deprivation (such as blindfolding) might drastically increase her sense of pleasure. Mix it up, don't do quite the same thing everytime.

To me, start out easy, as you find out more and more and how dirty she is, increase the kink. For some people can't go from zero to Kink instantaneously.

Just test your boundaries slowly, some people have different limits than others.

Hope this helps.