I've been wearing it around my neck like a crop circle

[WickedEve]

I wear my bdsm emblem around my neck everywhere I go and I've been wearing it for the past five or six years. I live in a small, hick town and I'm pretty darn sure that no one has a clue what it is. The only recognizable and acceptable symbol that counts around here is a pair of deer antlers around your neck. My neighbor ran over a deer and after the police filled out the accident report she asked to take it home and eat it. She said it was young and tasty.

Anyway, no one has ever commented on my pendant, until today. My dom and I were standing in line, getting tickets to a haunted house. It was either that or sit on the front porch and swat gnats. The tickets are sold inside this gift shop, where I happen to spot a deer cigarette lighter. I think it's wonderfully tacky and I rush over to show it to my man. The woman behind him comments on how funny it is to see flames shooting out of its mouth. The other lady she's with looks at me and says, "I love your necklace." Well, I'm speechless! My tongue goes numb as I start to mumble and basically tell her that it's not what she thinks it is. I assume she thinks it's a yin yang symbol or something. But she insists that she really does know what it is. I'm so excited that I flash her my titty bdsm tattoo and my dom points to his bdsm shirt. lol Fortunately, she's just as excited and giddy as I am. Turns out that she's never bumped into another BDSMer either.

After a quick conversation (with me blurting out, "I even write bdsm poetry!") we exchange email addresses. Oh, she has a bdsm bumpersticker. She agreed with me that we can display all the symbols we want and few people will ever have any idea about the meaning -- at least in the area we live in.

Anyway, I look forward to emailing her and finding out about her experiences.

 

[dakotagirl]

so cool!!! it is always nice to meet like minded people.

 

[WriterDom]

I had a job where I was getting off at 4am and the deer were very active then. Never hit one but came close a few times.

Here I think I could walk downtown with a flogger and no one would know what it was.

 

[WickedEve]

I had a job where I was getting off at 4am and the deer were very active then. Never hit one but came close a few times.

Here I think I could walk downtown with a flogger and no one would know what it was.

I know you're in a small town, WD. I guess that's an advantage we have, until it's time to find people interested in the same things.
Hey, do you have any idea why my thread was moved to this forum? Is this not a bdsm talk kind of thread and more of a chatty cafe thread?
Um, what goes on in the bdsm cafe anyway?

 

[WriterDom]

Threads are moved at the whim of the Goddess and God. There are no hard and fast rules as to what goes where. Don't let it bother you.

The mods at personals started moving personals in here. Can't figure that one out.

If I had a hot poetic woman like you I'd be perfectly happy in a small town. Even though you are taller. There would be a lot of knee time I guess.

 

[WickedEve]

Threads are moved at the whim of the Goddess and God. There are no hard and fast rules as to what goes where. Don't let it bother you.

The mods at personals started moving personals in here. Can't figure that one out.

If I had a hot poetic woman like you I'd be perfectly happy in a small town. Even though you are taller. There would be a lot of knee time I guess.

Oh, it's fine being moved here. It seems friendlier.
When you find the right person, I guess it doesn't matter where you live. We both know how difficult it is to find people where we are.
Hey, at 5'10 I'm use to it and I don't worry about being the tall one in the relationship. I'm 2 inches taller than my boyfriend and... oh, now I know why he wants me on my knees so much. lol

 

[snowbyte]

I gave my pyl one of those necklaces a month or two ago. No comments yet. Whenever any vanilla asks about it, she can always say it's a Celtic symbol or something.

 

[Dreamliner]

There are so many pieces of jewelry that "look" normal unless you understand what they are for or symbolise and why the person is wearing them.

I have purchased for pervious partners quiet exquisite jewelry they have worn to functions; choker necklaces, wrist ornaments. At one time I purchased a partner solid wrist jewlery that also incorporated a padlock, this with a similar piece that she wore around her neck.

Like you, there wss only ever one person who we meet at a function that knew and understaood what it symbolised; while chatting in a group this other woman silently signaled to my partner and indicated the pieces with a wink. They bpth slipped out to the ladies later and had a chat.

It is quite cool walking around in public.

 

[caela]

Hehehe...I have an emblem necklace that I wear as well. Most people never even notice it but every now and then someone is like, "Oh that's so interesting what is it???" Unless they give some indication that they know what it is I just tell them it's a triskele and leave it there. When I get the whole, "I love your necklace!" that typically comes from someone who knows what it is, then conversations can get interesting...unfortunately I got that one day when I was working in a grocery store...in the middle of the friday dinner rush!!!

 

[MasterSnatch]

Sounds very much like a place I live in, small place, people go fishing, hunting, all that fun stuff on in a Canadian kind of way so we probably got a whole lot less guns than you do there. To run into another BDSMer here would blow my mind.

 

[WickedEve]

Sounds very much like a place I live in, small place, people go fishing, hunting, all that fun stuff on in a Canadian kind of way so we probably got a whole lot less guns than you do there. To run into another BDSMer here would blow my mind.

I see I'm not alone. It actually did blow my mind in a way -- after so many years. So I'll keep wearing it and maybe find another person... in about 5 more years. lol

 

[WickedEve]

Hehehe...I have an emblem necklace that I wear as well. Most people never even notice it but every now and then someone is like, "Oh that's so interesting what is it???" Unless they give some indication that they know what it is I just tell them it's a triskele and leave it there. When I get the whole, "I love your necklace!" that typically comes from someone who knows what it is, then conversations can get interesting...unfortunately I got that one day when I was working in a grocery store...in the middle of the friday dinner rush!!!

People who see me on a regular basis have noticed the necklace in the past and asked about it. They don't know about my lifestyle and I don't discuss it, so I just say it's a necklace and leave it at that.
When I got my bdsm emblem tattoo, I told the people who owned the place what kind of design I wanted. The guy went online, trying to look up "bdm" and my dom and I tried to delicately explain it to him and his wife. He still never understood but his wife managed to do a good job on the tattoo. In the middle of doing the tat, she asked more about bdsm and seemed very concerned about it. So I've learned to say as little as possible with most people.

 

[WickedEve]

I have purchased for pervious partners quiet exquisite jewelry they have worn to functions; choker necklaces, wrist ornaments. At one time I purchased a partner solid wrist jewlery that also incorporated a padlock, this with a similar piece that she wore around her neck.

Those pieces sound nice and like what I've been looking for. Did you get them online?

 

[WickedEve]

I gave my pyl one of those necklaces a month or two ago. No comments yet. Whenever any vanilla asks about it, she can always say it's a Celtic symbol or something.

I think that's a good way to handle it.

 

[graceanne]

I wear my bdsm emblem around my neck everywhere I go and I've been wearing it for the past five or six years. I live in a small, hick town and I'm pretty darn sure that no one has a clue what it is. The only recognizable and acceptable symbol that counts around here is a pair of deer antlers around your neck. My neighbor ran over a deer and after the police filled out the accident report she asked to take it home and eat it. She said it was young and tasty.

Anyway, no one has ever commented on my pendant, until today. My dom and I were standing in line, getting tickets to a haunted house. It was either that or sit on the front porch and swat gnats. The tickets are sold inside this gift shop, where I happen to spot a deer cigarette lighter. I think it's wonderfully tacky and I rush over to show it to my man. The woman behind him comments on how funny it is to see flames shooting out of its mouth. The other lady she's with looks at me and says, "I love your necklace." Well, I'm speechless! My tongue goes numb as I start to mumble and basically tell her that it's not what she thinks it is. I assume she thinks it's a yin yang symbol or something. But she insists that she really does know what it is. I'm so excited that I flash her my titty bdsm tattoo and my dom points to his bdsm shirt. lol Fortunately, she's just as excited and giddy as I am. Turns out that she's never bumped into another BDSMer either.

After a quick conversation (with me blurting out, "I even write bdsm poetry!") we exchange email addresses. Oh, she has a bdsm bumpersticker. She agreed with me that we can display all the symbols we want and few people will ever have any idea about the meaning -- at least in the area we live in.

Anyway, I look forward to emailing her and finding out about her experiences.

LOL What fun!

 

[OzoneRed]

I have purchased for pervious partners ...

* wonders if this is a misspelling *

 

[WriterDom]

http://www.puretnt.com/pendants.html

Interesting stull there. Not sure that a noose would go over here in Georgia. People might get the wrong idea.

 

[Homburg]

MIS wear heart-shaped padlock earrings. They are tiny and unobstrusive. She's gotten comments on how pretty they are, but I don't think anyone has made any sort of BDSM nod about them.

 

[WickedEve]

http://www.puretnt.com/pendants.html

Interesting stull there. Not sure that a noose would go over here in Georgia. People might get the wrong idea.

Oh, that was the name of the place. I had forgotten. Anyway, it's where I got my first pendant back 4 or 5 years ago: http://www.puretnt.com/images/BDSMPendant.jpg
I see some other things I'd like to have.

 

[DVS]

Oh, it's fine being moved here. It seems friendlier. ...

I would consider this forum somewhat friendlier in a way that those who frequent here are more likely to be social. I think your thread topic is a social topic and not so much a BDSM related question and answer type of thing.

Not that the BDSM Talk forum isn't friendly or social, but it tends to be geared to the more serious side, where someone is needing answers to something that might be troubling them. So, while it's maybe not crisis mode over there, it is more of a learning center, I guess, for lack of a better name.

Being a social person myself, I think your thread is where it should be.

I grew up in a small town. Really, I wonder if anyone would have known what the term BDSM meant, let alone someone's jewelery. I lived there when there were about 2,000 people.

But, I've moved away from there, so maybe they have wised up, in the last 30 years. There's still only about 6,000 there now. Something tells me...no.

 

[Evil_Geoff]

I'm flagging my BDSM symbol anytime I am shirtless or sleeveless... Arigus, my dragon tattoo, is holding a BDSM symbol in his hands...

I keep hoping I'll meet some one who knows.

 

[Dreamliner]

Those pieces sound nice and like what I've been looking for. Did you get them online?

No, I got them from a jeweler here in NZ. He would make his own, all types for the artistic pleasure.

 

[Dreamliner]

* wonders if this is a misspelling *

it was, but does seem to fit.