Have/would you get a permanent marking symbolising commitment to your SO?

[VelvetDarkness]

Just curious as to how common it is among kinky litsters.

 

[iluvyou3638]

Just curious as to how common it is among kinky litsters.

i would, but i haven't.

p.s. you should make a poll!

 

[EmpressFi]

I havent..but would. I have a tat planned to symbolize my submission or submissiveness.. but if he picked something out, I would wear it

 

[VelvetDarkness]

i would, but i haven't.

p.s. you should make a poll!

Alright already! I was working on it.

 

[Chicklet]

I would, if I felt that my partner would give me a life-long commitment. I don't want to be stuck with a symbol of a relationship that I'm not sure will last.

I have, however, taken advice of partners strongly into consideration when doing modifications I'd already decided I wanted to do, or let one of them push me one way or another from things I wasn't sure I wanted to do.

 

[iluvyou3638]

pyl PYL?

 

[VelvetDarkness]

pyl PYL?

Pick your label.

pyl = sub/slave/masochist/bottom

PYL = dom/master/sadist/top

 

[iluvyou3638]

Pick your label.

pyl = sub/slave/masochist/bottom

PYL = dom/master/sadist/top

i need to brush up on the vernacular

thanks.

 

[VelvetDarkness]

i need to brush up on the vernacular

thanks.

I think it's just a Lit term but I could be wrong. Saves tripping over syntax or getting into debates about what a person defines their label as.

 

[caela]

I'm not in a relationship at the moment and from my perspective right now I would have to say that it's unlikely. I like the idea of a relationship lasting forever but am sort of jaded on it at the same time and don't really expect one to so getting a permanent marking is something I wouldn't really consider to highly at this point in my life.

Of course this answer could change if/when I meet the right person lol.

 

[humbledoll]

At the moment, I don't have any permanent marks on my body that indicate that I belong to him but I will be tattooed after the summer. I'm very excited about it!

 

[00Syd]

Never. What if things turn sour and you split?

If someone wanted me to get a tattoo or something to show commitment... My first thought would probably be, "what, my word isn't good enough for you?"

But then, I never want to get a tattoo or anything like that anyway. Maybe if I already liked the idea of body mod I'd be more open to the idea, but I just hate the idea of putting something on my body permanently, especially something based on feelings that might change.

Of course you should never say 'never', right? My feelings on that matter could change.

But as of right now: Never never never never never never never never

And besides, if I got a tattoo I wouldn't be able to be buried in a Jewish Cemetery. Bummer.

 

[YourCaptor]

Yup, would already have one if quality tattoos where not so expensive.

I'm not really bothered by, "what if we break up", I am fairly certain that will happen one day anyway. Nothing lasts forever, but that doesn't destroy the incredible time you had together.

 

[VelvetDarkness]

And besides, if I got a tattoo I wouldn't be able to be buried in a Jewish Cemetery. Bummer.

Really? Why is that?

 

[00Syd]

Really? Why is that?

*shrug* fuck if I know. Its something about not doing right by god or something... I don't really know. I'm not religious enough to know the details. All I know is that I'd like to be buried with my family, and if I got a tattoo that wouldn't be an option.

 

[VelvetDarkness]

*shrug* fuck if I know. Its something about not doing right by god or something... I don't really know. I'm not religious enough to know the details. All I know is that I'd like to be buried with my family, and if I got a tattoo that wouldn't be an option.

I know Jehovah's Witnesses don't have tattoos but that's to do with the 'no blood' thing I think, contaminating it or something.

That would be a big decision for you though, to decide to get one and not be buried with family.

Maybe you could get branded instead?

 

[00Syd]

I know Jehovah's Witnesses don't have tattoos but that's to do with the 'no blood' thing I think, contaminating it or something.

That would be a big decision for you though, to decide to get one and not be buried with family.

Maybe you could get branded instead?

I don't want to get a tattoo or be branded, my main issue is with the permanence. Things that permanent give me the willies.

 

[callinectes]

No tats, brands, cuttings, piercings etc. for me. I do not like them and neither does Daddy. We're boring.

 

[VelvetDarkness]

We're boring.

Ooh, now that is kinky.

 

[satindesire]

"Undecided or I'm awkward/special and I need my own category."

LMAO!!!

 

[VelvetDarkness]

"Undecided or I'm awkward/special and I need my own category."

LMAO!!!

Well there's always at least one. Can't have them feeling excluded.

 

[Homburg]

I can understand about permanent marks and impermanent relationships. Still, if a relationship is powerful and a significant part of your life, certain permanent marks make sense. Whether you are with that person or not, they are/were a significant part of your existence, and a mark to remember that would be worthwhile. It is less a matter of lifelong commitment at that point, and more a matter of lifelong trust. You accept that this person may not always be in your life (hell, they might get hit by a bus), but you trust that this person will not destroy your relationship and poison the memories you have. In that sense, the mark becomes a reminder of halcyon days.

It is a gamble, but any sort of relationship, or body modification, is a gamble. Personally, I would not mind at all ink signifying my relationship. No, I would not have her name inked into me, but a symbol of some sort would not bother me. I would not be wearing "her mark", I would be marking myself to signify how important this person is to me.

 

[Homburg]

I know Jehovah's Witnesses don't have tattoos but that's to do with the 'no blood' thing I think, contaminating it or something.

That would be a big decision for you though, to decide to get one and not be buried with family.

Maybe you could get branded instead?

The way it has been explained to me, tattoos, brands, decorative, scars, etc are all the same vis a vis burial in a Jewish cemetary. That said, I've heard rumour of new thought on the matter. *shrug* All I know is that it is something MIS cannot do for the same reason Syd expressed.

 

[Desdemona]

no

Neither of us like tats, piercings etc. Besides, it looks weird on old people. I've seen lots and lots of naked old people with tats and trust me, it looks weird. I plan on getting really old and I'm gonna be funny looking enough without modifying myself .

 

[Homburg]

Neither of us like tats, piercings etc. Besides, it looks weird on old people. I've seen lots and lots of naked old people with tats and trust me, it looks weird. I plan on getting really old and I'm gonna be funny looking enough without modifying myself .

Hey, just like in the "Pass around girl" thread, and 80yr old lady with "Fuck my whore pussy" on her side would be someone that I considered a badass. If you make it to 80 with a tramp-stamp that says "Bob's fucktoy" on it, you're doing something right in my opinion