abisexualguy
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I just meet this guy and am gonna get fucked by him some time soon. What should I do to prepare for this and how should I procede.
PS what should I expect?
PS what should I expect?
How should I prepare myself for anal sex?
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iluvyou3638
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uuuuuh, i dunno how to prepare. buy a dildo/butt plug? but if you want to enjoy it, just remember to relax and take it slow. 
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If it's your first time...expect PAIN
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Have yourself a good BM, maybe even an enema if you're up to it.
Shower, possibly shave or wax if you want to be smooth and hairless.
A little cologne never hurt.
Practice with an anal plug or with several fingers every day until your sphincter is used to the sensations of being stretched.
On D day, use LOTS of lube, condom(s) and patience. Say stop if it hurts too bad. Relax, communicate and enjoy yourself.
Shower, possibly shave or wax if you want to be smooth and hairless.
A little cologne never hurt.
Practice with an anal plug or with several fingers every day until your sphincter is used to the sensations of being stretched.
On D day, use LOTS of lube, condom(s) and patience. Say stop if it hurts too bad. Relax, communicate and enjoy yourself.
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First, i'd suggest reading through the Anal section of The Blank Manual sticky (link) because that'll likely answer many of your questions on preparation and technique.
Some people do an enema, but a good shower after you've had a bowel movement earlier in the day is usually sufficient preparation hygiene-wise.
DO use condoms. Not only is it ridiculously stupid not to (anal sex is very high risk STD/STI-wise since the tissue is very thin, easily torn and bugs can enter easily!), they're fantastic because they make for easy clean-up (so if there are a couple of yucky spots on there, it's no biggie) and allow for things like safe ass-to-mouth action. Absolutely refuse to have sex w/o a condom.
Also consider lube and preparation. You must use silicone or water-based lube with latex condoms. Stay away from common lubes that get sticky/dry out fast, like KY Jelly and Astroglide. We like silicone lube, but ID and Wet make pretty good water-based lubes as well (and they're available in a lot of drug stores and supermarkets). I'd stay away from any of the "sensation" lubes (heating, tingling, numbing, etc.) because they can be irritating/painful and that ruins the mood quickly. Under NO circumstances should you use a numbing product like Anal-eze or one of the "last longer" creams. Your body needs to be able to feel pain to tell you when you're in danger, and if you need a numbing product, you're not doing it right.
It's a good idea to warm up with fingers and/or toys, so you might want to consider bringing some of your toys, if you have any. If you have a vibe, you might even bring that to stimulate your cock during anal (having a pleasurable distraction can help with relaxation immensely).
You might find it best to start on your left side or face-to-face, rather than having him behind you. Doggy is great for controlling the speed and depth, though (he can stay still while you move back to meet him).
Finally, please, please, please use common sense by meeting this guy in public first, trusting your gut feelings and doing it in a safe place (NOT in public; perhaps somewhere like a hotel room). Men can, and do, get raped, beat up, robbed and killed by other men. Don't let your excitement impede your common sense on this...it's so not worth it!
Some people do an enema, but a good shower after you've had a bowel movement earlier in the day is usually sufficient preparation hygiene-wise.
DO use condoms. Not only is it ridiculously stupid not to (anal sex is very high risk STD/STI-wise since the tissue is very thin, easily torn and bugs can enter easily!), they're fantastic because they make for easy clean-up (so if there are a couple of yucky spots on there, it's no biggie) and allow for things like safe ass-to-mouth action. Absolutely refuse to have sex w/o a condom.
Also consider lube and preparation. You must use silicone or water-based lube with latex condoms. Stay away from common lubes that get sticky/dry out fast, like KY Jelly and Astroglide. We like silicone lube, but ID and Wet make pretty good water-based lubes as well (and they're available in a lot of drug stores and supermarkets). I'd stay away from any of the "sensation" lubes (heating, tingling, numbing, etc.) because they can be irritating/painful and that ruins the mood quickly. Under NO circumstances should you use a numbing product like Anal-eze or one of the "last longer" creams. Your body needs to be able to feel pain to tell you when you're in danger, and if you need a numbing product, you're not doing it right.
It's a good idea to warm up with fingers and/or toys, so you might want to consider bringing some of your toys, if you have any. If you have a vibe, you might even bring that to stimulate your cock during anal (having a pleasurable distraction can help with relaxation immensely).
You might find it best to start on your left side or face-to-face, rather than having him behind you. Doggy is great for controlling the speed and depth, though (he can stay still while you move back to meet him).
Finally, please, please, please use common sense by meeting this guy in public first, trusting your gut feelings and doing it in a safe place (NOT in public; perhaps somewhere like a hotel room). Men can, and do, get raped, beat up, robbed and killed by other men. Don't let your excitement impede your common sense on this...it's so not worth it!
iluvyou3638
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i tell this to people all the time. if it hurts, you're doing something WRONG.
and yeah, and enema's not a a bad idea to avoid erm....nasty complications.
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Not tried it there, but I'd have thought it would sting like hell!
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if this is your first experience with anal, you should have a fair idea of whether you'll like it or not b/c you presumably have been using fingers and/or toys, no?
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I used fingers a few times - but I haven't done it in a while.
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Well, I like "loosening up" with a couple of progressive toys. My favorites are silicone toys from Tantus. I start with what they call the "Ripple small", with lots of lube. Starting with just the smallest part, gently work it in and out. As you relax, and the lube gets all over, each successive larger part will slip in. Finally, you'll have the whole thing in. Enjoy it, and relax. When you're fully comfortable, switch to the "Ripple large". The small part of it is about the same size as the large part of the small one. Again, gently work it in one section at a time. Once you have relaxed enough to take it all in, you should be ready for any normal sized dildo or cock.
As to what to expect? Perhaps the most intimate moment of your life!
I definitely think you need to spend some time with a butt plug getting to know how your body reacts to anal sex. I recently purchased one and have learned so much. You may find that things like learning how to loosen yourself up, when to ease up, or even how amazing it feels to orgasm with the plug (and later on...a cock) inside you will be helpful and maybe even fun.
Also, I use this lube called Maximus and it is PHENOMENAL.
While it is a water based lube, it has incredible "staying" power...have never had it to dry up yet. I got it at a novelty store when I got the plug and I highly recommend it. 
Best of luck to you.
Also, I use this lube called Maximus and it is PHENOMENAL.
While it is a water based lube, it has incredible "staying" power...have never had it to dry up yet. I got it at a novelty store when I got the plug and I highly recommend it. Best of luck to you.
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Well, I've always found ass licking helps loosening up, too.
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infinity706
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Well, I looked it up and I got the toy you're talking about confused with my "large" labeled ripple ass plug. The one I'm talking about is 2.5 inches thick at the last ripple. It's a lot bigger than the one you mentioned.
bhg08054
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Ahh, makes sense now. I didn't think the one I have was all that big!
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I guess if someone can use my plug, though, taking any cock in the world should be no problem, though, so it would be great preparation for getting your ass fucked.
http://img162.imagevenue.com/loc730/th_86795_708_123_730lo.jpg
Here's what I mean. It's quite a large plug.
http://img162.imagevenue.com/loc730/th_86795_708_123_730lo.jpg
Here's what I mean. It's quite a large plug.
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I'm guessing abisexualGUY is totally, completely clitless.
At least I took this thread to be about male-male anal. A cock is kinda like a big clit, though, and playing with that works just fine, in our experience.
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Well, biologically, a cock is a big clit. It's just the massive difference in size would make it feel a lot different. Afterall, we're talking about the same number of nerves in either a hotdog or a pinto bean.
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Being that this is your first time, before you try the plug, you might get some anal beads. They are much smaller than most plugs, easier to insert and if you masturbate with them in...and wait til you're ready to cum, then pull them out, you'll find the added stimulation to that part of your body will make for wonderul orgasms...at least it has for me. It will ease you into the wonderful sensations that are possible there, without the pain and stretching yet.
Also, when you do first try anal sex, it will hurt for a bit, no lie. But, you eventually begin to accomodate having a cock in your ass and you'll know in your first session when you've passed the pain threshold and gone into the pleasure side...it's fantastic.
Most importantly: always, always, always use lots and lots and lots of lube. Do not be afraid to ask for more in the middle of things. You do not lubricate from there and you will need the lube. Saliva will not do and you will hurt like a mofo.
From my experience, the first time for me was amazing. I came four times that day. It took a long time, maybe 15 minutes or more to relax enough to take his cock...and he was not a big man. So be patient, don't try to hurry it. You have sphincters that are tight for a reason...go slow, so slow...and you'll eventually relax and it will feel so good...and you'll wonder why you hadn't done this sooner.
One last comment...I had to go to work after playing...and let me tell you, sitting down was ridiculous! Man-o-man was there a reminder of the naughtiness I'd just put myself through! (it was a good pain that told me I'd been a very, very bad girl that afternoon
Also, when you do first try anal sex, it will hurt for a bit, no lie. But, you eventually begin to accomodate having a cock in your ass and you'll know in your first session when you've passed the pain threshold and gone into the pleasure side...it's fantastic.
Most importantly: always, always, always use lots and lots and lots of lube. Do not be afraid to ask for more in the middle of things. You do not lubricate from there and you will need the lube. Saliva will not do and you will hurt like a mofo.
From my experience, the first time for me was amazing. I came four times that day. It took a long time, maybe 15 minutes or more to relax enough to take his cock...and he was not a big man. So be patient, don't try to hurry it. You have sphincters that are tight for a reason...go slow, so slow...and you'll eventually relax and it will feel so good...and you'll wonder why you hadn't done this sooner.
One last comment...I had to go to work after playing...and let me tell you, sitting down was ridiculous! Man-o-man was there a reminder of the naughtiness I'd just put myself through! (it was a good pain that told me I'd been a very, very bad girl that afternoon
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Saliva isn't great at all. I have a silicone lube that's silicone safe that I like. Titanium Erostratus... I found it at my local Classixxx store, but they have a website www.naturalworks.ca (altho at the time of posting the link for the Erostratus wasn't working). It is a bit thin, and it can stain (altho I haven't had much of a problem getting it out of most fabrics, the boy ruined a brand new tshirt while using it one day), so might have to reapply or add some.
While I prefer to do an enema or flush, even then *surprises* can happen.
As someone said... IF IT HURTS, YOU'RE DOING IT WRONG. Stop immediately. Relax, and try again. Sometimes, no matter how well you are prepared, no matter how much you want it, sometimes it just isn't the right time. Largest part is the head, and I highly recommend that once you work it in that you stop all movement for a bit. Sometimes it takes a little bit to get it in, and you can try and work more slowly in then pull back out.
I have worn my plug for a while prior to engaging in anal, and that can help, altho not always. For me there's a fine line between preparation and irritation.
If done right, there's no pain just lots of sensations and yumminess.
While I prefer to do an enema or flush, even then *surprises* can happen.
As someone said... IF IT HURTS, YOU'RE DOING IT WRONG. Stop immediately. Relax, and try again. Sometimes, no matter how well you are prepared, no matter how much you want it, sometimes it just isn't the right time. Largest part is the head, and I highly recommend that once you work it in that you stop all movement for a bit. Sometimes it takes a little bit to get it in, and you can try and work more slowly in then pull back out.
I have worn my plug for a while prior to engaging in anal, and that can help, altho not always. For me there's a fine line between preparation and irritation.
If done right, there's no pain just lots of sensations and yumminess.
Make sure you use lube but only a sex lube because anything besides that will go through a condom.Because I've heard people using baby oil & other stuff just for a lube.enema to clean bowel out. It's painful for a minute or so so try to relax and be gentle in that area.foreplay.ENJOY.
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Yes, there are products that numb (Anal-Eze is one popular brand, as I mentioned earlier), but they should NOT be used because pain is what our bodies use to tell us something's wrong, and whatever we're doing is potentially doing damage.
And it's easy to do damage to the lining of the rectum, since it's only about one cell thick (compared to the vaginal lining, which is something like 8-10 cells thick, more elastic and much harder to tear).
Injuries such as tearing in that area are not good because it's so acidic and bacteria-laden that tears can have a great deal of trouble healing and infection risk is higher. Because the walls are so thin, it's very difficult to repair tears surgically, too. And, once you have a tear, it's not like you can just give that area a rest until it heals; instead, you'll strain it, and likely increase the tear, each time you have a bowel movement.
If anal sex is painful (vs. a bit uncomfortable at first maybe) or you need a numbing product, you're doing it wrong. You need to go back to the beginning and make sure you have plenty of lube, relaxation, arousal and let the receiver control the speed and depth of penetration. Pain is your signal to stop what you're doing and make changes.
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