Women: Bisexual Men

[BiBunny]

No, I'm not looking for one. This is more a question born of idle curiosity and incredible boredom.

I'm bi (obviously). I like bi boys. I don't rule out straight men altogether, but I'm getting to the point where I don't find them interesting at all. Now, I don't expect to be parked in the middle of a man's bedroom while he's sucking another man's cock, but if he wants to involve me in some way, all the better. It's not expected, but it's certainly appreciated if it happens.

I couldn't tell you how many men are amazed when I say I LOVE bi men. They always tell me that most girls are disgusted by their bisexuality, to the point that they usually claim to be straight because of it. Now, before anybody says, "Vanilla people don't like alternative sexualities," most of these guys have been talking about KINKY girls.

Is it because I live in Alabama? (LOL.) Or is it really uncommon for a woman to really like bi men? I know the stereotype is that Dommes tend to like them, but I'm looking for real opinions here instead of stereotypes.

Ok, halfway through this post, I decided I should make it a poll. So vote in my poll and then give me the why or why not if you feel like posting. Thanks!

Also, I know it often "depends on the man," but I'm not asking about personalities here. Do you ever find yourself attracted to bisexual men, or do you ever find yourself being turned off of an otherwise attractive man if you find out he likes other men? Also, if you're inclined toward monogamy, let's leave out the crap about "bisexuals can't be monogamous" please because this is a gross overgeneralization and not necessarily the truth.

 

[caela]

I'd have to say that I'm neutral on the subject. Finding out a guy I'm dating/fucking/playing with/whatever, is bi isn't really going to effect me one way or another. I don't know how I'd feel about watching him have sex with another guy but the fact that he wants to isn't going to turn me off...and watching might not either, don't know, never been in that situation.

 

[DeservingBitch]

I voted neutral because I don't particularly like them, nor dislike them. I do tend to be more attracted to queer people in general, and feel more 'at home' with queer people. I also do tend to find gay/queer dudes more interesting and less obnoxious than straight ones.

But honestly, I don't think I know any guy close enough to me that identifies as bi. Gay, queer, straight: yes. But bi? Nope.

As for how your question relates to my Top-self: I would say I am more interested in a guy that is into gender-bending (which may or may not involve man-on-man action) than a guy who identifies as bi but is not into gender-bending.

ETA: oh. if the question was just "do you find man-on-man hot or gross", I say it can be hot. But I prefer girl-on-girl.

 

[satindesire]

I worked with a bi guy once and found him so irresistibly attractive that working with him was nearly impossible.

Course, it helped that he was fiiiiiiine. Native American, ex-Marine, dark skinned with tattoos, omg pant.

But I digress. I love bi men, or just pansexual people in general! I love the idea that someone loves sex and sexuality SO much that they're not really THAT close minded about what gender they're doing it with.

 

[BiBunny]

I worked with a bi guy once and found him so irresistibly attractive that working with him was nearly impossible.

Course, it helped that he was fiiiiiiine. Native American, ex-Marine, dark skinned with tattoos, omg pant.

But I digress. I love bi men, or just pansexual people in general! I love the idea that someone loves sex and sexuality SO much that they're not really THAT close minded about what gender they're doing it with.

Heh. This is me.

DB and caela, thanks for your comments, too. I'm starting to see a pattern here, one I've seen before. Girls in the South are just stupid about sexuality.

 

[Bi_Kitty]

Count me in for:

I like bi men!

I'm queer in some way (bi/lesbian/TG).

I'm a switch.

 

[tealsphynx]

I worked with a bi guy once and found him so irresistibly attractive that working with him was nearly impossible.

Course, it helped that he was fiiiiiiine. Native American, ex-Marine, dark skinned with tattoos, omg pant.

But I digress. I love bi men, or just pansexual people in general! I love the idea that someone loves sex and sexuality SO much that they're not really THAT close minded about what gender they're doing it with.

I completely agree with the last part of your post. I really like it when people are open about sexuality and sex. I get so fed up with staunchiness about sex turning it into some horrible thing unless you and your husband (who is of opposite gender) do it in the dark with the door locked and making as little noise as possible. I also get irritated with the taboo of talking about it.

I happen to think that male on female, female on female and male on male and any mix of groupings and bendings of roles are HOT!

 

[myinnerslut]

i *LOVE* your last poll option.

hahahaha

 

[pink]

i love bi-men, nothing sexier than to watch a man suck cock or get fucked. i also do not buy into the idea they can't be trusted. i think if you are willing to share in that experience and in their desires, they have no need to cheat.

 

[Netzach]

Guess

Pretty much rule out straight men. It doesn't work for me, they don't *grok* me, I don't get them, blah blah blah. It's like dating straight women or something equally as improbable for me.

Oh, turnoff - if he's queer but really nutty-ass conflicted closet insane self-hating weird about it I'm outta there. Straight guys suddenly look good.

 

[catalina_francisco]

I have never gone out looking for a partner based on whether they were bi or not, but have had more than my fair share of men who were already openly bi, or in the closet bi and enjoyed it or not based more on the person than who their dick rises for. Maybe I have been fortunate, but even the straight men I have been with have not been the stereotypical cock shy males who would rather run a mile than be near a queer or pansexual male...in fact some have been quite open to involving some form of intimacy with another male if the opportunity arose. A couple of them weren't, but as it was not an issue given I did not require them to interact with another male, I could still respect them for being true to who they were and have fun on some level or another. I honestly think it is more about who a person is as a person than who they sleep with....I have known some people who were just plain obnoxious...str8, gay, bi, TV and TG...sexuality does not automatically make a person's personality wonderful or toxic...they are who they are.

Catalina

 

[Netzach]

Some people don't date over a certain age or weight. This is my mishigas as they say in yiddish.

 

[Noira]

I like bi men, I'm straight and I'm a switch. I mean, bi guys tend to be less "I'M SO STRAIGHT THAT ANYTHING OUTSIDE OF THIS LITTLE CIRCLE SCARES ME, I MUST BE BIG AND TOUGH" and a little more openminded, so yep. I've never looked for anyone based on their sexuality. Well, preferably they're straight enough to date me, but y'know...

 

[callinectes]

I guess I will come off as being the closed-minded one. I am not the least bit attracted to bi men. I also not bi myself so I suppose that really makes sense. I have no issue with, nor do I judge bi-sexual folks and those that are attracted to them.... it just isn't my thing.

 

[naxalite0906]

I worked with a bi guy once and found him so irresistibly attractive that working with him was nearly impossible.

Course, it helped that he was fiiiiiiine. Native American, ex-Marine, dark skinned with tattoos, omg pant.

But I digress. I love bi men, or just pansexual people in general! I love the idea that someone loves sex and sexuality SO much that they're not really THAT close minded about what gender they're doing it with.

Just to digress slightly... Men who are straight does not mean they are close minded. Surely it is merely an attraction thing? Can people still love sex and sexuality, but still be straight as they do not find their sex attractive?

I guess for most people though, its an added hot point for them, seeing someone so open like that

 

[satindesire]

Just to digress slightly... Men who are straight does not mean they are close minded. Surely it is merely an attraction thing? Can people still love sex and sexuality, but still be straight as they do not find their sex attractive?

I guess for most people though, its an added hot point for them, seeing someone so open like that

I don't mean close minded in the bad, evil negative way. As in hate, bigotry, etc.

I mean in the hard limits kind of way. Sorry, I can totally tell where that's easily confused. My fault.

 

[bisexualsmoker]

Don't forget also,bi-sexual doesn't mean bi-emotional.I've never been attracted
to males emotionally to the level of females.Good friends of course,but that's it.

 

[cutebrowngirl]

I have never been in the bdsm lifestyle, but if I was, I'd definitely be a sub. Bi guys turn me on. Maybe because they seem to be open to more sexually? Possibly the subconscious hope that I could end up in a threesome? Never done it. Don't know if I would but it's definitely a fantasy. What really turns me on is the idea of a man who knows how to suck cock and likes it. I could really appreciate doing it to him as he is appreciating it on more than one level. I have never dated a bi man but am totally open to it. For me, however, if a bi man is effeminate, I am turned off. That just doesn't work for me.
Then again, a straight guy can be open to a lot sexually(maybe not the same things). Just gotta introduce things slowly. I am turned off by guys who think being straight means never having your bum probed.

 

[naxalite0906]

I don't mean close minded in the bad, evil negative way. As in hate, bigotry, etc.

I mean in the hard limits kind of way. Sorry, I can totally tell where that's easily confused. My fault.

Its ok *smiles* I kind of knew what you mean, I just wanted to make sure. I'm definitely not close minded
hehe

 

[kinkyknickers]

Ummmmm...... I like men, I like women! I like TGs (they have the best wardrobes!).

I like 'em all. The more you go for, the wider your options. The less you get freaked out, especially during some of the LOOOOOONG weekends that I've had.

Having said that. The man I'm with is not bisexual, and that's all good, the girl I'm with is. Whatever blows your skirt up is alright by me.

 

[EmpressFi]

I voted neutral, as I've never been in a situation of being attracted to a man who was bisexual. I'd like to think I was open enough to at least consider it, and I know I'm curious enough to maybe even watch... but I cant say how i'd feel

 

[Shankara20]

I voted neutral, as I've never been in a situation of being attracted to a man who was bisexual.

not even me.

*pout*

 

[ownedsubgal]

i'm with calli, i'm not interested in bisexual men at all and it would seriously disturb me if i discovered that a man i'd been sexual with had also been sexual with men. not from the typical health standpoint, but just because i don't grok how some guy can be all hot and bothered over me one day and all hot and bothered over some dude another day. it'd make me feel like, in the bi guy's eyes, i shared some quality with the guys he's into...disturbing. now i realize that makes no sense intellectually maybe, but that would be my gut feelings on it.

i don't get bisexuality in women either, so there ya go.

 

[intothewoods]

I'm a straight sub who LOVES bi guys. I don't mind straight guys, but they can't be homophobic. And I don't just mean anti-gay. I really dislike straight men who freak out over male gayness.

Anyway, back to bi men. I love gay men, man on man action, bi men and pansexual men. And gender queers. I just have so much love to go around! But my special fetish is a butchier bi guy being seduced by another guy. Or two "straight" guys who just look into each others eyes and simply have to have each other. Or men struggling against their attraction to other men. Brokeback Mountain was one of the hottest movies I have ever seen. I just love to see men kiss, especially hot men, and especially hot, passionate kissing. There's not enough really passionate kissing in porn. Or I guess I'm looking in the wrong places. I love watching - did I mention that? And bi men love to make out for girls who like to watch (or at least my friends do), so it's win-win!

 

[cutebrowngirl]

I totally agree with intot woods. I'm jealous I don't have any hot bi guys to watch.