Curious about Switches...

[SomeOtherFlavor]

I got into "online D/s" a couple of years ago. I really enjoy the creativity of role-playing and email collaborative stories. I also got into D/s in Second life. Mainly I have played the submissive role and I have a strong submissive side. Those buttons are easy to push with me. Just calling somebody "Sir" can get me going. But lately I've been exploring my dominant side online and enjoying that immensely as well. I'm beginning to think that, for me, it is just the power exchange that turns me on, whichever side of it I'm playing. I'm beginning to feel that I won't really be happy as either a full-time sub or Domme. I guess that makes me a switch. I'm interested in hearing from others who feel the same and how you have made that work...IF you have made that work. Would one look for another switch and "take turns"? I'm sorry if that sounds silly, but the idea really sounds heavenly to me. I'm only looking for male, online connections for email and IM correspondence. Right now I'm interested in hearing from those who like the switching idea. If you aren't looking for anyone, I'd still be interested in hearing your take on it and how it works for you. I don't want to start a huge discussion on the boards about switching and if it is valid or does or doesn't work and etc. I won't answer here so if you want to chat about any of this please PM me.

Cheers

 

[boundover]

yes, switching works

it is a terrific boundery setter, in as much as who ever is doing the dom side knows the flip side is comming, this helps limits and helps expand them as well, it is the perfect trust builder, and it is soooo much fun, would love to talk more about switching....let me know, ron

 

[rudius13]

hello

I think i'm submissive but don't really no for sure.Haven't really been with a dominate women.Am looking have done some phone domination,being sexually humiliated seems to be my thing.not really into pain but being made to do things by a women that i wouldn't normally do.hope to hear from ya.

 

[TMNT]

it is a terrific boundery setter, in as much as who ever is doing the dom side knows the flip side is comming, this helps limits and helps expand them as well, it is the perfect trust builder, and it is soooo much fun, would love to talk more about switching....let me know, ron

Excuse me boundover, I need more information about switching. Chating with people more experienced than me here in Lit I was "diagnosed" with a bad case of switching, lol and now I am more disoriented than before. If you have a chance, please help me. Thank you in advance.

 

[Sun Tan Guy]

Switching

Switching is a wonderful experience because I feel we all have have a combination of Dom and Sub inside of us... There is definately more of one or the the other in most, but some say that the best bottom is actually topping from the bottom... To be a really good dom you need to understand how it feels to be sub and I think to be a proper sub you need to undestand what it takes to be Dom.. So.. its an endless circle sometimes..

For myself, I would say that I am more sub than Dom, but know what it takes to take the Dom role. My wife is a switch too but her preferrence is to be Dom.. We unfortunately dont have D/s experiences as much as I would like which is why I enjoy online chatting D/s so it helps.. Every so often when my wife and I would do a D/s scene, it can start with me being sub, then she directs me to be Dom, then it ALWAYS would end with her going back to Domme, which is totally fine with me. I found that when I did dominate her, it seemed to fuel her desire to get back in control which would make me feel even more submissive and want to have her in control.

Feel free to PM me if you want to chat more.. Would enjoy chatting more about this with ya!!
STG

Good luck with your search!!

 

[Literotti]

I have been told that I am wired as a switch. I feel comfortable in both roles, but it really depends upon who I'm with. In other words, if she is dominant, then I am submissive and vice-versa.

I also find that I have to work very hard at being dominant, but that the submissive role comes quite naturally for me. Perhaps this is because I have trouble causing someone else's pain, even though they may enjoy it. I think it has a lot to do with not knowing a person's pain threshold, as well as not knowing precisely what they are into and looking for. It therefore takes a bit of time and exploration before it becomes a satisfying experience for both. But then who said that the sexual act between two people will necessarily be the best sex ever during their first encounter?

This is really a very interesting topic, and thanks for introducing it.