head_slut
Really Experienced
- Joined
- Aug 8, 2004
- Posts
- 133
First off, sorry if this is not the place to do this or if I'm overstepping my bounds and this should be left to people like the mods, but I just have to say something.
To those who are new on Lit, here are some suggestions to not irritate the hell out of Lit vets, and also, to get a better response to your ads/posts/PMs.
Get involved. Have a personality. Don't just create an account and immediately write a personal ad asking people to love you, then every five minutes bump your post or write another asking why people won't talk to you.
Same for PMs. Don't just PM someone asking if they want to chat without giving any kind of information about yourself. Fill out your profile saying what area of what country you're in, or your interests, or a favorite/meaningful quote. Give us some idea of your personality or something about you that makes you seem interesting or someone who might be fun to talk to.
Post on other threads. Get to know people in existing conversations. Or start a conversation of your own, but post something more creative than your A/S/L. I don't know anyone who actually responds to ads/PMs that say, "I'm a XX year old m/f in Bumfuck Illinois, want to chat?" That gives us absolutely nothing to make you seem interesting or worth our time, especially if we go to your profile and there's nothing there. If I get a PM like that and check your profile and you have a really great quote, or we share similar interests, etc, then I might reply. If there's a blank profile, that PM gets deleted ASAP.
If you go through the many pages of threads, you'll see tons upon tons of ads that have 0-2 responses and that's it. The greatest common denominator of all those posts is that the person who wrote them didn't put any effort into it. All (s)he wants is a phone sex buddy or someone to cyber with, etc, and it shows. If you're actually looking to make a connection with someone, be willing to put forth the effort and not just expect people to flock to you after a generic invitation to chat.
To those who are new on Lit, here are some suggestions to not irritate the hell out of Lit vets, and also, to get a better response to your ads/posts/PMs.
Get involved. Have a personality. Don't just create an account and immediately write a personal ad asking people to love you, then every five minutes bump your post or write another asking why people won't talk to you.
Same for PMs. Don't just PM someone asking if they want to chat without giving any kind of information about yourself. Fill out your profile saying what area of what country you're in, or your interests, or a favorite/meaningful quote. Give us some idea of your personality or something about you that makes you seem interesting or someone who might be fun to talk to.
Post on other threads. Get to know people in existing conversations. Or start a conversation of your own, but post something more creative than your A/S/L. I don't know anyone who actually responds to ads/PMs that say, "I'm a XX year old m/f in Bumfuck Illinois, want to chat?" That gives us absolutely nothing to make you seem interesting or worth our time, especially if we go to your profile and there's nothing there. If I get a PM like that and check your profile and you have a really great quote, or we share similar interests, etc, then I might reply. If there's a blank profile, that PM gets deleted ASAP.
If you go through the many pages of threads, you'll see tons upon tons of ads that have 0-2 responses and that's it. The greatest common denominator of all those posts is that the person who wrote them didn't put any effort into it. All (s)he wants is a phone sex buddy or someone to cyber with, etc, and it shows. If you're actually looking to make a connection with someone, be willing to put forth the effort and not just expect people to flock to you after a generic invitation to chat.
