How to be more polite...

[Primalex]

well, it could be in the How-To section. But I guess you are much more familiar with me, so..

I believe in personal improvement and there have been tiny little pointers here that I could be much more polite in my replies. Okay.. so I have now this girl, who messages me and I need a polite way to tell her that I'm really not into fat ugly women and she should look for someone else.

How should I word this?

"Hello, thank you for your message. Unfortunately I'm looking for someone who is at least mildly height-weight appropriate. Best regards, Primalex."

Will this do?

 

[Guest]

well, it could be in the How-To section. But I guess you are much more familiar with me, so..

I believe in personal improvement and there have been tiny little pointers here that I could be much more polite in my replies. Okay.. so I have now this girl, who messages me and I need a polite way to tell her that I'm really not into fat ugly women and she should look for someone else.

How should I word this?

"Hello, thank you for your message. Unfortunately I'm looking for someone who is at least mildly height-weight appropriate. Best regards, Primalex."

Will this do?

I'm not sure you could get the concept through your fat, ugly brain.

 

[LittleJade]

well, it could be in the How-To section. But I guess you are much more familiar with me, so..

I believe in personal improvement and there have been tiny little pointers here that I could be much more polite in my replies. Okay.. so I have now this girl, who messages me and I need a polite way to tell her that I'm really not into fat ugly women and she should look for someone else.

How should I word this?

"Hello, thank you for your message. Unfortunately I'm looking for someone who is at least mildly height-weight appropriate. Best regards, Primalex."

Will this do?

No. It won't.

 

[Primalex]

No. It won't.

And what is your suggestion?

 

[LittleJade]

And what is your suggestion?

How about "I'm flattered, but not interested... "

 

[Fuckette]

well, it could be in the How-To section. But I guess you are much more familiar with me, so..

I believe in personal improvement and there have been tiny little pointers here that I could be much more polite in my replies. Okay.. so I have now this girl, who messages me and I need a polite way to tell her that I'm really not into fat ugly women and she should look for someone else.

How should I word this?

"Hello, thank you for your message. Unfortunately I'm looking for someone who is at least mildly height-weight appropriate. Best regards, Primalex."

Will this do?

No, Ask her how much she will charge you to blow you and few of your friends.

 

[Primalex]

How about "I'm flattered, but not interested... "

Not giving a reason at all? This is polite?

 

[Primalex]

No, Ask her how much she will charge you to blow you and few of your friends.

According to her profile her answer would be most likely:"This is free, of course, Sir."

 

[intothewoods]

How about "I'm flattered, but not interested... "

Would be my suggestion as well. If she presses it, you can say, I'm not attracted to you. You could also just not respond. I mean, what's with the insults? Does it make you feel better to call someone fat and ugly? I take it you're hot and built? I'm not half bad myself, but eventually there are other things to do with my day then revel in my own awesomeness.

 

[Fuckette]

According to her profile her answer would be most likely:"This is free, of course, Sir."

Does she start a lot of threads over on the general board?

 

[Noor]

well, it could be in the How-To section. But I guess you are much more familiar with me, so..

I believe in personal improvement and there have been tiny little pointers here that I could be much more polite in my replies. Okay.. so I have now this girl, who messages me and I need a polite way to tell her that I'm really not into fat ugly women and she should look for someone else.

How should I word this?

"Hello, thank you for your message. Unfortunately I'm looking for someone who is at least mildly height-weight appropriate. Best regards, Primalex."

Will this do?

I suppose letting her know you are simply too shallow to look beyond the superficial is out of the question?

If it is, perhaps you can try this

Dear X,

After giving this considerable thought I realize that I am not ready for a relationship with you at this time. Perhaps in a few years when I have attained a bit more maturity... If that happens, I will get back to you at that point and let you know.

#####

You know it is never worth intentionally hurting another person. One can never have too many friends. Also you never know how life will turn out and which people might turn out to be important. Its arrogance to think someone is beneath you and might not, at some point be, in a position of aid and/or power.

Good Luck!

 

[LittleJade]

Not giving a reason at all? This is polite?

It's better than telling her she's fat.

 

[Noor]

Not giving a reason at all? This is polite?

Yes, sometimes things just aren't possible or right.

You might consider taking an etiquette book out of the library and look at the part on how to say "no, thank you" since this is really what you are doing and it could come in handy in other situations.

 

[where]

well, it could be in the How-To section. But I guess you are much more familiar with me, so..

I believe in personal improvement and there have been tiny little pointers here that I could be much more polite in my replies. Okay.. so I have now this girl, who messages me and I need a polite way to tell her that I'm really not into fat ugly women and she should look for someone else.

How should I word this?

"Hello, thank you for your message. Unfortunately I'm looking for someone who is at least mildly height-weight appropriate. Best regards, Primalex."

Will this do?

Maybe try imagining how it would feel if you were on the receiving end of your mail and then work from there. Mind you if she is that into you she has probably read this post and has got the message. So job done, and you didn't have to soil yourself with actually doing the deed.

 

[Noor]

Would be my suggestion as well. If she presses it, you can say, I'm not attracted to you. You could also just not respond. I mean, what's with the insults? Does it make you feel better to call someone fat and ugly? I take it you're hot and built? I'm not half bad myself, but eventually there are other things to do with my day then revel in my own awesomeness.

Usually guys who call woman fat and ugly are no great shakes themselves, and usually have their own self esteem problems. I think this guy isn't as bad as he could be since he is looking for advice. Unless he is doing it in hopes that this woman will read this thread and then disappear. If so he is not only a jerk but a coward as well.

 

[Primalex]

Unless he is doing it in hopes that this woman will read this thread and then disappear. If so he is not only a jerk but a coward as well.

I hate to disappoint you and the others, but it's not on here but another place on the world wide web. So chances are slim that she reads this and is able to connect this thread to her.

 

[Netzach]

Yes, sometimes things just aren't possible or right.

You might consider taking an etiquette book out of the library and look at the part on how to say "no, thank you" since this is really what you are doing and it could come in handy in other situations.

If you need emily post for this you are not tall enough for the mental ride.

 

[where]

well when I get come ons I'm not interested in I usually just say I'm in a serious relationship or I'm not looking for anything beyond superficial chat. I hate being unnecessarily cruel because I've been on the receiving end and it hurts even over cyberspace.

 

[Noor]

I hate to disappoint you and the others, but it's not on here but another place on the world wide web. So chances are slim that she reads this and is able to connect this thread to her.

I am not disappointed at all. This is good.

let us know what you end up doing.

 

[Primalex]

Maybe try imagining how it would feel if you were on the receiving end of your mail and then work from there.

I would prefer a "Sorry, I think you are a rude bastard and don't want to play with you" over a "Thank you, <insert fake excuse of your choice>". But I'm all alone with this attitude it seems.

 

[Fuckette]

I would prefer a "Sorry, I think you are a rude bastard and don't want to play with you" over a "Thank you, <insert fake excuse of your choice>". But I'm all alone with this attitude it seems.

This is why you need to get pics before you start playing.

 

[where]

I would prefer a "Sorry, I think you are a rude bastard and don't want to play with you" over a "Thank you, <insert fake excuse of your choice>". But I'm all alone with this attitude it seems.

being called a rude bastard isn't the same as being called fat and ugly though is it?

 

[Noor]

If you need emily post for this you are not tall enough for the mental ride.

so you are saying he is vertically challenged in this arena?

 

[Noor]

I would prefer a "Sorry, I think you are a rude bastard and don't want to play with you" over a "Thank you, <insert fake excuse of your choice>". But I'm all alone with this attitude it seems.

Being a rude bastard is a choice and can be easily overcome, a woman's appearance which is based largely on genetics is not a choice she made and not easily to changed.

 

[Primalex]

If you need emily post for this you are not tall enough for the mental ride.

Obviously you fail the mental ride how to express negative traits in a positive manner, too, as I see no real suggestion from you.


But maybe the "fat ugly" thing is too close to reality for some here and so they have trouble with the necessary distance - so let me rephrase the question:

How do you tell someone who has bad breath that (s)he has bad breath and should do something about? (http://www.badbreathogram.com/ could work, but you get the point of the question.. maybe.)