Male attractiveness (TO FEMALES)

[Stella_Omega]

Sorry, couldn't tell under yer turban.

Maybe i should take it off for a while

It's heavy!

 

[voluptuary_manque]

Yes, Stella darling we know this is not you, however, you do have the proper attitude

This thread should maybe be, how is one attractive - to anyone? Self-confidence and attitude mean so very much. When I walk with confidence, most everyone likes much more than when I am feeling down-and-out. First you have to love yourself. That is very, very, (one more very) tough. Women are not, regardless of popular opinion, looking for "fixer-uppers." Personally, I see the fire.

You plannin' on bein' in Chicago next year? Just askin', don'tcherknow. For that matter, how 'bout you Stella?

 

[lisa123414]

You plannin' on bein' in Chicago next year? Just askin', don'tcherknow. For that matter, how 'bout you Stella?

*ahem* See what I mean?

 

[THROBBS]

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This thread should maybe be, how is one attractive - to anyone? Self-confidence and attitude mean so very much. When I walk with confidence, most everyone likes much more than when I am feeling down-and-out. First you have to love yourself. That is very, very, (one more very) tough. Women are not, regardless of popular opinion, looking for "fixer-uppers." Personally, I see the fire.

no. That would be a different thread.
THIS one is about if women actually DO appreciate a fit body on a man over a less fit one. I believe they do... even if it is not the most important aspect of a man.

It seems that many women have a tough time admitting that. For whatever reason.

 

[Stella_Omega]

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It seems that many women have a tough time admitting that. For whatever reason.

You know, and believe this or not as you will-- I think it's possible to be intimidated by too perfect a specimen of manhood. Women can't help compare themselves with the images of feminine perfection they see in every damn magazine, and find themselves lacking. Me too, I can't help it-- even though my model for my self-image is a little different.

And then we say to ourselves; "He's going to leave with the very first photomodel he meets."

 

[lisa123414]

Well, c'mon Throbbs, that's kind of like saying do men like women with good bodies better than those without. We all watch movies and read magazines with the most beautiful people on the planet. Sure I would like to look like that, and I certainly would like a partner who qualifies as "eye-candy." When the metal meets the road, however, the fitness "ruler" becomes one of enthusiasm, and possibly stamina. In my twenties, I was impressed with the man who could keep going all night. Now, I would have trouble going all night!

Edit - for Stella - It seems the secret, again, is to be happy with yourself and happy with your partner, warts and all :meow:

 

[THROBBS]

You know, and believe this or not as you will-- I think it's possible to be intimidated by too perfect a specimen of manhood. Women can't help compare themselves with the images of feminine perfection they see in every damn magazine, and find themselves lacking. Me too, I can't help it-- even though my model for my self-image is a little different.

And then we say to ourselves; "He's going to leave with the very first photomodel he meets."

Sure, I believe that. I even mentioned how at times my relative fitness can heighten awareness of my wife's relative lack.

And on the flip side... Although I OFTEN find some women PHISICALLY beautiful, but would not want to be with them...becaus eof their vanity...or my fear that they would run off with the first Oily Bohunk.

 

[THROBBS]

Well, c'mon Throbbs, that's kind of like saying do men like women with good bodies better than those without. We all watch movies and read magazines with the most beautiful people on the planet. Sure I would like to look like that, and I certainly would like a partner who qualifies as "eye-candy." When the metal meets the road, however, the fitness "ruler" becomes one of enthusiasm, and possibly stamina. In my twenties, I was impressed with the man who could keep going all night. Now, I would have trouble going all night!

Edit - for Stella - It seems the secret, again, is to be happy with yourself and happy with your partner, warts and all :meow:

It is LIKE saying that...but I (me personally) have noted an amazing unbalanced proportion of women SAYING that looks don't matter. I think that is BS...and that they DO matter to women, but perhaps not to as great a degree.

YES, personality is important. For both genders.

Sure it SEEMS like it would be obvious... DUH! Of course we would rather have a hotty...
But I don't hear that. Instead I hear "oh no, it doesn't matter to me."

 

[Stella_Omega]

Well, c'mon Throbbs, that's kind of like saying do men like women with good bodies better than those without. We all watch movies and read magazines with the most beautiful people on the planet. Sure I would like to look like that, and I certainly would like a partner who qualifies as "eye-candy." When the metal meets the road, however, the fitness "ruler" becomes one of enthusiasm, and possibly stamina. In my twenties, I was impressed with the man who could keep going all night. Now, I would have trouble going all night!

Edit - for Stella - It seems the secret, again, is to be happy with yourself and happy with your partner, warts and all :meow:

I ain't got no warts. The secret is Duct tape

Sure, I believe that. I even mentioned how at times my relative fitness can heighten awareness of my wife's relative lack.

And on the flip side... Although I OFTEN find some women PHISICALLY beautiful, but would not want to be with them...becaus eof their vanity...or my fear that they would run off with the first Oily Bohunk.

Ah, the first signs of maturity cometh!

Here in L.A. the proportion of male vanity to male beauty is astonishingly large.

It is LIKE saying that...but I (me personally) have noted an amazing unbalanced proportion of women SAYING that looks don't matter. I think that is BS...and that they DO matter to women, but perhaps not to as great a degree.

YES, personality is important. For both genders.

I think part of this is political, as well-- Women have been campaigning for quite a while to get guys to look at more than the physical body and it would hardly be fair, now would it? The truth is that men have been learning to look at more -- and women need to give themselves permission to do the same, in the other direction.

There are a lot of conflicting impulses here, and to a certain extent, men haven't been victims of this; Pretty girls are for boys to love. It's that been simple for a couple hundred years.

During this same time, women weren't "supposed to" look at male beauty first. Traditionally, a pretty man, a good looking guy, someone who takes care of their appearance, is bound to be a waste of a girl's time. He'll love her and leave her with "Rosie" on his chest. She wants a handsome man, with a face full of honesty and probity and solid family values. Or so she was supposed to believe.

 

[voluptuary_manque]

Or, as some researchers would have us believe, women want to breed with the handsome hunk and then find some warm, loving sort to help raise the results. Nice guys get more MILF, in other words.

 

[CeriseNoire]

Sure it SEEMS like it would be obvious... DUH! Of course we would rather have a hotty...
But I don't hear that. Instead I hear "oh no, it doesn't matter to me."

Perhaps the answer lies in what each person considers a hottie. For example, I've always found the combination of light eyes and tan/dark skin attractive, but I know many people who find it creepy. Even with fitness, the definition of fat/fit varies from person to person.

Then again, what do I know, I've never seemed to have a definite type.

 

[voluptuary_manque]

Perhaps the answer lies in what each person considers a hottie. For example, I've always found the combination of light eyes and tan/dark skin attractive, but I know many people who find it creepy. Even with fitness, the definition of fat/fit varies from person to person.

The again, what do I know, I've never seemed to have a definite type.

Thus leaving you open to a wider variety of experiences. The fool man who only dates blonds is like the man who only eats steak. Wonderful, true, but soooo limiting.

 

[Stella_Omega]

Or, as some researchers would have us believe, women want to breed with the handsome hunk and then find some warm, loving sort to help raise the results. Nice guys get more MILF, in other words.

EEESH! I hate biological imperatives, don't you?

 

[lesbiaphrodite]

Good hair, good teeth. quietness, confidence.

 

[voluptuary_manque]

EEESH! I hate biological imperatives, don't you?

Not when they're in my favor, I don't. I kind of like being a predatory primate, thanx.

 

[Stella_Omega]

Not when they're in my favor, I don't. I kind of like being a predatory primate, thanx.

Well, so do I-- like being a predatory primate.

 

[rgraham666]

Are you looking for a woman or a horse?

 

[Stella_Omega]

Are you looking for a woman or a horse?

Waaah! I miss my horsey! (Woman? I don't know. It's never said...)

 

[voluptuary_manque]

Only been riding a couple of times. It hurt. Big drafters, now . . . That's my kind of horsey.

 

[bluebell]

EEESH! I hate biological imperatives, don't you?

Come whisper the words "biological imperatives" into my ear, would you Stelly? Your vocabulary makes me rather...


Also, just so I can't be pegged for a drive-by flirter (not that Stelly ain't worth it, mind you), I've been working up a post for this thread but am questioning its validity and wondering whether it even touches on anything Throbbs seems concerned about. We'll see.

 

[Stella_Omega]

Only been riding a couple of times. It hurt. Big drafters, now . . . That's my kind of horsey.

My Horsey is a Polysyllabic Epicurean Equine. A very rare breed!

*waves shyly* Hi Bluebell

 

[kinkikittyn]

Funny that.

I actually ordered a Utili-Kilt. Turns out my wife is NOT one of those who ar eturn on by them. She blew a gasket. I canceled the order before it was even sent. Must be because she is Irish...?

Again...that's just clothing. I can change all that EASILY. If that was all it took, then the woman in question would be pretty shallow, and would be of no interest to me.

I like utilit-kilts on men. the kilts come in all kinds of materials and colors...and lots of nifty pockets.

 

[where]

I'll admit to saying a mans looks are important to me. I fell for one guy and I only saw him from behind across a crowded room. His body ticked all my fetish boxes and it was a relief when he turned around and wasn't hideous because I had to have him!

For me the usual suspects are:

height (last time I was in lit I cybered with someone purely on the basis that he was 6'6. Yes it's shallow of me but so what? )

Smell: I like the smell of men, the musk you get a whiff off as you start licking balls. Anything chemical is poison to me.

Broad shoulders and some muscle with big hands.

Body hair... yes please! Shaved bodies on men really turn me off.

Not fussed about cock size as long as it's over 3 inches, but if you tell me you have a thick cock, it will make me wet.

Now, will someone tell me why I spend all my time thinking and dreaming about a guy who is about 5'9, has a bit of a paunch and rather delicate hands? Maybe it's because of the words he whispers in my ear that demonstrate that his biggest and best sex organ is on a similar par with mine.

 

[THROBBS]

I like utilit-kilts on men. the kilts come in all kinds of materials and colors...and lots of nifty pockets.

I like pockets.

 

[voluptuary_manque]

I like utilit-kilts on men. the kilts come in all kinds of materials and colors...and lots of nifty pockets.

Can't get into the Utilit-kilt. Especially the camo ones, I mean what the . . . ?
Sportkilt, on the other hand, looks like the real thing but still has a pair of pockets that are concealed. Best of all possible worlds. My wife isn't turned on by kilts, either, but it isn't for her, it's for me and I don't ask permission for what I wear, thank-you very much.