Male attractiveness (TO FEMALES)

[THROBBS]

So many times I have heard/read that women find a man's personality to be the overriding factor in attractiveness. That may be true... BUT if all else is pretty much equal; Intelligence, humor (personality traits) then it seems only natural that physical attributes come into play. Some we can do nothing about (save for contacts, colored contacts, surgery etc).

I think it is time to get back to sit-ups and push-ups (not the bras) and bike riding...and eating healthy...well... maybe nothing that drastic.


Of course I'll still be an ass, but a tighter ass.

 

[amicus]

Throbbs against a tree....I write what I refer to as 'Romantica' strong character development with explicit sex scenes.

I often write them from a feminine pov.

I have asked dozens, if not hundreds of ladies, young and old, what they find attractive in the male.

My conclusion is that it is basically physical. The most consistent answer has been, 'shoulders' upper body strength and size.

Believe it or not, 'smell' comes in a close second, if a guy doesn't smell good, he's a goner.

The rest of it, the females think they can mold a guy to be housebroken.

grins....

well this oughta get ya goin'!

Amicus...

 

[THROBBS]

guess i won't work TOO hard..or I'll stink!


And they are dumbasses if they really believe they think they can change a guy's personality. Apparently I live with one of those.

 

[neonlyte]

So many times I have heard/read that women find a man's personality to be the overriding factor in attractiveness. That may be true... BUT if all else is pretty much equal; Intelligence, humor (personality traits) then it seems only natural that physical attributes come into play. Some we can do nothing about (save for contacts, colored contacts, surgery etc).

I think it is time to get back to sit-ups and push-ups (not the bras) and bike riding...and eating healthy...well... maybe nothing that drastic.


Of course I'll still be an ass, but a tighter ass.

Hair... women do it better than most men, but a man can wash a woman's hair with intent

 

[tickledkitty]

Hair... women do it better than most men, but a man can wash a woman's hair with intent

Mmmmm...I love having my hair washed. Big, strong hands massaging my scalp. Yep. *sigh*

 

[voluptuary_manque]

Size seems to have something to do with it. Have you ever seen a really massive, solid guy with an ugly girl? Especially in those countries where rugby rules. See huge rugger, see amazing chick.

 

[THROBBS]

Mmmmm...I love having my hair washed. Big, strong hands massaging my scalp. Yep. *sigh*

Well that helps answer the issue of PHYSICAL attractiveness..you don't hav eto LOOk at him! At least during a wash.

 

[voluptuary_manque]

Mmmmm...I love having my hair washed. Big, strong hands massaging my scalp. Yep. *sigh*

See? Note the words "big" and "strong". Size is important but it has to be strong big, not piggy-wig big.

 

[Daniellekitten]

Hands and feet do it for me. I can loose myself in some pretty good day dreams if a man's got strong, sensual, well tended hands. I don't like polish on a man's hands but clean nails are a must otherwise I can't think of him putting his hands places that cleanliness should be next to Godliness at.

I also like the smell. I had an ex that would give off the scent like a skunk when he was sweaty. I hated having sex with him because of it.

Personality is another biggie because I like to laugh. If you won't make me laugh, it just ain't there.

Oh and lastly, I love a man in jeans with no shirt and no shoes. It's sexy and sensual.

 

[THROBBS]

Size seems to have something to do with it. Have you ever seen a really massive, solid guy with an ugly girl? Especially in those countries where rugby rules. See huge rugger, see amazing chick.

And BIG assholes!!
I saw an ad in National Lampoon for an asshole enlarger, becaus eyou always see the hot chicks with the biggest assholes.

 

[voluptuary_manque]

How about a kilt? That seems to turn on some of the Lit ladies.

 

[THROBBS]

Hands and feet do it for me. I can loose myself in some pretty good day dreams if a man's got strong, sensual, well tended hands. I don't like polish on a man's hands but clean nails are a must otherwise I can't think of him putting his hands places that cleanliness should be next to Godliness at.

I also like the smell. I had an ex that would give off the scent like a skunk when he was sweaty. I hated having sex with him because of it.

Personality is another biggie because I like to laugh. If you won't make me laugh, it just ain't there.

Oh and lastly, I love a man in jeans with no shirt and no shoes. It's sexy and sensual.

I can wash my hands... but they WILL get dirty.
I can wash my stink, becaus eI WILL get stinky.

Clothes are just temporal.

as for laughter... I guess I have made a woman laugh, once or twice.

 

[tickledkitty]

Well that helps answer the issue of PHYSICAL attractiveness..you don't hav eto LOOk at him! At least during a wash.

No, I was just responding to what Neon said because it's something I particularly enjoy, even when it's just my hairdresser doing it.

Honestly, I don't think physical beauty is that important overall. There are things that I like about men, eyes, lips...oh, was that YOU in that pic the other day? Because that was one sexy mouth. Seriously. You know how sometimes you can just look at someones lips and know they are a fabulous kisser? Ahem. Anyway, cleanliness is HUGE for me. However, I don't mind a beer gut or a receding hairline. It all depends on the person, I guess.

 

[THROBBS]

How about a kilt? That seems to turn on some of the Lit ladies.

Funny that.

I actually ordered a Utili-Kilt. Turns out my wife is NOT one of those who ar eturn on by them. She blew a gasket. I canceled the order before it was even sent. Must be because she is Irish...?

Again...that's just clothing. I can change all that EASILY. If that was all it took, then the woman in question would be pretty shallow, and would be of no interest to me.

 

[voluptuary_manque]

No, I was just responding to what Neon said because it's something I particularly enjoy, even when it's just my hairdresser doing it.

Honestly, I don't think physical beauty is that important overall. There are things that I like about men, eyes, lips...oh, was that YOU in that pic the other day? Because that was one sexy mouth. Seriously. You know how sometimes you can just look at someones lips and know they are a fabulous kisser? Ahem. Anyway, cleanliness is HUGE for me. However, I don't mind a beer gut or a receding hairline. It all depends on the person, I guess.

LOL, thank goodness for that last part. My hair isn't just receding, it's seceding!

 

[THROBBS]

No, I was just responding to what Neon said because it's something I particularly enjoy, even when it's just my hairdresser doing it.

Honestly, I don't think physical beauty is that important overall. There are things that I like about men, eyes, lips...oh, was that YOU in that pic the other day? Because that was one sexy mouth. Seriously. You know how sometimes you can just look at someones lips and know they are a fabulous kisser? Ahem. Anyway, cleanliness is HUGE for me. However, I don't mind a beer gut or a receding hairline. It all depends on the person, I guess.

You "don't mind a beer gut or a receding hairline"... but wouldn't you PREFER a flat stomach and a full head of hair?

 

[tickledkitty]

LOL, thank goodness for that last part. My hair isn't just receding, it's seceding!

My first love had a receding hairline, and he was really young for it. Come to think of it, so did the second. What can you do about it anyway? It can be sexy.

 

[tickledkitty]

You "don't mind a beer gut or a receding hairline"... but wouldn't you PREFER a flat stomach and a full head of hair?

No.

 

[voluptuary_manque]

My first love had a receding hairline, and he was really young for it. Come to think of it, so did the second. What can you do about it anyway? It can be sexy.

No.

and again.

 

[THROBBS]

My first love had a receding hairline, and he was really young for it. Come to think of it, so did the second. What can you do about it anyway? It can be sexy.

I have no intention of doing anything about my receding hair.

More a theoretical question of preference.
I DO intend to get more fit.

...and HEY!! you were lurking on my thread!?

 

[THROBBS]

No.

so, makes NO difference to you? Or you prefer beerguts and/or receding hair?

Take same guy... beergut vs six pack (or at least trim)...no pref?

 

[NoJo]

I haveta say I'm just an okay-looking guy. But for some reason I charm the panties off women. They just involuntarily take off their panties, which is embarrassing both for the woman and for me. Recently I've taken to carrying a pack of cards which I can bring out to allay the awkwardness when it happens

 

[tickledkitty]

so, makes NO difference to you? Or you prefer beerguts and/or receding hair?

I prefer someone who cherishes me, makes me laugh, is a great kisser and an even better lover, has a job, and isn't a complete mental case. Should that person have a beer gut or not is irrelevant. I want someone I can be myself with. I'm not a super model myself, so, no, a young studly guy with a full head of hair is not that appealing.

What I have now is someone with a flat stomach and almost all his hair, and I'm not happy. I want to be happy, and how someone looks doesn't have that much to do with it.

Yes, there are some guys who completely turn me off looks-wise. I'm just saying looks aren't of the utmost importance to me.

 

[tickledkitty]

I haveta say I'm just an okay-looking guy. But for some reason I charm the panties off women. They just involuntarily take off their panties, which is embarrassing both for the woman and for me. Recently I've taken to carrying a pack of cards which I can bring out to allay the awkwardness when it happens

It's because you're funny.

 

[THROBBS]

I prefer someone who cherishes me, makes me laugh, is a great kisser and an even better lover, has a job, and isn't a complete mental case. Should that person have a beer gut or not is irrelevant. I want someone I can be myself with. I'm not a super model myself, so, no, a young studly guy with a full head of hair is not that appealing.

What I have now is someone with a flat stomach and almost all his hair, and I'm not happy. I want to be happy, and how someone looks doesn't have that much to do with it.

Yes, there are some guys who completely turn me off looks-wise. I'm just saying looks aren't of the utmost importance to me.

I totally get all that.
BUT...same guy... flat stomach or beergut? No pref?