Chat with my wife about Bi-Sexuality

[Grayson_James]

Prior to meeting, my wife had a few experiences of the Bi-Sexual nature. She wanted to experiment more and in the five years we have been together, we have done just that. I am exceptionally lucky in that my wife is voyeuristic and gets off watching me fuck other women.

However, after a few encounters she mentioned that she didn't think she was bi. Her words, "I'm a hetero-sexual who likes to experiment."


I told her she was bi and she asked me how I knew. I said, "Simple baby. Answer three questions for me:

1. Have you ever had sex with a woman? (Her answer was yes)
2. Do you like having sex with women? (Another yes)
3. Do I actually need to be there for you to have a sex with a woman? (She answered, no).

"Congratulations honey," I announced to her, "you are Bi!"

So that's the question ladies: Are you bi?

Answer the three questions. Exchange me being there for your significant other. Of course, if you DO want me there, I’ll be happy to join you!

 

[Red 2 Gray]

Funny, I answered "yes" to all three and I'm not bi...

Then again, I'm a guy.

 

[Grayson_James]

Funny, I answered "yes" to all three and I'm not bi...

Then again, I'm a guy.

Doesn't quite count Bertil! LOL

 

[Queen Jane]

I can answer yes to all three, but it would be extra fun with my baby there...

 

[littlebitshe]

Yes
Yes
Yes ...... But it's fun when he's there!

and...... Yes, it sounds like she's Bi! Why is she denying that? Just curious.

 

[Grayson_James]

Yes
Yes
Yes ...... But it's fun when he's there!

and...... Yes, it sounds like she's Bi! Why is she denying that? Just curious.

She doesn't deny it anymore! LOL

 

[SweetErika]

Prior to meeting, my wife had a few experiences of the Bi-Sexual nature. She wanted to experiment more and in the five years we have been together, we have done just that. I am exceptionally lucky in that my wife is voyeuristic and gets off watching me fuck other women.

However, after a few encounters she mentioned that she didn't think she was bi. Her words, "I'm a hetero-sexual who likes to experiment."


I told her she was bi and she asked me how I knew. I said, "Simple baby. Answer three questions for me:

1. Have you ever had sex with a woman? (Her answer was yes)
2. Do you like having sex with women? (Another yes)
3. Do I actually need to be there for you to have a sex with a woman? (She answered, no).

"Congratulations honey," I announced to her, "you are Bi!"

So that's the question ladies: Are you bi?

Answer the three questions. Exchange me being there for your significant other. Of course, if you DO want me there, I’ll be happy to join you!

Why is it important for you to define your wife's sexuality as bi, rather than letting her define it for herself, or use whatever definition/label she's most comfortable with? Or for you to tell other people how they should identify, for that matter?

Have you asked her what HER definition of bisexual is, and why she doesn't think it fits her? For instance, maybe she thinks she needs to want to have serious relationships with women to be bi, but because she can't see herself in/wanting that type of arrangement, she figures she's straight and experimental. Or, perhaps she has some negative associations with bisexuality, so she'd just rather use a different label.

There are many more factors to consider than your three questions suggest. They very much oversimplify the issue, IMO.

Sorry, but I don't see the point in arguing over what someone wants to call themselves. It seems perfectly reasonable for your wife to use whatever label she likes and deems most fitting at any given time. Being 'straight and experimental' rather than 'bi' doesn't change her behavior or impact you in any way whatsoever, does it?

So, yeah, I'll pass on taking your 'bi test.' I'm happy with who I am and what I call myself'; it matters not whether you (or anyone else) think MY labels are wrong or right. Sexuality, identity and labels are personal things, and I'm of the opinion that we should be a lot more accepting of what each individual is comfortable with, and try to pigeonhole people based on our own notions a lot less.

 

[Mikijl Dragon]

When I read this post I knew someone was going get on a soap box about labeling. Not that I do not agree but I was not disappointed in my assumption.

I am going to venture a guess as to the reason your wife felt she was not Bi. She didn't feel an emotional attraction to the women mearly sexual. For some the line is blured for others like yourself it is very defined.

Personally I think your a very lucky guy and instead of trying to describe it you should just enjoy the ride.

 

[Grayson_James]

Why is it important for you to define your wife's sexuality as bi, rather than letting her define it for herself, or use whatever definition/label she's most comfortable with? Or for you to tell other people how they should identify, for that matter?

Have you asked her what HER definition of bisexual is, and why she doesn't think it fits her? For instance, maybe she thinks she needs to want to have serious relationships with women to be bi, but because she can't see herself in/wanting that type of arrangement, she figures she's straight and experimental. Or, perhaps she has some negative associations with bisexuality, so she'd just rather use a different label.

There are many more factors to consider than your three questions suggest. They very much oversimplify the issue, IMO.

Sorry, but I don't see the point in arguing over what someone wants to call themselves. It seems perfectly reasonable for your wife to use whatever label she likes and deems most fitting at any given time. Being 'straight and experimental' rather than 'bi' doesn't change her behavior or impact you in any way whatsoever, does it?

So, yeah, I'll pass on taking your 'bi test.' I'm happy with who I am and what I call myself'; it matters not whether you (or anyone else) think MY labels are wrong or right. Sexuality, identity and labels are personal things, and I'm of the opinion that we should be a lot more accepting of what each individual is comfortable with, and try to pigeonhole people based on our own notions a lot less.

Okay, maybe I should have prefaced the wholk post with saying, it was a bit of a running joke between us and she laughed her ass after the three questions.

"Personally I think your a very lucky guy and instead of trying to describe it you should just enjoy the ride."

Trust me when I say I know how lucky I am and I VERY much enjoy it. She's 8 1/2 months pregnant and can't wait til the baby is born so she/we can get back into the 'swing' of things.

 

[FunwithRyleigh]

Hmmm....

Some things in this world no toy or woman can replace. And, I happen to like those things a lot.

Isn't it great that we all have our favorites? Makes life more interesting.

*cheers for diversity!*

 

[Grayson_James]

Hmmm....

Some things in this world no toy or woman can replace. And, I happen to like those things a lot.

Isn't it great that we all have our favorites? Makes life more interesting.

*cheers for diversity!*

My wife has a saying she likes....

"I love the feel, the touch, the taste of a woman. However, nothing can ever replace a good hard C***!"

She's so cute.

 

[cuffed_kitten]

Yay for being bi If I was straight, life would be so much less interesting!!

When I first told my guy I was bi, I was a bit nervous he wouldn't be ok with it, for religious reasons. But no, he was the typical guy and thought his Christmas had come

 

[PredatorSmile]

I'm bi and so is my husband. With kids, work and balancing suburban life and paying back student loans, neither of us has time to experiment. Our sex life a deux is still rocking. We've known each other since college.