moral delemia with new story

[lick_me_there]

so, i was having some fantasies lately about a guy that i used to lust over daily at work. i hadnt seen him in years and recently ran into him. i was fantasizing a LOT to the point i decided to write a story. seemed innocent enough, it actually started with exactly how our relationship was, then it started getting fictional, but i am stuck.

i have stopped the story so far with us just kissing and i cant make myself write more. thing is, i'm engaged, and this guy is married. and what i've written so far is what i used to dream about this guy. and i know anything else i come up is going to be real fantasies i've had about him. and then i get guilty and almost feel like i'm cheating. does this sound crazy to anyone? i was just writing the story for me, so i could re-read it whenever i wanted to lust over this guy. should i keep writing? or should i just forget the whole thing and keep my thoughts in my head?

am i just making myself crazy? or would some people feel a little threatened if their spouse/significant other wrote a lustful story about an old crush?

 

[twysted73]

so, i was having some fantasies lately about a guy that i used to lust over daily at work. i hadnt seen him in years and recently ran into him. i was fantasizing a LOT to the point i decided to write a story. seemed innocent enough, it actually started with exactly how our relationship was, then it started getting fictional, but i am stuck.

i have stopped the story so far with us just kissing and i cant make myself write more. thing is, i'm engaged, and this guy is married. and what i've written so far is what i used to dream about this guy. and i know anything else i come up is going to be real fantasies i've had about him. and then i get guilty and almost feel like i'm cheating. does this sound crazy to anyone? i was just writing the story for me, so i could re-read it whenever i wanted to lust over this guy. should i keep writing? or should i just forget the whole thing and keep my thoughts in my head?

am i just making myself crazy? or would some people feel a little threatened if their spouse/significant other wrote a lustful story about an old crush?

To be almost overly clinical, I must say...it is better to lance a boil then let it fester.

Face your "fears", write it all.....leave nothing out. NOTHING. Not one sordid, twysted or passionately intimate detail.

Even married people have fantasies. Is it cheating? Certainly not.
Anymore then thinking about robbing a bank is a crime.

AND: About your fiance`.... if he's threatened by a story you write, perhaps that's a reeeeally good indicator of things to come. Perhaps that's a nice little road sign outside of your wedding chappel telling you *Do Not Enter, No Access and Detour*

 

[lick_me_there]

thanks
i shall try to continue writing

 

[subwannabe]

I agree. Write away. I would word the story so that if your fiance or husband were to ever find it that the story would just sound like a general story and not about a particular person. Maybe he would even think it was about him.

 

[Fantasies_only]

Even married people have fantasies. Is it cheating? Certainly not.
Any more then thinking about robbing a bank is a crime.

You're actually wrong about that, that is, you may be wrong in the future.
There are still some bugs in it, but if they can probe the mind and nervous system, they can tell if the person is more likely to lie in that situation.

By the 22nd Century, the Thought Police may be in full "Minority Report" mode.
The negative thoughts of the public may be reason enough to suspect the action will be taken.

There have been people caught with this already, and there have been many lawsuits.
For instance, a man thinks about his obsession with taking naked photos of children and distributing them on the Web.
Although he really does this, he considers it art rather than child porn, and his site is meant for nude fine art, with a section for a nudist resort.

 

[GratefulFred]

By the 22nd Century, the Thought Police may be in full "Minority Report" mode.

Hey Fantasies maybe she's not so scared about what happens to her in the 22nd century unlike yourself.

Lick_me_there, like subwannabee my opinion is you should write your story but use different names for you and the guy. You should do so to express yourself as a writer. Maybe you'll develop the story and not only will it get you hot but perhaps some other people will enjoy the story as well. That way you may open yourself to write something really hot without feeling so guilty. Plenty of people here, including myself, are happily married, that just enjoy writing erotica or in my case warped erotica. Why not join the club? (See Sirhug for membership)

The Perfect Porn - mermaids...slurp....slurp...
http://www.literotica.com/stories/showstory.php?id=358085

 

[Grayson_James]

so, i was having some fantasies lately about a guy that i used to lust over daily at work. i hadnt seen him in years and recently ran into him. i was fantasizing a LOT to the point i decided to write a story. seemed innocent enough, it actually started with exactly how our relationship was, then it started getting fictional, but i am stuck.

i have stopped the story so far with us just kissing and i cant make myself write more. thing is, i'm engaged, and this guy is married. and what i've written so far is what i used to dream about this guy. and i know anything else i come up is going to be real fantasies i've had about him. and then i get guilty and almost feel like i'm cheating. does this sound crazy to anyone? i was just writing the story for me, so i could re-read it whenever i wanted to lust over this guy. should i keep writing? or should i just forget the whole thing and keep my thoughts in my head?

am i just making myself crazy? or would some people feel a little threatened if their spouse/significant other wrote a lustful story about an old crush?

Cheating on your fiance in you mind, isn't cheating. Write the story. Make it as hot and nasty as you want it to be. Keep it for yourself or share it here. Or don't. There is no reason to feel guilt about it. Unless you make it into reality.

 

[J.Q. Hack]

I'm not sure I have anything new or useful to add, but I think you should keep writing the story. It's a good way to help work through thoughts and feelings that you might not feel comfortable saying verbally. As twysted said it's better to get this stuff out in the open than to let it sit and have time to grow and consume more of your thoughts. Writing can be a very useful form of self-therapy.

J.Q.

 

[lick_me_there]

you've all been so helpful. i've already written 11 pages now. and i havent even gotten to the sex!!! i honestly dont think i'm going to even write that part, because i'd rather think about everything else and dont know if its needed but i do feel a lot better with writing what i've already written

 

[wehstar]

You're actually wrong about that, that is, you may be wrong in the future.
There are still some bugs in it, but if they can probe the mind and nervous system, they can tell if the person is more likely to lie in that situation.

By the 22nd Century, the Thought Police may be in full "Minority Report" mode.
The negative thoughts of the public may be reason enough to suspect the action will be taken.

There have been people caught with this already, and there have been many lawsuits.
For instance, a man thinks about his obsession with taking naked photos of children and distributing them on the Web.
Although he really does this, he considers it art rather than child porn, and his site is meant for nude fine art, with a section for a nudist resort.

What is it with you and kids? Is it a wind up?

 

[wehstar]

so, i was having some fantasies lately about a guy that i used to lust over daily at work. i hadnt seen him in years and recently ran into him. i was fantasizing a LOT to the point i decided to write a story. seemed innocent enough, it actually started with exactly how our relationship was, then it started getting fictional, but i am stuck.

i have stopped the story so far with us just kissing and i cant make myself write more. thing is, i'm engaged, and this guy is married. and what i've written so far is what i used to dream about this guy. and i know anything else i come up is going to be real fantasies i've had about him. and then i get guilty and almost feel like i'm cheating. does this sound crazy to anyone? i was just writing the story for me, so i could re-read it whenever i wanted to lust over this guy. should i keep writing? or should i just forget the whole thing and keep my thoughts in my head?

am i just making myself crazy? or would some people feel a little threatened if their spouse/significant other wrote a lustful story about an old crush?

Like everyone said, thinking about it isn't any different to writing it down, and you already had the thoughts.

Personally though, if your marrying this person, I'd like to think you'd have an open enough relationship not to feel you have to hide your writing or fantasies. Just an opinion, and not a ruling.

 

[lick_me_there]

i would feel horrible if he knew i was lusting over some guy that wasnt him. my stories that have been about him i have no problem showing him... this one tho... i dont know. i think he would get upset.