To the degenerate shitbag who messages my girl.

[Betticus]

Apparently there is someone here that is my friend to my face then tries to break my girl and I apart. There aren't words to express how low you are. To torture someone who is recovering from heart surgery. To be a coward and create new accounts to message her with.

If I ever find out who you are I will make sure that everyone else knows about you too.

So you all know, one of you here on lit bdsm, someone I'm "friends" with here that knows personal shit about me did this.

 

[graceanne]

You wan' I should go and take care of dis . . . situation for ya? *snaps bubble gum*

 

[MasterPhoenix]

Damn dude.. that is some fucked up shit...

 

[catalina_francisco]

It is sad that people feel the necessity to do things like this, and sadder that it is someone we presumably know. Hope the situation improves soon Betticus and all goes back to normal, peaceful and calm.

Catalina

 

[madetotakeit]

It's bad enough somebody did this to begin with, but especially with the circumstances...

I'll help Gracie take care of this for ya. You know how we subbies get when we band together.
*No cookies required *

 

[Daddyslilpet]

That's truly cowardice. Sorry to hear that Betticus. No one deserves that!

 

[Yasashii_Kaze]

I'm sorry this is happening, hon. The truth will come out eventually. In the meantime, keep your chin up. This kind of scum isn't worth your time or attention.

 

[00Syd]

Thats terrible. No one should have to deal with that. I hope everything works out

 

[Sir_Winston54]

If you find out who it is, Bett, just let us know. We'll take care of the trash for ya. You have more important things to think about - like taking care of your girl.

 

[Ladythunder]

Betticus, no words can describe the horror I feel for you and yours right now. I have come in on the middle of the stuff you are going through with her, with surgeries, illness etc. To hear of the added stress of something like this is truely horrible.

I hope you find out who it is, I also hope you make them known to us so we can share in the stomping, pummeling, other retributions as each sees fit.

To bad for the wannabe loser ass that chose to go this route, for it is low and will be discovered. Nobody can hide that well...

 

[WriterDom]

Did you consider that posting about it might make it worse?

I had a bad experience about 10 years ago on the net. It does suck.

 

[EmpressFi]

I'm not sure how it would make it worse.. I mean, the shitbag might start messaging her more..yeah..that would be bad..but maybe then he'd fuck up and we'd figure out who he was.

It's awful that they'd do that to you..and I'll join the posse if you find out who they are

 

[A Desert Rose]

I've gotten some really unkind PMs from anonymous people regarding my health issue and the related thread.

I can understand how she feels.

Some people are just simply mean and hateful.

 

[BiBunny]

I'm not sure how it would make it worse.. I mean, the shitbag might start messaging her more..yeah..that would be bad..but maybe then he'd fuck up and we'd figure out who he was.

It's awful that they'd do that to you..and I'll join the posse if you find out who they are

Drawing attention to "it" might be what "it" wants, though. I dunno.

 

[minx1]

Yeah that _is_ low. But hey they are obviously lacking in the brain department if they think their plan will come to fruition.

 

[FurryFury]

I don't understand shit like this? Where is the pay off? I don't get it.

Sorry Bet.

 

[Betticus]

Did you consider that posting about it might make it worse?

I had a bad experience about 10 years ago on the net. It does suck.

Yes I thought about this. Then I thought that if I am "chummy" with this person as it seems to be then so are many of you.

I haven't seen the pm's yet but supposedly it's a transcript of me flirting with someone who claims that it happened while Dani was in the hospital for her heart surgery. Then a second brand new zero post account from someone also claiming that I was playing with other subs while she was in the hospital.

Flirting has always been a big part of my personality, even since I was tiny. Everyone that knows me knows I flirt. I flirt with girls, boys, the curtains.. it's a big deal to Dani though and since I love her we've been working on it. It's the reason I requested that no-one call me daddy anymore because now that is something special between her and I. My collarme account is gone now since the only people that were chatting with me there wanted more than I am willing to give.

Since I've known Dani it's opened my eyes to a lot of things in myself that I didn't like and I've been working on improving. Even in bdsm I had been going down a path that got darker and more sadistic and that wasn't me at all. It was outside influence. In bdsm I'm actually in the shallowest end of the pool. I couldn't see myself doing many of the things that a lot of others do. Dark fantasies sure but those are just fantasies. Throwing something out for shock value, yep but a hypothetical situation isn't reality either.

The point being that Dani is the only one I've ever met who fits me perfectly. Not to be rude but no one else here or anywhere else has ever clicked with me in a way that makes me want to spend my life with you. Only Dani has done that.

So Dani had to have heart surgery, it scared everyone but now she's healing and getting better every day. It takes time. The think most people don't know is that it's me who is going through changes here, Dani is perfect in every way but I'm a super asshole. I'm trying to improve myself to the point where I think that I deserve to be her daddy and to have her in my life. The last thing I need is some soulless ghoul exercising his/her own agenda in the relationship that Dani and I are trying to build. I do a good enough job of fucking up on my own.

If or when I find out who did this trust me, everyone will know. Now my shit's all out in the open, feel free to comment or make observations on how well or poorly I've been in trying to improve myself. No need to message Dani in private. Also feel free to "out" me right here in front of everyone if you so feel inclined.

 

[Daddy2mylilgirl]

Flirting has always been a big part of my personality, even since I was tiny. Everyone that knows me knows I flirt. I flirt with girls, boys, the curtains.. it's a big deal to Dani though and since I love her we've been working on it. It's the reason I requested that no-one call me daddy anymore because now that is something special between her and I. My collarme account is gone now since the only people that were chatting with me there wanted more than I am willing to give.

Since I've known Dani it's opened my eyes to a lot of things in myself that I didn't like and I've been working on improving. Even in bdsm I had been going down a path that got darker and more sadistic and that wasn't me at all. It was outside influence. In bdsm I'm actually in the shallowest end of the pool. I couldn't see myself doing many of the things that a lot of others do. Dark fantasies sure but those are just fantasies. Throwing something out for shock value, yep but a hypothetical situation isn't reality either.

The point being that Dani is the only one I've ever met who fits me perfectly. Not to be rude but no one else here or anywhere else has ever clicked with me in a way that makes me want to spend my life with you. Only Dani has done that.

Trust me, I know EXACTLY what you mean. My little girl makes me feel the same way.

A good quote my little girl found that fits our relationship and I think fits yours too:

"People think a soul mate is your perfect fit, and that’s what everyone wants. But a true soul mate is a mirror, the person who shows you everything that’s holding you back, the person who brings you to your own attention so you can change your life. A true soul mate is probably the most important person you’ll ever meet, because they tear down your walls and smack you awake. And thank God for that."

Good luck with everything.

 

[A Desert Rose]

the best advice I ever saw posted here was by SexyChelle (who almost no one knows now). She said and I paraphrase "what difference does it make what people say here? They won't be at your next family reunion or company picnic so, why waste time worrying about what happens here or what is said here?"

Screw 'em Betticus. People are mean, some people are hatefully mean. As long as you and Dani are on the same page, nothing anyone says or does here makes any difference.

 

[EmpressFi]

Yes I thought about this. Then I thought that if I am "chummy" with this person as it seems to be then so are many of you.

I haven't seen the pm's yet but supposedly it's a transcript of me flirting with someone who claims that it happened while Dani was in the hospital for her heart surgery. Then a second brand new zero post account from someone also claiming that I was playing with other subs while she was in the hospital.

Flirting has always been a big part of my personality, even since I was tiny. Everyone that knows me knows I flirt. I flirt with girls, boys, the curtains.. it's a big deal to Dani though and since I love her we've been working on it. It's the reason I requested that no-one call me daddy anymore because now that is something special between her and I. My collarme account is gone now since the only people that were chatting with me there wanted more than I am willing to give.

Since I've known Dani it's opened my eyes to a lot of things in myself that I didn't like and I've been working on improving. Even in bdsm I had been going down a path that got darker and more sadistic and that wasn't me at all. It was outside influence. In bdsm I'm actually in the shallowest end of the pool. I couldn't see myself doing many of the things that a lot of others do. Dark fantasies sure but those are just fantasies. Throwing something out for shock value, yep but a hypothetical situation isn't reality either.

The point being that Dani is the only one I've ever met who fits me perfectly. Not to be rude but no one else here or anywhere else has ever clicked with me in a way that makes me want to spend my life with you. Only Dani has done that.

So Dani had to have heart surgery, it scared everyone but now she's healing and getting better every day. It takes time. The think most people don't know is that it's me who is going through changes here, Dani is perfect in every way but I'm a super asshole. I'm trying to improve myself to the point where I think that I deserve to be her daddy and to have her in my life. The last thing I need is some soulless ghoul exercising his/her own agenda in the relationship that Dani and I are trying to build. I do a good enough job of fucking up on my own.

If or when I find out who did this trust me, everyone will know. Now my shit's all out in the open, feel free to comment or make observations on how well or poorly I've been in trying to improve myself. No need to message Dani in private. Also feel free to "out" me right here in front of everyone if you so feel inclined.

*platonic hugs*

I'm proud of you Bett. I'm proud that you havent let your "dom-ness" interfere with recognizing changes you need to make in yourself... that is such a refreshing change to see.

 

[Homburg]

Flirting has always been a big part of my personality, even since I was tiny. Everyone that knows me knows I flirt. I flirt with girls, boys, the curtains.. it's a big deal to Dani though and since I love her we've been working on it. It's the reason I requested that no-one call me daddy anymore because now that is something special between her and I. My collarme account is gone now since the only people that were chatting with me there wanted more than I am willing to give.

Curtains? Now that's kinky, damn.

Since I've known Dani it's opened my eyes to a lot of things in myself that I didn't like and I've been working on improving. Even in bdsm I had been going down a path that got darker and more sadistic and that wasn't me at all. It was outside influence. In bdsm I'm actually in the shallowest end of the pool. I couldn't see myself doing many of the things that a lot of others do. Dark fantasies sure but those are just fantasies. Throwing something out for shock value, yep but a hypothetical situation isn't reality either.

The point being that Dani is the only one I've ever met who fits me perfectly. Not to be rude but no one else here or anywhere else has ever clicked with me in a way that makes me want to spend my life with you. Only Dani has done that.

So Dani had to have heart surgery, it scared everyone but now she's healing and getting better every day. It takes time. The think most people don't know is that it's me who is going through changes here, Dani is perfect in every way but I'm a super asshole. I'm trying to improve myself to the point where I think that I deserve to be her daddy and to have her in my life. The last thing I need is some soulless ghoul exercising his/her own agenda in the relationship that Dani and I are trying to build. I do a good enough job of fucking up on my own.

If or when I find out who did this trust me, everyone will know. Now my shit's all out in the open, feel free to comment or make observations on how well or poorly I've been in trying to improve myself. No need to message Dani in private. Also feel free to "out" me right here in front of everyone if you so feel inclined.

Betticus, this is the finest thing I've seen you post. Good on ya.

I'd call that post a win on its' own.

 

[LittleJade]

I had wanted to PM this to you, as you and I don't tend to talk very much, but-

That took guts, and kudos to you for being so open and honest.

If I can be of any help to either you or Dani in her recovery or your growth, you know where to find me.

I hope that karma sorts this little mess out quickly for you, Bett.

*hug*

 

[Daddyslilpet]

Betticus, you don't owe anyone here any explanations. The only explanations are owed to Dani. All that matters is what she thinks of you. It sounds to me like you've grown up a whole lot. You should be very proud of yourself. Again not that my opinion matters either. LOL.

Betticus, these people who are sending these PM's to your girl are just jealous of what the two of you have going on. (Or this single person as the case very well may be.) Ignore them, use your ignore list if you have to and have Dani do the same thing. She doesn't need this agrivation while she's trying to recover from heart surgery.

It sounds to me like you are both very lucky to have found each other and are working hard to make this relationship work. Don't allow some jealous assholes to screw it up for you.

~stepping down off my soapbox now~

I wish you both the very best! Just know that Karma will catch up with those who are behind this.

 

[catalina_francisco]

Yes I thought about this. Then I thought that if I am "chummy" with this person as it seems to be then so are many of you.

I haven't seen the pm's yet but supposedly it's a transcript of me flirting with someone who claims that it happened while Dani was in the hospital for her heart surgery. Then a second brand new zero post account from someone also claiming that I was playing with other subs while she was in the hospital.

Flirting has always been a big part of my personality, even since I was tiny. Everyone that knows me knows I flirt. I flirt with girls, boys, the curtains.. it's a big deal to Dani though and since I love her we've been working on it. It's the reason I requested that no-one call me daddy anymore because now that is something special between her and I. My collarme account is gone now since the only people that were chatting with me there wanted more than I am willing to give.

Since I've known Dani it's opened my eyes to a lot of things in myself that I didn't like and I've been working on improving. Even in bdsm I had been going down a path that got darker and more sadistic and that wasn't me at all. It was outside influence. In bdsm I'm actually in the shallowest end of the pool. I couldn't see myself doing many of the things that a lot of others do. Dark fantasies sure but those are just fantasies. Throwing something out for shock value, yep but a hypothetical situation isn't reality either.

The point being that Dani is the only one I've ever met who fits me perfectly. Not to be rude but no one else here or anywhere else has ever clicked with me in a way that makes me want to spend my life with you. Only Dani has done that.

So Dani had to have heart surgery, it scared everyone but now she's healing and getting better every day. It takes time. The think most people don't know is that it's me who is going through changes here, Dani is perfect in every way but I'm a super asshole. I'm trying to improve myself to the point where I think that I deserve to be her daddy and to have her in my life. The last thing I need is some soulless ghoul exercising his/her own agenda in the relationship that Dani and I are trying to build. I do a good enough job of fucking up on my own.

If or when I find out who did this trust me, everyone will know. Now my shit's all out in the open, feel free to comment or make observations on how well or poorly I've been in trying to improve myself. No need to message Dani in private. Also feel free to "out" me right here in front of everyone if you so feel inclined.

Flirting is not such a sin, especially if that is all it is. Sometimes it can be endearing, and most who get to know you will know it stops with the flirtacious words, nothing more. I have seen you grow remarkably over the last few months and don't feel you need to apologise to anyone. Just remember, she fell in love with you the way you were because she can see the real you...change too much and you may lose yourself and the man she loves so much. Love is about accepting the good and bad in each other...no-one is perfect, and there is always going to be something which rubs the wrong way on certain days....when you love someone you accept that is part of who they are and what makes them so unique, along with the more loveable parts.

Catalina

 

[Daddyslilpet]

Flirting is not such a sin, especially if that is all it is. Sometimes it can be endearing, and most who get to know you will know it stops with the flirtacious words, nothing more. I have seen you grow remarkably over the last few months and don't feel you need to apologise to anyone. Just remember, she fell in love with you the way you were because she can see the real you...change too much and you may lose yourself and the man she loves so much. Love is about accepting the good and bad in each other...no-one is perfect, and there is always going to be something which rubs the wrong way on certain days....when you love someone you accept that is part of who they are and what makes them so unique, along with the more loveable parts.

Catalina

Excellent point! I totally agree with Catalina on this too. Anyone who knows me knows I'm a big flirt and have always been one, but am TOTALLY devoted to my husband/Daddy and my flirting is totally harmless fun. Daddy wouldn't begin to try and change that about me either, because he loves that part of me too.

Just wanted to add that, hope our words of encouragement help.