How to fool around and not get caught???

[marlasmiles2003]

I know this sounds so wrong to some, but a know out here there are plenty that know what I am asking. Sure my sex life at home sucked so I went out looking for fun. I found fun out of town when my company sent me on conferences, then budget cuts and I didn't get send out of town to much. So then I looked for people that I could hook up with, but found out that I live in to small of a town with to many jerks. I was having fun fooling around on line till one night I left my email account open and was busted big time. Now I can only find rare times that I even get out to see what is going on with out being checked up on. And even now I miss my chat partners, and I think that I have read every story out here. So, I am looking for a way to make sure that my husband doesn't know what I have been doing on the net. I clear my cookies and history...but still not sure if he can tell where i have been. What advice to any of you have to share..

Thanks

xoxo

 

[BedofRust]

Go to CNet Downloads and look for a program that will delete your internet footprint. Good luck and if you are ever in Dallas...

 

[Tuatara]

Use a software package called Sandboxie. I think it is free.

Run Sandboxie, then run whatever browser you want, online chat software, email etc. Finish what you were doing and then stop Sandboxie. EVERYTHING done during the time Sandboxie was running is erased! Note I mean EVERYTHING!! So don't forget and be doing an important report business report etc. during a quiet moment .

 

[mcubs2]

Hi Marla..

Sorry,I'm not that technical with computers ,but if its safe for you to chat on Yahoo,I'd love to chat.. I do know you can delete any coversations after they are over,, I'll invite you ..so sorry about your predicament...

 

[Tuatara]

Another option ... not tested by me ... is to use a package called Browzar. Again it is free. It is a "front end" to IE but cleans up afterwards - no history, no cookies, no temp files.

(edit) Forgot to mention ... this only makes private your web browsing, not anything else.

 

[koalabear]

good info for the slut crowd.......lmao

 

[phranque]

Also....

He could be using, or if he's smart use, something called a keylogger. They undetectable by the users but he can look at every website you visit, every word you type, IM messages as well. They have time and daye stamps on them - some loggers he can log onto remotely without having to log onto the computer you use once he has installed the software there.

Ciao,
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[count t]

in my opinion you could be screwed if he is using a keylogger, but if you haven't been caught yet then he most likely is not. (IMO) the best way for you to be secure would be too keep any info off of that computer, And not install things like sandboxie which he might notice, and look into. The best way of doing this would be with flash drive applications. head to your local store and pick up a flash drive from the tech isle. 1GB should be plenty big and not run much more then 40 dollars. The go to this website: (Advertisement removed per violation of site rules.) which has all kinds of portable applications. load those onto your flash drive, and run them from the flash drive. all info is stored on the drive. not the pc. as long as he doesn't get the flash drive you should be in the clear.
there are applications for email, internet browsing, and instant message clients.

fell free to ask if i can help with anything.

 

[Ganyeka]

Hey, here's an idea. If you're in an unhappy marriage and feel the need to constantly cheat on your partner, be honest with him and get help to fix the problem, or if you can't/won't do that or if he won't - get a divorce and indulge whatever behaviour you want witout cheating, lying, and humiliating another human being, especially one you profess to "love". Just a thought.

 

[OralFuxation]

Im with Gany on this one, have the guts to sort the mess out instead of making it worse.

One would assume you at least care for your hubby since you dont want to get caught... or is it more of a selfish reason and you just dont want to deal with the problem when you do get caught (and it's not IF no matter what programs you use).

Either way sort it out, you might not deserve better - but he sure as hell does.

 

[koalabear]

Hey, here's an idea. If you're in an unhappy marriage and feel the need to constantly cheat on your partner, be honest with him and get help to fix the problem, or if you can't/won't do that or if he won't - get a divorce and indulge whatever behaviour you want witout cheating, lying, and humiliating another human being, especially one you profess to "love". Just a thought.

common sense is very out dated in Lit or on the net.......

 

[basic_desires]

common sense is very out dated in Lit or on the net.......

at least there are still plenty of common cents around

 

[subwannabe]

Ask the ex governor of New York. He cheated for years without getting caught. Alas, it eventually blew up in his face - and it will eventually for you too. I agree with some of the others to step up to the plate and either fix the problem or get divorced. There are plenty of ways to avoid being caught but every one of them is only temporary. The only question is how long can you cheat before getting caught?

 

[faeriefire]

Why the need to sneak around? If you were old enough/mature enough to get married aren't you old enough to decide for yourself what sites you'll visit and what behaviors are ok? What happens when you get caught...are you gonna lose internet priviledges or be grounded like a middle-schooler? This situation seems weird to me. Granted if someone was looking over my shoulder all the time it would freak me out, but can't you say 'I want xyz amount of time to read erotica, check out online discussion boards and look at porn' to your hubby and see how he reacts? Maybe if he knows what you're doing he'll quit digging and you'll both feel better. Or he might blow a gasket...and you could figure out why you feel the need to sneak. In any case being tricky will blow up in your face at some point and should be avoided both for your sake and your husbands.

 

[VelvetDarkness]

I can understand you frustration - to a point - because I naturally have a higher sex drive than my Master and he decides when and how we have sex. I don't have a problem with that because I gave myself to him willingly, knowing that our sex drives are a little different.

Did you know that your husband had a low sex drive or was unable to satisfy you when you married? If so, you're not really in a position to complain about it now.

Do you still love him? Do you want to spend you life with him? Please correct me if I'm wrong but my guess is no. You don't seem at all bothered that you have cheated on him and want to do so again. Your only concern is having your internet time curtailed and not being in a position to sleep with random men.

Is that what you really want? To risk your health and your husbands health and sleep with random men? If your husband could satisfy you completely, as often as you wanted, would that heal your relationship and prevent you from wanting to stray?

I think you need to consider the possibility that you no longer love your husband and should not be married to him any longer. You should also ask yourself whether you have become addicted to the thrill of seeking and obtaining casual sex.

This situation of yours will end badly unless you decide what you really want and take responsibility for yourself, your duty to your husband and your marriage. Whether that means ending the marriage or giving up the casual online/real life encounters and working on your marriage and your sexlife is up to you.

 

[Colton_White]

@ those who're giving advices and asking questions to Marla?

1. do you notice that she [thread starter] hasn't responded even for once after posting her thread.?

2. I think she's not 'she' but a man [husband] who doesn't want his wife to find out how he fools on internet?

He faked to be a woman, cause otherwise ,few men would respond to advice to his ad. [How to fool around and not get caught???
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ok that's my personal opinion, and I apologies in advance if I'm wrong

 

[AgonySceneGirl]

first - quit being a fucking whore.
if you want to fool around - get a divorce. You got married - that right there means your commited to that person and that person alone. your are one pathetic little person i really hope you know that...
if i ever caught my man cheating - i would castrate him and send him limping away.
Take responsibility for your actions, deal with the consequences because you deserve every bit you get. If i were your husband - i would have kicked your pathetic ass out the door long ago.

 

[PonderingMind]

IMHO

If you are in a relationship that you are not happy in, either make yourself happy, or get out of the relationship. Life is too short to be miserable, and you are only cheating yourself, not him or her. By cheating on your partner, you only belittle yourself, and dishonor the most sacred vow on earth. Only you will have to answer to that. Stand up and be responsible. Either find a way to become happy in your relationship, or find another relationship that makes you happy. Although I am not sure you will ever be happy in any relationship if you feel the need to go behind the dynamics if something is not to your advantage..

 

[subwannabe]

Colton White has an interesting theory. Could be right.

 

[Colton_White]

Colton White has an interesting theory. Could be right.

Thanks for your support

 

[Colton_White]

I was thinking........

As Marla said 'company sends her to conferences'
means she's a working woman with good salary.

So if she just gets a divorce... there won't be much trouble,
I mean she'll have fat chunk portion of divorce settlement from hubby, plus her own job,
and with that.. she can even buy her a 24/7 male gigolo/stud. [with sexual appetite just high as hers]

then she won't have to worry abt. getting caught.

just my thoughts.

She is 'HE' and not divorcing cause He'll have to shell out a big portion in settlement to his wife..then 'he' won't be able to even buy 1 hour of a street hooker.
so instead he comes online..and post thread on Lit. asking abt. how not to get caught.?

 

[Colton_White]

20 people reply to this thread,

but look at the view count - 1152 people viewed this thread..
looks like Marla is not the only person looking for advice "How to fool around and not get caught???"

there are atleast 100 people [men/women] just like her, lurking in this thread to get some tips on it

lol

this is real funny,
mod. should combine this thread with "Honesty on Lit" [the PG thread.!!]

 

[VelvetDarkness]

As Marla said 'company sends her to conferences'
means she's a working woman with good salary.

So if she just gets a divorce... there won't be much trouble,
I mean she'll have fat chunk portion of divorce settlement from hubby, plus her own job,
and with that.. she can even buy her a 24/7 male gigolo/stud. [with sexual appetite just high as hers]

then she won't have to worry abt. getting caught.

just my thoughts.

She is 'HE' and not divorcing cause He'll have to shell out a big portion in settlement to his wife..then 'he' won't be able to even buy 1 hour of a street hooker.
so instead he comes online..and post thread on Lit. asking abt. how not to get caught.?

Ok, this I can see as a definite possibility.

Think we've all scared the OP off though, so I guess we'll never know.

 

[mtdan]

DUMP HIM !!!

In real relationship you should be free. not someones slave. if you want to play you should be able to.. unless you want to be a slave and that can be fun too...

 

[BeachBum69]

No way I want to be a part of something like this. Either break up or don't, but cheating on someone is never right.