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Jack Dawkins
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I think that for certain narcissistic personality types, being agreed with is the pinnacle of satisfaction. The more ludicrous the premise, or the more difficult to concur with, the bigger the psychosexual payoff.
This is a game I play with my sub, called the "Don't you agree?" game. A fairly simple challenge that can be quite rewarding if executed properly. Here are the rules, as well as suggestions for getting it right.
The first thing, in my opinion, before beginning any kind of a session like this is to establish a realistic sense of control. Even for those of us in 24/7 relationships, this isn't always easy. No matter what anyone tells you or leads you to believe, no human being is any more submissive than any other. We just have different limits. Your sub will submit to you, there's no doubt about that. But you've got to really make her if you want it to be a meaningful experience for either of you.
My first suggestion on creating this state is to get the energy advantage immediately. When I can express more energy than my submissive, it allows me to control the emotions involved in the scene. Then I can alternate between punishment and reward to the keep the sub in a vulnerable, confused and docile state. Energy advantage can be achieved through sleep deprivation, bondage, movement restriction, eye restriction or other ways. Selectively applied intoxicants can also create a great energy deficit between you and your sub, but aren't safe and shouldn't be used by anyone.
It always helps to use some symbolic adornment. A collar, hat, whatever that says "you belong to me" won't offer you a physical advantage, but will add to the psychological advantage powerfully. Familiar items in particular will take some tension off and let things slide a little further by creating a nice atmosphere of consent.
Once the sub is incapacitated, you gotta put it all on the line. You have a fairness advantage, it is your mighty duty as a dominant to penetrate any token resistance the poor sub may offer up. Don't push past the point to which you are willing to track back and provide after care. Truthfully though, if you're not pushing it almost to where you really wanna punch the bitch, like knock her teeth out, you're basically a sub.
So, you make the sub say something that would be very (*very*) hard to admit to, or perhaps something they just disagreed with very (*very*) strongly. The idea being, that through the steps I'm about to offer you, you can get your sub to temporarily agree with everything. Permanence = maintenance.
Simple pimple, people.
Earlier this evening, when this was an evening, I decided my very own allegedly submissive girlfriend was being entirely too bratty, nasty, pouty and plain unsubmissive. It was time to lay down the heavy hand of Mastery.
I'm not going to tell you the phrase I used, but feel free to use your imagination. Phrases in the past have been, "I love being Daddy's pussy hunter," and "I need to be hurt to feel loved." The pattern goes like this:
1. Ask her to admit to/agree with something.
If she refuses, you didn't do the first part right. When she submits, notice that there will be discernible sarcasm.
2. Ask her to repeat it.
Continue each of these phases until you feel like you have reached a new level of submission.
3. Ask her to say it with sincerity, like she means it.
At this point, the sub will try and convince you she really does mean it, but the little bug inside which makes her misbehave won't stop tickling her naughty bits. Press on.
4. Ask her to say it, like this "..."
Like most BDSM games, this is a mirroring game that requires equal participation. Her ability to repeat it with heart bleeding sincerity is going to depend on your leadership in mouthing out the words for her, exactly as you want to hear them from her sweet little dicksuckers.
5. Just say the phrase.
She should be in tune with you enough now that she is getting closer and closer to saying it almost exactly like you are. Her empathy switches are all flipped and she is channeling your emotions with nary a delay. Move slowly and offer her both pain and comfort to keep her absolutely focused. Wait until she repeats it back to you with more sincere, passioned sincerity than you just said it to her.
6. Ask her to elaborate on the phrase. Use it as a clause in a longer sentence. Insist that the sentence speak positively about the phrase. Resistance is lower here. The atmosphere is now clinical.
7. Ask her to give a short speech, extolling the truth and virtue of the original phrase. Lighten up a bit. Smile. A little humor is fine, but keep the crop close by. Don't lose control in the last leg, just show her how well she's doing, and how pleased you are.
8. Question her. No need to interrogate, just confirm that she really means the statement as much as she now realizes that she does. When she confirms your suspicion, that you have done your job well, you will know that her natural defense mechanisms have allowed her to internalize something incredibly important to her lover, owner and master.
A proud master and a pleased slave are never far apart.
This is a game I play with my sub, called the "Don't you agree?" game. A fairly simple challenge that can be quite rewarding if executed properly. Here are the rules, as well as suggestions for getting it right.
The first thing, in my opinion, before beginning any kind of a session like this is to establish a realistic sense of control. Even for those of us in 24/7 relationships, this isn't always easy. No matter what anyone tells you or leads you to believe, no human being is any more submissive than any other. We just have different limits. Your sub will submit to you, there's no doubt about that. But you've got to really make her if you want it to be a meaningful experience for either of you.
My first suggestion on creating this state is to get the energy advantage immediately. When I can express more energy than my submissive, it allows me to control the emotions involved in the scene. Then I can alternate between punishment and reward to the keep the sub in a vulnerable, confused and docile state. Energy advantage can be achieved through sleep deprivation, bondage, movement restriction, eye restriction or other ways. Selectively applied intoxicants can also create a great energy deficit between you and your sub, but aren't safe and shouldn't be used by anyone.
It always helps to use some symbolic adornment. A collar, hat, whatever that says "you belong to me" won't offer you a physical advantage, but will add to the psychological advantage powerfully. Familiar items in particular will take some tension off and let things slide a little further by creating a nice atmosphere of consent.
Once the sub is incapacitated, you gotta put it all on the line. You have a fairness advantage, it is your mighty duty as a dominant to penetrate any token resistance the poor sub may offer up. Don't push past the point to which you are willing to track back and provide after care. Truthfully though, if you're not pushing it almost to where you really wanna punch the bitch, like knock her teeth out, you're basically a sub.
So, you make the sub say something that would be very (*very*) hard to admit to, or perhaps something they just disagreed with very (*very*) strongly. The idea being, that through the steps I'm about to offer you, you can get your sub to temporarily agree with everything. Permanence = maintenance.
Simple pimple, people.
Earlier this evening, when this was an evening, I decided my very own allegedly submissive girlfriend was being entirely too bratty, nasty, pouty and plain unsubmissive. It was time to lay down the heavy hand of Mastery.
I'm not going to tell you the phrase I used, but feel free to use your imagination. Phrases in the past have been, "I love being Daddy's pussy hunter," and "I need to be hurt to feel loved." The pattern goes like this:
1. Ask her to admit to/agree with something.
If she refuses, you didn't do the first part right. When she submits, notice that there will be discernible sarcasm.
2. Ask her to repeat it.
Continue each of these phases until you feel like you have reached a new level of submission.
3. Ask her to say it with sincerity, like she means it.
At this point, the sub will try and convince you she really does mean it, but the little bug inside which makes her misbehave won't stop tickling her naughty bits. Press on.
4. Ask her to say it, like this "..."
Like most BDSM games, this is a mirroring game that requires equal participation. Her ability to repeat it with heart bleeding sincerity is going to depend on your leadership in mouthing out the words for her, exactly as you want to hear them from her sweet little dicksuckers.
5. Just say the phrase.
She should be in tune with you enough now that she is getting closer and closer to saying it almost exactly like you are. Her empathy switches are all flipped and she is channeling your emotions with nary a delay. Move slowly and offer her both pain and comfort to keep her absolutely focused. Wait until she repeats it back to you with more sincere, passioned sincerity than you just said it to her.
6. Ask her to elaborate on the phrase. Use it as a clause in a longer sentence. Insist that the sentence speak positively about the phrase. Resistance is lower here. The atmosphere is now clinical.
7. Ask her to give a short speech, extolling the truth and virtue of the original phrase. Lighten up a bit. Smile. A little humor is fine, but keep the crop close by. Don't lose control in the last leg, just show her how well she's doing, and how pleased you are.
8. Question her. No need to interrogate, just confirm that she really means the statement as much as she now realizes that she does. When she confirms your suspicion, that you have done your job well, you will know that her natural defense mechanisms have allowed her to internalize something incredibly important to her lover, owner and master.
A proud master and a pleased slave are never far apart.
