A Day in the Life

[Joe Wordsworth]

So funny, that!

You remind me of myself at your age.

Awhile back, my sister called me and told me that I must have Asberger's syndrome. That would explain EVERYTHING, she said (which worried me, because if I didn't have this limited emotional response thing organically, then things would still be MY FAULT somehow).
Well, my psychiatrist told me no. And I told her no. And she still believes that, since I don't react as emotionally as she does, there is something wrong with me.

But, I've learned some things since then-- one of them is how to at least mimic the responses, in the interests of communication. The communication I'm talking about is not the transfer of facts and knowledge, it's the give-and-take of human connectedness.

And, I've found that from mimicking, I've become more emotionally intelligent-- more sensitive. Certainly not any less abrasive in an argument, but I do feel more comfortable in conversations these days.

Food for thought.

I'm good with everything but hugs and compliments, otherwise I'm a total extrovert and perfectly interactive--moreso than the average person. Some people just don't dig certain things, I wouldn't categorize it as a disorder or something to grow out of. My father's fifty-five and doesn't like suprises, my goddaughter is four and gets shy when people say she's pretty.

 

[English Lady]

I'm good with everything but hugs and compliments, otherwise I'm a total extrovert and perfectly interactive--moreso than the average person. Some people just don't dig certain things, I wouldn't categorize it as a disorder or something to grow out of. My father's fifty-five and doesn't like suprises, my goddaughter is four and gets shy when people say she's pretty.

Awww, that is adorable. Boo would just smile and say "Yes, I know."

I understand though I do like to press this particular issue now and then

 

[lisa123414]

I'm good with everything but hugs and compliments, otherwise I'm a total extrovert and perfectly interactive--moreso than the average person. Some people just don't dig certain things, I wouldn't categorize it as a disorder or something to grow out of. My father's fifty-five and doesn't like suprises, my goddaughter is four and gets shy when people say she's pretty.

I am not so good with hugs and compliments either. I do very much envy your ability to rationally make your point. Your ability to debate without becoming emotional, especially defensive (my glaring fault), is, to say the least, impressive.

 

[Katyusha]

Hah... I know. That's what my background is in, and like all things someone has a passion for, it becomes as much a part of your everyday life as your right hand.

EL and I talk a lot, she can attest that when I talk--even every day conversation--its highly regimented and rationally cautious.

Nothing wrong with that. Logic can be used too much sometimes, but I think that too many people don't know how to be logical at all anymore. They're ruled by The Way Things Ought To Be.

 

[Katyusha]

How fucking boring life would be if we all agreed on everything.

Indeed. As a siggy I used to see on AOL a long time ago said, "If the two of you agree on everything, one of you isn't needed."

 

[Katyusha]

I'm good with everything but hugs and compliments, otherwise I'm a total extrovert and perfectly interactive--moreso than the average person. Some people just don't dig certain things, I wouldn't categorize it as a disorder or something to grow out of. My father's fifty-five and doesn't like suprises, my goddaughter is four and gets shy when people say she's pretty.

I'm great with hugs but shy away from compliments. I think a lot of people are not good with compliments...they make us slightly embarrassed instead of making us feel good (or something like that). Or (if you're like me) you just flat-out don't believe they're true, and that everyone who pays you a compliment is "just saying that."

 

[cloudy]

I'm great with hugs but shy away from compliments.

I'm the opposite: I'm fine with compliments - "Thank you" is the perfect response always - but not so much with touchy-feely stuff. I have a very definite idea of my personal space.

 

[English Lady]

I'm the opposite: I'm fine with compliments - "Thank you" is the perfect response always - but not so much with touchy-feely stuff. I have a very definite idea of my personal space.

Same here but hugs and touching with friends is fine but come in to my personal space when I don't want you to and I'll be backing away or snapping at you in moments.

 

[LoquaciousLady]

I'm great with hugs but shy away from compliments. I think a lot of people are not good with compliments...they make us slightly embarrassed instead of making us feel good (or something like that). Or (if you're like me) you just flat-out don't believe they're true, and that everyone who pays you a compliment is "just saying that."

It depends on the compliment with me. I find that if you compliment my mind I glow a little internally and "thank you" comes naturally. If it's my appearance that gets compliments my immediate gut-level reaction is "this person is trying to get something out of me - what is it and how do I avoid giving it?" It's completely illogical but there it is.

Joe, I have to say that your logic is refreshing at times. Yesterday was one of those days when I found myself pondering how the human race has survived thus far and why we're not all out grubbing around in the dirt like the idiots most of us appear to be. Then I read your dose of logic and regained a measure of respect for civilisation again. I didn't have a chance to post to thank you until now, but thanks.

 

[Joe Wordsworth]

If it's my appearance that gets compliments my immediate gut-level reaction is "this person is trying to get something out of me - what is it and how do I avoid giving it?"

If its my appearance that gets complimented, I assume that person wants dose after dose of my "Chinese boat".

 

[English Lady]

If its my appearance that gets complimented, I assume that person wants dose after dose of my "Chinese boat".

I wondered when that might be making an appearance

 

[starrkers]

It depends on the compliment with me. I find that if you compliment my mind I glow a little internally and "thank you" comes naturally. If it's my appearance that gets compliments my immediate gut-level reaction is "this person is trying to get something out of me - what is it and how do I avoid giving it?" It's completely illogical but there it is.

I remember as a small child meeting strangers and they'd say things like "Aww, she's shy". Mum would push me away from her side and snap "She is NOT shy". If they said I was pretty she'd tell them not to say it, it would give me a big head.

I don't handle compliments well. Don't believe them about my appearance and wonder what the catch is if it's anything else. I can listen to criticism much better than praise.

Rarely am I tactful, and I never know the right thing to say or do. I'm not a touchy feely person and I don't suffer fools, but regularly am one.

I've watched people interact. I can mimic it for a short time, but long-term it just doesn't work. Most of my interraction with others now is for the sake of my kids. I don't want them to be like me.

When they grow up and leave, I'll be happy alone with my cats. I understand them so much better than people.

 

[Joe Wordsworth]

I remember as a small child meeting strangers and they'd say things like "Aww, she's shy". Mum would push me away from her side and snap "She is NOT shy". If they said I was pretty she'd tell them not to say it, it would give me a big head.

I don't handle compliments well. Don't believe them about my appearance and wonder what the catch is if it's anything else. I can listen to criticism much better than praise.

Rarely am I tactful, and I never know the right thing to say or do. I'm not a touchy feely person and I don't suffer fools, but regularly am one.

I've watched people interact. I can mimic it for a short time, but long-term it just doesn't work. Most of my interraction with others now is for the sake of my kids. I don't want them to be like me.

When they grow up and leave, I'll be happy alone with my cats. I understand them so much better than people.

(Forgive me, for I am drubnk)

I'm more differnet. I'm sorta of like that person that scores 99% on all personality tests for ectroversion. I'm an exrovert. My job even requires me to be likeably, charming, and social and make friends with you in the first thrity seconds of us meeting--most of my occupations have been like that. I'm good at that. I have a "philosophy Flannel" mode, but my day-to-day is spent as a drawling (though I don't have a drawl at home), lude, lyrical, mojo-intense Flannel who will make your talking about your taxes seem like the most interesting thing in the world.

But, turth be told, I can't do compliments at all. I don't know why. Just can't. I don't know how to accept them, and am alway svery honored by them--like, mad-crazy-six-levels of honored. So, I usually clam up and try to be polite.

Hugs... not so much. I can give a hug that's meaningless... but even my sister doesn't try to hug me without warning. I don't do meaningful physical contact well. Meaningless physical contact is easy though. I have a habit of humping people for fun.

so yeah.

I'm beered.

Woo

 

[English Lady]

I'm beered.

Woo

Yes, yes you are thoroughly beered (up to the eyeballs)

want a hug?

 

[starrkers]

Drubnk at 10am, sheesh

Meaningless contact I can manage without drama. Meaningful contact doesn't work. Even hubby has trouble hugging me. He could probably count on his hands the number of times I've initiated a hug. And we've been together nearly 25 years.

The rare compliment I think is genuine and not self-serving, I react much the same as you.

But I'm more likely to remember the stinging criticism. The "You're just a prick tease" or "Don't sing in public, it's embarrassing".

 

[Stella_Omega]

Indeed. As a siggy I used to see on AOL a long time ago said, "If the two of you agree on everything, one of you isn't needed."

I can't agree with that

But, turth be told, I can't do compliments at all. I don't know why. Just can't. I don't know how to accept them, and am alway svery honored by them--like, mad-crazy-six-levels of honored. So, I usually clam up and try to be polite.

Let everyone keep this in mind.

I want to thank you for this thread, Joe, I feel like I'm starting to know you a little more-- understand your language so to speak. Not because of any particular thing you've said as much as in the way you've said things.

 

[Joe Wordsworth]

I can't agree with that
Let everyone keep this in mind.

I want to thank you for this thread, Joe, I feel like I'm starting to know you a little more-- understand your language so to speak. Not because of any particular thing you've said as much as in the way you've said things.

Virtual mediaum doesnt' help... umfortunately.

In pereson I'm kinda like a cross between Banderas as Zorro and Ryan Reynolds. I'm very centerof th eroom, and whatnot. I make funny joke. I get into your head.

Typing doesn't relate much of me except that analytical thing.

I also like beer.

 

[Stella_Omega]

Virtual mediaum doesnt' help... umfortunately.

In pereson I'm kinda like a cross between Banderas as Zorro and Ryan Reynolds. I'm very centerof th eroom, and whatnot. I make funny joke. I get into your head.

Typing doesn't relate much of me except that analytical thing.

I also like beer.

Banderas? Reynolds?
I'll have to require photographic proof of this claim. Full-length. Full-frontal.

 

[Joe Wordsworth]

Banderas? Reynolds?
I'll have to require photographic proof of this claim. Full-length. Full-frontal.

yup..

 

[LoquaciousLady]

I was a drama major in college. I'm not an extrovert but I play one in daily life if that makes sense. I play extroverted so well that few people question it. The handful of people I allow close enough to know me beyond the persona, though, know better. I'm not misanthropic, I don't hate people, but I pity them frequently and fear them constantly.

Hugs and physical contact are another story. Almost all physical contact is meaningless to me. Hugs and cheek busses and all the rest are just what you let casual acquaintances do and do to them in return. Pats on the back, the ass, whatever, are a way to avoid real words with real meaning. Not that I fail to respect the personal space of others; I inevitably wait for others to initiate contact of any kind, but when others do initiate physical contact I just sort of zone out unless some sort of other interaction is required.

Isn't it interesting to see how different or similar other people are?

 

[Belegon]

Joe, if you make me start to like you by posting as a PERSON, Lucifer Carrol is going to get really, really mad at me, damn it.

 

[jomar]

(Forgive me, for I am drubnk)

But, turth be told, I can't do compliments at all. I don't know why. Just can't. I don't know how to accept them, and am alway svery honored by them--like, mad-crazy-six-levels of honored. So, I usually clam up and try to be polite.

I have a habit of humping people for fun.

You type well for being drubnk.

Just say thanks.

Get off my leg.

You're welcome. You're cool. I like your posts.

Say thanks.

Really, get off my leg.

 

[kimbalee]

You type well for being drubnk.

Just say thanks.

Get off my leg.

You're welcome. You're cool. I like your posts.

Say thanks.

Really, get off my leg.

Some people will hump just anyone, won't they? lol

 

[LoquaciousLady]

Some people will hump just anyone, won't they? lol

You say that like it's a bad thing...