how do i pick up a girl?

[desmontjune]

i am a girl and i have a huge crush on a girl i just met a few weeks ago. i have never been with a female but i have always wanted to try it with the right one. i know she is the one i want. she is well balanced, in shape, smart, same taste in a lot of things as me. we have both talked about how we cant stand guys, so i think she could possibly be curious as well.

how do i take it to the next level? i want to stay friends with her but my desires are killing me. i want to feel her against my body and to kiss her. how can i find out if she feels the same? does anyone know a good way to bring it up? any suggestions or personal experiences like this?

 

[Laila_Aurora]

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[hoodooman]

my discovery in attractions

i think shyness/fear of rejection or ridicule keeps us from getting to the other persons genitals.....oops... i mean heart...i think we try techniques as a tool that allows us to feel safe when we're risking our dignity..

lines such as "hey baby, wanna bang?" may work if the intended is horny and too drunk to care...

but really...the best thing is to trick them...you know...or play on their empathy..."i'm locked out of my car...i haven't fucked for weeks and the dr says i'm ok...at least the scabs are gone...almost anyway"

or send your intended a note...even though valentine's day is past...a clever love note could be as good as a new ferrari (well, not really but since you won't be getting a new ferrari, try a note)...roses are red, violets are blue...if you're a fag...i am for you!...it's just a suggestion..fag isn't meant to offend..it's just a silly love poem...it rhymes..that's how you can tell it's good...

try some or all of these tips today and let us know...good luck....last tip...be ready to duck

i left out obvious ploys like offering to guess her weight or inviting her to go for a walk or a movie....that'd just be stupid...she'd see right through it...

 

[theedebster]

pick up lines

i am a girl and i have a huge crush on a girl i just met a few weeks ago. i have never been with a female but i have always wanted to try it with the right one. i know she is the one i want. she is well balanced, in shape, smart, same taste in a lot of things as me. we have both talked about how we cant stand guys, so i think she could possibly be curious as well.

how do i take it to the next level? i want to stay friends with her but my desires are killing me. i want to feel her against my body and to kiss her. how can i find out if she feels the same? does anyone know a good way to bring it up? any suggestions or personal experiences like this?

I can only tell you what has worked on me and worked for me. Girls have asked me to go to movies and then held my hand during the course of the movie. Usually, if there is going to be rejection or resistance it will happen at that time. Next, talking intimately or whispering about sexual preferences can move the process along and reveal any signs of hesitation. Later in the car or when alone, give your date a light kiss on the lips. It doesn't have to be an all out full court press type of kiss, but one that shows you want her.

 

[VampGirl]

I think you should do what your heart says you should do i knwo it sounds corny but its true. In the past i have just talked to my friends about how they feel about being with another girl, if they are open to it i just would talk to them about it and see where it went. I kissed one of my friend who was straight once and actually it because something pretty awesome. You just gotta talk about it be open and see where it takes you. Good luck hun if you ever need anything be sure to ask :smile:

 

[kbate]

Ask her.

It is fear of rejection that keeps 90% of the lbgt community from realising their love. If you don't risk - you won't live. <- period

She might say no, she might say, "I'm straight", she might laugh in your face and she might slap you - but the only way to find out if she is gay, bi, or curious and interested in you is to bring it out into the open. You could lose the friendship - you could be rejected, you could be hurt - or perhaps with some luck and the right moment - you will gain a lover.

Nothing ventured - everything remains the same.

Whatever you do - don't go to a movie and try to hold her hand or rub her boobs without having broached the subject first. That is a sure way to get hurt.

 

[desmontjune]

this all seems like good advice. i have decided that i really just need to talk to her. i spent some time with her today and it was great, but there were guys around so i couldnt talk with her about that.

she was laying on the ground and i could not stop staring at her, thinking of how pretty she looks from all angles. she is so soft. ahhhhh i wish i could be less shy about this. i am making vast improvments in my confidence though because i told a few of my friends about how i feel about her. talking it over helped me sort out what i really want in my head.

 

[Etoile]

You should definitely find out first if she's interested in women. Only way to find out is to ask her. You can try leading questions, but asking point-blank "have you ever thought about being with a girl?" is a good way to go.

 

[VampGirl]

i know everyone agrees...we wish you the best of luck with this and just remember to take it slow and be honest with her

 

[playwithlezli]

Females are usually brought up to be somewhat demure about the wish to date someone, so end up waiting to be asked. This can really slow down girl-on-girl action. You may just have to ask her "can I take you out on a date?".


Just sharing things I learnt the slow way! Geez, I missed some opportunities!

Good luck!

 

[AZLovelyLady]

Where's the Update?

So How did it go? Have you had the chance to talk to her yet?
I'm alwaus intrigued to hear about someone else's experiences!

 

[lesbiaphrodite]

I've never talked about it. I've always just done it. And, if she didn't want it, I stopped.

 

[MzChrista]

One of the best arguments for being out is that it makes this shit so much easier. Hell I have the opposite problem sometimes. If I ask a friend to go to lunch I gotta say "No I aint trying to sleep with you." hahaha

 

[VampGirl]

this past week iw as with my friend and trust me it was hard not to try the moves on her but ehh my friendship with her is worth more then a quick lay...but let me tell you it would of been hella fun!

 

[AZLovelyLady]

Frustrated

UGH! I get so frustrated when people post juicy situations like this and don't post an update!!!
How can I live vicariously through them if they don't cooperate

 

[NakedMale]

I hope that you go with your heart and talk to her. Never regret things you haven't done, only things that you have