The difference between acting slutty and being a slut...

Thoggy

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It seems to me that a good proportion of women out there need some clarification on what the difference is between acting like a slut and being a slut. Of course, it also seems to me that the world would be a better place if public sporting events all began with two attractive women engaging in a light petting session. (That is, however, not the purpose of this post. Feel free to explore this topic further at www.replacetheanthemwithchicksmakingout.com.)

The difference between the two starts with a definition of a slut. In my mind, and occasionally on late-night TV channels, a slut is a woman who engages in multiple, occasionally concurrent, sex acts with men (or women), not discriminating between who she fucks or sucks, nor the location, nor who may be watching. The discrimination part is key here, as a woman who fucks everybody is clearly a slut. She loves sex and has taken that to the extreme where distinctions of age, sex, race, appearance, number of fingers, etc. are no longer important.

Let's compare that to women who act slutty. These women love sex but they choose when, where and most importantly, who they act slutty with. They may agree to meet a man for the first time in a hotel room, to allow him to treat her like his personal sex slave, to fuck her hard and to do exactly what she wants. They do this because it excites them to act like this, to pretend for a time that they are indeed a slut. But they set limits because they aren't actually sluts. They make sure the guy wears a condom or is safe. They make sure it is discrete and that no one in their real life can find out. They choose who they act like a slut with, carefully and with some deliberation.

I love these women. These women are fantastic. These women make me get up in the morning, and then they make me jerk off thinking about them. And then, occasionally, they make me go for a jog so I remain in shape.

Sometimes, however, a problem arises. These beautiful, sexy, wonderful, sexual women, begin to regret. Despite the planning and the fact that they simply chose to play a role for a time, these women often feel guilty afterwards. They wonder why on earth they would do such a thing, they ask themselves if they are really a slut, they condemn their actions as being representative of someone who they don't actually want to be - a slut. They stop posting on Craigslist or looking through dating sites, they absorb themselves in their regular life and deny this aspect of themselves.

And I am sad. For myself and all other guys like me out there, who do not get to experience the thrill and excitement of a good girl pretending to be a slut. For the woman who denies finding such a role appealing and makes her life a little less fun, a little less worth living.

As such, I say to you, enough. I want to metaphorically grab you by your shoulders and shake you until you realize how silly this is. I also want to metaphorically cop a feel, but I will wait until later when you are more emotionally stable.

Go out, enjoy acting like a slut. Give yourself the freedom to live out your fantasies. If it turns you on to imagine a stranger fucking you up the ass and calling you a filthy slut, do it. If you love the thought of a guy going down on you in the back of a pick-up truck on a deserted road, do it. If you want to dress up like Richard Nixon and penetrate a body-builder wearing a tutu, well, uh, do it, but you should maybe seek some counseling because that shit is fucked up.

Go out and have fun, play safe and for god’s sake do not berate yourself afterwards! You were playing a role, you planned it, you chose how you wanted it and you did it. Acting like a slut does not make you a slut.

Thoggy

PS – I am always happy to provide further advice and assistance to any women who want to act like sluts. Always thinking of others, that’s me.
 
When no one responds to a post I make, I inevitably assume one of three things:

1. My message and argument was so clear, so powerful, that no one had any response but to sit there, tears streaming down their faces as they marvel at my genius.

2. My message was such an absurd piece of crap that people got three sentences in, stopped, threw up a little, then delete the message, closed down their computer and set fire to the CPU.

3. People are gatherig in groups to discuss the post, debating over relative merits until they have a coherent response they feel is worthy of being posted.

I am currently leaning towards one of these..but which one should I go towards, in your opinion?

The Thog
 
When no one responds to a post I make, I inevitably assume one of three things:

1. My message and argument was so clear, so powerful, that no one had any response but to sit there, tears streaming down their faces as they marvel at my genius.

2. My message was such an absurd piece of crap that people got three sentences in, stopped, threw up a little, then delete the message, closed down their computer and set fire to the CPU.

3. People are gatherig in groups to discuss the post, debating over relative merits until they have a coherent response they feel is worthy of being posted.

I am currently leaning towards one of these..but which one should I go towards, in your opinion?

The Thog
I'd go with #1. (but that's just my opinion........lol)

But you said alot I've wondered. Am I a slut or do I act like one. I liked how you spelled it out. Your right I'm in control of who I chat with, who I cyber with and maybe one day meet. If I dont' want to do it i don't. Sometimes I feel guilty about what I do and feel bad. I find that I can lose myself online and become slutty and enjoy myself while carrying on in real life as a good girl my sluttiness only known to those who i act slutty with.

So I guess I am a women acting slutty.

good post dont' let it go to your head though..............lol

SpunkyE
 
I was leaning towards 1) actually, but I do have an over-inflated sense of my own worth. As is likely clear, I don't think you should feel guilty about playing a role like this. I do love thinking about all of the women I interact with on a daily basis who may have secret lives where they act like a slut. It is, in fact, on of my favourite fantasies. That the bank manager I am chatting with had phone sex the night before where she begged a man to pump a load over her face and call her a dirty cum-loving whore. Yeah, I have an active imagination.
 
I was leaning towards 1) actually, but I do have an over-inflated sense of my own worth. As is likely clear, I don't think you should feel guilty about playing a role like this. I do love thinking about all of the women I interact with on a daily basis who may have secret lives where they act like a slut. It is, in fact, on of my favourite fantasies. That the bank manager I am chatting with had phone sex the night before where she begged a man to pump a load over her face and call her a dirty cum-loving whore. Yeah, I have an active imagination.
I would have to say having an active imagination is a good thing..........lol Having that active imagination means that you are never bored and probably are not boring to those around you...................lol. I need to go read your lit story and see what that imagination does..............lol

And hey this thread is getting my post count up............lol
 
lmao...a simple man with simple needs...dont stop now
Post, post, POST POST POST. u should be cumming by now.............lol

ok i dont' think this is what thoggy envisioned for his post................lol
 
While I may be considered a post-whore at times, where any reply is a good reply, I sense a disturbing lack of sex and nudity in the thread responses so far.

As I see it, the solution is simple. Someone must get naked and offer sex.

Jesus people, don't make me do everything myself.

Hop to it.
 
While I may be considered a post-whore at times, where any reply is a good reply, I sense a disturbing lack of sex and nudity in the thread responses so far.

As I see it, the solution is simple. Someone must get naked and offer sex.

Jesus people, don't make me do everything myself.

Hop to it.
ummmmm <<<<<flashes her boobs in thoggy's face<<<<<<

is that closer to what you want.............lol

SpunkyE
 
Women can own their sexuality however they choose.

To me the word "slut" and "slutty" is used as a way to demean women and their sexuality.

So in answer to your question no, there is no difference because neither is a respectful term for women having sex.
 
It was an incredible post Thoggy, I've only just found it myself, can there be a difference between acting slutting and actually being a slut well I would love to say that there is because there is a difference between someone being in control of their sexuality and just chosing to be used andf allowing men/women to take advantage of her but the problem I see if with using the word slut at all because to be honest Noor is right, it is a demeaning term and in my personal opinion one that NO ONE should ever be called.

So I agree with the theory but would personally chose to think of a different wording, not that I can think of one right now
 
It is late in my frozen neck of the woods but I can't sleep and will try to formulate a defense of the word slut.

I am in the interesting position of both agreeing with the fact that the word is demaning to woman as well as thinking the word is actually perfectly appropriate. After all, I am not talking simply about women expressing their sexuality. That can be done in many forms and many ways and the majority of them don't involve demeaning sex.

I am specifically talking about women choosing to act slutty. To deliberately demean themselves, to take a load on their face from a guy who is calling her a dirty cumslut. To willingly bend over, asshole lubed up, to take a dick from a man who is using her for his pleasure, fucking her how he wants. To give in to the needs and desires of another, to be WANTED so completely and powerfully that her will in the matter is irrelvant.

I think most women who enjoy acting slutty do so because it is demeaning, because it subsuming your wishes to that of another, because to be wanted like that, to be taken like that, is god damn sexy.

Acting slutty is the opposite of boring, conventional sex. I know that there are those who will say that you have enjoyed (and continue to enjoy) hot, passionate sex that is not demeaning to the woman at all. That she does not have to act like a slut (or be treated like one) in order to cum like crazy. I don't dispute this. I do, however, think that for a lot of women, acting like a slut lets them be treated like a slut, lets them do things they would never normally do, because the guy they are with, treats them so differently than "normal".

I will continue to use the term slut, because it implies wanton, unrestricted, dirty, hot sex. If a woman wants to act slutty for brief period, to vacation from the restrained, polite persona she wears in most parts of her life, then go for it and for god's sake don't feel bad about it. Whatever you do, don't listen to anyone who tells you that doing so is demeaning to you. No one else should tell you how to express your sexuality.

Now, I am going to bed. I expect the resulting flood of angry postings to be limited to 17 per person, with elizabethean imagry and at least one made up swear word.

Cheers.
 
I swear to God that one of these days I will stop stalking your posts, I really will.

Until then I might be able to give some insight to your problem. I'll do my best as it is insanely late.

Women want it all. They want to be able to be uninhibited, do all the dirty, nasty things most only fantasize about, and then be cuddled and loved. It isn't very satisfying to have the most incredible sex of your life and then go home to an empty bed... or the husband whose idea of passion is "let me do ya real quick before I go to bed." So while, for some, it is exciting to be objectified, after a while that is all it is, objectification. Women need emotion, they need to know that after they are done being slutty, they are still respected and loved.

What I want to know is, why is it so hard to find a man capable of both?
 
I swear to God that one of these days I will stop stalking your posts, I really will.

Until then I might be able to give some insight to your problem. I'll do my best as it is insanely late.

Women want it all. They want to be able to be uninhibited, do all the dirty, nasty things most only fantasize about, and then be cuddled and loved. It isn't very satisfying to have the most incredible sex of your life and then go home to an empty bed... or the husband whose idea of passion is "let me do ya real quick before I go to bed." So while, for some, it is exciting to be objectified, after a while that is all it is, objectification. Women need emotion, they need to know that after they are done being slutty, they are still respected and loved.

What I want to know is, why is it so hard to find a man capable of both?

I think they are out there, I'm one of them. The problem is getting a match with someone who has similar ideas sexually, and that you can actually have an emotional and intellectual connection.
 
What I want to know is, why is it so hard to find a man capable of both?

I can see what you mean, some women get an incredible sexual rush by acting and/or being treated like it and I wasn't trying to deny that. By saying that no woman should be called a slut what I was trying to explain is that all women deserve not just respect but they deserve an honest emotional connection.

I don't know its just my opinion for what its worth. I have no problem with experimentation personally, its one of the best things in a relationship whether its long or short term.
 
Thanks all for the comments and postings. It appears that we have completely exhausted this topic, thus I move on to my next one.

Having sex with women while playing XBox 360 - horribly rude or just good time management skills?

Cheers.
 
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