Collars

[satindesire]

I agree, and I can add that all of her is very gorgeous!

Aww, you guys are the best!!!

 

[satindesire]

Do you wear that daily?

No, as I believe I take my submission far further and am much more dedicated to being a sub than he is to being my Dom, he has only asked me to wear the collar a few times in the 2 years we've been together.

If it were my choice, I would wear it everyday.

 

[@}-}rebecca----]

Would you wear a collar if you were asked to?

: laughs : Very doubtful, though now you have spiked my curiosity. Why all the questions on collars please ? Writing a story, personal investment of some kind, inquiring minds .......

 

[Mrs. Sanj]

See this is me. I'm very sentimental as well ( I even keep the envelopes Jounar sends my chistmas gifts to me in ).A collar is a big deal to me, and I won't accept one unless that person knows what it means to me, and feels the same.

Jounar hasn't "officially" collared me yet. He believes that's something best left to inperson, and I agree. I do how ever have a collar that is "his". The first collar I ever bought, and it was bought under his sugestion. Simple black leather dog collar I got at the pet store that has a purple heartshaped tag on it with "If found please return to Ireland" on it. I have another tag "slut propety of Jounar" which was the first one, but we like the new tag better.

I have another collar that means a lot to me that was hand crafted by some one special. It's very simple. He made it from bicycle spokes and is very much like the eturnity collars I have always wanted. It has a small pad lock (we replaced the one in the picture with a silver one that has a rhinestone "g" on it, for "giggles" his pet name for me).

I do have other collars. A red sparkly one we call my "christmas collar" that was given to me this christmas. And a couple others that are mostly to fit my style and mood. They're all from the pet store. *shurg* When I like one, I buy it.

I hope you don't mind but I am a little confused. You said that a collar is a big deal to you and you haven't been officially collared but you still wear some on occasions. Do those collars have significance too or is it just something that you like to wear.

I hope I will. Its something we have talked about a lot. I guess we just haven't got around to it yet....and I am trying to wait patiently til he decides the right time

I kinda know what the ideal one would look like. If it were a necklace, it would be very simple in design, probably a plain silver choker.
Though I've seen other ideas I like....a silver chain with a small o ring on it, a chain with autralian stone on it (he is an aussie *grin*) and a delicate silver bracelet with a small lock on it.

*trying really hard to not ask if he goes down under*

No, as I believe I take my submission far further and am much more dedicated to being a sub than he is to being my Dom, he has only asked me to wear the collar a few times in the 2 years we've been together.

If it were my choice, I would wear it everyday.

Has he asked you to take it off on those few occasions when he's asked you to wear it?

: laughs : Very doubtful, though now you have spiked my curiosity. Why all the questions on collars please ? Writing a story, personal investment of some kind, inquiring minds .......

Personal investment of sorts and inquiring mind.

 

[minx1]

*trying really hard to not ask if he goes down under*

*giggles and blushes*

 

[Bandit58]

Does your wedding ring have the same symbolism as your collar to you?

It means I'm married He wears one as well. Both the collar and rings represent that we are in a committed relationship, the collar symbolises the type of relationship, that's all

I don't like the terms "owned" or "property". I'm not a dog, car, piece of furniture or a house. I just happen to be a submissive woman who's in a LTR with a Dominant man.

 

[Mrs. Sanj]

*giggles and blushes*

Come on you left yourself open for that one, I couldn't help it.

It means I'm married He wears one as well. Both the collar and rings represent that we are in a committed relationship, the collar symbolises the type of relationship, that's all

I don't like the terms "owned" or "property". I'm not a dog, car, piece of furniture or a house. I just happen to be a submissive woman who's in a LTR with a Dominant man.

That makes perfect sense to me.

 

[YourCaptor]

How would you design the collar to represent the milestones and memories? What kinds of accessories would you add to achieve that?

Top secret

just kidding

One way to do it is with decoration, you know, kind of like how big time generals always show off their stuff.

Another way is trough function, at first the collar might be worn loosely, so that the dom can easily grab hold and guide the sub. Then the tightening of the collar could signify a form of graduating to the next level.

My plan is a combination of the two, function and decoration, but with a minimalist approach. Thats all I will reveal, the rest is personal.

 

[Qpet05]

Master and i discussed this the other day. When Master and i first got together He placed a training collar on me.. one that i wore as His request when W/we had a session or when i was way from Him (such as when i was driving to and from work) One day i lost that physical collar. i was punished for that...

Master has not replaced that collar.. BUT i AM collared BY Master... i am His.. the piece of cloth that i lost was just the physical manifestation of His Ownership and Control of me. That is something that i will NEVER lose.

Master has said that yes He could replace the physical collar but why?? it would just be a replacement it would have NONE of the significance that the one i lost had.. it would have no real "value" aside from being a very loving gift from Master..

So although i DONT have a physical collar for others to see.. i AM collared and enjoy being so!

 

[@}-}rebecca----]

Top secret

just kidding

One way to do it is with decoration, you know, kind of like how big time generals always show off their stuff.

Another way is trough function, at first the collar might be worn loosely, so that the dom can easily grab hold and guide the sub. Then the tightening of the collar could signify a form of graduating to the next level.

My plan is a combination of the two, function and decoration, but with a minimalist approach. Thats all I will reveal, the rest is personal.

ohhh like a kinky charm bracelet.

 

[YourCaptor]

ohhh like a kinky charm bracelet.

That makes it sound lesser,

must find way to make it better

 

[myinnerslut]

i wear a necklace 24/7. A made the charm, i just strung it on a silver chain. its a heart that he did some etching on. its made of two pieces of metal pressed together. on the inside it says "property of ****his name***". it is encased in copper wire, like a cage, that holds it all together. becuase i am going into education, i cant wear anything obvious.

 

[rida]

I have a very simple gold neckless (double single strand) that Hubby gave me as a present just around the time we started to explore D/s. I never take it off, and I've got to think of it as His collar.

Than I have a very cute dog one (leather with silver and turquoise decoration ... ok, metal and plastic) that I'll most likely never wear again. I bought it myself for a special person, as a sign of a special connection. I used to wear it for our interactions and keep it under my pillow the rest of the time. It is now in a little pouch, in my bed-stand.

Hubby is not much into objects as symbols, while I am all over it, and as such I tend to keep things that represent certain people/friends in my life (a hair-clasp from my best friend in high school, a scarf from a very dear friend, and so on)

As Hubby is not a crafty one and will never make me a collar, I'd love one day to have one of those jewlery-style locked collars that Miss Rebecca showed in her link, the one with the key in the shape of a ring for the Master to wear.

 

[the captians wench]

I hope you don't mind but I am a little confused. You said that a collar is a big deal to you and you haven't been officially collared but you still wear some on occasions. Do those collars have significance too or is it just something that you like to wear.

Accepting a collar from some one is a big deal to me. Even if they just mean it as "I saw this and I thought you would like it". I just don't accept collars as gifts unless they are from some one with specail significance in my life.

The ones I mentioned that I wear depending on my mood, are ones I have bought. They hold significance in some instances, but I bought them because I saw them and thought they looked cool.

 

[Mrs. Sanj]

Top secret

just kidding

One way to do it is with decoration, you know, kind of like how big time generals always show off their stuff.

Another way is trough function, at first the collar might be worn loosely, so that the dom can easily grab hold and guide the sub. Then the tightening of the collar could signify a form of graduating to the next level.

My plan is a combination of the two, function and decoration, but with a minimalist approach. Thats all I will reveal, the rest is personal.

Sounds like you have a pretty good grasp on what it is that you want.

Master and i discussed this the other day. When Master and i first got together He placed a training collar on me.. one that i wore as His request when W/we had a session or when i was way from Him (such as when i was driving to and from work) One day i lost that physical collar. i was punished for that...

Master has not replaced that collar.. BUT i AM collared BY Master... i am His.. the piece of cloth that i lost was just the physical manifestation of His Ownership and Control of me. That is something that i will NEVER lose.

Master has said that yes He could replace the physical collar but why?? it would just be a replacement it would have NONE of the significance that the one i lost had.. it would have no real "value" aside from being a very loving gift from Master..

So although i DONT have a physical collar for others to see.. i AM collared and enjoy being so!

Losing that had to have been horrible for you.

i wear a necklace 24/7. A made the charm, i just strung it on a silver chain. its a heart that he did some etching on. its made of two pieces of metal pressed together. on the inside it says "property of ****his name***". it is encased in copper wire, like a cage, that holds it all together. becuase i am going into education, i cant wear anything obvious.

That's a cute idea. The copper wire signifies the binding of the two of you.

I have a very simple gold neckless (double single strand) that Hubby gave me as a present just around the time we started to explore D/s. I never take it off, and I've got to think of it as His collar.

Than I have a very cute dog one (leather with silver and turquoise decoration ... ok, metal and plastic) that I'll most likely never wear again. I bought it myself for a special person, as a sign of a special connection. I used to wear it for our interactions and keep it under my pillow the rest of the time. It is now in a little pouch, in my bed-stand.

Hubby is not much into objects as symbols, while I am all over it, and as such I tend to keep things that represent certain people/friends in my life (a hair-clasp from my best friend in high school, a scarf from a very dear friend, and so on)

As Hubby is not a crafty one and will never make me a collar, I'd love one day to have one of those jewlery-style locked collars that Miss Rebecca showed in her link, the one with the key in the shape of a ring for the Master to wear.

Most women are more attached to physical objects than men, it normally means more to us. I wonder if your master had such a collar if he would wear it.

Accepting a collar from some one is a big deal to me. Even if they just mean it as "I saw this and I thought you would like it". I just don't accept collars as gifts unless they are from some one with specail significance in my life.

The ones I mentioned that I wear depending on my mood, are ones I have bought. They hold significance in some instances, but I bought them because I saw them and thought they looked cool.

Ok, I understand your position now. It's the act of giving the collar that is significant to you.



What surprised me the most is that some subs don't wear their collars all of the time. The relationship between a Dom and Sub to me would be all day, every day. The collar in my opinion would serve as a constant reminder to both of the commitment the two have made. The different designs and styles are fascinating and has me very curious to all of the kinds that exist.

 

[myinnerslut]

That's a cute idea. The copper wire signifies the binding of the two of you.

hahahaha

in truth, the copper was all me. i make jewlery so i had the copper wire around, and the link h made me broke the first time the necklace was tugged hard so i came up with the copper cage, as we sometimes refer to it.

i also have a few collars for play, but those remain for play.

i used to wear a choker that was bought specifically to be my collar. i wore it for seven months but then developed a skin reaction to the metal so had to switch back to this necklace.

 

[serijules]

Accepting a collar from some one is a big deal to me. Even if they just mean it as "I saw this and I thought you would like it". I just don't accept collars as gifts unless they are from some one with specail significance in my life.

The ones I mentioned that I wear depending on my mood, are ones I have bought. They hold significance in some instances, but I bought them because I saw them and thought they looked cool.

I have a few like that as well, some Ma'am gave me permission to buy or bought for me, some I've had from previous playmates and whatnot. I rarely wear them but once in awhile they are great for parties or dressing up or whatnot. Now that I have a permanent collar, they come out much less often, but they are still cute and cool. Especially my burgundy velvet one Ma'am bought for me, even though I've never worn it! lol

 

[Stegral]

here are mine.
the bracelet is the newest "gift" from my Top.

I have 9 collars I wear but I am not owned.
I too LOVE the feel of something heavy or tight around my neck.
1) is a simple lambskin stitched choker with hook. A snake charm is on it. (purchased)
2) is a 4 cord round braid. A unicorn charm & stones are on it. (purchased)
3) is a 4 strand braid. A simple lock charm on it (hand made)
4) is a 6 strand braid. a truck charm woven into it (hand made)
5) is a single strap bridle leather with buckle (hand made)
6) is my first "collar" from my Top He does chainmaille (hand made) charm added later
7) is a chainmaille necklace but is also display cuffs (hand made)
8) is a simple chain & lock I wear on my ankle when I am really down (hand made)
9) is a play collar made from a belt off an old soft leather coat, d-rings, jump rings & a lock.
I made it for the fella I Top but I wear it at home on occasion

I have actually sold 3 chockers/collars.
2 were for jewelery (but BDSM inclined, she has no owner).
1 one for an actual D/S relationship, they had been trying to find something leather but with sterling silver ends, custom sized & was not finding anything. I was in a chat room showing off mine & the sub fell in love & brought her Master over to see them (I was on a cam) He promptly asked me about them & if I could work with sterling silver as His slave had sensitivity to all but 18+ carat gold & 925+ sterling silver, even surgical steel irritated her they found out. I told him I would try & made a few testers to show Him & was commisioned to do a 6 strand with SS ends. took me alot of ends to get it right but I learned alot from it. SS is a very soft metal & is NOT good for any kind of harshness.
But they LOVED it & that is all that matters

I love all my collars & hope to someday wear one proudly.

 

[@}-}rebecca----]

That makes it sound lesser,

must find way to make it better

Oh not at all, it was a descriptive. I have a charm bracelet, combination of charms my mother collected for herself, charms she collected for me when she started mine, charms I purchased myself all collated on the one bracelet as I inherited the 'original' from my mother after her premature death, it's the most precious & sentimental piece of jewelery I own. Nothing represented on it is haphazard, each piece represents a significant time or place. I know all the stories and I still view the charms with all the same fascination I retained as a child when permitted to do so.

I should wear it more often, it makes the most outrageous jingle noises where ever I go, I sound like Christmas : laughs : It's also extremely heavy and has an innate knack for catching on clothes/things.

I can certainly see the idea transfered in a D/s sense.

 

[@}-}rebecca----]

As Hubby is not a crafty one and will never make me a collar, I'd love one day to have one of those jewlery-style locked collars that Miss Rebecca showed in her link, the one with the key in the shape of a ring for the Master to wear.

Glad you like it Rida, it really is conceptually about the masculine ring the more I consider it. Has to be, because I have kind of an aversion to something metal and fixed being around my neck. There is also no way in my lifetime that I could wear anything that appears as a standard collar in my day to day dealings ( take me to a deserted Island we'll talk ) . It would be noticed as some kind of anomaly ( not necessary with any immediacy to D/s ) and I wouldn't put myself in a position to have to deal with the outfall of that. I have to be guarded enough with the things that inadvertently slip out in conversation when I am talking to people, free advertising no thanks !

 

[the captians wench]

I have a few like that as well, some Ma'am gave me permission to buy or bought for me, some I've had from previous playmates and whatnot. I rarely wear them but once in awhile they are great for parties or dressing up or whatnot. Now that I have a permanent collar, they come out much less often, but they are still cute and cool. Especially my burgundy velvet one Ma'am bought for me, even though I've never worn it! lol

*giggles* Exactly!

I love my "christmas collar" but it's a little small and well red glitter *giggles* so I haven't actually worn that one out. Then I have one that I usually wear to a club we go to on thursday nights (one I bought that's pattent leather with rhinestones on the buckle and a matching leash) that's just really fun to wear out there, kinda dressy like.

I wear the one I posted a lot to work, but like I said I have a cute silver and rhinestone lock for it now. Then the leather one with the purple tag I wear a lot at home and sometimes I wear it out, tho not as often since i have the silver one. But both of those are special to me.

 

[rida]

Most women are more attached to physical objects than men, it normally means more to us. I wonder if your master had such a collar if he would wear it.

Good question whether Hubby would wear the ring or not. He does wear his wedding band, but that is as far as he goes with accessory. I guess I'll have to have the ring/key to look like a wedding band. But that is not going to happen anytime soon ... so it is all just speculation

Glad you like it Rida, it really is conceptually about the masculine ring the more I consider it. Has to be, because I have kind of an aversion to something metal and fixed being around my neck. There is also no way in my lifetime that I could wear anything that appears as a standard collar in my day to day dealings ( take me to a deserted Island we'll talk ) . It would be noticed as some kind of anomaly ( not necessary with any immediacy to D/s ) and I wouldn't put myself in a position to have to deal with the outfall of that. I have to be guarded enough with the things that inadvertently slip out in conversation when I am talking to people, free advertising no thanks !

I could not wear something too obvious either when in a work setting, but luckly in a more casual setting a choker-like accessary would not rise any question. The good thing of leaving in a big city were a lot of the craziest fashin trends are born

 

[Bandit58]

What surprised me the most is that some subs don't wear their collars all of the time. The relationship between a Dom and Sub to me would be all day, every day. The collar in my opinion would serve as a constant reminder to both of the commitment the two have made. The different designs and styles are fascinating and has me very curious to all of the kinds that exist.

I wear mine all the time. It's only removed to shower and to wash and colour my hair. If I ever forget to put it back on, I feel naked without it!

 

[serijules]

I can certainly see the idea transfered in a D/s sense.

I have two bracelets that are exactly that. Both are italian charm bracelets, and both are from Ma'am. One has a dolphin (her symbol) on each link and a gold letter D, the other is various charms she's given me over the years. For my birthday she got me one with my slave register number and one with the chinese symbol for horse (I'm her pony).

Other charms include a lock, "i love you", chinese for beautiful, our anniversary, bite me, a horseshoe, and a garnet.

I wear one on each wrist and it feels like cuffs, which is neat. I never take them off.

I also have a charm bracelet like you described, with dangly charms....most are BDSM related and fun to collect. I rarely wear it, but I love to look at it.

 

[Qpet05]

Losing that had to have been horrible for you.

Yes it was.. i felt very ashamed for doing it and the punishment is one i NEVER want to repeat... Master banished me from His precense.

That was over a year ago and i STILL felt alot of guilt about it.. even though Master had forgiven me i hadn't forgiven myself..

The talk Master and i had the other day has finally allowed me to forgive myself.. and i understand that i never LOST Master's collar.. i have always had it and i WILL always have it!!