see another typical guy...lol
Why do nice guys finish "LAST"?
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see another typical guy...lol
I am pleased to see that now one has preferred an asshole....lol
spunkyE
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U know i've been wondering this to myself. I might have a real nice guy lined up (non lit) and i'm scared crapless. it's gotta be too good. I know as soon as i meet him he's probably not the nice guy he seems.
but then again i'm torn between nice and bad so who am i to answer your question.......lol
SpunkyE
but then again i'm torn between nice and bad so who am i to answer your question.......lol
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AND then when you meet them eventually you think you will want to break up with them so you just stop talking to them so you won't have to break their cute little heart!
or maybe thats just me.............
Cheyenne
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Nice guys don't automatically finish last so I can't answer your poll.
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Humans are stupid.
Women are human.
Women are stupid.
Yes, there are a number of women who will gladly date the scum of the earth and happily be treated like utter crap.
I don't know if you saw it, but about a week ago, a man posted a thread asking why his girlfriend rejected his offer of marriage to wait for a man spending time in jail for molesting his stepdaughter to get out. The consensus was that she was nuts, and he would be better with someone else. As tragic as it is that there are women like this, I refuse to believe they're the majority. Moreover, I think the *real* nice guys of the world deserve a well-balanced and loving partner.
There's no shame in a desperate, unhealthy woman leaving you for an abuser. In fact, it's a good thing for the person who's 'dumped.'
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Yes, humans are stupid.
Yes, women are human.
Yes, women are stupid.
YES, to all of the above...equally so for men.
We are all idiots, in our idiotic ways...get over it.
Yes, women are human.
Yes, women are stupid.
YES, to all of the above...equally so for men.
We are all idiots, in our idiotic ways...get over it.
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Love the illustrative syllogism.
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My theories on this: Insecurity + lack of self-confidance, a pinch of pessamism brought on by the unknown (how the situation will pan out)..add a dash of despiration = a self-fulfilling prophesy.
Prime example.
A man wins $20 Million. He buys a 2007 Dodge Viper, racing stripes, dual exhaust, the works.
Within a week he crashes it.
Why?
Simple.
Subconsciously, he didn't feel he deserved it. So, ergo, his subconscious removed it from his posession.
Same with relationships. If you date inside of your range (within a limit where you feel you have a right to be dating that person) you do well. You get along....you have equal levels of intelligence, wit, attractability, sexual appetites, etc.
Go outside that (up for instance) and suddenly one morning you wake up and wonder if this hot woman/man laying in bed next to you is seeing someone else. Now you start looking for signs. You begin to sabotage the relationship. And they've never even done anything to you.
Subconsciously you don't feel you deserve them.
Likewise...go down towards the bottom of the equasion and now you don't respect them. You begin to take them for granted. You cheat on them, you look at other men/women, etc.
Natural selection. We're hardwired to find an equal in temperment, psychology and sexual appetite.
We cannot help it.
What about the origional question you ask?
Why do women pick assholes and burn the hell out of nice guys? (who then turn into assholes and women wonder why...likewise with good women, etc.)
Well....that goes back to low self-esteem as well as security. Women NEED security. Whether it be financial, emotional, psychological or whatnot.
(yes, I am a big fan of human interraction and reasoning between the sexes. Just count your lucky stars I'm not giving you the long winded version)
So...good girls with bad men is a matter of low self-esteem as well as security. Why security (instead of INsecurity) you say? Where is there security in assholes?
Well....with an asshole, atleast you know what to expect.
Security. Secure in the knowladge that he will always do you wrong so atleast you won't be suprised. No fear of any unknown element there.
Whereas with a nice guy...he can remain nice OR turn asshole depending on his upbringing and past experiences.
And if I've learned ANYTHING it's that a woman's heart is her soul's connection to the outside world. Crush that and they're done for a while.
Be kind to their Achille's Heels boys.
(and they will be careful of yours....pride/being respected by the one you love)
*winks*
Prime example.
A man wins $20 Million. He buys a 2007 Dodge Viper, racing stripes, dual exhaust, the works.
Within a week he crashes it.
Why?
Simple.
Subconsciously, he didn't feel he deserved it. So, ergo, his subconscious removed it from his posession.
Same with relationships. If you date inside of your range (within a limit where you feel you have a right to be dating that person) you do well. You get along....you have equal levels of intelligence, wit, attractability, sexual appetites, etc.
Go outside that (up for instance) and suddenly one morning you wake up and wonder if this hot woman/man laying in bed next to you is seeing someone else. Now you start looking for signs. You begin to sabotage the relationship. And they've never even done anything to you.
Subconsciously you don't feel you deserve them.
Likewise...go down towards the bottom of the equasion and now you don't respect them. You begin to take them for granted. You cheat on them, you look at other men/women, etc.
Natural selection. We're hardwired to find an equal in temperment, psychology and sexual appetite.
We cannot help it.
What about the origional question you ask?
Why do women pick assholes and burn the hell out of nice guys? (who then turn into assholes and women wonder why...likewise with good women, etc.)
Well....that goes back to low self-esteem as well as security. Women NEED security. Whether it be financial, emotional, psychological or whatnot.
(yes, I am a big fan of human interraction and reasoning between the sexes. Just count your lucky stars I'm not giving you the long winded version)
So...good girls with bad men is a matter of low self-esteem as well as security. Why security (instead of INsecurity) you say? Where is there security in assholes?
Well....with an asshole, atleast you know what to expect.
Security. Secure in the knowladge that he will always do you wrong so atleast you won't be suprised. No fear of any unknown element there.
Whereas with a nice guy...he can remain nice OR turn asshole depending on his upbringing and past experiences.
And if I've learned ANYTHING it's that a woman's heart is her soul's connection to the outside world. Crush that and they're done for a while.
Be kind to their Achille's Heels boys.
(and they will be careful of yours....pride/being respected by the one you love)
*winks*
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Don't know if this has been said or not, because I didn't read the responses before voting and posting.
I answered 'don't know' because my answer doesn't fit with any of the choices. I think 'nice guys finish last' because we (women in general) don't think we want a nice guy, so we don't look at them and instead end up with a string of wrong guys. That, or we do want a nice guy, but just don't want to admit it for some reason.
I, personally, have always wanted a nice guy, and apparently when you're looking for them, they're tough to find. Fortunately, I think I may have actually found one.
I answered 'don't know' because my answer doesn't fit with any of the choices. I think 'nice guys finish last' because we (women in general) don't think we want a nice guy, so we don't look at them and instead end up with a string of wrong guys. That, or we do want a nice guy, but just don't want to admit it for some reason.
I, personally, have always wanted a nice guy, and apparently when you're looking for them, they're tough to find. Fortunately, I think I may have actually found one.
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add passive aggressive and whiny to that list.
It almost sounds as if your just jealous
Don't know if this has been said or not, because I didn't read the responses before voting and posting.
I answered 'don't know' because my answer doesn't fit with any of the choices. I think 'nice guys finish last' because we (women in general) don't think we want a nice guy, so we don't look at them and instead end up with a string of wrong guys. That, or we do want a nice guy, but just don't want to admit it for some reason.
I, personally, have always wanted a nice guy, and apparently when you're looking for them, they're tough to find. Fortunately, I think I may have actually found one.
But, why is that? Why are women in general afraid to admit what they are lookin for? Are they the ones intimidated? Or they do they think that it is a general rule of thumb to be with the bad guys?
Wow, thats pretty much all I can say thats pretty fuckin deep man! (I almost had to check my math....lol)
From what my single friends tell me, it seems that women have cause to be afraid to admit what they're looking for.
I have yet to hear one woman tell me she was honest about her wishes and intentions and not get screwed over for it.
So women learn: most do not tell, even though they're dying to share.
Maybe I am generalizing, and yes there are exceptions, but more often than not that is the way it got played out.
Sad, but true.
It doesn't matter there is no wrong answer I do understand both sides.
Yes, I agree it is sad, but true! My wife was all her life finding love with the bad guys. One even used to beat her! She stayed with him for five yrs. She finally left him, but then found another who raped her, and so on until she met another nicer guy he was decent just didn't have what she wanted (not sure what that was). Then she met me.
It can also be a lot more subtle than that, but no less damaging:
If you only knew the number of female friends who've told me about a budding romance, which initially had made them feel happy, only to realise that once the guy understood they had "those" feelings, they suddenly cooled things off as fast as they could.
Evidently, according to these women, there are quite a few men out there who get off on the chase, the seduction, get a real kick out of seeing these women drop their emotional guard... then quit on them because they got what they wanted: the confirmation that they have the power to seduce.
In my opinion, such men are even bigger pussies than the ones who hit: because it's always possible to hit a man back, but when the heart is wounded, it's another matter.
Yes, but not always! Its not right either way. Those aren't nice guys, they are posers or whatever you want to call them. The real nice guys that I am referring to are the ones where shivalry still exists. You, the old fashion type stuff. Little things like opening car doors or whatever. i treated women like that and i always got the "your nice and all but, can we be friends" and go back to the losers that treated the opposite.
I'm not whining either I'm just explaining. I just moved on till I found the right one. I'm just defending the guys where its still happening is all
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It’s a stupid saying that doesn’t have to be true unless that’s your mantra.
Self-fulfilling prophecies, and all…
Self-fulfilling prophecies, and all…
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So, yeah. The guys in question are asshats. I have to ask, though. Would it be better for your friends if they had kept quiet about their feelings?
it sounds like you finished last alot. Your welcome to vent here anytime. But, talk about the ladies that way unless they ask.
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I generally don't finish last. I hover around 2nd place alot.
