Panties and privacy

starrkers

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Is it OK to go through your partner's panties drawer to check out what's in there?
 
Not really, that's just one of those eekk moments. Besides you should know most of the good stuff doesn't go in the panty drawer anyway. ;)
 
I was in my partner's panties drawer all the time.

Because where else would I put her panties after I did the laundry?

And it wasn't like I was invading some kind of new level of privacy by doing so. After all, I had permission to snoop around in her crotch. So what's a bunch of underwear?

But spying is never ok, among panties or elsewhere, if that's what you were really asking.
 
Back off, man! The only way you should be getting into your partners panties is if you're the one taking them off her!

(Besides, women hide things in nightstands and shoe boxes in the closet. I thought you knew that!)
 
Back off, man! The only way you should be getting into your partners panties is if you're the one taking them off her!
Well that did happen on occasion.

I repeat: Where were I supposed to put her panties if not in the drawer? I know she'd been mightily pissed if I'd just left them lying about.

(Besides, women hide things in nightstands and shoe boxes in the closet. I thought you knew that!)
I know now. Thanks for the hint. :D
 
I know some will disagree with this completely, but I believe that even married people have a right to expect some degree of privacy.

I don't go through his wallet or his cell, and he shouldn't go through my purse or my cell, either.

'course, butthead believes in privacy for him (I can't even ask where he's going when he leaves without him getting mad), but he feels completely free to paw through my purse - or at least he did until I started putting a set mousetrap in it at random times. :devil:
 
Well, it depends... how does he feel about someone rummaging through his panties? :D

Couldn't resist...
 
I know some will disagree with this completely, but I believe that even married people have a right to expect some degree of privacy.

I don't go through his wallet or his cell, and he shouldn't go through my purse or my cell, either.

I agree COMPLETELY
 
i think a quick rummage might be ok, but if you're trying the panties on, she had a right to know (and object, if she chooses).
 
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I do the laundry and often rummage around in there, mostly trying to make room to put the clean ones away amid all the knives, folded bits of paper, rocks, assorted bits of flotsam and jetsam, etc. Every once iin a while I gather up all those "treasures" and pile them on the bed and ask if he could please find a new home for these so I can get the top drawer to shut again.

As far as "snooping" goes, nah. That's not right. We're all entitled to our secrets.
 
I know some will disagree with this completely, but I believe that even married people have a right to expect some degree of privacy.

I don't go through his wallet or his cell, and he shouldn't go through my purse or my cell, either.

'course, butthead believes in privacy for him (I can't even ask where he's going when he leaves without him getting mad), but he feels completely free to paw through my purse - or at least he did until I started putting a set mousetrap in it at random times. :devil:

I just spewed my expensive English tea all over my monitor. Thanks for the giggle.

It's wrong to snoop, even in a marriage, but every now and then we can't help ourselves. We sometimes take a peek. Then the guilt starts. Did I do wrong? I didn't see anything, so does it count?

I have many secrets, but none of them would jeopardize my marriage. I just like my privacy. I've always been that way. He had to come to terms with that. I once found him going through my cell phone. It irked me to no end, but I couldn't decide if I was angry at the thought that maybe he didn't trust me, or pissed at the violation of my privacy.

I've never caught him going through my purse, though. I have his mother to thank for that. She taught him if you want to go through a woman's purse, you better be prepared to find out what's in there. He decided long ago that he'd rather not. A woman's purse is the most sacred of personal property and no one--man or woman--should violate that. It's the stuff that could start a bitter war.

If he ever decides to take a peek, I'm going to remember the mouse trap. In fact, I might just put one in my underwear drawer for good measure. It would be good for a laugh.
 
I just spewed my expensive English tea all over my monitor. Thanks for the giggle.

It's wrong to snoop, even in a marriage, but every now and then we can't help ourselves. We sometimes take a peek. Then the guilt starts. Did I do wrong? I didn't see anything, so does it count?

I have many secrets, but none of them would jeopardize my marriage. I just like my privacy. I've always been that way. He had to come to terms with that. I once found him going through my cell phone. It irked me to no end, but I couldn't decide if I was angry at the thought that maybe he didn't trust me, or pissed at the violation of my privacy.

I've never caught him going through my purse, though. I have his mother to thank for that. She taught him if you want to go through a woman's purse, you better be prepared to find out what's in there. He decided long ago that he'd rather not. A woman's purse is the most sacred of personal property and no one--man or woman--should violate that. It's the stuff that could start a bitter war.

If he ever decides to take a peek, I'm going to remember the mouse trap. In fact, I might just put one in my underwear drawer for good measure. It would be good for a laugh.

Just be careful getting the underwear out if ya do. Grab the wrong pair, slip them on, and *SNAP*. Brings a whole new meaning to pain and the word snapper. ;) :D
 
It's ok with me, but only if it will end up in kinky sex.
 
Just be careful getting the underwear out if ya do. Grab the wrong pair, slip them on, and *SNAP*. Brings a whole new meaning to pain and the word snapper. ;) :D

Hmm... That would be the closest thing to sex I've had in half a decade.
 
I think everybody is entitled to their privacy, and there's a huge difference between putting away laundry and rifling through someone's belongings just to be nosy.
 
I've never caught him going through my purse, though. I have his mother to thank for that. She taught him if you want to go through a woman's purse, you better be prepared to find out what's in there. He decided long ago that he'd rather not. A woman's purse is the most sacred of personal property and no one--man or woman--should violate that. It's the stuff that could start a bitter war.
Funny. I don't want hubbie going through the underwear drawer, though I'm fine with him tossing in clean panties after doing the laundry. But I've no problem with him digging through my purse. Maybe because he tends to put money into my wallet rather than taking it out :D
 
Funny. I don't want hubbie going through the underwear drawer, though I'm fine with him tossing in clean panties after doing the laundry. But I've no problem with him digging through my purse. Maybe because he tends to put money into my wallet rather than taking it out :D

In my teens, I once caught my little brother going thru my purse. I think I beat him black and blue for that. (you know us fighting Irish).

I've had my purse stolen 3 times and I still feel dirty. Disgusting to think of some stranger pawing through the items most personal to me. Ugh.
 
it's not an issue, here. I go through his panties, he goes through mine (well, he might I suppose*L*) and I'm not bothered.

I can understand some folks finding it to be a step to far, though.
 
Why go through somebody's panties? Isn't it easier to just take them off?
 
I was in my partner's panties drawer all the time.

Because where else would I put her panties after I did the laundry?

And it wasn't like I was invading some kind of new level of privacy by doing so. After all, I had permission to snoop around in her crotch. So what's a bunch of underwear?

But spying is never ok, among panties or elsewhere, if that's what you were really asking.
ROFLOL! Just to you. To the guy?

There's a big difference between spycam and looking through a panty drawer in my opinion, especially when you are sleeping with someone. There's a difference between reading her diary and sniffing her panties. I am sure that any man would not give a shit about his SO sniffing his boxers (but YUK). I am also certain that most chicks won't give a shit if you are sniffing her panties, as long as there is no camera and you aren't reading her diary. Just tell her, guy. She might enjoy the fetish with you and allow you more leeway.

Much luck and happy fetish hunting
CH
 
So, er, starrkers, what panty drawer have you been going through...or want to go through? :rolleyes:
I caught hubby going through mine yesterday. And he couldn't understand why I was pissed.
I think everybody is entitled to their privacy, and there's a huge difference between putting away laundry and rifling through someone's belongings just to be nosy.
Exactly.

Just wanted to check I'm not totally weird in this - hubby tried to make out I was.
 
Guilty here. I found out the hard way. Bad, bad idea to snoop, you might find out something you dont want to know, something you could have just happily lived the rest of your life never knowing. However, right now, I would welcome the man who wanted to go through my underwear drawer. (Like Violette said, the really bad stuff is in the shoebox in the closet, so *ahem* don't go there unless you ask, and we are really, really comfortable with each other)
 
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