What Makes a Sexy Correspondent?

[CharleyH]

Laughing -

Back atcha babe.

Hate to ruin Docs thread (apologies for the diversion), but what the fuck are you petting in your current AV SweetSub?

 

[Lady Regicide]

Just a quick note to the 'grammar-Nazi'... although this is a writing community and is therefore populated mostly with authors it is not all authors and we are not writing everlasting prose here, we're 'hanging out,' as it says on the door. We just have a chat and a gossip and, as long as something is not overly offensive to the eye, or utterly unintelligible, we let it go. We are, after all, just nattering. Who wants to spellcheck that?

I've read Grace's stories. No problems that I noticed. Perhaps she just doesn't feel the need to be anal here, amongst friends.

Just... relax a bit... You won't enjoy yourself much here if you critique every error as if you were proofreading a TS. I, for example, constantly use a semi-colon instead of an apostrophe. I very rarely bother going back to correct it in posts...

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V

Hi Vermillion. I didn't mean to come across as rude. Blame it on PMS.

I thought that paragraph in which she was talking about the high standards of "writting" (a spelling she used repeatedly) was just too ironic to not comment on. I understand that mistakes do get made, especially in informal banter, and I honestly meant no harm...even though I do realise I came off a bit harsh.

Sorry...::sheepish smile::

 

[Guest]

Hate to ruin Docs thread (apologies for the diversion), but what the fuck are you petting in your current AV SweetSub?

Myself.

I'm naked in my leather jacket, is all.

 

[CharleyH]

Myself.

I'm naked in my leather jacket, is all.

lol, well ... cool. I won't say what I thought, then. lol Kisses babe. Night, night.

 

[rgraham666]

I thought we decided cum was the noun, come was the verb, yes?

Oooh. Grammar makes me so hot.

(Scribbles that down in his notes)

 

[Guest]

Hi Vermillion. I didn't mean to come across as rude. Blame it on PMS.

I thought that paragraph in which she was talking about the high standards of "writting" (a spelling she used repeatedly) was just too ironic to not comment on. I understand that mistakes do get made, especially in informal banter, and I honestly meant no harm...even though I do realise I came off a bit harsh.

Sorry...::sheepish smile::

You insult someone by stating that a 5-year-old can manage something they can not but then claim you didn't mean to be rude?

Can you type that with a straight face?

I think you're way past rude.

 

[cloudy]

I did notice that you had some stories and you post in the Author's Hangout - therefore one must conclude that you do indeed consider yourself a writer. I just don't understand how you could be an adult (I assume?) and a writer and yet not know how to spell the word writing. My 5-year-old niece can spell it...it's not exactly difficult. There's no need to be rude - if you didn't want people pointing out your atrocious spelling and punctuation, you should learn - or attempt to learn - the correct way so that it does not happen again.

Like I said, if you need help, I would be glad to offer my assistance. You obviously need it. I'm not trying to be mean, much as you may think it so. I'm sorry if we got off on the wrong foot. ^.^

well, MEOW.

btw: it's unspeakably rude to bust into a forum where you're basically unknown, and declare yourself the Queen of Grammar.

Everyone gets a chance here...most more than one, but what a way to win friends and influence people.



You owe Grace an apology.

 

[Lady Regicide]

You insult someone by stating that a 5-year-old can manage something they can not but then claim you didn't mean to be rude?

That was in response to the less-than-polite reply I was given, not as part of my initial post.

well, MEOW.

btw: it's unspeakably rude to bust into a forum and declare yourself the Queen of Grammar.

Everyone gets a chance here...most more than one, but what a way to win friends and influence people.



You owe Grace an apology.

I know I was rude. It wasn't my intent, but I do understand how y'all could think of me in that way.

I am sorry, Grace. I didn't mean to antagonise you. I have since read some of your pieces, and they are very good. As I said to your friend who PMed me, I was not attacking you as a person, nor your post as a whole. Though I don't know you personally, the amount of friends you have that have come to your aid make it clear that you are very well-liked, and a nice person. I'm sorry if we got off to a bad start.

 

[dr_mabeuse]

I like it when she gets lost in her writting as she writes for me, that it gets fast, it gets passionate, it touches deeper, it gets typo-d and breathless. Even though this is a writting community that prides itself on and appreciates correct spelling and grammar, i love to know that she can get so lost and caught up in what she needs to convey that she loses all desire to keep to acceptable writting manners.

Yeah, I used to get this too. She used to love it when I'd start making mistakes. I'm a terrible typist under the best of circumstances, and under the transport of passion I'd forget entire words, lose spaces, transpose letters, make all sots of errors. In IM my fingers still tremble with passionate fury. *L* It's great when you talk about jissing someone's kips, and there's no way you can go back and fix it.

 

[Guest]

Yeah, I used to get this too. She used to love it when I'd start making mistakes. I'm a terrible typist under the best of circumstances, and under the transport of passion I'd forget entire words, lose spaces, transpose letters, make all sots of errors. In IM my fingers still tremble with passionate fury. *L* It's great when you talk about jissing someone's kips, and there's no way you can go back and fix it.

...

 

[Selena_Kitt]

It's great when you talk about jissing someone's kips, and there's no way you can go back and fix it.

LOL

nope... no recovering from that one...

but it's better than "let me pick your lussy..."

 

[BlackShanglan]

Of course I'd list all of the things others have - intelligence, passion, creativity, wit. I'd also add playfulness and daring in equal measures, for they go so well together.

Above all, in someone I speak to online, I love someone who grasps the fictionality of the medium and prizes that quality - someone who, like me, cannot imagine why one would ask "What do you look like?" when one could instead ask "What would you like to be tonight?" Someone who sees online contact not as a substitute for reality but as its own intimate world with its own advantages is the sort of partner who truly excites me.

 

[English Lady]

Yeah, I used to get this too. She used to love it when I'd start making mistakes. I'm a terrible typist under the best of circumstances, and under the transport of passion I'd forget entire words, lose spaces, transpose letters, make all sots of errors. In IM my fingers still tremble with passionate fury. *L* It's great when you talk about jissing someone's kips, and there's no way you can go back and fix it.

A favourite of mine too. Though from all my typos, you'd think I was in the throes of lust all the damn time.

 

[tickledkitty]

Well, typing with one hand isn't easy.

 

[Guest]

First of all, Trust: I'm not generally attracted to someone if trust and integrity is not present.

Then, there are a whole lot of intangible elements. I need an unmistakable connection - the type of intense intimacy that makes your head spin. Perceptive and intuitive. I like unique. I like sensitivity, intensity and gentility. Passion - not only for sex, but a passion for life. And I want to see humanness, perhaps in the form of a subtle vulnerability.

I want someone who takes the time and effort to get to know me and what makes me hot. And then someone who takes the time and effort to play with that knowledge, and apply it. It's also about "us" - our specific chemistry, because it's different with different people. There will be dimensions that we share specifically -things that are exclusive to us. I want that acknowledged, and I want it to be genuine and natural.

Boundary pushing and a willingness to be lustful and sexy and sensual. Multilayer. Different. Non conventional. Non conformist. The balance or unbalance of fantasy and reality is of much significance. Fantasy is good, yet I like when real life is included in our interactions and we personify situations and circumstances.

They have to be able to completely loose themselves in the moment with me. And switching is a must.

In our interactions, there has to be some kind of progress and growth or change, even when it's just "play". I don't like being stagnant.

geez are you gonna fuck them online or marry them??

for me its all about fantasy. i dont want real life. i want fantasy. i can get real life by closing my laptop.

 

[JamieB]

Sorry

It's also really important to have feedback. As in life, so it is in more cyber-style relationships - you find attractive those who let you know that *you* are attractive. One of my best online friends at the moment, with whom I have a delightful flirt most days, makes me feel intelligent, funny, attractive and that feeds back into the feelings I have for him.

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V

I was reading this thread and I had to comment on what Vermilion said earlier. it echos an anecdote about Casanova. Apparently there was a beautiful nun, and a wealthy, handsome Count, an adventurer and philanderer, had spent three days wooing her. He plied her with his most endearing charms, told her his most engaging stories of derring-do, told her all the things she wanted to hear. Yet when he left, she remained chaste.

Casanova heard the story and went to see her. At the end of a dinner together, she invited him into her boudoir.

When she was asked about it later, she said "The Count made me feel like I was having dinner with the most interesting person in the world. Casanova made me feel like I was the most interesting person in the world."

J

 

[lesbiaphrodite]

A French woman who understands love, souffrance, passion, desire, and moi.

 

[Guest]

It's great when you talk about jissing someone's kips, and there's no way you can go back and fix it.

*tremble*

 

[CharleyH]

Of course I'd list all of the things others have - intelligence, passion, creativity, wit. I'd also add playfulness and daring in equal measures, for they go so well together.

Above all, in someone I speak to online, I love someone who grasps the fictionality of the medium and prizes that quality - someone who, like me, cannot imagine why one would ask "What do you look like?" when one could instead ask "What would you like to be tonight?" Someone who sees online contact not as a substitute for reality but as its own intimate world with its own advantages is the sort of partner who truly excites me.

I think your post was under appreciated or under-grasped, but it is a beautiful post that needs to be pointed out.

I think it is natural for someone to desire to know what the 'persona' really is and that's why people ask what one looks like - to see, sometimes is to know. However, you are amazingly correct in my opinion. In an online venue, where AVATAR is what we encompass online, the only thing we should be asking is "What would you like to be, tonight." Fascinating take, as always Shang.

 

[JamieB]

I think your post was under appreciated or under-grasped, but it is a beautiful post that needs to be pointed out.

I think it is natural for someone to desire to know what the 'persona' really is and that's why people ask what one looks like - to see, sometimes is to know. However, you are amazingly correct in my opinion. In an online venue, where AVATAR is what we encompass online, the only thing we should be asking is "What would you like to be, tonight." Fascinating take, as always Shang.

Agreed

J

 

[BlackShanglan]

I think your post was under appreciated or under-grasped, but it is a beautiful post that needs to be pointed out.

I think it is natural for someone to desire to know what the 'persona' really is and that's why people ask what one looks like - to see, sometimes is to know. However, you are amazingly correct in my opinion. In an online venue, where AVATAR is what we encompass online, the only thing we should be asking is "What would you like to be, tonight." Fascinating take, as always Shang.

*paws ground shyly*

Aw, shucks.

Thank you, Charley. You're much too kind.

What color panties are you wearing?

 

[CharleyH]

*paws ground shyly*

Aw, shucks.

Thank you, Charley. You're much too kind.

What color panties are you wearing?

LOL. I thought you knew? :|

 

[BlackShanglan]

LOL. I thought you knew? :|

I think my memory needs refreshing. Just a little closer ... my eyesight isn't what it once was ...

 

[CharleyH]

I think my memory needs refreshing. Just a little closer ... my eyesight isn't what it once was ...

Well, just for you ... I try not to wear them three weeks a month. If and when I do, they are usually thong like or g-sring-like ... can't stand to be bound really.

 

[dr_mabeuse]

I think your post was under appreciated or under-grasped, but it is a beautiful post that needs to be pointed out.

I think it is natural for someone to desire to know what the 'persona' really is and that's why people ask what one looks like - to see, sometimes is to know. However, you are amazingly correct in my opinion. In an online venue, where AVATAR is what we encompass online, the only thing we should be asking is "What would you like to be, tonight." Fascinating take, as always Shang.

I know what you mean, but speaking for myself, I respectfully disagree. I have to know whether I'm dealing with someone who is as they represent themselves to be or is not. I understand where you're coming from, but I consider the two kinds of interactions to be quite different and separate, to be approached differently, with different parts of myself.

Some of the people on Lit, for example, happen not to be the gender they represent themselves to be. That matters to me. I suppose it speaks to my small-mindedness, but gender matters to me. Or maybe it speaks to the fact that I'm just such a hetero lech.

But I'd hate to be pouring my heart and soul out to someone I thought was one thing for a year, year and a half, only to find at the end of that time that my inamorata was a 48 year old retired cop or bunch of bored fraternity boys.