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I have not tried it, although it is on my to-do list. I do know there are do's and dont's as to which type of candles to use and they sell specific ones for sex play.

I'll let ya know when I do it and my experience though. ;)
 
I love wax play. It's one of my favorite things. The first time I tried it, I was very nervous. But I've also always been one of those people who enjoys sticking my finger in hot candle wax, so I wasn't truly scared. There are some safety tips you should read up on before trying it out. Things like glitter and scents can make a candle burn too hot and end up truly injuring your skin and leaving scars. But both wax and ice play are amazingly incredible.
 
I like it, to some extent. A word of caution, though--you are a better judge of what will/will not burn you than others are! (It took me a long time to figure that out.) Most people say that you'll be ok with those white, unscented tapers, but I can't hold them far enough away from my body to keep them from burning the hide off! (Really, really sensitive skin.) The wax used in tapers is simply too hard and burns too hot for me. I have to use the really soft, greasy kind that come in jars because they're too soft to hold their shape on their own, LOL. My general rule of thumb is if doesn't start melting slightly from my body heat when I touch it with my finger, it's going to burn way too hot for me.

Anyway, what I'm trying to say is, be really careful until you're sure about what kinds of wax/candles to use. I know that seems silly, but I've gotten way too many second-degree burns and blisters from using candles that are supposed to be ok for wax play. Of course, if you don't have crazy sensitive skin like I do (sometimes I itch for days after being flogged), you probably won't have to worry about it! :D
 
I was nervous the first time, but now I absolutely love it! The nervousness+anticipation made it very hot (no pun intended). Plus, I'm a picker, so I enjoy cleaning the wax off too.

As BeachGurl2 said, there are some safety tips you should read up on to avoid injury.

A side note:the cheaper the candle, the better. Master gets the emergency candles and white "globe" candles from the dollar store. Paraffin wax, such as that used for sealing jelly and such (found in the canning isle) is supposed to be good as well.
 
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Millificent said:
I was nervous the first time, but now I absolutely love it! The nervousness+anticipation made it very hot (no pun intended). Plus, I'm a picker, so I enjoy cleaning the wax off too.

As BeachGurl2 said, there are some safety tips you should read up on to avoid injury.

A side note:the cheaper the candle, the better. Master gets the emergency candles and white "globe" candles from the dollar store. Paraffin wax, such as that used for sealing jelly and such (found in the canning isle) is supposed to be good as well.
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*repeats mantra* Cheap ass candles.... *giggles*

and yes..she IS a picker...

my first time with it was at the Fetish Fair last weekend with Homburg and Malin co-Topping me and V picking off the wax after it cooled.

I loved the little hot needle-like sensations all over. My favorite was when Homburg was dripping wax from 4 candles over my legs as Malin was pouring wax over my breast. And I must add that nipple rings conduct the heat VERY well.
 
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Wax play is one of the few things I love bottoming for, as well as topping. I think the key for me is to start slow, but my sub likes to start with a little more intensity (he has a higher pain and sensation tolerance than I do, though). Both of our initial reactions were definitely an endorphin rush.

My first time topping, I gathered up all of the candles we had that I thought would be suitable and tried them out on the inside of my forearm first. We found a soy candle to be just lukewarm in comparison, even though it was scented, and cleanup required a shower, so we avoided that one from then on. Some of the candles we thought would be too intense, like dark red and blue paraffin from IKEA, were actually cooler than some of the white/light, unscented candles.

You can test initially by pouring a bit of wax on a plate and touching it, then moving to dripping it on the inside of your arm/wrist from a good distance. Marking the bottom of the candles on a scale of 1-10 in terms of intensity, so you can remember which are best to start and finish with from the same height if you don't play that often, might be a good idea when you do this. That's something I'll be doing next time.
 
Very high on my to-do list. I've always heard that you should use wax specifically designed for was play, cause it doesn't burn as hot. Either way, I'd have some ice and aloe vera gel around, just in case. And don't grin and bear it if it's too hot, say something. Burns are not good things to have.
 
Something that Homburg said that is a good thing to keep in mind..other than "Cheap ass candles" is the easier it is to put your thumbnail in a candle..the easier it will melt. Also, start off high and move closer as you go, making sure your bottom knows to let you know when it's too hot
 
I had an experience at the dungeon here where I was sort of a guinea pig for a wax demo. The Domme had a big crock pot set up full of water and stood those cheap candles from the grocery story - the ones in tall colored glass jars, tall and skinny, sometimes with religious figures on them. She lit the tops of them, then when she was ready to use them, she stuck a knife in from the top to allow the melted wax from below to pour out. They are great for making the base before moving on to hotter candles like tea lights. Believe me, tea lights are very hot, even from a distance. Another tip is to buy cheap shower curtains from the dollar store to spread out on. Makes for quicker, easier clean up. And having the wax scraped off with a dull knife afterwards . . . mmmmm.
 
I enjoyed the heat and wouldnt like cooler wax.. I dont think..but then again.. I'm a pain slut.. I love that little burn..

and Malin used Homburg's lovely knife to help V clean it off... and yes, I was stretched out on a tarp. Another tidbit Malin mentioned (since this was more of an impromptu waxing) was to place baby oil on the skin beforehand to ease the removal.
 
Since everyone has pretty much chimed in about the wax types...

Keep in mind that if the wax POOLS, it will BURN. Be especially careful of creases in the skin, indents, etc, such as the lower back, belly button, anywhere that would allow wax to pool.

Watch the places that the wax has gone, and anticipate where it will go. = )
 
as you can see in my AV, ive done it. once. im far from a subject expert but somebody told me to put a small layer of baby oil on your body before hand nad it makes the wax removal a lot easier. it was a big help.
 
I had heard about using baby oil, too, and tried it once, but I didn't like it. It does change the way the wax moves and the way it feels. And Chicklet is right about the pooling, but like EmpressFi, I like the burn. Tea lights are the only candles that I can't take directly on my skin, so far. But with a thin base of a cooler candle, the tea lights feel great.

ETA: I don't like soy candles at all because they have no real heat to them. But they might be good for a first timer.
 
Thought I might add this. Adding ice play to the wax play can create amazing sensations as well. You think the ice will feel cool but in many cases, you can't tell the difference between the two. Just thought I'd throw that out there for added thought. :)
 
BeachGurl2 said:
Thought I might add this. Adding ice play to the wax play can create amazing sensations as well. You think the ice will feel cool but in many cases, you can't tell the difference between the two. Just thought I'd throw that out there for added thought. :)
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I also want to try that. I love ice play, I bet it's even more awesome when it's after something hot. *fans self*
 
I've always had a candle in one hand and an ice cube in the other when I played. It's been a long time since I did any wax play.

Nice seeing you back, BeachGurl2!
 
chelleb said:
Thanks SweetErika, I had tried to use the search feature here on Lit, but it didn't work for me...:confused:

I was just thinking, after typing my last response, whether there was some area (such as arm, etc..) I could test the wax on before possibly burning myself :D I have an IKEA not far from me....may have to go pay them a visit :D Thank you also for the suggestions on how to start out experimenting with them.
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You can get paraffin candles at a lot of places, and probably for a lot cheaper than IKEA, too. We just got those because they were on clearance and were actually labeled paraffin, so we figured they were worth a try and if they didn't work, we'd use them for emergencies. :D

Actually, if you go to the hispanic or ethnic section of your local store, you should be able to find large glass votive candles used for prayer (sometimes they have pics of Jesus or Mary on them) for about $1. They're usually paraffin, don't burn too hot and come in different colors. You can either burn them or melt the whole thing in a crockpot filled w/ water if you want a lot of wax.

I also read a lot of people warn against using the white votive candles (y'know, the really cheap little ones?), but we've found them to be just fine, provided I drip the wax from a reasonable height. Same goes for lightly colored, cheap, small candles I've gotten on sale at the drug store.

So, it's really just a matter of doing some reading on basic safety, avoiding beeswax, glitter and lotions/oils on the skin, testing smartly to see what works and LOTS of communication/feedback.

Gracie's right, having ice on hand is a definite must, both in terms of safety and the delicious contrast of hot & cold.

And the search function is tricky. There are instructions in the FAQs Before Posting sticky at the top of the How To forum, but I find google to be a lot quicker and more reliable these days. :)
 
My input.
I am in a local BDSM group & my birthday was coming up and such is practise that subbies get B-Day spanks (my switch label doesn't allow exclusion) and I panic full throttle at percussion play, even spankings are enough of a threat to put me in line. I personally decided to try a wax scene for my B-Day instead of the spanks & was going to allow a small group of friends I trusted to apply it. First thO I had to be sure I could actually DO the wax.
I approached a Dom I trusted (as my Top would not be back from sea for the scene) to asked him & let him know why I was asking him/that I trusted him.

Well the Demonstration on my back went good. He uses sunscreen instead of baby oil, white parrifin/white emergancy candles & walked me through it drip by drip. He let me know how high up it was (normally from upper chest/nipple height) & expected feedback each time as this was our first time playing. He let me know where each drop was aimed for so there was no suprises. He tested different parts of my back & I found my ass was the most accepting, with my shoulderblades being very sensitive. after dripping all over my back he asked if I was ready to do the 37 drips in a row. I said yep & he proceeded. Even though I LOVE sensations of pinwheels & knives & barely took 34 drips before I almost safeworded out. I was sitting on the verge of it because I do not do pain...We got to the 37 & he let me calm down a bit & it cool more before taking the wax off..

I think I will have to get up the courage to try it a few more times before I judge it a yay or nay...
I definately enjoyed the removal alot more than the application...

The scene never happened...
The Dom was rushed to the hospital for his appendix the day prior to the scene so I have yet to do it again.
 
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