I highly reccomend it...............

[INSIDEYOURMIND]

I highly recommend it...............

My little girl and I had the opportunity at the Fetish Flea to meet in real time many people we talk to throughout the year via the Internet.

We met some great Lit folks, Malinborn, Empress Fi, Millificent, Nala Cayenne, and the infamous Homburg. The connection with all of you was great, and a strong bond was made.

We also had the chance to connect with many other people that we chat with from other forums, as well as see friends we have met through munches, play parties, other events, and our business.

This is not a knock on "online relationships", but do yourselves a favor, turn off your computers, and go out and meet people. The local scene in your area has great people that are looking to make connections as well. I am not talking about hooking up, I am talking about people that are like minded, getting together with other like minded folks for intelligent conversation. I highly recommend it.................

 

[snowy ciara]

Glad you had fun!

This is not a knock on "online relationships", but do yourselves a favor, turn off your computers, and go out and meet people. The local scene in your area has great people that are looking to make connections as well. I am not talking about hooking up, I am talking about people that are like minded, getting together with other like minded folks for intelligent conversation. I highly recommend it.................

Totally agree here. I mean, it's one thing to, say for example, flirt online with the hot Irish guy in a kilt, or plot with the rest of the Evil Subbies Union . But it's tons more fun to go hang out at the Glock and Spew with these people.

 

[Netzach]

I do agree.

Still looking for driveway shovelers, someday when my travel budget is not depleted....
The people I have most in common with always seem to be flung to some corner for some reason.

 

[myinnerslut]

i really wish i could have gone. it was the weekend i was going back up to school

when did homburg become imfamous?

 

[Evil_Geoff]

Sounds like y'all had a great time, IYM!

I've met several litsters now, either travelling or at events, and I've enjoyed meeting them a lot. Not as many as I've met off of Alt, but we tend to be more regionally focussed over there so it's easier to work out get-togethers.

I too emphasize that "get out from behind your computer, get into your community" message. There's no replacing real human contact.

 

[BiBunny]

i really wish i could have gone. it was the weekend i was going back up to school

when did homburg become imfamous?

When he stopped being famous?

 

[HottieMama]

The local scene in your area has great people that are looking to make connections as well. I am not talking about hooking up, I am talking about people that are like minded, getting together with other like minded folks for intelligent conversation. I highly recommend it.................

You have obviously never been to Wichita, where the "scene" is fairly dominated by one person who happens to be my ex. Ever try to walk into a room as a single sub after your ex dom, your first dom...told everyone in the group EVERYTHING about you? Your likes...your dislikes...your kinks that no one else knows... Ever have every conversation start off with..."Oh...so you're XXXXX's former sub." Ever questioned about details of your former relationship in front of everyone during dinner??? No??? i didn't think so.

Thanks for the advice, but FOR ME, the local "scene" here is not a healthy thing.

And yes, i am fucking bitter about it. Yes, i think it sucks that the majority of these people act like they are fucking twelve. However, unless i choose to submit myself to public humiliation, there is nothing i can do about it. i refuse to struggle to fit in someplace where i am obviously not wanted!

 

[Millificent]

It was wonderful to meet you IYM and Sinn and all your "helpers." Not to mention being able to meet some of the fine people from your list.

It was fabulous weekend!

Next year I'm getting a picture with a snake

 

[h_i_s]

You have obviously never been to Wichita, where the "scene" is fairly dominated by one person who happens to be my ex. Ever try to walk into a room as a single sub after your ex dom, your first dom...told everyone in the group EVERYTHING about you? Your likes...your dislikes...your kinks that no one else knows... Ever have every conversation start off with..."Oh...so you're XXXXX's former sub." Ever questioned about details of your former relationship in front of everyone during dinner??? No??? i didn't think so.

Thanks for the advice, but FOR ME, the local "scene" here is not a healthy thing.

And yes, i am fucking bitter about it. Yes, i think it sucks that the majority of these people act like they are fucking twelve. However, unless i choose to submit myself to public humiliation, there is nothing i can do about it. i refuse to struggle to fit in someplace where i am obviously not wanted!

I've been in similar situations... I'm certain that is horrible for you HottieMama, and I am certain it sucks and doesn't make 'getting out there' easy for you. I hope you can focus on making it better for yourself.
The best thing you could do for yourself is to get out there and start your OWN scene. Find a new circle, create a new group of friends, or ... stand up for yourself and set them all straight (offer your version of the facts, and let people know that your past relationship with so-n-so does not define who you are, and that the subject is a dead horse and now off limits). Life is full of choices and the two most common to choose from involve the 'fight or flight' reactions.

For some, there is nothing like a good strong cup of shut-the-fuck-up ....

Regardless, HottieMama.. You are welcome to find your way out here for a visit ... where we will adopt you into our local scene, as well. You don't have to wait until the next Fetish Fair.

 

[Netzach]

You have obviously never been to Wichita, where the "scene" is fairly dominated by one person who happens to be my ex. Ever try to walk into a room as a single sub after your ex dom, your first dom...told everyone in the group EVERYTHING about you? Your likes...your dislikes...your kinks that no one else knows... Ever have every conversation start off with..."Oh...so you're XXXXX's former sub." Ever questioned about details of your former relationship in front of everyone during dinner??? No??? i didn't think so.

Thanks for the advice, but FOR ME, the local "scene" here is not a healthy thing.

And yes, i am fucking bitter about it. Yes, i think it sucks that the majority of these people act like they are fucking twelve. However, unless i choose to submit myself to public humiliation, there is nothing i can do about it. i refuse to struggle to fit in someplace where i am obviously not wanted!

Fallen out of my local groove less dramatically, but agree - it's not so much "get into the community" as it is "actually brave the people you like and try and make some live connections" I think. I'm at the point where I want to meet the other people who are into this but not into the local scene per se. I know I can't be the only one.

 

[Chicklet]

I've met a number of people from lit (and taken a couple to bed, actually, lol) and am also an active member of the local community.

So, been there, enjoying that, my computer's only on half the day, thanks

 

[Essene]

It was wonderful to meet you IYM and Sinn and all your "helpers." Not to mention being able to meet some of the fine people from your list.

It was fabulous weekend!

Next year I'm getting a picture with a snake

Mmmm it's too bad that I missed IYM and Sinn. I so want to see a picture of you with a snake!

 

[NALA CAYENNE]

I had a great time, am glad that I finally met some folks that are no longer friends but 'family' and glad that I got to spend time with 'family'.

Looking forward to next year with everyone

 

[h_i_s]

NO Moleste! hehhehheh

To say that I enjoyed meeting Homburg, 'V' , Nala, Fi, and Malin is a huge understatement. I laughed so hard to the point of getting a headache and reaching a new level of exhaustion. My face hurts from smiling.

----Malin and Fi are a couple with personalities overflowing in warmth, and humor. I enjoyed meeting them and wish we had more time to hang out and gab together.
----Homburg worked his ropes with an amazing level of creativity that can not be experienced just in viewing photos. He explained every knot and his knowledge about what he does amazes me.
----"V" came across as a bit shy at first, to me and isn't 'really'. We shared some recipes and talked about our hobbies. V is a total sweetie.. And she is so very generous in sharing by allowing others the opportunity to experience being a canvas for Homburg's works of rope-art. Top notch lady.
---- Nala.... OH my .. oh boy.... She's a unique soul. I'm wondering how long until she can find her way back into our company, again. I have no recollection of a pause between laughing with her over the weekend. My ribs ache. I almost peed my pants a few times. She is a nut. I love ya, girl.

I'm tired. Being vendors at the Fetish Fair Flea is exhausting work, in preparing the entire week before, setting up the booth, promoting all weekend followed by partying it up each night, and then promoting some more, to breaking down the booth and packing it all up to go home Sunday afternoon............Then off to dinner together. We had great fun as taunted the waiter... I am exhausted. I went to bed last night at about 11pm .... woke at 7:30am to noisy snowplows (we knew the storm was coming and are glad that everyone seems to have arrived home before any flakes started to fall... ). I went back to bed at noon.... woke at 3:30pm......... I am still tired. It was a blast.

Now.... it's just a matter of time before we all get together again. As soon as we all rest up enough .......Potluck dinner.. our house.. 'asap'.

I'm looking forward especially to cooking with 'V'. I think that would be a lot of fun. And I can think of many things to do with Nala...... heh .

Here are some pictures of us together Saturday evening. We 'LOL'ed and 'Hugged' and 'spewed' REAL time. Real life rocks.

Who SAYS we have to wait until next, year??!!!!??


No moleste, Nala & V . !!!

http://i170.photobucket.com/albums/u274/h-i-s/h-s-n-m-resized.jpg

http://i170.photobucket.com/albums/u274/h-i-s/h-s-n-m-2-resized.jpg

http://i170.photobucket.com/albums/u274/h-i-s/hairbunny-sin-resized.jpg

 

[INSIDEYOURMIND]

You have obviously never been to Wichita, where the "scene" is fairly dominated by one person who happens to be my ex. Ever try to walk into a room as a single sub after your ex dom, your first dom...told everyone in the group EVERYTHING about you? Your likes...your dislikes...your kinks that no one else knows... Ever have every conversation start off with..."Oh...so you're XXXXX's former sub." Ever questioned about details of your former relationship in front of everyone during dinner??? No??? i didn't think so.

Thanks for the advice, but FOR ME, the local "scene" here is not a healthy thing.

And yes, i am fucking bitter about it. Yes, i think it sucks that the majority of these people act like they are fucking twelve. However, unless i choose to submit myself to public humiliation, there is nothing i can do about it. i refuse to struggle to fit in someplace where i am obviously not wanted!

I preface my comments by asking you to take them in the constructive manner they are being given, I offer no malice in any way.

You mention your "ex", your "ex dom", if you allow him to keep you from your local scene, you are continuing to allow him to control you, albeit in a non consensual manner. i am sure he gets a tingle just knowing you are affected by this.

If he talks poorly of you, I am sure there are members of the local scene that see this as not qualities befitting the characteristics of a Dom, or at least a Dom that would be of value to them.

In many posts, conversations, chats, threads, and profiles submissives are quick to point out the fact that they are not a doormat, nor will they allow anyone to treat them in that manner. By allowing him to treat you in this way is testimony that he can.

If you cannot ingratiate yourself into the group he is involved in, then start your own, but start by not discussing anything about him, at least not negatively, he was your first, and even if you like it or not, part of your experience in your BDSM life. You have learned from him, take the knowledge, and use it. diascussing him from that angle will show others your character, and the value of knowing you.

 

[h_i_s]

WE are the local scene... collectively.

Fallen out of my local groove less dramatically, but agree - it's not so much "get into the community" as it is "actually brave the people you like and try and make some live connections" I think. I'm at the point where I want to meet the other people who are into this but not into the local scene per se. I know I can't be the only one.

Yeah.. I use the term 'local scene' loosely and not the way some do.
When I hear others use that phrase, 'local scene' I wonder who they are talking about and wonder where it is.. and what it is, and who is there and just what are they doing??

WE ARE the local scene. Each and every time we get together with others, and even when it is just He and i 'doing what we do' ... where ever ........... we are the local scene.

 

[h_i_s]

Mmmm it's too bad that I missed IYM and Sinn. I so want to see a picture of you with a snake!

I wish we could have managed to meet you, too. There's always 'next time' and next time doesn't have to be next year's Fetish Fair Flea.

AND I wish I had known that V was willing to get her picture done with a snake. It WOULD have been arranged, one way or another. Next time ....

 

[Essene]

I wish we could have managed to meet you, too. There's always 'next time' and next time doesn't have to be next year's Fetish Fair Flea.

This is absolutely true. -Will get in touch.

 

[BiBunny]

I preface my comments by asking you to take them in the constructive manner they are being given, I offer no malice in any way.

You mention your "ex", your "ex dom", if you allow him to keep you from your local scene, you are continuing to allow him to control you, albeit in a non consensual manner. i am sure he gets a tingle just knowing you are affected by this.

If he talks poorly of you, I am sure there are members of the local scene that see this as not qualities befitting the characteristics of a Dom, or at least a Dom that would be of value to them.

In many posts, conversations, chats, threads, and profiles submissives are quick to point out the fact that they are not a doormat, nor will they allow anyone to treat them in that manner. By allowing him to treat you in this way is testimony that he can.

If you cannot ingratiate yourself into the group he is involved in, then start your own, but start by not discussing anything about him, at least not negatively, he was your first, and even if you like it or not, part of your experience in your BDSM life. You have learned from him, take the knowledge, and use it. diascussing him from that angle will show others your character, and the value of knowing you.

Easy to say. Much harder to do.

As for me, there's no "local scene." The closest "scene" is an hour and a half away. I've met a number of people involved with it, enough to know that I don't want to drive that far to hang out with people I don't like.

I have a core group of kinky friends, and that's good enough for now. That being said, I'm moving soon (I hope), and there's an active scene there. We'll see how it pans out.

 

[Netzach]

Dude, I think it's things like you and kitty meeting up with nh that is a perfect example of what's being talked about.

Everyone's taking the "literal" tablet today - I have to agree that it's GREAT to meet people not in IM's! Hopefully someday you and kitty will be added to the fairly short list thus far.

 

[Homburg]

We met some great Lit folks, Malinborn, Empress Fi, Millificent, Nala Cayenne, and the infamous Homberg.

I'm infamous? Cool.

When he stopped being famous?

I stopped being famous? Hunh? Wait, I was famous?

Where are my adoring fans? Okay, I have one or two of those, but where's my riches? My money?

Bueller?

IYM is 100% correct. Not only did it rock to meet the actual people behind the posts on here, it rocked to just meet my fellow kinky people. And buy cool stuff. And take in awesome classes. Get out there and meet real people. And watch them doing kinky stuff!

And leatherfolk are just awesome in general.

I did have a great time meeting all the Litsters though. It was worth the trip for that alone.

One thing I will say - y'all have seen the pics of sinn with the spiderweb body paint, right? The pics on here have NOTHING on the prints they have at the booth, and nothing at all on Paul's work in person. Paul is awesome. Same goes for IYM's snakes. Wow, soooo gorgeous. And while Lola is stuning, I pretty much feel in love with Moose.

If you get a chance to attend the FFF, I suggest it so very highly. I would be willing to attend any event put on by NELA. I enjoyed the FFF that much.

IYM, thanks again for mentioning this event here on Lit, and thanks for bringing us in to meet you chat groups as well. Some truly fantastic people there.

 

[BiBunny]

Dude, I think it's things like you and kitty meeting up with nh that is a perfect example of what's being talked about.

Everyone's taking the "literal" tablet today - I have to agree that it's GREAT to meet people not in IM's! Hopefully someday you and kitty will be added to the fairly short list thus far.

Or maybe I'm just grumpy and taking shit the wrong way, LOL.

And, yeah, we definitely wanna meet you. Abso-fucking-lutely.

 

[h_i_s]

Easy to say. Much harder to do.

As for me, there's no "local scene." The closest "scene" is an hour and a half away. I've met a number of people involved with it, enough to know that I don't want to drive that far to hang out with people I don't like.

I have a core group of kinky friends, and that's good enough for now. That being said, I'm moving soon (I hope), and there's an active scene there. We'll see how it pans out.

That core group would better define 'your' local scene then.
Labels labels labels... always labels complicating things and tripping us up.

Seems you have defined local scene for yourself rather than letting others tell you what it should be. Others don't always realize that they can, or don't think to.

It can be that easy.

 

[BiBunny]

That core group would better define 'your' local scene then.
Labels labels labels... always labels complicating things and tripping us up.

Seems you have defined local scene for yourself rather than letting others tell you what it should be. Others don't always realize that they can, or don't think to.

It can be that easy.

Ok, I get it now. I'm retarded sometimes. *Carlos Mencia*

 

[Homburg]

Did I mention that the snakes were awesome? Seriously. I mentioned Moose and Lola, my favourites heart: Moose), but they were all just incredible. And the folks helping to staff the booth were just great people.

Though I'm pretty sure that "v" was tempted to buy some floor-tape off Deb. Damn, that girl can sell.