Looking to Learn

[RedheadedSub]

I am 23 and female..looking to further my submissive nature. I would like to achieve this from tips both from Subs and Doms as well as Chat with actual Doms. I am relatively new to the BDSM realm but want to understand more as I crave it constantly. Please Teach me! Thank you!

 

[Dominoc]

welcome

Hi there,

I just myself posted a personal ad, so I will be interested to see what happens. Welcome to the boards here, they have a wealth of information both helpful and exciting. I might recommend writing a story that expresses your desires and interests, which you can submit to the stories section. It might be a good experience for you to see exactly what you think you want from this whole wide world of kink. Just a thought from a passerby...

All the best,

 

[RedheadedSub]

Ty

Thank you for your response. I will possibly post some of my previously written stories...As I do tend to enjoy writing... Very good thought! thanks again!

 

[Enji]

I am 23 and female..looking to further my submissive nature. I would like to achieve this from tips both from Subs and Doms as well as Chat with actual Doms. I am relatively new to the BDSM realm but want to understand more as I crave it constantly. Please Teach me! Thank you!

welcome to lit, the bdsm board has a wealth of info if you care to wade through it. As well there are a ton of Doms who would love to just chat and offer a hand or two. If you care to chat drop me a hi and i can offer a outlook if you like

Regards
Enji

 

[Feddrex]

Welcome & good luk!

Welcome to the boards! I can't provide much advice, but I may be of service nonetheless. I can play out scenarios you want to try. I can be the sub or dom, male or female ( I'm a 30 something guy). You can pm me if you want.

Hope you get the direction you need!

 

[TN_Voyeur]

cHECK MY PROFILE AND DECIDE IF I MAY BE OF HELP

I am 23 and female..looking to further my submissive nature. I would like to achieve this from tips both from Subs and Doms as well as Chat with actual Doms. I am relatively new to the BDSM realm but want to understand more as I crave it constantly. Please Teach me! Thank you!

Red -- You can decide if you feel that the portion of my profile that discusses understanding yourself answers to your needs.

 

[RedheadedSub]

welcome to lit, the bdsm board has a wealth of info if you care to wade through it. As well there are a ton of Doms who would love to just chat and offer a hand or two. If you care to chat drop me a hi and i can offer a outlook if you like

Regards
Enji

Not many of those posts are as helpful as I had hoped. I am learning things moment to moment. person to person I really appreciate eveything I have gotten back for feedback so far! Thank You Everyone!

 

[dysfunctional]

If you would like to chat, I'm more than willing. I may not be the most experienced Dom here, but I think i've learned a lot in the short time I've been in the lifestyle. We can always learn things together

 

[RedheadedSub]

Thanks again!

Thanks again to all of the warm welcomes and insightful information, if you think you can offer me more information, feel free to PM me! Thanks!

 

[RedheadedSub]

Thank you for everyones warm welcome, I think I have found what I am looking for!

 

[Dominoc]

wow

That was fast!!!

 

[RedheadedSub]

That was fast!!!

I am still in the early stages, It may not last forever but for now it's just right

 

[panty_inspector]

I am still in the early stages, It may not last forever but for now it's just right

Just right sounds perfect

 

[RedheadedSub]

Just Right, is exactly where I want to be--- Somewhere between here and there: coming and going: and most of all perfection and imperfection

 

[panty_inspector]

Just Right, is exactly where I want to be--- Somewhere between here and there: coming and going: and most of all perfection and imperfection

That sounds like a very fine place to be, indeed

 

[RedheadedSub]

That sounds like a very fine place to be, indeed

Assuming I can keep myself there until I am further ready to explore, could be the trick to keeping everything "just so"

haha... Are you stalking my Posts Mr. Panty Inspector?

 

[Mindaugas]

call Me, an we ll see

 

[RedheadedSub]

Thanky you again for everyone's help from this thread...Greatly appreciated! I hope everyone finds what they are looking for!...I am testing the waters and taking it slow so I can learn to swim like the fishie that I am!

 

[EM Master]

I will teach you when you reply. When was the last time you came and how you acheived this, be specific, and maybe we can continue your training

 

[RedGambit]

Uh?

I will teach you when you reply. When was the last time you came and how you acheived this, be specific, and maybe we can continue your training

Did you miss the memo?

 

[secretsam]

I think the best way to learn is by experiencing different styles of submission. Let me know if you want to know the secret sam technique.

 

[Evil_Geoff]

I am 23 and female..looking to further my submissive nature. I would like to achieve this from tips both from Subs and Doms as well as Chat with actual Doms. I am relatively new to the BDSM realm but want to understand more as I crave it constantly. Please Teach me! Thank you!

Suggestion #1 - get out from behind the computer and get involved in the realtime BDSM community. There are groups all over the US, Canada, and around the world that provide education, support, and a safe way to meet others of like mind and similar interests.

To find local Munches, email groups, and events in your area, try:
SceneUSA - http://www.darkheart.com/sceneusa.html
Caryl's Page - http://www.drkdesyre.com/
The BDSM Events Page - http://www.thebdsmeventspage.com/ which has links to both organizations AND events.

Suggestion #2 - read books. REAL books. Not websites that are often full of romantic but kinky harlequin romance level nonsense or totally imagined fantasy porn bullshit. You can find some EXCELLENT learning material at Mystic Rose Books - http://www.mysticrose.com/
http://www.greenerypress.com/
http://www.daedaluspublishing.com/
http://powerexchangebooks.com/

Suggestion #3 - Avoid anyone who offers to be your "mentor" if they say anything about serving _them_, or about teaching you "the right way" or "the REAL way" or "the one true way" or anything similar. There's no such thing. There's what works for you and your partner(s) in YOUR relationships, there are very few "universal" truths in BDSM beyond "do what works for YOU".

Hope those help. Learning to seperate the real from the bullshit is tough for a new person in the lifestyle, learning to seperate the bullshitters and horney net geeks from the one's who actually have something worthwhile to share can be even tougher. Best of luck!

 

[RedheadedSub]

Suggestion #1 - get out from behind the computer and get involved in the realtime BDSM community. There are groups all over the US, Canada, and around the world that provide education, support, and a safe way to meet others of like mind and similar interests.

To find local Munches, email groups, and events in your area, try:
SceneUSA - http://www.darkheart.com/sceneusa.html
Caryl's Page - http://www.drkdesyre.com/
The BDSM Events Page - http://www.thebdsmeventspage.com/ which has links to both organizations AND events.

Suggestion #2 - read books. REAL books. Not websites that are often full of romantic but kinky harlequin romance level nonsense or totally imagined fantasy porn bullshit. You can find some EXCELLENT learning material at Mystic Rose Books - http://www.mysticrose.com/
http://www.greenerypress.com/
http://www.daedaluspublishing.com/
http://powerexchangebooks.com/

Suggestion #3 - Avoid anyone who offers to be your "mentor" if they say anything about serving _them_, or about teaching you "the right way" or "the REAL way" or "the one true way" or anything similar. There's no such thing. There's what works for you and your partner(s) in YOUR relationships, there are very few "universal" truths in BDSM beyond "do what works for YOU".

Hope those help. Learning to seperate the real from the bullshit is tough for a new person in the lifestyle, learning to seperate the bullshitters and horney net geeks from the one's who actually have something worthwhile to share can be even tougher. Best of luck!

Thank you for your thoughts,and concerns and more- I greatly appreciate it! Too bad I didn't get all that info in the beginning! Now I have learned much of that... Many helpful people on lit (trusted people) and some friends are helping me along the way....Thanks so much

 

[RedheadedSub]

I wanted to note

*I am no longer in an active search for a Dominant*

details are to follow.

Thanks again!!