Motherhood

[Ishmael]

So you're on the phone with some woman and you hear her call her sub-teen daughter a "bitch."

What's your reaction?

Ishmael

 

[Spence99]

So you're on the phone with some woman and you hear her call her sub-teen daughter a "bitch."

What's your reaction?

Ishmael

I'm thinking. What woman would be talking to you on the phone.

Sorry. You set yourself up.

 

[Legenda]

So you're on the phone with some woman and you hear her call her sub-teen daughter a "bitch."

What's your reaction?

Ishmael

Hang up. I don't want to talk to a bitch.

 

[Rhys]

So you're on the phone with some woman and you hear her call her sub-teen daughter a "bitch."

What's your reaction?

Ishmael

That you're wasting the bandwidth again with an argument you can't hope to win.

 

[Aestuo]

could be completely fair.... how do you know what the daughter is like?

 

[~Avalon~]

*cringe*
but i don't swear around my kids.

some people do, and i suppose it depends on if it was said jokingly.
i call my kids brats jokingly.

 

[kbate]

Context.

 

[Ishmael]

That you're wasting the bandwidth again with an argument you can't hope to win.

Not an argument Rhys.

Ishmael

 

[Ishmael]

Context.

It was NOT a joke.

Ishmael

 

[pink]

i personally wouldn't.

 

[~Avalon~]

It was NOT a joke.

Ishmael

then i stand by my original
*cringe*

 

[Hester]

Context.

bitch.

 

[kbate]

It was NOT a joke.

Ishmael

Again, it depends on the situation. I do no consider "bitch" to be a bad word depending on how it is used. My daughter already knows "bitch" @ 18 months and knows when to use it (around the hounds), and when not (to denote humans). That may change as she grows older and knows when she may and may not call me or S a bitch.

 

[Ishmael]

Again, it depends on the situation. I do no consider "bitch" to be a bad word depending on how it is used. My daughter already knows "bitch" @ 18 months and knows when to use it (around the hounds), and when not (to denote humans). That may change as she grows older and knows when she may and may not call me or S a bitch.

In anger and the discussion wasn't about dogs (or bitches in that context).

Ishmael

 

[~Haze~]

I'm not a big fan of verbal abuse/negative reinforcement toward children.

Considering the information (or lack of information) we have here, I'm going to have to say that this is not acceptable.

A pre-teenager? That's far too young to be referring to your own daughter as a bitch.

 

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[Rhys]

Not an argument Rhys.

Ishmael

Perhaps arguement is too strong of a word choice. Debate then. You can posit this to the board and get lots of responses none of which know the context of which the comment was made, why it was made, who you were talking to, etc. etc.

Therefore, you just invited an arguement to be started among the ENTIRE posting community to prove your point, whatever point it was to whomever.

Ish, If you disapprove of someone calling their daughter a bitch, then say it to them. The rest of us have no foundation in which to judge, and in fact, should not be judging at all.

Also, considering that you and I don't have wombs, any discussion of motherhood should be left to those who actually experience such things....just as a safety precaution if nothing else.

 

[kbate]

In anger and the discussion wasn't about dogs (or bitches in that context).

Ishmael

Now I need to know what the little bitch said or did to her mother to earn that sobriquet.

It is quite possible, that calling her a bitch was a better option than what Mom really wanted to say or do.

 

[~His Kitten~]

I'm living proof. Calling your daughter a bitch is rarely a good idea.

 

[Aestuo]

In anger and the discussion wasn't about dogs (or bitches in that context).

Ishmael

how do you know that the daughter didn't just call her mother a string of hateful things (including profanity and words much worse than "bitch") right before the mother called her a bitch? and pre-teen? like 11-12?

 

[Aestuo]

Now I need to know what the little bitch said or did to her mother to earn that sobriquet.

It is quite possible, that calling her a bitch was a better option than what Mom really wanted to say or do.

agreed

 

[silver gurl]

I would consider it very wrong in many ways. I would NEVER swear or call a small child such a name..... Its very sad, actually.

 

[~Avalon~]

how do you know that the daughter didn't just call her mother a string of hateful things (including profanity and words much worse than "bitch") right before the mother called her a bitch? and pre-teen? like 11-12?

there are times as parents that you really wanna let loose and call your kid a whole pile of names, or maybe even just "you little bitch/bastard". but, yanno as grown ups we're supposed to resist those urges.

no doubt it slips out on occasion

i would bite my tongue clean off first though.

 

[~Haze~]

how do you know that the daughter didn't just call her mother a string of hateful things (including profanity and words much worse than "bitch") right before the mother called her a bitch?

In your opinion, would that make it justifiable or acceptable?

 

[Batch]

Totally unacceptable to refer to a child in such a fashion.