Can Porn be "A Fetish"?

[unfoundiamond]

A fetish by the textbook definition is a object that you must have/need to come.

I have been addicted to the way porn made me feel since my best friend, Jene and I, found our first ever porno mag in her Dads cabinet.

He kept it in the kitchen cabinet above the stove, just above the hood(where the fan and exaust are) He also kept the crisco there... we needed the crisco that's how we found it.

It was of women, of course, no men at all... and they made me so hot. It was their nipples mostly, I am a breast woman for sure.

I would just get a feeling... I didn't even touch myself. I just wanted more... Soon we had a bush outside that we kept some dirty magazines in...

Then as I got older I found the HBO stuff, then started going to the public library and surfing the web for hours, looking at ever site I could find, and every once in a while I'd close my eyes, press my thighs and legs together while looking, close my eyes for a second, and Cum... right there, in a big room, crowded with people, in a public library... Looking at porn...

I eventually got my own computer at home, and then I picked over my fathers saved files (the ones he paricularlly liked from newsgroups and the web) and I found my own by the hundreds on P2P programs before the onslaught of viruses began.

I am a porn addict so bad I also but videos... My bf buys me multiple videos ata time, and I usualy watch them DURING sex, while I am trying to come.

I imagine dirty porn in my head (or watching 2 other people in front of me, sometimes if I like the subjects a lot)

I Love Porn, I have to have it to come unless I have really good memories, or my own realtime porn playback option I have in my head...

Is this a Porn Fetish?

Can Porn be a fetish even if its not a object persay, like I watch it, I don't rub it on me, like a panty fetish person might, or I don't use it to be active in my masterbating, except watching the look on her face sometimes, or watching him fuck her ass like its punishment... or him making her choke on his dick and the look she gives as the tears run down her face... it makes my physical manipulations feel better.

I can rub all day, but when I see those things my pussy almost gets more sensitive...

I quickly learned I liked hardcore, and european hardcore was the first kind I could differentiate and its great when they are speaking another language, girl on girl, blacks on blondes, chicks getting fucked by big dogs and horses(beastiality, but only those, and don't ask me why....) and I like rape porn. Also, water bondage, fucking machines, and those contraptions that keep her all locked and barred with her legs open and shit... those are choice...

I am comming clean so maybe others will feel safe to do so...

I am conflicted with thinking its not right for me to like porn, it objectifies women, bla bla bla, but I LOVE women... and I LOVE porn... The woman in the porn is consenting, and enjoying it,

I separate porn and RL, if I saw something happeneing to someone I would sit and watch, like I do with porn.

I do not believe doing anything against anyones will or using women but I know the whole feminst attitude and don't see how I can have both...

I do, I Love Porn. And I think I have a fetish, but its not RL, and I see a diffrence.

 

[catalina_francisco]

Don't think I would categorise it as a fetish. It might be a case of easier or lazy thinking, similar to people who find themselves unable to come without a vibrator...something which makes it easier with half the effort.

Catalina

 

[Netzach]

Don't think I would categorise it as a fetish. It might be a case of easier or lazy thinking, similar to people who find themselves unable to come without a vibrator...something which makes it easier with half the effort.

Catalina

Forget it. I have no response to something like this. I hope you never meet someone who's not able to get off except in a specialized way because usually they've tried a lot more than you and I put together - but go ahead, everyone but you is lazy. Vibrators are lazy, porn is lazy, you who relish a good hard beating however for YOUR stimulation are industrious.

Suffice it to say: OP you dig porn.

There are people who can't have an orgasm without rubbing their dick against a rubber bathmat - whether you think it's a problem for you or not is the extent of whether or not it's a problem. As long as no one's getting killed I really don't care how anyone gets off.

As for feeling conflicted about it, I feel conflicted about shoes that are made in China by child slaves versus groovy handmade shoes designed by fashion graduate students and made by hand from reclaimed leather, but life contains some of each, eh? As with porn as with everything - just check your label and do some research if you are worried about it.

 

[catalina_francisco]

Forget it. I have no response to something like this.

Suffice it to say: OP you dig porn.

There are people who can't have an orgasm without rubbing their dick against a rubber bathmat - whether you think it's a problem for you or not is the extent of whether or not it's a problem. As long as no one's getting killed I really don't care how anyone gets off.

I didn't mean to offend, just that I didn't see it as a fetish, and I know many who have used it as a way to get off when they really don't want to use energy they don't have, myself included....it's a reality for many....doesn't make it a fetish as such, but makes life easier, and often saves a lot of time. And yes, I have met and pleased many who had a very specialised way of getting off where nothing else would do, ever....and I didn't have aproblem with it, but as I said, I was answering the question asked as to whether I saw porn as a fetish..I don't in this circumstance, though it may be getting to addiction status in the minds of some. LOL, believe me, I do know how addictive it can become...F was not the first man whose eyes popped when he saw my collection...it rivaled that of all the males I had ever known, but it saved me a lot of bother when single and not able to always date and have a relationship. As to the rest you said, I also have no problem with it. It only becomes a problem when it begins to impact significantly on your life in various ways you have no control over.


Catalina

 

[unfoundiamond]

This came up...

I don't know that I think porn can be considered a fetish, I am not sure... I don't have any fetishes if porn isn't one, so... I just know I seek it out, and think its my favorite topic.

I HAD to have it (during vanilla sex), and had conditioned myself to it, untill I tried being with a dominant... needless to say I didn't need my porn and didn't even think about it.

I get asked a lot, "Do you have a fetish" to that I say...

Maybe... Porn...

I was just wondering if anyone else who "digs porn" sees it as a object they must have for sex...

 

[unfoundiamond]

Forget it. I have no response to something like this. I hope you never meet someone who's not able to get off except in a specialized way because usually they've tried a lot more than you and I put together - but go ahead, everyone but you is lazy. Vibrators are lazy, porn is lazy, you who relish a good hard beating however for YOUR stimulation are industrious.

Suffice it to say: OP you dig porn.

You bring up a good point, and this is also where the post came from...

If I had a choice between porn and vanilla sex, its porn all day...

If I had a choice between being whipped till I bled, lets say and porn?... F* Porn....

So I guess it can't be a fetish...

But I was also questioning if a image(or sequence of progressing images) can be considered a object, and therefore a fetish.

A image (not even a photograph, but just the image) of a woman comming was the only thing that made it possible for me to orgasam before.

I am not worried so much as confused, I find sex to be very confusing. I like to figure other people out, by there infrences and attitudes, kinks and turn offs, but me...

I can't figure anything out about myself.

 

[HottieMama]

i love porn. i admit that with no shame whatsoever. Like you, unfound, i also like some of the more extreme stuff that you can find out there. While i don't need it to get off, i find it is a wonderful addition.

For me, it is because i enjoy watching. (and being watched.) Most times, a good porno is the closest i can get to safely watching people have sex.

 

[unfoundiamond]

Voyerism

i love porn. i admit that with no shame whatsoever. Like you, unfound, i also like some of the more extreme stuff that you can find out there. While i don't need it to get off, i find it is a wonderful addition.

For me, it is because i enjoy watching. (and being watched.) Most times, a good porno is the closest i can get to safely watching people have sex.

I also like watching, and being watched...

Maybe that's why porn effects me so...

 

[ShyGuy68]

I also like watching, and being watched...

Feel free to show off to me!

 

[catalina_francisco]

I also like watching, and being watched...

Maybe that's why porn effects me so...

Perhaps it is in that it taps into part of you which for now gains expression in this way. LOL, I know for me it never worked unless it was something I could either identify with as a trigger for me, or would lead me to such a point or situation. I did have a 4 door (7ft high) cupboard which was mostly filled with porn either in written, pic, or video form....I gave a lot of it away out of necessity when I moved here...didn't make financial sense to try and bring it with me. As Netz says, unless it is causing harm to others though, why let it overly worry you? You could spend that energy and time much better indulging, couldn't you? Then again, I have been known to share and give porn to my daughter so perhaps I am not the best one to answer your musings.

Catalina

 

[@}-}rebecca----]

Perhaps it is in that it taps into part of you which for now gains expression in this way. LOL, I know for me it never worked unless it was something I could either identify with as a trigger for me, or would lead me to such a point or situation. I did have a 4 door (7ft high) cupboard which was mostly filled with porn either in written, pic, or video form....I gave a lot of it away out of necessity when I moved here...didn't make financial sense to try and bring it with me. As Netz says, unless it is causing harm to others though, why let it overly worry you? You could spend that energy and time much better indulging, couldn't you? Then again, I have been known to share and give porn to my daughter so perhaps I am not the best one to answer your musings.

Catalina

Sweeeeeeet jaysus Miss Cat, beg F for an ipod with a color screen & hefty gigs you could assimilate that entire porn collection into something that fits in your pocket : runs :

 

[Marquis]

You sound like you might be a little more into it than myself, but I am quite into porn indeed.

I just checked the properties of my porn folder on my computer and it contains 145 gigabytes of videos. This is a fairly new computer, so this is only what I've downloaded in the last few years.

My sub was always a fan of porn as well. These days I stream the video to my big screen tv in the living room and we watch it together on the couch while whispering filthy sweet nothings into each others ear.

 

[catalina_francisco]

Sweeeeeeet jaysus Miss Cat, beg F for an ipod with a color screen & hefty gigs you could assimilate that entire porn collection into something that fits in your pocket : runs :

LOL, nah, it isn't really his thing...he will look at it occasionally, but still claims it really doesn't float his boat. Me thinks the man protests too much and reacts far from turned off to particular types of porn. I now have only a very small collection which I barely look at. Oh well, I am indulging this evening with an eye and ear feest of the future son-in-law...hmmm, I rellay must tell my daughter about these plans I have for her future!!:

Catalina

 

[human_male]

Wow, expeditions into the BDSM boards are always fascinating.

I remember my first porn mag too. My dad left a Playboy laying around and it actually made me breathless to gaze upon bare naked breasts for the first time. And I was like thirteen too, how sad is that?

I don't think there's anything wrong with liking porn, and if your bf doesn't mind that you have to be watching it when you have sex then what's the problem. That's the way I'd like to have some gay sex. I'd love to have a gf who was into it and we could enjoy it together but I don't know how I'd feel if she had to watch it while having sex with me. I'd feel bad that I wasn't enough for her. But if your bf isn't like that then everything's shiny.

I wish I found porn such a turn on but unless the girls talking really dirty I find it a bit of a bore. Saddly.

I wish you well.

 

[HottieMama]

Dirty talk or dialog is a requirement for me. visuals are nice, but I'll take words any day.

 

[catalina_francisco]

LOL, I just heard a timely statement from Russell Brand which went something like this, 'porn is great, unless you're getting endless sex, and then it sort of doesn't seem so important anymore'.

Catalina

 

[@}-}rebecca----]

LOL, nah, it isn't really his thing...he will look at it occasionally, but still claims it really doesn't float his boat. Me thinks the man protests too much and reacts far from turned off to particular types of porn. I now have only a very small collection which I barely look at. Oh well, I am indulging this evening with an eye and ear feest of the future son-in-law...hmmm, I rellay must tell my daughter about these plans I have for her future!!:

Catalina

I hear you sistaaaaaaaa. Give me Gordon Ramsey flexing either complete disdain or minor encouragement hinged off his total ability to be magnificent at his craft and that's all the porn I'll be needing.

Frankly all mainstream porn either holds no allure or the alternate makes me feel kind of woozy not in a good way ( we are talking cold shower libido kind of way ) , the traverse of that into 'BDSM' fetish usually engenders a good laugh. I'd site specifics but it's a little too early for me.

PM pics of future son in law STAT puhlease

 

[ShyGuy68]

I personally don't watch much mainstream porn at all. My preferences goes to watching real amateurs have kinky fun in pictures. I like to watch real women, who you might meet on the streets when you are out walking. That's just so much more hot!

 

[Homburg]

LOL, I just heard a timely statement from Russell Brand which went something like this, 'porn is great, unless you're getting endless sex, and then it sort of doesn't seem so important anymore'.

This is the truth. I consume very little porn these days. Most of what I seek out are things that give me ideas, which usually means ropework stuff. Other than that, there is an appreciation for good photos, but not something I care about.

Obscure Japanese sites with hot ties and gritty photo conditions? Good stuff, as it helps inspire my own work.

 

[catalina_francisco]

This is the truth. I consume very little porn these days. Most of what I seek out are things that give me ideas, which usually means ropework stuff. Other than that, there is an appreciation for good photos, but not something I care about.

Obscure Japanese sites with hot ties and gritty photo conditions? Good stuff, as it helps inspire my own work.

Yep, my collection grew while I was single by choice and occasionally if I am on the PC waiting on something and bored I might search a little for something special...other than that, it is not needed. Then again, I see some of the simplist things as sexy and hot, so perhaps I am indulging mroe than I realise.

Catalina

 

[tommynova2001]

I personally don't watch much mainstream porn at all. My preferences goes to watching real amateurs have kinky fun in pictures. I like to watch real women, who you might meet on the streets when you are out walking. That's just so much more hot!

This is my taste too. I have to believe the people are real, the orgasms are real and that they are enjoying it.

My background with porn was very guilt ridden, I remember being told at 11 that pornography was evil and I shouldn't view it, think about it know it exists, ask about it, nothing. I didn't know what the word meant. I inferred in context that it somehow involved nekkid chicks. I had hear about..(but not seen) such magazines as playboy where apparently girls take their clothes off. This idea fascinated me in a household where naked breats were seen every other year when the next child was breast fed, and that was OK and normal, but no other nudity of any sort was appropriate. To ths day mammaries don;t generally impress me unless they are spectacular.

Ironically my first glimps of stranger nudity was mamaries and I was hooked. Camping in the backyard with a friend, I looked up when the neighbors kitchen light came on , she had walked into the kitchen, sans top , turned on light, got a drink and and turned off the light. I took less time than It takes to tell it. I still see every nuance, 30 years later.

I became a peeping tom. I actually rationalized that in violating peoples privacy, I at least was not participating in pornography. nutty huh?

I used to watch fascinated between the squiggles on late night scrambled porn broadcasts, but the first time I remember watching full length video porn was cheesy major hotel pseudo porn on our 1st or second anniversary. I found it intriguing, and got off a record dozen plus times that night acting it out. My wife finds those to be not hard core enough to be interesting, and these days is pretty jaded about porn, it is boring to her, (me to really) at least the commercial stuff, I love voyeur stuff and 'real' amateur stuff if such thing actually still exists.

I'd rather read an erotic story than see porn probably. maybe.

 

[Yang4yin]

I Love Porn, I have to have it to come unless I have really good memories, or my own realtime porn playback option I have in my head...

fet·ish also fet·ich - n.
1. An object that is believed to have magical or spiritual powers, especially such an object associated with animistic or shamanistic religious practices.
2. An object of unreasonably excessive attention or reverence: made a fetish of punctuality.
3. Something, such as a material object or a nonsexual part of the body, that arouses sexual desire and may become necessary for sexual gratification.
4. An abnormally obsessive preoccupation or attachment; a fixation.

Based on definitions #3 and #4, I'd say that in the OP's case, porn is a fetish.

 

[sirgary]

...I think porn is a fedish, a strong one...and as many diferent themes there are in the porn industry, there are people wanting to pay to watch them...it suppliments one's sex act...much like a golden shower or the feel of a crop across one's back...

I know of a couple where it isn't all about a man watching another man do his wife, rather, he needs to record it so he can view it later with her and have great sex during or afterwords...

...that is a far cry from my old collection of Deep Throat, Behind the Green Door, and Debbie Does Dallas type of porn...I just like the sideburns of the seventies...

...I sincerely do believe it is a fedish...and an interesting hobby too...

 

[HottieMama]

Is a "fedish" anything like a radish?

 

[Yang4yin]

Ummmmmmmm... no.