(BDSM virgin question) Ever been gangbanged at a party?

[Beach Boy]

I'm only familiar with BDSM because of what I've seen on the internet. So my imagination runs wild when I imagine what some parties must be like.

So have any of you ever been gangbanged at a party? Have you ever served as a "gangbang party favor"? I know those are terrible questions but I'm curious about how wild BDSM really is.

 

[Chicklet]

uhm, no.

i've been to quite a few parties and i've only witnessed two sexual scenes. and no, neither was a gangbang.

i hope you do know that your fantasies are really, really not reality. if you hope they are, you're going to be disapointed.

 

[myinnerslut]

no and no.

i seriously suggest going to the BDSM library thread at the top of the Talk forum, and doing some reading.

 

[FurryFury]

I've never seen actual sex part to sex part touching or mouth to sex part touching at a BDSM event ever.

Oh and no I've never been gang banged at a party nor would I consent to such a thing. I'm much too shy for such a thing.

 

[catalina_francisco]

I think the reality is this does happen in RL, but only amongst those players who are open to such activities, not just based on someone being part of the BDSM lifestyle. I also realise it is frowned upon and looked down on by some, but I think that can be a little judgemental given it is the fantasy of many and some are fortunate (or not) to experience that fantasy in RL, just as others experience various other fantasies they have dreamed of turning into reality....why should one person be looked down on simply because they have lived out a fantasy someone else may be too afraid to experience for any variety of reasons, or not be given the opportunity to experience, or simply because it is not their fantasy or desire? From memory, I can recall 3 people (regular posters) from this forum who have experienced it on some level.

Catalina

 

[ecstaticsub]

So have any of you ever been gangbanged at a party? Have you ever served as a "gangbang party favor"? I know those are terrible questions but I'm curious about how wild BDSM really is.

Yes and yes. If you consider a gangbang 3 guys over and over again for hours and hours. It actually was the first night I met and spent the night with my Daddy in person. (after IM/emailing/phoning daily for over 5 months) I really, really enjoyed being a "party favor". To be honest though I really didn't see it as being BDSM. I wanted it as much (if not more) than my Daddy did. The only BDSM part of it was me being restrained and caned during interogation type of questioning in the beginning. And then I asked my Daddy for permission to really enjoy the other men who were planning to use me that night. He said yes, and I did.

It is something I would love to do again, but Daddy doesn't always like to share me.

 

[unfoundiamond]

I read this and thought...

I thought you might be confusing some porn that you found online with BDSM.

I won't go to a "sex party" for one, so if you are reffering to some kind of underground sex party like on Real Sex, on HBO, I wouldn't know. (I don't look down on it, I just have a mental based orgasam. I have to be mindfucked if you will.)

I just don't see where (with the exception of ecstaticsub) BDSM fits into the gangbanging?

And I honestly read your question and thought you might be confusing wild porn sex from the internet from your statement, "how wild BDSM really is"

I saw a porn when I was younger about a person being brought to a party on a leash and starting being blindfolded in the middle of the room and they (the people at the party) began walking up to him (he's blindfolded) and using his mouth and throat... men and women...

I believe I even used this scene in my phone sex job, It was vivd enough to carry on about...

But its porn...

 

[catalina_francisco]

I thought you might be confusing some porn that you found online with BDSM.

I won't go to a "sex party" for one, so if you are reffering to some kind of underground sex party like on Real Sex, on HBO, I wouldn't know. (I don't look down on it, I just have a mental based orgasam. I have to be mindfucked if you will.)

I just don't see where (with the exception of ecstaticsub) BDSM fits into the gangbanging?

And I honestly read your question and thought you might be confusing wild porn sex from the internet from your statement, "how wild BDSM really is"

I saw a porn when I was younger about a person being brought to a party on a leash and starting being blindfolded in the middle of the room and they (the people at the party) began walking up to him (he's blindfolded) and using his mouth and throat... men and women...

I believe I even used this scene in my phone sex job, It was vivd enough to carry on about...

But its porn...

For you, yes it is porn, for others it is reality....why is it so difficult for some to consider so many acts that do happen for some in RL to be real just because it doesn't happen to them?

Catalina

 

[unfoundiamond]

Okay, Okay....

Its not that people can't be doing it, its that I gave more examples of the gangbang being BDSM related than the OP.

I know it happens, but the movie I saw was porn, (with people who knew they where being filmed and playing it up for the camera)

Porn isn't RL.

 

[unfoundiamond]

I am not saying I wouldn't participate in a gangbang...

I am saying I wouldn't be doing it with random strangers at a "party"

Look at es for example, she had "Daddy" with her... she felt safe and so she was free enough to feel horny... even if she didn't know everyone, she still had Him there, and they where involved.

I am saying, random strange men at a party?... No... not for me...

Make more sence??

BTW ecstatic- I am sorry to use you as an example if you mind it, You just happen to be an exception to my statement, and I had to be respectful, and acknowlegde that. Then once that was said I realized what I said could be misunderstood and... I don't want you to be offended.

 

[catalina_francisco]

I am not saying I wouldn't participate in a gangbang...

I am saying I wouldn't be doing it with random strangers at a "party"

Look at es for example, she had "Daddy" with her... she felt safe and so she was free enough to feel horny... even if she didn't know everyone, she still had Him there, and they where involved.

I am saying, random strange men at a party?... No... not for me...

Make more sence??

BTW ecstatic- I am sorry to use you as an example if you mind it, You just happen to be an exception to my statement, and I had to be respectful, and acknowlegde that. Then once that was said I realized what I said could be misunderstood and... I don't want you to be offended.

I guess in a sense, but then I cannot imagine a BDSM situation whereby a sub would be doing it of their own accord, own choice, without a PYL involved at some point in some way. I do think it happens often that people dismiss things as porn only, such as a discussion once about being chained at night to which many jumped up to make jokes about how it is only a porn like fantasy which is not reality, but from memory myself and sinnOcent (if memory serves me well) had both experienced it in our RL ownership relationships...so though for most it is the stuff of porn, for some as long as it is physically possible to do and desired by the PYL, it can be reality.

Catalina

 

[Homburg]

*shrug*

Not my thing. I've heard of it occurring. I don't judge those involved either. Gangbags are a helluva lot less scary than some of the things we do on a regular basis.

That said, there's nothing inherently BDSM about a gangbang, nor about being a gangbang party favour. What gangbang porn I've seen (and I don't search for it) seems vanilla in overall tone, aside from the gangbangy bits.

 

[madetotakeit]

This has long played in my fantasies...both BDSM and non-BDSM related. To me a ganbang is not in and of itself something I would associate with BDSM> I would certainly act this out given a situation similar to Ecstaticsub's. A PYL I had complete trust with would have to be present. But for me, the idea works. There are certainly plenty of ways to add the extra level of BDSM to the mix in a SSC way. I would certainly not put myself in that position in a BDSM sense on my own any more than I would walk into a nightclub and offer myself up for a "vanilla" gangbang. It's a very vulnerable situation either way. Somebody would have to be looking out for me.

 

[catalina_francisco]

This has long played in my fantasies...both BDSM and non-BDSM related. To me a ganbang is not in and of itself something I would associate with BDSM> I would certainly act this out given a situation similar to Ecstaticsub's. A PYL I had complete trust with would have to be present. But for me, the idea works. There are certainly plenty of ways to add the extra level of BDSM to the mix in a SSC way.

Exactly...the most simplistic being a pyl placed in that position by and for their PYL's amusement/pleasure/service irrespective of how they personally feel about it, especially if it is know they find it difficult and actuially would prefer to have nothing to do with it. For me that is very D/s related and nothing remotely vanilla about it unless it were a situation of abuse in that there was not consent from the one placed in the situation, and no D/s type element to the relationship.....still not vanilla IMHO as it becomes abuse then.

Catalina

 

[ecstaticsub]

I am not saying I wouldn't participate in a gangbang...

I am saying I wouldn't be doing it with random strangers at a "party"

Look at es for example, she had "Daddy" with her... she felt safe and so she was free enough to feel horny... even if she didn't know everyone, she still had Him there, and they where involved.

I am saying, random strange men at a party?... No... not for me...

Make more sence??

BTW ecstatic- I am sorry to use you as an example if you mind it, You just happen to be an exception to my statement, and I had to be respectful, and acknowlegde that. Then once that was said I realized what I said could be misunderstood and... I don't want you to be offended.

No offense taken.

This first situation was in some ways D/s related and in some ways not. I was not told anything about it before it happened. We had talked about three somes and moresomes during our many phone conversations and before I became his submissive. I had told him that the first time we met I would rather it just be him alone. After I became his submissive there was about 6 weeks before we actually met the first time. During this time one of the things that was required of me was to share my fantasies--a major one was being used by a group of men and/or women.

I trusted him totally and without any hesitation. I didn't ask what would be expected of me that first night together and he didn't offer any information. We had an informal sort of collaring cermony as soon as I entered the hotel room. I agreed to submitt totally to him without limits.

I had sex with him within the first hour we were together and then he told me to shower and told me what to wear. I was blindfolded and restrained to the bed. Then others arrived and the party began. I was caned by a female friend of his at his direction in front of the other men. Then I was unrestrained and the sex began.

So in a way it was D/s--ish because I had no choice. I just went along with the flow and was told where to go and what to do. (and no privacy, even when I had to pee) But on the other hand I was treated with incredible respect by his friends. They were good friends of his not just some strangers off the street. For the most part Daddy didn't join in. He mostly was making sure I was ok, checking in on me often. It didn't feel like a "gangbang" It felt like a party. Daddy often leaned in and whispered how proud of me he was and how pleased I was making him.

Since then I have been told to service a friend or two of his again. I really love doing it because I get to make him so proud of me. Plus to be honest, I love sex so it is something I usually really like, too.

 

[intothewoods]

I haven't, but I understand at a certain event I've been to, you can request to be kidnapped and "raped." I half considered it, but then decided I wasn't so into it. At the time I thought, maybe someday. But at the moment I can't imagine ever wanting it - I don't need that level of debasement and degredation. It would be different energy to be shared (than kidnapped and forcibly fucked), but not one that either my PYL or I desire. It really doesn't match up with our dynamic, besides.

 

[HottieMama]

Not me...and probably not ever. Men that i don't know well scare me in a "emotional breakdown" type of way.

 

[unfoundiamond]

Yep. I know.

Not me...and probably not ever. Men that i don't know well scare me in a "emotional breakdown" type of way.

Me Too!

 

[FurryFury]

I never said that it couldn't happen in RL or that I'd look down on someone involved.

I do think it's pretty rare.

I do think the OP asked the question based on porn.

 

[Netzach]

I've been at parties with "party favors" but I didn't especially want to use one I know really well or one I don't know from a hole in the wall either. It's really REALLY hard to make this kind of scene work - but people sure love it as a dearly held fantasy and it does show up at certain sex positive parties.

 

[VelvetDarkness]

I have never had a gangbang but one of my biggest fantasies is to be used by Master and another man/men at the same time. He knows this and has zero interest in making it happen but it remains a fantasy for me. There are aspects in my head that conflict though. I would want the other men to be people that Master knew and trusted but I would be too embarrassed if they were his close friends who I see regularly. I even tried to solve this problem (in fantasyland) by imagining myself blindfolded so that I would never know which of his friends had used me. That was a very hot fantasy.

I am not sure how I would feel about being passed around relative strangers, even with appropriate safe sex being practised. I'm still not sure if this would translate happily into RL for me. It's not going to happen, so there's little point me worrying about the logistics of it all.

 

[unfoundiamond]

I never said that it couldn't happen in RL or that I'd look down on someone involved.

I do think it's pretty rare.

I do think the OP asked the question based on porn.

I agree... In fact I'd go so far as to say I'd bet the OP and I saw THE SAME porn.

(Footnote: I have been "addicted" to porn for about 10 years... I know there are not nearly as many BDSM porns as regular mainstream porn... and I think I have seen thousands of porns.)

 

[Marquis]

I could get into this, but it's definitely very touchy territory.

During my drunken college days, it wasn't uncommon for friends and I to share our conquests.

 

[Evil_Geoff]

I've never witnessed a real gangbang at a BDSM party. But I tend to play in public dungeons where penetration is prohibited because of local or state laws about public sex. While I have witnessed or participated in a menage'-a-trois a time or two, I've never participated in a gangbang (more than 2 partners, 1 getting fucked, the rest doing the fucking), and concentually I never will. Sorry, but safer sex or not, I'm not willing to take that risk.

I have friends who are into the swinging scene, and they report that gangbangs are not very common in their circle either. Apparently group sex and gangbangs are considered different animals in that lifestyle as well.

Personally, I find very little sexual activity that I would consider "wild". Now beating someone with a chain flogger? THAT'S wild! And I've seen that done...

No, I don't have a chain flogger. Why? Do you think I should get one?

 

[BiaTcHiNFiRe]

No, I don't have a chain flogger. Why? Do you think I should get one?

You should!

As to OP, I never saw gangbang IRL, but I surely love this kind of scene in porn movies and sex stories. Rape and gangbang are two of my most favorite sexual fantasies, I just love to dream about being taken like that, cant say it have anything to do with BDSM tho and as someone here said its very rare and its REALLY hard to do and make it real I think.

My Master knows I'd like to be taken and abused like that. I been dreaming about it for years now, God knows why lol, I just find it hot. Maybe its cuz of my poor sexual experience I have with men? and adding more men into the action could eventualy sate the greedy beast in me and leave me laying helplessly on the floor totaly pwned and satisfied.

Feel "satisfied" - thats a feeling I dunno IRL during the sex. Only man who ever made me feel satisfied is my curent Master, I wanna experience the very same thing IRL if possible. I know my Master wouldnt need his friends to leave me breathless once he would be done with me. Some rope, flogger, belt, the pins and some more things like that and the sadist he is would make the trick. I dont think one man can really satisfy me sexualy. Dominant sadistic man yes. Vanilla man can just dream about seeing me cuming for him tho.