Weak Erection

[pitsteelforever]

I'm just 19 years old, and as of late I am having huge troubles with weak erections. I can't really get hard enough for penetration, and the few times i have, it took so long that by that time I only last a couple minutes. I'm too young to be having these problems! I've been reading up on it, and it seems like it could be caused by over-masturbation? I have masturbation since i was fairly young, and fairly often but I don't know I would call it excessive.

Anyways, I'm desperate for anything to help with my problem. Any pills or supplements ever work for anybody? Or anything else at all that could get rid of my problem? My girl has been very understanding, but it's embarrassing me and is really getting me down... and i think about it more and more with each failed attempt. Thanks for any help!

 

[Exciteher]

I'm just 19 years old, and as of late I am having huge troubles with weak erections. I can't really get hard enough for penetration, and the few times i have, it took so long that by that time I only last a couple minutes. I'm too young to be having these problems! I've been reading up on it, and it seems like it could be caused by over-masturbation? I have masturbation since i was fairly young, and fairly often but I don't know I would call it excessive.

Anyways, I'm desperate for anything to help with my problem. Any pills or supplements ever work for anybody? Or anything else at all that could get rid of my problem? My girl has been very understanding, but it's embarrassing me and is really getting me down... and i think about it more and more with each failed attempt. Thanks for any help!

How are your erections when you masturbate???
You said.."as of late"...does this mean this is a new problem, and that you usually have not had this problem?
I doubt masturbation is the issue....
If you have good erections when you masturbate, I would suspect it is a performance anxiety of some sort...
If your erections are consistently weak, even when masturbating, I would see a doctor.
Also, alcohol is famous for causing this sort of thing...

 

[Tentacles]

maby you have just passed your peak, the great thing to look forward to is integral calculus. After you stop worrying about sex math becomes great fun.

If you are really concerned, start doing PC excersizes, and that will surly help. I doubt that jackin's it too much is the problem, depending on how you do it, that can strenghthen the muscles.

 

[Ozfamilyman]

Get a health check, and dont be embarrassed. It could be anything from diabetes to anxiety

To paraphrase a saying''if a woodchuck could get wood, would a woodchuck talk about wood''

 

[LoboBoy]

I'm just 19 years old, and as of late I am having huge troubles with weak erections. I can't really get hard enough for penetration, and the few times i have, it took so long that by that time I only last a couple minutes. I'm too young to be having these problems! I've been reading up on it, and it seems like it could be caused by over-masturbation? I have masturbation since i was fairly young, and fairly often but I don't know I would call it excessive.

Anyways, I'm desperate for anything to help with my problem. Any pills or supplements ever work for anybody? Or anything else at all that could get rid of my problem? My girl has been very understanding, but it's embarrassing me and is really getting me down... and i think about it more and more with each failed attempt. Thanks for any help!

Are you on any medication such as Propecia (finasteride) or SSRI's?

 

[cfnmparty]

maybe the weak erections come from boring sex. what do you think about when you jack off and have a full-hard erection?

 

[RippedUp]

There are lots of things that can lead to weak erections. The human body is a very complex one.

How is your libido?

Ask your doctor for a blood test, and check the following:

- total testosterone
- free testosterone
- prolactin
- estradiol
- fasting blood glucose

If your libido is high, then you should see an urologist. That might be a mechanical rather than a hormonal/psychological one.

Do you cycle a lot?

 

[The_old_man]

I have the same or similar problem. In my case it is due to low blood pressure, I can get it fully inflated but don't have enugh pressure to get it hard. Even Levitra dosen't help.

 

[taolanes]

Are you on any medication such as Propecia (finasteride) or SSRI's?

Ya know, I did both of those drugs. And I am 23 now and still have a strong sex drive. But before I did those 2 drugs I had a REALLY strong sex drive.

Basically, there is a solution to weak erections. Unlike the problem of having a small penis, there are things you can do to make your erections stronger. The first, and most important, is your diet. There was a very popular book that showed the huge linkage through a healthy body and a healthy penis. So watching your diet will not only give you more energy, but it will also give you better erections.

And beyond that, doing kegels is specifically intended to give you stronger erections. When you pee, stop the flow of urine to locate what the pc muscle is. And then squeeze and release that muscle about 100 times a day. In just a couple weeks you will notice a difference.

Anyways, eat better and do the kegels and you will notice a dramatic improvement. The more effort you put in, the more results you will get

 

[jonathan83]

I know they always ask "Do you wake up with an errection or have them in the mornings?"

If you do it is most likely mental. I have had that problem in the past.

If not it could be from something else like lack of exercise or certain medications. It never hurts to see a doctor!

 

[pitsteelforever]

I know they always ask "Do you wake up with an errection or have them in the mornings?"

If you do it is most likely mental. I have had that problem in the past.

If not it could be from something else like lack of exercise or certain medications. It never hurts to see a doctor!

after assesing the situation, I came to the conclusion that thats my problem moreso than anything. I often wake up with full erections, so I am capable of acheiving one. The first time my current girlfriend and I tried to have sex, i was really tired and drunk, and couldn't get it up. It must have just got into my head. I downloaded a hypnotism mp3 for sexual performance anxiety, and have been listening to it daily for the last few days. Tonight my girlfriend and I didn't have sex, but I seemed to keep a better erection the whole time we were fooling around. Thanks for all the suggestions and the help.

 

[taolanes]

I'll cosign that it's mental. You are lucky enough to still get erections. All of a sudden when you and your gf get down and dirty you obsess about not getting one, and that is the problem. The great thing is that those things always work themselves out

 

[rawrrrz]

first post, yay!

i'm 19 too, actually..
and i had this problem for a while, too..
and i too thought it was from excessive masturbation, and i know for a fact i masturbate more than any human ever should.. i once read that a healthy average was 2-4 times a week tops.. that's a daily minimum for me =\

but as someone said, boring sex was my problem.. not excessive masturbation..
i've spent lots of my free time on the net, and i'm a damn dirty pervert.. so over the years my masturbation fantasies just kept getting wilder and when it came to sex.. my problem was the idea of sex was more appealing than the act itself..

i'm assuming that it's from exploring the possibilities and fetishes out there more than most people my age, so i guess my fantasies are just a bit wild for my age group haha

my answer came from a wonderful older girl who's imagination far exceeded mine, i never thought i'd blush at the thought of something sexual again.. but sure enough she shocked the hell out of me..

so i, too, am agreeing with people saying it's a mental thing..

i just wasn't into the plain boring sex..
i'd often find my mind wandering away..
at first i'd always have a movie or music going on in the background
but then i had to get rid of everything because it just got too repetitive and tedious.. then i'd find myself watching the movie or something and i felt awful for it.. i stopped having sex for a while, thought maybe i had worn it out..

so yeah, if the hypnotism thing is working for ya, great!
but another suggestion that worked wonders for me.. is always try and keep things as new and exciting as possible, keep trying new stuff..
there's plenty of sites (this being one of them) with lots of suggestions\ideas.. i steal a lot of mine from porn too..

variety is the spice of life! and leads to stronger erections!
worked for me atleast, hope all works out for ya!

 

[wxpprnpprnt]

Feeling the relationship "isn't right" can do that also. I have never had any problems with this... *except* with one particular person. It was when I was going through a phase of believing in polyamory. I was with a beautiful, brilliant, bisexual and polyamourous woman at the time. There was nothing on the surface wrong with her at all. But I just *could not* get into the necessary state with her.

I liked her a lot and found the situation mentally stimulating in a sense. I wondered if something was wrong with me at the time. But I'd had no problem in relationships prior to that. Later I had to admit that that particular lifestyle, as a reality as opposed to a fantasy, was in fact a turn-off for me (which is why I prefer to explore written fantasy rather than act on it). I found it interesting in theory, but only in theory. I actually didn't like it at all as a reality. It turns out I am *way* more interested in long-term, deep, monogomous relationships. I had to "come out" as fairly conservative, lol. In my next (very traditional) relationship, all the problems uttelry and instantly vanished from the first time.

Please note: I'm not saying your relationship is the problem. It may be an issue of philosophy, outlook, the past incident you described, etc. I have no idea. I just wanted to let you know that mental or even philosophical issues *can* cause this and *can* immediately and totally vanish when addressed.

Also note: I don't mean to trash polyamoury. What works for people depends on zillions of ever-changing internal and external factors, plenty of people are probably the exact reverse of me on the matter.

All the best.

 

[Conager]

The volume of ED issues and the youth of those experiencing it has some researchers pointing to porn. Something to consider. There's very little that you can intake through your senses that one shouldn't enjoy in moderation. Excess of anything tends to have debilitating side effects.

Are you on any medication such as Propecia (finasteride) or SSRI's?

SSRI'S usually do not interfere with erections, they cause difficulty reaching orgasm. They are sometimes prescribed off-label for those with pre-ejacumation problems. Propecia is more likely to interfere with libido than an erection when your libido is still interested. Affects testosterone.

maybe the weak erections come from boring sex. what do you think about when you jack off and have a full-hard erection?

Idiosyncratic masturbatory masturbatory practices can be a problem, but that is not a boring sex problem, that's a you problem. If you're constantly fueling your habits with unrealistic scenarios then that is going to be a problem for you.

There are lots of things that can lead to weak erections. The human body is a very complex one.

How is your libido?

Ask your doctor for a blood test, and check the following:

- total testosterone
- free testosterone
- prolactin
- estradiol
- fasting blood glucose

If your libido is high, then you should see an urologist. That might be a mechanical rather than a hormonal/psychological one.

Do you cycle a lot?

100% well worth talking to a urologist

I know they always ask "Do you wake up with an errection or have them in the mornings?"

If you do it is most likely mental. I have had that problem in the past.

If not it could be from something else like lack of exercise or certain medications. It never hurts to see a doctor!

Morning thing is bladder pressure so not a good indicator of anything but whether, if engorged, it stays engorged. Better test is whether with manual stimulation by yourself, sans porn and fantast can you acheive an erection?

first post, yay!

i'm 19 too, actually..
and i had this problem for a while, too..
and i too thought it was from excessive masturbation, and i know for a fact i masturbate more than any human ever should.. i once read that a healthy average was 2-4 times a week tops.. that's a daily minimum for me =\

but as someone said, boring sex was my problem.. not excessive masturbation..
i've spent lots of my free time on the net, and i'm a damn dirty pervert.. so over the years my masturbation fantasies just kept getting wilder and when it came to sex.. my problem was the idea of sex was more appealing than the act itself..

i'm assuming that it's from exploring the possibilities and fetishes out there more than most people my age, so i guess my fantasies are just a bit wild for my age group haha

my answer came from a wonderful older girl who's imagination far exceeded mine, i never thought i'd blush at the thought of something sexual again.. but sure enough she shocked the hell out of me..

so i, too, am agreeing with people saying it's a mental thing..

i just wasn't into the plain boring sex..
i'd often find my mind wandering away..
at first i'd always have a movie or music going on in the background
but then i had to get rid of everything because it just got too repetitive and tedious.. then i'd find myself watching the movie or something and i felt awful for it.. i stopped having sex for a while, thought maybe i had worn it out..

so yeah, if the hypnotism thing is working for ya, great!
but another suggestion that worked wonders for me.. is always try and keep things as new and exciting as possible, keep trying new stuff..
there's plenty of sites (this being one of them) with lots of suggestions\ideas.. i steal a lot of mine from porn too..

variety is the spice of life! and leads to stronger erections!
worked for me atleast, hope all works out for ya!

There's a pleasure circuit in the brain that cocaine, orgasms, runners high, etc trigger. Needing progressively more intense/kinky/athletic/risky fantasy to acheive an orgasm is a cycle you cannot ultimately win.

I have no intent to kink-shame or to discourage an active, full, lusty partnership. I, too, enjoy a lusty, kinky, open-minded, even wild partner. I'll put up with a fair amount of crazy for hot. My only advice here is to be very present in the moment with your partner. If you have to keep leaving for fantasyland, you risk running out of airspace, eventually.

 

[Initiate_me]

How is your diet?

If you eat badly, especially a lot of fat, you are likely to struggle to get the blood flow to it to get properly hard

 

[CandK_inSE]

I hope I can help someone here. Something happened to me that caused ED and the doctor I was seeing completely overlooked something...I could have died from a massive kidney infection that was thankfully caught after it was festering for over 2 years.

I still have SOME issues, but for the most part, I work like a normal late 40's male.

I've always been prone to kidney stones. My dad had lots of them. My mom had a few too. I know what the pain is when one starts the path. I don't wish that pain on anyone.

Late January 2016, I'm backing out of my driveway to take my daughter to school and go to work. The pain hits. My daughter's school is a little more than a mile from the house. I get her there. I come home. Best thing to do when you're having an attack is to keep moving and force that stone into a less constricted area. I take the dog for a walk and the pain lessens somewhat. My wife gets home from her shift (she's a nurse), and tell her I need to go to the hospital immediately.

We get to the hospital. This one is the worst I've ever had. Finally, they get me into a "bed" and pump pain killer into me. One minute in, and the pain is GONE. Like completely GONE. That's never happened. They do x-rays and they can't find anything. Send me home. I'm FINE. The hospital said that I "must have pulled a muscle or something." Follow up with my urologist, can't find anything. Tests, can't find anything.

Valentine's Day. Daughter is away. Wife and me. It's time for play. I have never had a problem getting erect and satisfying any girl/woman I was with. Wife is in lingerie and looks HOT. We're in foreplay, and it just isn't getting that hard. Eventually, I was able to penetrate and cum but it didn't feel right. No more that night. Tried again the next night, same thing.

Follow up with the urologist again. He says it's Low T and try a pill. Pills didn't work and the testosterone shots barely held the t-count above 250, although there was absolutely no loss of libido. I wanted to fuck my wife and I knew she was getting frustrated. We collected a lot of toys. My tongue and fingers "learned" a lot. My wife got me cock rings; and was trying all she could to get me right. This went on for TWO YEARS. Nobody looked at anything even though I was regularly going to the doctor and seeing the urologist.

September 2018. I had taken my daughter out for a good soccer workout. A few days later, I started feeling a slight pain on my right side, just under my rib cage. By the end of the week, I was at Urgent Care. Oh, I did have kidney stone(s). Oh, not one, but THREE. Urologist scheduled surgery for the end of the week. That week was AWFUL. Go into surgery. Come out and I know something is wrong. Ended up I had a massive kidney infection behind the largest stone. Thing was acting like a filter. If it didn't flare up when it did, I would have lost the kidney in two months, or I could have died. Urologist put a stent in to kill the infection and gave me three weeks to heal.

Was laying in bed upset about the whole thing. Wife comes in. She moved her hand over my cock and said "poor thing". My cock sprung, and I mean SPRUNG to life! Yeah, we enjoyed that.

Supposedly, the infection somehow blocked blood flow down to the penis. The urologist said that he's seen it, but it isn't common, BUT, ED is not something that's the same for every man. I URGE EVERY GUY who isn't feeling 100% when it comes to erections and everything that goes with them to get checked out IMMEDIATELY! I am absolutely LIVID that we lost two years of sex because of something that was "missed". I am absolutely lucky that my wife, who was/is going through menopause, and is craving sex daily, was satisfied with what I was able to give her. Do not take no for an answer. Goes for guys as well as their girlfriends/wives.

I got the stones removed, and things are almost back to normal. I do take a GNC supplement and I get weekly testosterone shots.

I'm about 95% of what I was in my 30's. With a cock ring and my wife getting "sexed up", it goes to about 110% of "average".

Part of the reason we're on Lit is because we got a second chance at an active sex life and we enjoy the stories and the openness.