Depression. It's a silent killer.

[Bassytian]

This season is so hard.
I had a really rough patch in the beginning of November that got worse by drinking too much. It became more for everyday and finally my husband sat me down and we talked. Deep inside I knew I needed daylight and exercise, but my brain convinced me wine worked just as well.
Still fighting with depression and self hatred but the walks are doing wonders and having my daughter hug me clears the darkness.

Listen.
Be there.
Hug.

Keep fighting everyone.
We can do this!

I never started drinking, which shocks me, because I've had plenty of reasons and opportunities to. Ambien was my vice, so I can both relate and not relate to those who drink.

We have to be there for each other, and let others be there for us!

Crowns without Novacaine.

Thanks Bas. Love you.

Love you, too!

 

[Zeppelin1969]

I avoid talking about it -- it's the ultimate turn-off. People just disappear if you ever show vulnerability, or at least me, a straight male.

 

[Wetkitty09]

I avoid talking about it -- it's the ultimate turn-off. People just disappear if you ever show vulnerability, or at least me, a straight male.

Those that disappear were never meant to hold your vulnerability sacred. Let them go and keep looking. There are people out there who understand the gift that someone’s vulnerability is a hold it safe.

 

[Wetkitty09]

Morning. I’m moving. The world is still turning and Mother Nature is still putting up with our shit.
Weird mood this morning.

Have the best day you can.
Be safe out there.
Love you.

 

[forgotmyantidepressants]

I have to stay two hours over at work and I'm angry enough to put my head through a window.

 

[Bassytian]

I avoid talking about it -- it's the ultimate turn-off. People just disappear if you ever show vulnerability, or at least me, a straight male.

As a, mostly, straight male, there is truth in that. It's like we are "too privileged" to be depressed. And if we are, then we are either weak, spoiled, or both.

But, there is also truth in what @Wetkitty09 said as well, that those who view us that way have no business in our lives anyway. The ones who should stick around will.

 

[Graybear1826]

Folks, no BS. Like many of us, I'm on Zoloft 100mg. I'm also fortunate enough to have people in my life to listen to me and at times call me on my bullshit or slap me around (figuratively).

I'm 64, male, and as puzzled about the inner workings of a woman's mind as I was at 20. I do, however, listen. I ask questions. Most importantly, I care.

I love the sex talk as much as anybody. That said, if you need an ear, feel free to reach out.

 

[LucianaGrace]

I have to say that the isolation you both speak of is all too real, and currently being in it, I wonder if it is the most dangerous aspect of the situation. I do, however, believe it isn’t just a male situation. All of my life I have had the responsibility of being the strong one who must either have or find all of the answers for everyone in my life. All of these years later I find myself in my greatest despair, and it has been made abundantly clear that I am alone to face this. I am unsure of what causes the isolation, but in any case, it isn’t specifically harder for one gender over another. The isolation is deeply damaging, difficult and painful for all.

Also, thank you for this thread. I may only post a rose, but that is my small attempt to be accountable and show that I am still here, even if a rose is all I can manage that day. This thread has helped beyond measure. Thank you.

 

[Graybear1826]

I have to say that the isolation you both speak of is all too real, and currently being in it, I wonder if it is the most dangerous aspect of the situation. I do, however, believe it isn’t just a male situation. All of my life I have had the responsibility of being the strong one who must either have or find all of the answers for everyone in my life. All of these years later I find myself in my greatest despair, and it has been made abundantly clear that I am alone to face this. I am unsure of what causes the isolation, but in any case, it isn’t specifically harder for one gender over another. The isolation is deeply damaging, difficult and painful for all.

Also, thank you for this thread. I may only post a rose, but that is my small attempt to be accountable and show that I am still here, even if a rose is all I can manage that day. This thread has helped beyond measure. Thank you.

Thank you for anything you post. Isolation sucks. Please don't be isolated.

 

[Noone45]

I have to say that the isolation you both speak of is all too real, and currently being in it, I wonder if it is the most dangerous aspect of the situation. I do, however, believe it isn’t just a male situation. All of my life I have had the responsibility of being the strong one who must either have or find all of the answers for everyone in my life. All of these years later I find myself in my greatest despair, and it has been made abundantly clear that I am alone to face this. I am unsure of what causes the isolation, but in any case, it isn’t specifically harder for one gender over another. The isolation is deeply damaging, difficult and painful for all.

Also, thank you for this thread. I may only post a rose, but that is my small attempt to be accountable and show that I am still here, even if a rose is all I can manage that day. This thread has helped beyond measure. Thank you.

Hello luciana
We're are here
As long as we're around you're not alone and we make sure you are not feel lonely
You can always reach out when world gets heavy , and you sink in too deep
We are here to pull you up
We know how scary it is down there the darkness and loud noises in head
We're HERE to help eachother!
WE'RE NOT ALONE !
Have a wonderful day
And make it spicy while you're here

 

[forgotmyantidepressants]

I have to say that the isolation you both speak of is all too real, and currently being in it, I wonder if it is the most dangerous aspect of the situation. I do, however, believe it isn’t just a male situation. All of my life I have had the responsibility of being the strong one who must either have or find all of the answers for everyone in my life. All of these years later I find myself in my greatest despair, and it has been made abundantly clear that I am alone to face this. I am unsure of what causes the isolation, but in any case, it isn’t specifically harder for one gender over another. The isolation is deeply damaging, difficult and painful for all.

Also, thank you for this thread. I may only post a rose, but that is my small attempt to be accountable and show that I am still here, even if a rose is all I can manage that day. This thread has helped beyond measure. Thank you.

we see you

 

[Wetkitty09]

Morning. The outpouring of support is why we keep this thread on top. Thank you all for being there for others and keeping this going.

Be safe out there.
Love you

 

[Noone45]

 

[Graybear1826]

Please have the GREAT day you all deserve. Resistance to this request will get you referred to the BDSM thread!

 

[Beholders_Eye]

I sat outside in the sun today. A nice change from the gloomy weather we have had. Felt good!

 

[Wetkitty09]

Please have the GREAT day you all deserve. Resistance to this request will get you referred to the BDSM thread!

You make that sound like a bad thing.

 

[Graybear1826]

You make that sound like a bad thing.

Kitty,

YOU don't need the BDSM thread! You just come see me...I'd be only too happy to love on you the way you want and deserve. Trust me, you sexy ...

 

[justagirlLMA]

Depression sucks, I've delt with depression a few time in my life. All I do now is Just keep swimming. One day at a time. If anyone is looking for a friend. I am here for you.

 

[LucianaGrace]

 

[filt]

It’s coming up to a grim time of year, the Christmas season; all the talk of celebration, family and friends and season of goodwill to all.

A great time unless you’re struggling or you’re estranged from the people you would desperately like to be with or, conversely, would like to avoid.

Don’t do it in silence, it’s a lonely enough path. You’re very welcome if you could use a fairly sensible, if dark humoured, non judgemental counsel.

 

[Wetkitty09]

Good to see you.

 

[Wetkitty09]

Morning. Christmas is a non- starter this year. I’m broke and while I don’t tend to give gifts anymore anyway I hate the feeling of not having the option.
It just makes the depression worse. I’m dealing, and have a support network but it still sucks.
Reach out. We’re here and understand.

Be safe out there.
Love you.

 

[Sillytease68]

Searching for my Christmas spirit. Please help. I agree this time of year is a struggle for many, myself included. I'm needing a boost is all.

 

[Graybear1826]

Searching for my Christmas spirit. Please help. I agree this time of year is a struggle for many, myself included. I'm needing a boost is all.

You are here with like minded people who care for you! May I suggest a random act of kindness?

 

[Sillytease68]

I don't mind that idea, it's actually a good one. I will think on that. Thank you