Responding to Comments

[KikiKisses]

Is there a way to respond to comments besides using the private feedback? I would love to tag the people but I don’t see a way.

 

[alohadave]

You can comment on the story yourself, but the other commenter won't get any notification. They won't know unless they come back to the comments to check.

 

[cw5523729]

Is there a way to respond to comments besides using the private feedback? I would love to tag the people but I don’t see a way.

What @alohadave said. That's what I did a few times, even knowing that the commenter probably would never see it. I didn't PM them because that felt stalkery.

 

[Bazzle]

I just reply in the comments.

It shows others that you are actually reading the comments?

 

[StillStunned]

You can comment on the story yourself, but the other commenter won't get any notification. They won't know unless they come back to the comments to check.

But if they look at their "My comments" list they'll see that the number of comments on the story has gone up, and they might have a look.

Also, other readers will see your comment. They'll see that you appreciate their comments, and that makes them more likely to comment as well. Particularly if your reply is more meaningful than just "thanks!" I usually try to add a detail about my thoughts or process when writing, and if there's a question I always try to answer it.

And lastly: your reply will show up in the "recent comments" list. This means twice as much chance of drawing the attention of random readers.

 

[KikiKisses]

I was planning to do both, respond in the comments but also send a response to the person individually. I don’t think it’s stalkery at all, I just didn’t want to have to do it if I didn’t have to. Thanks so much!

 

[cw5523729]

I was planning to do both, respond in the comments but also send a response to the person individually. I don’t think it’s stalkery at all, I just didn’t want to have to do it if I didn’t have to. Thanks so much!

As a guy, I'm probably more cautious about coming across that way.

 

[IWroteThis]

I was planning to do both, respond in the comments but also send a response to the person individually. I don’t think it’s stalkery at all, I just didn’t want to have to do it if I didn’t have to. Thanks so much!

I do that sometimes. I'll comment on the story, then DM them with a copy of it under a "I don't know if you check back for replies to your comments, so sending you a copy of it here."

 

[KikiKisses]

As a guy, I'm probably more cautious about coming across that way.

Absolutely. I thought about that when I was posting my reply.

Personally it doesn’t bother me if someone is talking about the story itself. But I did find it fascinating that when I first created an account here I immediately had men messaging me and some were right off the bat asking me if I was interested in them being my dom.

I don’t even have a bio on here. I definitely don’t have a picture. People are wild.

 

[Rambling_Chantrix]

I really wish you could nest comment replies, and get notifications when your comments are replied to. I feel like that would really strengthen communication and connection on the main site.

 

[cw5523729]

Absolutely. I thought about that when I was posting my reply.

Personally it doesn’t bother me if someone is talking about the story itself. But I did find it fascinating that when I first created an account here I immediately had men messaging me and some were right off the bat asking me if I was interested in them being my dom.

See? It's posts like that (which I see on here all the time) that make me paranoid about coming across as creepy, even for the most innocuous of messages.

 

[EmilyMiller]

when I first created an account here I immediately had men messaging me and some were right off the bat asking me if I was interested in them being my dom.

Welcome to my world!

 

[cw5523729]

Welcome to my world!

Oh, sorry, please delete that dick pic I just sent you.


It was meant for someone else.

 

[EmilyMiller]

Oh, sorry, please delete that dick pic I just sent you.


It was meant for someone else.

As per my profile, unsolicited dick pics = block.

Yeah - I know you are joking.

 

[Actingup]

Welcome to my world!

“I’ll think about it, but hold still while I put this leash and gag on you.”

Another option is to check whether they are on these forums and DM them here (if they look like suitable people). The DM system on the story side of things is clunky and unreliable.

 

[StillStunned]

As per my profile, unsolicited dick pics = block.

Not just *all* dick pics?

 

[cw5523729]

Not just *all* dick pics?

Good catch - the unsolicited part makes you wonder how many she HAS solicited....

BRB, gotta check my email for my invitation. Might have gotten sent to spam.

 

[EmilyMiller]

“I’ll think about it, but hold still while I put this leash and gag on you.”

Another option is to check whether they are on these forums and DM them here (if they look like suitable people). The DM system on the story side of things is clunky and unreliable.

I’ve seriously got initial PMs along the lines of:

<Eric Cartman> Obey ma auth-or-it-ay! </Eric Cartman>

Though normally with bitch / whore / slut thrown in.

 

[cw5523729]

I’ve seriously got initial PMs along the lines of:

<Eric Cartman> Obey ma auth-or-it-ay! </Eric Cartman>

Though normally with bitch / whore / slut thrown in.

Hmm, brb, gotta update my list of pick up lines...

 

[EmilyMiller]

Hmm, brb, gotta update my list of pick up lines...

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Recently, I replied to a PM with, “Is that meant to be a pick up line?”

I got a rather embarrassed, “Kind of.”

 

[cw5523729]

Recently, I replied to a PM with, “Is that meant to be a pick up line?”

I got a rather embarrassed, “Kind of.”

Next time you get the unsolicited dick pic, try responding with "Why did you send me your big toe?"

 

[KikiKisses]

See? It's posts like that (which I see on here all the time) that make me paranoid about coming across as creepy, even for the most innocuous of messages.

Have you ever actually had someone get upset? Because if not I think a lot of guys are being way too anxious about it. You’re allowed to talk to women. And if she doesn’t like it she’ll just not respond or shut it down. But if you don’t have a creepy intention and you don’t act creepy and you’re just being polite, just treat her like a person.

 

[KikiKisses]

“I’ll think about it, but hold still while I put this leash and gag on you.”

Another option is to check whether they are on these forums and DM them here (if they look like suitable people). The DM system on the story side of things is clunky and unreliable.

I’ve done that

 

[EmilyMiller]

just treat her like a person.

The problem being that some (I stress some) guys don’t see us that way.

 

[cw5523729]

Have you ever actually had someone get upset?

Nope. But of the 3 conversations I have going right now, I started none of them. Not that I mind anyone else starting them. I'm well aware of the double standard there.

Because if not I think a lot of guys are being way too anxious about it. You’re allowed to talk to women. And if she doesn’t like it she’ll just not respond or shut it down. But if you don’t have a creepy intention and you don’t act creepy and you’re just being polite, just treat her like a person.

I agree with everything you say and yet I'm still a very anxious person. That's why I resort to humor a lot.