Are you dominant or submissive

[LeaHaven]

My husband has been trying to make me see it for many years, but it's only in the past year that I have come to realize that I am dominant. Once I learned to be true to my feelings, our whole marriage has changed and become much, much better, and we both are a lot happier.

But there is this guy I see and he won't let me be dominant. He's the one who is dominant. Does that mean I'm a switch?

 

[Greedy_lion]

My husband has been trying to make me see it for many years, but it's only in the past year that I have come to realize that I am dominant. Once I learned to be true to my feelings, our whole marriage has changed and become much, much better, and we both are a lot happier.

But there is this guy I see and he won't let me be dominant. He's the one who is dominant. Does that mean I'm a switch?

Yeah I’m dom and just can’t switch no matter how much I want. In my mind yup you switch.

 

[AriesAngyl]

I am submissive for sure. I like a strong, confident, primal man who will take the lead especially sexually.

I don’t go for all the yes sir or things like that. I have enough people bossing me around as it is.

But in the bedroom, I do like someone who can take charge, tell me what he wants. I love to please, to be the good girl. That type of strong confident man, especially if he is a little older really I love to be with.

 

[NancyPan]

My husband has been trying to make me see it for many years, but it's only in the past year that I have come to realize that I am dominant. Once I learned to be true to my feelings, our whole marriage has changed and become much, much better, and we both are a lot happier.

But there is this guy I see and he won't let me be dominant. He's the one who is dominant. Does that mean I'm a switch?

Leah, Whether or not you are a so-called “switch” would depend, IMO, on how much you enjoy being submissive to him. I know that I NEED to submit to Women to feel fulfilled. I do not believe that I could dominate a woman or be aroused by a submissive woman (well maybe if she was exceptionally beautiful and had huge breasts ). It’s not uncommon that there is a hierarchy in cuckoldry relationships.

However, be less concerned with labels and more invested in what is best for you and Robbie.

 

[LeaHaven]

However, be less concerned with labels and more invested in what is best for you and Robbie.

NancyPan, that's exactly what I'm going to do. Ty

 

[Kim_04]

submissive

 

[9to5]

submissive

perfect

 

[Oralexplorer]

My husband has been trying to make me see it for many years, but it's only in the past year that I have come to realize that I am dominant. Once I learned to be true to my feelings, our whole marriage has changed and become much, much better, and we both are a lot happier.

But there is this guy I see and he won't let me be dominant. He's the one who is dominant. Does that mean I'm a switch?

That does not necessarily make you a switch, if both of you are Dominant, you are either peers or you have a stand-off. Perhaps flip a coin see which one of you flip

 

[Norfolkguy49]

Dom here but not for a while

 

[LeaHaven]

That does not necessarily make you a switch, if both of you are Dominant, you are either peers or you have a stand-off. Perhaps flip a coin see which one of you flip

He's about 100 lb heavier than me, and he's a foot and a half taller, so I become the coin, and he flips me.

But I put up a good fight!

 

[Oralexplorer]

He's about 100 lb heavier than me, and he's a foot and a half taller, so I become the coin, and he flips me.

But I put up a good fight!

Well, bigger they come harder they fall. It's what you want, nothing wrong with a Dominant being a submissive, no better way to learn how the half thinks if you don't...you know at least walk a mile in their shoes.

 

[cowgirlzz]

Underutilised submissive

 

[Dudeqwe]

Underutilised submissive

lol, keep talking like that and you’ll get plenty of offers to be utilized.

 

[dommastermark]

Underutilised submissive

Underutilised, that's a shame

 

[SirSparky]

Underutilised submissive

Id love to utilize you

 

[kinkincguy]

Dominant

 

[Carmina24]

The Dominant

I don’t just take you.
I claim you because you come to me,
because your hunger calls mine,
because every tremor of your surrender
feeds the beast I keep caged until you open it.

I watch the way you shudder when you kneel.
It’s not weakness I see -
it’s wild, reckless strength,
a pulse of power I want to tear open and taste.

Every command I give
is a bite of heat.
Every touch I lay on you
is a mark, a line of fire pulling you deeper
into the place only I can take you.

I don’t want you small.
I want you raw.
I want to peel you back until the world disappears
and all that’s left is my voice,
your gasps,
and the thrum of your body under my hands.

The power you give me isn’t a crown.
It’s a current.
It tears through me as I guide you,
as your surrender feeds my hunger
and my control sets you alight.

And when you tremble under me,
when your shudders become confessions I can read in your skin,
I’m not above you -
I’m inside the same fire,
burning with you,
devouring and exalting you at once,
making you feral even as you bloom in my grip.

This is what it means to be Dominant.
Not to crush you,
but to wield you,
to take your gift of surrender and turn it into a blaze
where you are radiant in submission
and I am radiant in the hunger
that claims you.

 

[Carmina24]

The Submissive

Yes, he kneels for me. But the meaning runs deeper than the act of submission. His knees touch the ground not because he is lesser - but because he trusts me to strip him bare and build him again.

Yes, my name is branded on his body. But that mark is more than ownership. It is a warning and a promise. A scar that says: he is mine to protect, mine to destroy, mine to resurrect.

To lead is not to take.
To command is not to consume.
To be a Domme - at least as I live it - is to cradle his surrender in one hand and press my hunger into his skin with the other.

He gives me his surrender, and I give him my responsibility.
He gives me his obedience, and I give him my hunger.
He gives me his heart, and I give him mine - fierce, relentless, unmerciful in its devotion.

And so when he kneels, the world may see submission -
but what I see is a man quivering in the heat of my gaze,
aching for the graze of my nails,
burning for the drag of my lips,
a man undone, ruined, and remade in the fire of my touch.

 

[Never2late4funxxx]

A switch that leans submissive

 

[freckledboy]

I'm hardly one to explain anything to anyone, but I find it difficult to believe someone is either purely sub or dom. That being said, I'm a pleaser ....... I crave obeying and submitting ...... but I don't know if that is 'all' that I am

 

[Penus_Flytrap]

I'm usually submissive. If a guy wants me, I tend to just let him do whatever he wants. I like the idea of a guy using my body for his pleasure, although it does present potential problems when guys find that out about me. Like one of my roommate's boyfriends discovered, and he'll sneak into my room late at night on some occasions, waking me up and taking what he wants, and I've never been able to say no even though the trouble I'll get in if we get caught. It just seems like these are the only types of guys I ever attract.

 

[Zeus_10]

Dominant. I find dominating a willing female not only a huge turn on, but also an honour

 

[SpicyBean99]

I’m a switch. Depending on who I’m engaging in sexual “activities” with

 

[xdresssissytoes]

Definitely a sub ....willing to serve and pleasure,,,,,,,

 

[BillyWalrus]

I’m a switch. Depending on who I’m engaging in sexual “activities” with

What determines which way you go? Or does it just happen based on the chemistry between the two of you?