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[subdudeme13]

No weddings but
Two funerals
And a hospital visit

That was my Friday night and Saturday. It’s been a tough couple days.

Small world backstory. In a prior life, the company I worked for used a metal polisher and plating company as a vendor. The owner was a character and his shop was in a very rough part of Newark. He hired ex cons, outcasts, people down on their luck and two bikers named Tiny and Sonny. They were in a club called Heavy Metal MC. I think they were affiliated with The Pagans.

The owner was a character. I wouldn’t have thought of that company again really, but a good friend at works wife’s father was the owner. Small world!

So I kept tabs on Gene thru my friend at work. And he passed away last week. So I got to pay my respects to him and the family at a viewing on Friday night. My friends’ wife really loved some of the colorful stories we had abt her dad! And there were many!

Saturday morning, i visited my friend in rehab. He has bad MS and had a super bad flare up 10 days ago. His right leg is basically deadweight. He lost most use of his right arm and hand. But I was glad to see him and make him laugh. Brought a few books for him. Just hoping he can regain some use of his limbs and get back home.

Went from there and met my wife at the local small airport where they had a really nice memorial for my buddy who passed away last week in a small airplane crash. A number of people eulogized him including me. He touched a lot of people and was a great man. He will be missed dearly. Mrs wonderer and his wife are very close friends.

I had to take some cherry wood to the local sawmill to get sliced up into 3” boards. It was a good distraction. Big 20-25” diameter logs.

And last nite we had a small fire and drank some beer.

https://imgur.com/a/eNK30jc

https://imgur.com/a/2zq7xQY

You just picked them up and threw them in there. LOL
I guess you have some strong springs.

 

[dkak001]

Checked the apple trees last night. This tree is full of these. They've still got a way to go. They're getting closer to being ready, but they're still hard and not sweet enough yet. We have a bit of cooler weather coming, which should help them sweeten up.

 

[PersonalFavors]

Now if I can only find a meds that helps with my getting up every 2 hours to pee! . Actually I need to speak to my doctor about trying different Alpha blockers.

I've always been lucky able to sleep. Sometimes even feeling tired when I don't want too.
After 55 or so I had the pee thing. Constantly waking slightly to ruin a dream or just he feeling my head is pressing the pillow. Pee and back to sleep. I lived with it. Until a few years ago. First I stopped drinking beer. Not on purpose. I was going to have cataracts and thought hmmm. When is the last time I went without beer? I stopped for three weeks or more. Two before the first one and a week or so after the second one. I wasn't in a hurry for a beer. I had started back on the wine. When I has a sip off my first beer I felt it warm my face immediately. Not too long I felt tired. I didn't have any more and I did not miss it. Stopping to pee at night was a little different but didn't get my attention. The next year during a physical the doc advised we could continue no meds for slightly elevated blood pressure and not drinking coffee would help. I stopped cold turkey like I did smoking at the age 34 and the beer the previous year. I had headaches so bad I couldn't sleep. Finally figured out that coffee I made that didn't need a cup was causing withdrawals. Got well and continued no coffee and noticed I was up only 2 times a night to pee. That luxury went away. Long story short, I had done some damage to the prostate from riding my bike. I didn't know it was my bike but enough discomfort where I visited the urologist. End game of that was physical therapy. Kegal's. Look up male pelvic floor exorcises and read whats offered at Mayo and Cleveland clinic. 3 positions and 2 exorcises per position. I think this is what made the biggest difference. And made a differnce in other ways too. Then another year and another physical the doc told me I was fat, like non-alcohol fatty liver and I was dehydrated. Now I try to drink at least 2 liters of water outside of what I normally drink. Aside from water only milk after dinner and wine with. For a while drinking so much water was a problem. Now I often fall asleep 10:30ish and wake up at 8am. Can't explain it. If I do wake up it is uncanny. The clock reads 3:31 or somewhere before or after 4:15. If I eat late I will wake up an hour or two after I fall asleep. That is probably too much wine. When I eat late I tend to snack as I procrastinate, which translates to a whole bottle of wine.
Make sure you are hydrated, lighter colored pee. And give the kegal's a try. Even if its the easy ones you can do sitting in a chair. Once you master it, I find I can do it while driving. It does take a little practice. Which I will admit like any exorcise I find annoying.
There was a time in my IT life where I worked inside big pharma. I avoid medication. Most medication causes symptoms, possibly even the wake up every few minutes to pee one.

 

[PersonalFavors]

I just cut it to what my friend wants it. He makes furniture and gives me the specs and pays for the wood and a bit on top for labor and gas/diesel.

The guy who owns the sawmill is great. He milled me a shit ton of good 4 x 4 cedar when I brought it to him. It is now the fence posts at our farm.

We also worked out a deal where I’m gonna sell his lumber at our farm and take a percentage. He’s a stand up guy.

https://imgur.com/a/hvRPiTL

I love wood. Cool you own some and get to work with it.

 

[likes2watchU]

I agree.

But for whatever reason, Mrs wonderer and I stopped off at a garage sale today on our way back from the sawmill and we got these gems for $5. I believe the 45s are all Portuguese artists.

https://imgur.com/a/w3wwylq

https://imgur.com/a/WJC7kBy

Next thing you know...

 

[likes2watchU]

Checked the apple trees last night. This tree is full of these. They've still got a way to go. They're getting closer to being ready, but they're still hard and not sweet enough yet. We have a bit of cooler weather coming, which should help them sweeten up.
View attachment 2569355

crunchy and tart? sign me up!
I'm a Granny Smith gal at heart but willing to step out and try another tasty apple.
well, unless they're disagreeable suckers before they've sweetened up?

 

[likes2watchU]

Contender:

I love wood.

Best Out of Context Post

 

[PersonalFavors]

I agree.

But for whatever reason, Mrs wonderer and I stopped off at a garage sale today on our way back from the sawmill and we got these gems for $5. I believe the 45s are all Portuguese artists.

https://imgur.com/a/w3wwylq

https://imgur.com/a/WJC7kBy

Jersey garage sales are the bomb. I found stuff I enjoy storing just like the original owner did. Found some really nice antique furniture and lamps I rebuilt too. They just don't make stuff like they used to. A little sad sometimes. Like one, the guy was old. I saw them occasionally driving down the street but never had a reason to talk. I stopped at the garage sale. The old guy was widowed and couldn't keep up the house like he should. Kids didn't care about the stuff or the house anymore. Nicer home ~100 years old in Haddonfield. Great place in Jersey on the 'right' side of the river across from where RCA invented the TV tube and Campbell's soup called home. Anyway, at 92 the kids didn't care so he had to get rid of stuff or throw it away. I was more enjoying talking to him and kept looking for something I could buy that he might feel I would give a good home. As I was turning to leave a flag caught my eye. It was an American flag. I moved the stuff blocking it and picked it up. The fabric felt light or thin but large. I started to lift the folds and he said I had found a gem, but it only meant something to him. I held it up a little higher and said it was an American flag and meant everything. I forget the name of the ship it flew over, it flew over the Whitehouse and was presented to him after WWII by Eisenhower himself. He was ceremoniously promoted to Admiral after the war ended prior to his promotion. I should have some more respect and remember the gentleman, but I think of him on the years I open that 12 foot by 8 48 star flag.

 

[Missk_2022]

I just cut it to what my friend wants it. He makes furniture and gives me the specs and pays for the wood and a bit on top for labor and gas/diesel.

The guy who owns the sawmill is great. He milled me a shit ton of good 4 x 4 cedar when I brought it to him. It is now the fence posts at our farm.

We also worked out a deal where I’m gonna sell his lumber at our farm and take a percentage. He’s a stand up guy.

https://imgur.com/a/hvRPiTL

I like that idea. I would love to do a farmstand like that baked goods plants etc... i dont want to manage just want to drop off treats and pick up money later

 

[Missk_2022]

I agree.

But for whatever reason, Mrs wonderer and I stopped off at a garage sale today on our way back from the sawmill and we got these gems for $5. I believe the 45s are all Portuguese artists.

https://imgur.com/a/w3wwylq

https://imgur.com/a/WJC7kBy

I love the artwork on these

 

[Missk_2022]

Checked the apple trees last night. This tree is full of these. They've still got a way to go. They're getting closer to being ready, but they're still hard and not sweet enough yet. We have a bit of cooler weather coming, which should help them sweeten up.
View attachment 2569355

Yum

 

[Missk_2022]

I've always been lucky able to sleep. Sometimes even feeling tired when I don't want too.
After 55 or so I had the pee thing. Constantly waking slightly to ruin a dream or just he feeling my head is pressing the pillow. Pee and back to sleep. I lived with it. Until a few years ago. First I stopped drinking beer. Not on purpose. I was going to have cataracts and thought hmmm. When is the last time I went without beer? I stopped for three weeks or more. Two before the first one and a week or so after the second one. I wasn't in a hurry for a beer. I had started back on the wine. When I has a sip off my first beer I felt it warm my face immediately. Not too long I felt tired. I didn't have any more and I did not miss it. Stopping to pee at night was a little different but didn't get my attention. The next year during a physical the doc advised we could continue no meds for slightly elevated blood pressure and not drinking coffee would help. I stopped cold turkey like I did smoking at the age 34 and the beer the previous year. I had headaches so bad I couldn't sleep. Finally figured out that coffee I made that didn't need a cup was causing withdrawals. Got well and continued no coffee and noticed I was up only 2 times a night to pee. That luxury went away. Long story short, I had done some damage to the prostate from riding my bike. I didn't know it was my bike but enough discomfort where I visited the urologist. End game of that was physical therapy. Kegal's. Look up male pelvic floor exorcises and read whats offered at Mayo and Cleveland clinic. 3 positions and 2 exorcises per position. I think this is what made the biggest difference. And made a differnce in other ways too. Then another year and another physical the doc told me I was fat, like non-alcohol fatty liver and I was dehydrated. Now I try to drink at least 2 liters of water outside of what I normally drink. Aside from water only milk after dinner and wine with. For a while drinking so much water was a problem. Now I often fall asleep 10:30ish and wake up at 8am. Can't explain it. If I do wake up it is uncanny. The clock reads 3:31 or somewhere before or after 4:15. If I eat late I will wake up an hour or two after I fall asleep. That is probably too much wine. When I eat late I tend to snack as I procrastinate, which translates to a whole bottle of wine.
Make sure you are hydrated, lighter colored pee. And give the kegal's a try. Even if its the easy ones you can do sitting in a chair. Once you master it, I find I can do it while driving. It does take a little practice. Which I will admit like any exorcise I find annoying.
There was a time in my IT life where I worked inside big pharma. I avoid medication. Most medication causes symptoms, possibly even the wake up every few minutes to pee one.

Sleep apnea also can cause nocturnal peeing increase

 

[Wonderer67]

I love wood. Cool you own some and get to work with it.

I am brutish enough to cut it into firewood and get it milled!

But for friends I will get cedar, cherry, certain oak and black walnut milled for them.

 

[Wonderer67]

I like that idea. I would love to do a farmstand like that baked goods plants etc... i dont want to manage just want to drop off treats and pick up money later

I operate 100% on the honor system and mostly it works out great.

It’s been broken into a few times, but mostly by drug addicts were looking for a quick 20 bucks. For the most part, everyone’s honest and occasionally I get shorted like a few weeks ago…. And then I find the extra money typically in the box a few days later.

Just last week, someone bought $30 of pumpkins and left me five dollars. Tuesday or Wednesday of last week and there was magically $25 in there and no one appeared to have bought anything else.

 

[likes2watchU]

I should have some more respect and remember the gentleman, but I think of him on the years I open that 12 foot by 8 48 star flag.

I don't have a flag to open or a bottle for a toast, but will think of this gentleman, and others, on each remembrance of WWII and thank them for their service.
Thank you for sharing this story.

 

[subdudeme13]

Checked the apple trees last night. This tree is full of these. They've still got a way to go. They're getting closer to being ready, but they're still hard and not sweet enough yet. We have a bit of cooler weather coming, which should help them sweeten up.
View attachment 2569355

An apple a day keeps the Dr. away!
I do eat one a day.

 

[B2fromA2looking4U]

Checked the apple trees last night. This tree is full of these. They've still got a way to go. They're getting closer to being ready, but they're still hard and not sweet enough yet. We have a bit of cooler weather coming, which should help them sweeten up.
View attachment 2569355

Those look delicious. What variety are they?

 

[Missk_2022]

I operate 100% on the honor system and mostly it works out great.

It’s been broken into a few times, but mostly by drug addicts were looking for a quick 20 bucks. For the most part, everyone’s honest and occasionally I get shorted like a few weeks ago…. And then I find the extra money typically in the box a few days later.

Just last week, someone bought $30 of pumpkins and left me five dollars. Tuesday or Wednesday of last week and there was magically $25 in there and no one appeared to have bought anything else.

Maybe it was a down payment? Haha

I dont want to be bothered by business taxes and cottage laws... does honir syatem prevent all that

 

[B2fromA2looking4U]

I've always been lucky able to sleep. Sometimes even feeling tired when I don't want too.
After 55 or so I had the pee thing. Constantly waking slightly to ruin a dream or just he feeling my head is pressing the pillow. Pee and back to sleep. I lived with it. Until a few years ago. First I stopped drinking beer. Not on purpose. I was going to have cataracts and thought hmmm. When is the last time I went without beer? I stopped for three weeks or more. Two before the first one and a week or so after the second one. I wasn't in a hurry for a beer. I had started back on the wine. When I has a sip off my first beer I felt it warm my face immediately. Not too long I felt tired. I didn't have any more and I did not miss it. Stopping to pee at night was a little different but didn't get my attention. The next year during a physical the doc advised we could continue no meds for slightly elevated blood pressure and not drinking coffee would help. I stopped cold turkey like I did smoking at the age 34 and the beer the previous year. I had headaches so bad I couldn't sleep. Finally figured out that coffee I made that didn't need a cup was causing withdrawals. Got well and continued no coffee and noticed I was up only 2 times a night to pee. That luxury went away. Long story short, I had done some damage to the prostate from riding my bike. I didn't know it was my bike but enough discomfort where I visited the urologist. End game of that was physical therapy. Kegal's. Look up male pelvic floor exorcises and read whats offered at Mayo and Cleveland clinic. 3 positions and 2 exorcises per position. I think this is what made the biggest difference. And made a differnce in other ways too. Then another year and another physical the doc told me I was fat, like non-alcohol fatty liver and I was dehydrated. Now I try to drink at least 2 liters of water outside of what I normally drink. Aside from water only milk after dinner and wine with. For a while drinking so much water was a problem. Now I often fall asleep 10:30ish and wake up at 8am. Can't explain it. If I do wake up it is uncanny. The clock reads 3:31 or somewhere before or after 4:15. If I eat late I will wake up an hour or two after I fall asleep. That is probably too much wine. When I eat late I tend to snack as I procrastinate, which translates to a whole bottle of wine.
Make sure you are hydrated, lighter colored pee. And give the kegal's a try. Even if its the easy ones you can do sitting in a chair. Once you master it, I find I can do it while driving. It does take a little practice. Which I will admit like any exorcise I find annoying.
There was a time in my IT life where I worked inside big pharma. I avoid medication. Most medication causes symptoms, possibly even the wake up every few minutes to pee one.

Thanks for the tip about Kegels

 

[nipplecaresser]

crunchy and tart? sign me up!
I'm a Granny Smith gal at heart but willing to step out and try another tasty apple.
well, unless they're disagreeable suckers before they've sweetened up?

Fabulous double act.
I find the tart hard to resist!

 

[Missk_2022]

Fabulous double act.
I find the tart hard to resist!

You find a lot of tarts hard to resist

 

[PersonalFavors]

I am brutish enough to cut it into firewood and get it milled!

But for friends I will get cedar, cherry, certain oak and black walnut milled for them.

If I had a fireplace I would try to find where I could cut a tree down and bring it home to chop wood. Actually enjoyed it the few times we did cut a tree down. As well the wood we would get delivered had to be chopped. Like yard work, it is mindless toil. Start doing the work and every one leaves you alone so they don't get put to work. And it is good exorcise without having to do some repetitious motion solely for the purpose of exorcise.
Most of my interaction with wood is hickory, mesquite and oak. The chunks slowly turn to ash leaving a great crust on meats that find their way into one of my grills. Kind of destructive compared to milling and furniture.

 

[Wat_Tyler]

The new sage delivery showed up. Gotta go buy some gas for the road trip. Cats are napping. Got to put out the trash container, too. It's a two container week plus recycling, too. Yard-and-a-half bins at the alley.

 

[PersonalFavors]

I operate 100% on the honor system and mostly it works out great.

It’s been broken into a few times, but mostly by drug addicts were looking for a quick 20 bucks. For the most part, everyone’s honest and occasionally I get shorted like a few weeks ago…. And then I find the extra money typically in the box a few days later.

Just last week, someone bought $30 of pumpkins and left me five dollars. Tuesday or Wednesday of last week and there was magically $25 in there and no one appeared to have bought anything else.

I'm re-binge watching Boardwalk Empire. I like how even the corrupt were honest, back in the day.
Having grown up in rural south I never experienced that kind of old fashioned until I lived in South Jersey. It still exists. Its a kind of respect. A lot of it lives on in the minds and motions of those that are grand daughters in this generation. Dating locals I learned a lot.

 

[Lilianna23]

today was whacky. Not in a good way.

Visited a friend of mine who’s in the hospital. That was sad enough. He is ravaged by MS.

But when we got back home and ready to work at the farm, we got word that a friend of our died.

He died doing what he loved.

He was an ace mechanic and machinist. He could do anything, build anything, get any motor started, figure out a way to do just about anything mechanical. He was 80 years old and didn’t let anything get in his way.

He took one of my neighbors kids under his wing and taught him how to fly. (He was also a pilot)

He was old school AND new school. He was gruff and also friendly. A mentor to many people. He didn’t suffer fools and he also had a heart as big as a house. He programmed his entire house, loved old technology and new technology. He was a doer and did his best thinking on his feet.

He designed and was building a solar kiln for drying wood. This weekend, i was literally gonna get some cherry slabbed at the local sawmill and then bring it to him to get kiln dried.

He was a helluva guy. And I will miss the hell out of him.

Then someone “bought” $30 of pumpkins and left $5. It happens sometimes and 3/4 of the time someone will leave an iou or come back and put the extra money in the box a few days later. Fingers are crossed. It’s not a lot of bread but it ain’t nothing either.

I guess it pales in comparison to losing a loved one.

My one buddy am a barely move and is my age. My other buddy died at 80 and was as sory as a cat.

Life is weird sometimes.

What a beautiful eulogy for your friend, W! I'm so sorry!