Why is it so arousing to talk to strangers on Lit about masturbating?

[Oralexplorer]

I find it to be liberating and arousing to talk to other people about masturbating on here, men or women. I wish it could just be water cooler talk at the office! What is it for you that makes it exciting to just chat about masturbating with other people on Lit?

HR dept will have kittens, calf and all manner of animal but aheeezz we all be coming back to office a lot more frequent, also because someone will always over step the mark of good taste and make it awkward for everyone involved.

Ppl on Lit, are mostly non judgemental or preachy if they've decided to talk/chat/pm you, also it's just fun to find someone your wavelength, even if it's for a fleeting duration of the chat, it's like catching the look of pretty woman at an airport lounge.

 

[Elliott62]

This is awesome, and to that point…

What’s nice is we’re all coming here with generally the same kinky interests. There are a ton of kinks and we can connect with people that align that way.

That's just it.. that's why it's so comfortable. We all know why were here in this space..so there's no hesitation,no need to wait for an opening ..you can just dive right in and no one will be offended,shocked,freaked out.. there's an an audience that's waiting to hear what you have to say..and do.

 

[Elliott62]

Agreed

IMO I think it's both..

 

[Elliott62]

It's that and more, it's so much easier to tell others how you feel, what you think, dream, imagine.

Yes.. exactly!

 

[Elliott62]

Exactly

Yes

 

[Elliott62]

I couldn't agree more with everything everyone else has said! I find that there is something that really intensifies the arousal of whatever is exciting me when I know it's also exciting somebody else, too. When I'm here, I can think my most erotic, but normally private thoughts with zero inhibition. When I get to share that with somebody else...whoa, that's powerful stuff.

Totally agree percent

 

[Elliott62]

Because I don't express these feelings or thoughts in my head with people I know in real life (my user name is not just for show haha) and it would drastically change their views of me.

Writing it rather than saying it face to face is also less inhibiting for me . Some of the things I've written I've never said out loud haha

Yes yes yes, exactly.. me too.. I'm so much more expressive here than out IRL..

 

[Elliott62]

I suspect most of us enjoy just chatting about sex. By engaging with strangers, you get a broader perspective on people's different sexual orientations, interests, fetishes and experiences. I find it not only educational but also wonderfully arousing.

I totally agree. There's a lot of people on this site writing and talking about masturbation and sex.. which obviously means they think about sex a lot...whatever the number of Litsters on here at any given time.. imagine the percentage of the general population that aren't on here that also think about sex quite often..but still..in this day and age .. talking openly about sex among even family or close friends is not heard of/ impossible/ taboo. Yet in some instances..there are many who are dying to know what the people you're close to do in the bedroom..even among a general population group...I know for me.. it's interesting/ erotica/ sexy to hear women talk about the fact that they too masturbate,how often,how and with whom.. because there's still echo's of archaic thinking bouncing around in my brain that women don't have sexual needs to be fulfilled, don't get aroused,don't masturbate. That they don't even think about sex or masturbating.

 

[CharlotteNCguy]

Yes - I love finding people/places like this where the inhibition and judgement is lower - the annon nature helps as well

 

[hugh_jarce69]

HR dept will have kittens, calf and all manner of animal but aheeezz we all be coming back to office a lot more frequent, also because someone will always over step the mark of good taste and make it awkward for everyone involved.

Ppl on Lit, are mostly non judgemental or preachy if they've decided to talk/chat/pm you, also it's just fun to find someone your wavelength, even if it's for a fleeting duration of the chat, it's like catching the look of pretty woman at an airport lounge.

You’ve just given me the character I needed for a story I want to write.
Spoke to a lovely lady the other night who is an HR manager. We chatted about how people in real life would be shocked we were on here.
Imagine being summoned to the HR Manager as your activity on Lit has been discovered. Instead of reprimanding you she reveals she’s on here too?
Thanks

 

[hugh_jarce69]

I totally agree. There's a lot of people on this site writing and talking about masturbation and sex.. which obviously means they think about sex a lot...whatever the number of Litsters on here at any given time.. imagine the percentage of the general population that aren't on here that also think about sex quite often..but still..in this day and age .. talking openly about sex among even family or close friends is not heard of/ impossible/ taboo. Yet in some instances..there are many who are dying to know what the people you're close to do in the bedroom..even among a general population group...I know for me.. it's interesting/ erotica/ sexy to hear women talk about the fact that they too masturbate,how often,how and with whom.. because there's still echo's of archaic thinking bouncing around in my brain that women don't have sexual needs to be fulfilled, don't get aroused,don't masturbate. That they don't even think about sex or masturbating.

Yeah I’ve discovered from here other women love the idea of a man masturbating. I’ve even spoken to other blokes on here as we’re both masturbating. I’d never entertain that in real life but the anonymity seems to increase the arousal

 

[Oralexplorer]

You’ve just given me the character I needed for a story I want to write.
Spoke to a lovely lady the other night who is an HR manager. We chatted about how people in real life would be shocked we were on here.
Imagine being summoned to the HR Manager as your activity on Lit has been discovered. Instead of reprimanding you she reveals she’s on here too?
Thanks

as you banter the penny finally drops for you that she has been the person you have RP in the rp section, she has not caught yet, or has she ?

 

[hugh_jarce69]

as you banter the penny finally drops for you that she has been the person you have RP in the rp section, she has not caught yet, or has she ?

Yeah that’s it. I need something she says that confirms it for me. Maybe I twig before she does. Then during our next online chat I start to drop little clues

 

[Series 6]

Yes - I love finding people/places like this where the inhibition and judgement is lower - the annon nature helps as well

Being able to reveal and talk about your most private desires, no matter how embarrassing, without any repercussions because of the anonymity on this site makes it exciting.

None of us can go into work and admit to one of our coworkers things we’d like like to be doing with or to them. On here we get to have a little fun.

 

[Jerry1288]

That's just it.. that's why it's so comfortable. We all know why were here in this space..so there's no hesitation,no need to wait for an opening ..you can just dive right in and no one will be offended,shocked,freaked out.. there's an an audience that's waiting to hear what you have to say..and do.

The community here is much more welcoming than other online forums. I really appreciate that here.

 

[nightowl75]

As mentioned, this is a place we can go to share our innermost thoughts and secrets. In a perfect world, though, I’d love to be in a group of friends who can do this in real life, talk about our masturbation experiences, when we started dong it, what we are aroused by, if we’ve been caught at it, and who caught us, (or who have we caught)? In the workplace it’s not usually possible, but in years past I’ve heard a few comment on the topic briefly.

 

[Series 6]

As mentioned, this is a place we can go to share our innermost thoughts and secrets. In a perfect world, though, I’d love to be in a group of friends who can do this in real life, talk about our masturbation experiences, when we started dong it, what we are aroused by, if we’ve been caught at it, and who caught us, (or who have we caught)? In the workplace it’s not usually possible, but in years past I’ve heard a few comment on the topic briefly.

That should be one of the corporate teambuilding activities. Could you imagine? “ OK, we’re all going to tell the age we started masturbating, if we’ve been caught and by who, and our favorite porn we masturbate to. Brenda, you start us off.”

 

[base10]

It’s something that is normally so personal and singular and not something to talk to others about. So when you get to open up and talking to people about masturbation, it’s fantastic

 

[Elliott62]

I totally agree. There's a lot of people on this site writing and talking about masturbation and sex.. which obviously means they think about sex a lot...whatever the number of Litsters on here at any given time.. imagine the percentage of the general population that aren't on here that also think about sex quite often..but still..in this day and age .. talking openly about sex among even family or close friends is not heard of/ impossible/ taboo. Yet in some instances..there are many who are dying to know what the people you're close to do in the bedroom..even among a general population group...I know for me.. it's interesting/ erotica/ sexy to hear women talk about the fact that they too masturbate,how often,how and with whom.. because there's still echo's of archaic thinking bouncing around in my brain that women don't have sexual needs to be fulfilled, don't get aroused,don't masturbate. That they don't even think about sex or masturbating.

Just to clarify..I don't think that why..

That should be one of the corporate teambuilding activities. Could you imagine? “ OK, we’re all going to tell the age we started masturbating, if we’ve been caught and by who, and our favorite porn we masturbate to. Brenda, you start us off.”

 

[Elliott62]

As mentioned, this is a place we can go to share our innermost thoughts and secrets. In a perfect world, though, I’d love to be in a group of friends who can do this in real life, talk about our masturbation experiences, when we started dong it, what we are aroused by, if we’ve been caught at it, and who caught us, (or who have we caught)? In the workplace it’s not usually possible, but in years past I’ve heard a few comment on the topic briefly.

I've had that same conversation with my wife..
I have a group of gay male friends who we are very close with and a conversation such as this could probably take place ...but a mixed group of friends..or family..not happening

 

[Series 6]

I've had that same conversation with my wife..
I have a group of gay male friends who we are very close with and a conversation such as this could probably take place ...but a mixed group of friends..or family..not happening

Family are definitely the people you do NOT want to have this conversation with. You do not want to go there with the in-laws as you are digging into a Thanksgiving turkey at the big table. Just what I would have needed to hear from my ex-father-in-law: that kept old copies of the Sears Catalogue to enjoy his "private time." And that weird uncle? Forget it. I'd prefer to miss that meal because I had to prep for a colonoscopy.

 

[Series 6]

I have a group of gay male friends who we are very close with and a conversation such as this could probably take place

As a straight guy, why do I wish I had a group of gay friends I could have crazy conversations with?

 

[Elliott62]

Family are definitely the people you do NOT want to have this conversation with. You do not want to go there with the in-laws as you are digging into a Thanksgiving turkey at the big table. Just what I would have needed to hear from my ex-father-in-law: that kept old copies of the Sears Catalogue to enjoy his "private time." And that weird uncle? Forget it. I'd prefer to miss that meal because I had to prep for a colonoscopy.

True that .

 

[Series 6]

If you work for a large corporation, don't you wonder how many people there are surfing this site and keep their secrets in silence? That middle-aged female manager waiting next to you while you are in line at the sandwich line may appear to be a conservative mom. Meanwhile she's wanting to ditch the rest of the day to go park backwards at the local park to see what lurid acts can take place out there.

 

[Elliott62]

As a straight guy, why do I wish I had a group of gay friends I could have crazy conversations with?

They are some of my best friends-range in age from mid 40s to mid 70s..so a mature bunch. known them for 30 years. .have yet to have a conversation about masturbation..but other things have come up.. I'm sure it would not be out of the question to bring up masturbation..