Missing the firsts

[someguy7791]

I have been married for over 20 years. I have recently been thinking back about my younger days. I have come to realize that I am missing the "firsts" in life. I miss the nervousness of meeting someone new. I miss the anticipation of the first kiss. I miss the excitement of removing a someones clothes for the first time. The first time seeing them naked. The first time touching their skin. And the pure pleasure of the first time entering their wet warm sex. Anyone else miss these things?

 

[BillyWalrus]

You miss being a virgin?

 

[someguy7791]

No you missed the point

 

[BillyWalrus]

No you missed the point

You don't need to be a virgin to fuck somebody for the first time. You can still experience all these "firsts".

 

[someguy7791]

That was my point

 

[korra12]

I have been married for over 20 years. I have recently been thinking back about my younger days. I have come to realize that I am missing the "firsts" in life. I miss the nervousness of meeting someone new. I miss the anticipation of the first kiss. I miss the excitement of removing a someones clothes for the first time. The first time seeing them naked. The first time touching their skin. And the pure pleasure of the first time entering their wet warm sex. Anyone else miss these things?

I know what you mean. And yes, I miss those things too. You don’t have the opportunity to experience those things being married for over 20 years.

 

[Coconutty70]

I feel quite reflective on this. It’s made me think. I believe that there can still be firsts, even in a long term relationship, but it takes a bit more thought, maybe some creativity and some willingness to do new things, say something you have never said, or go to new places together. If you think about it, within the boundaries of our lives, there are many opportunities for newness, but our human nature likes routines and familiarity… and maybe that becomes too dominant; the lines of least resistance. Early-on it’s obviously impossible to not do new things together. Later, less so.

I realise though, that we’re talking more about the excitement of new relationships and sexy times, rather than life in general… and so yes, I have also missed it, do miss it, hate being taken for granted, and have dabbled with some ‘new’ for myself, which is… exciting but in reality q u i t e s c a r y.

With an ex partner, sometimes I used to pretend that that we had never met before, and I would surprise her by coming back from the bathroom and pretending to chat her up like we never met before. That was a bit of a laugh. The imagination can be a powerful thing.

Thank you for the pondering.

 

[LoneMilf]

I believe meeting people online and sexting can sometimes scratch that particular itch. You might not get to see them naked or actually touch them, but the interaction feels fresh and you get the excitement of exploring what works for them and the two of you together

 

[Lighthouse370]

I get what you’re saying. Great memories, and it’s fun re-experiencing and feeling those butterflies again. I enjoy finding that here on Lit.