Received A Slightly Disturbing Fan Message - Should I Respond?

[Kasumi_Lee]

It's almost always a pleasure to get messages from fans, and I really enjoy exchanging emails with people who appreciate my hard work, but yesterday I got an email which really doesn't sit right with me for reasons that will be clear when you read it for yourself (copied and pasted verbatim without any edits or corrections):

"I don't know why this turns me on but I only feel like this when I'm horny on meth however my sister is hot have you had incist before"

He's probably referring to my story "A Mother's Lust", my only contribution to the Incest/Taboo category so far. The answer to his presumable question is no (I hope I don't need to make that clear), but I'm much more disturbed by the middle part of the message about being on meth and apparently taking an unhealthy interest in his sister.

I know almost nothing about this person, so I can't read too much into this brief message, and even if I could there's likely nothing meaningful I could do on my end. Even so, I'm pretty disturbed by this message, and since this person provided an email address to reply to, I'm wondering if I should.

UPDATE: Following the advice of everyone who responded to this thread, I've deleted the strange message without responding to the sender. I hope this person gets the help he evidently needs, and that he doesn't do anything that make others' lives or his own worse, but there's obviously nothing I can do about that.

 

[Erozetta]

My most recent one is a little different, but also disturbing.

For the fourth or fifth time since joining Lit, I responded to a message that slowly devolved into "I get off on real life stories about people being abused, tell me about your experiences, please."

No, I don't think I will. I don't like blocking people, but in cases like this, I make an exception.

 

[SouthernCrossfire]

For your safety (and sanity if he turns out to be a stalker and/or prolific spammer), I'd go with your instinct and stay far away. While it's often fun to respond to fans' messages, we're under no obligation to do so and this is one time I wouldn't.

 

[NotWise]

The message would bother me, but I wouldn't respond to it. You don't know if anything he said is real, and the only thing you could try to do is reduce the risk to the sister--if there is a risk. You know nothing about the sister..

The world is full of broken people. If you're prone to helping people with problems, then reserve that energy for the ones you know and can reach out to personally.

 

[M_K_Babalon]

I just wouldn't respond to the fuckwit tweeker. I fucking hate meth heads. I would have nothing nice to say. No different than chomos to me.

 

[MillieDynamite]

If you want the advice of a person who's made a slew of bad decisions on responding to fans, don't do it. Just let him wonder if you got it and refused to answer, it went to spam, or some other calamity befell his message.

Befell, wow, how archaic is that?

 

[Kasumi_Lee]

I just wouldn't respond to the fuckwit tweeker. I fucking hate meth heads. I would have nothing nice to say. No different than chomos to me.

I'll thank my lucky stars that I've never met a meth head in person.

 

[Kasumi_Lee]

Befell, wow, how archaic is that?

"Befall" is a great word to use!

 

[lovecraft68]

There's no need to respond to something like this.

I get my share of these and my feeling has been I don't need to contribute to what could be a delusion, or even worse, the reality, of a lost soul.

 

[MillieDynamite]

Me thinks the lady doth smarts too much for us mortal folks.

"Befall" is a great word to use!

 

[Baztrachian]

I'll thank my lucky stars that I've never met a meth head in person.

Sure you have. You just didn't know it is all.

A disturbing number of law enforcement abuse meth because it can help them get through long shifts. Their unions and departments typically cover for them to protect their own reputations so you rarely hear about it.

Still, the secret gets out every now and again.

https://www.wsaz.com/2024/10/09/off...trol-car-with-meth-pipe-hand-department-says/

https://americanaddictioncenters.org/rehab-guide/police

 

[SimonDoom]

I've received a few weirdo comments to incest stories. I think your instinct not to respond was right. Stick with your gut on that, and if you are on the fence between responding and not responding, don't respond.

My incest stories are what I call fiction-fantasy, which means they're fantasy stories that are not actually based on fantasies I really have. I don't have incest fantasies, I just like to write the stories because they are a lot of fun. So when I get responses from readers who respond as though they really WANTED to fuck their mother, or that my stories conjured up fond memories from the past, I try not to judge, but I don't engage, either.

 

[Djmac1031]

Ive gotten some skin crawling replies to my incest stories as including one where the guy talked about enjoying the feeling of his young nieces bodies when he hugged them that made me wanna heave.

But I'm glad you decided to avoid reaching out. the negative side of what we do is that there are some truly twisted people out there but there's no need to actually get involved with them.

 

[iwatchus]

I have to say, this is not encouraging me to venture into that pool.

 

[onehitwanda]

 

[lovecraft68]

I'll thank my lucky stars that I've never met a meth head in person.

Yes, it would be awful to see someone who needs help. Especially if they got close to you, I mean, ewww!

No one wants to be an addict; a lot of people don't understand that.

 

[M_K_Babalon]

I'll thank my lucky stars that I've never met a meth head in person.

You've probably just never personally met one, but you've seen them.

 

[M_K_Babalon]

Yes, it would be awful to see someone who needs help. Especially if they got close to you, I mean, ewww!

No one wants to be an addict; a lot of people don't understand that.

Some do. Such as me with cigarettes.

 

[MillieDynamite]

Ice or meth is one of the most insidious drugs out there. One can become addicted after the first use. I have no idea what it's like to be high on it, as I've never made that particular mistake, but I've seen those who have. People end up doing anything (actually, totally, anything) to get more of it. Sell their body, yes, sell anything to get it up to and including their kids. Their teeth rot, they don't bathe or take care of themselves or those they love. Pimps use it to control whores. It's a terrible life once someone becomes hooked on it. They are called tweakers because they fiddle endlessly with things while coming down. As soon as they hit bottom, they need more. They can never have enough...

 

[DeMont]

It's almost always a pleasure to get messages from fans, and I really enjoy exchanging emails with people who appreciate my hard work, but yesterday I got an email which really doesn't sit right with me for reasons that will be clear when you read it for yourself (copied and pasted verbatim without any edits or corrections):

He's probably referring to my story "A Mother's Lust", my only contribution to the Incest/Taboo category so far. The answer to his presumable question is no (I hope I don't need to make that clear), but I'm much more disturbed by the middle part of the message about being on meth and apparently taking an unhealthy interest in his sister.

I know almost nothing about this person, so I can't read too much into this brief message, and even if I could there's likely nothing meaningful I could do on my end. Even so, I'm pretty disturbed by this message, and since this person provided an email address to reply to, I'm wondering if I should.

UPDATE: Following the advice of everyone who responded to this thread, I've deleted the strange message without responding to the sender. I hope this person gets the help he evidently needs, and that he doesn't do anything that make others' lives or his own worse, but there's obviously nothing I can do about that.

@Kasumi_Lee,
Good evening my dear colleague. In my humble opinion I am VERY glad you did not respond to that message in any way except to block it.
It is a fact that here at Lit we get a whole bushel (there's another one for you @MillieDynamite) of weirdo's at any given time, present company excepting of course. There are weirdo's here that we all know and love, that's true but there are just as many out there who drop by to see if they can get a 'fix' of whatever gets them off.

In fact, if I were to write a "Guide to Etiquette" for Lit I would start with, #1 - Avoid random weirdo's messages at all costs.

I also, from experience (perception not involvement) agree that @MillieDynamite hit the proverbial head on the nail in characterising "Meth Heads", Kudos!
Deeply Respectful,
D.

 

[Kasumi_Lee]

I have to say, this is not encouraging me to venture into that pool.

You can always switch off the option to receive anonymous feedback from people.

 

[Kasumi_Lee]

Yes, it would be awful to see someone who needs help. Especially if they got close to you, I mean, ewww!

No one wants to be an addict; a lot of people don't understand that.

As a woman, especially one who's now eight and a half months pregnant, my reaction to that possibility isn't "ewww!" It's "Yikes! What if this potentially unstable person flips out and attacks me?" I don't wish anything bad for these people, and I hope they get the help they need, but I don't want to risk my own safety in the process.

 

[onehitwanda]

No one wants to be an addict; a lot of people don't understand that.

Respectfully, I disagree.

I an older cousin who struggles with addiction, and a cousin my age who is an addict. The two are radically different states. The former is - at some level - ashamed of it. His marriage fell apart, he doesn't get to see his children much, but he still tries to be a decent man. He doesn't always succeed, but he tries, and I guess that has to count for something in the end.

The latter?

This man had, as a child, the most natural affinity with sports that I've ever seen. He could have potentially made it as a professional Tennis player, or as a golfer, he was that good. But, somewhere along the line, he got into drugs and got addicted. He has never tried to get clean - not seriously. He'd beg for money from his parents and sister for "rehab" - you can guess where the money goes. But it was never his fault, it was always the "addiction" that made him do it. Soon enough, his parents ran out of money to give him, and his sister was forced to cut him off. She's subsequently tried, seven times by my last count - to pay for various rehab schemes because she loves him fit to burst.

But it's futile.

My first cousin doesn't want to be an addict but is. My second cousin wants to be an addict, because it's easier than having to try to be something. When he fails to do anything, when he falls at the first step, then he has a convenient excuse.

I love and cherish the memory of the blond-haired boy who was so kind to his awkward, nerdy cousin who couldn't even hit a tennis ball when she first tried. He taught me to fly fish, and he tried to teach me how to play golf. He and my other cousins played cricket with me. He was kind, and funny. He made me laugh. He loved his sister and fought several boys at school when they were awful to her. He was the kind of son I imagine most people dream of having.

And then it was like he was replaced with a stranger. I watched my uncle - my mum's elder brother - die inside. He was an incredibly loving father who moved heaven and earth for his family and who was never too busy to make time for his son and daughter. He died five years ago, and my cousin was too busy crashing out of yet another rehab scheme to come to his funeral.

Some addicts choose to be addicts. I love all my cousins; they are family. But one of them will die an addict by choice, unless some strange eon comes to pass first.

 

[Dada88]

As a woman, especially one who's now eight and a half months pregnant, my reaction to that possibility isn't "ewww!" It's "Yikes! What if this potentially unstable person flips out and attacks me?" I don't wish anything bad for these people, and I hope they get the help they need, but I don't want to risk my own safety in the process.

I'm amazed that despite the potentially "pervert" subjects of this website and the obvious erotic reasons we are all here, there is a sort of "human touch" behind it. Nice people can be find everything, here as well... and you demonstrate it. Thank you