What Are You Thinking? Continued 14

I spend a considerable amount of time here but not nearly enough to be “popular”. I don’t know how some people do it. We all have different and in many cases deeply personal reasons for coming here. Also popularity has different meanings for different people.
This is true. We all have a reason or purpose. Personally? It's something of a distraction when I'm at work late at night. I'm not the least bit concerned about being popular or liked. If it happens, cool. If it doesn't, cool.
I find the need for popularity among strangers on a sex site peculiar too. But one of the common denominators I have observed is most people, men and women, myself included, need validation. So maybe for many that crosses over into popularity?

There is a certain charge we all get from being the belle of the ball so to speak. There’s nothing wrong with that so long as no one gets hurt. We see the same relationship dynamics in the real world.

Lit is not much different than anywhere else where people come together to meet each other. Bars have the same type of energy. There are regulars who take on the personality of the place, new people trying to fit in and the rest who just stop by for a drink once in a while. What makes this place different is it’s a sex centered site. That’s what draws us all here. So that dynamic is what drives the behavior which is backwards from the real world communities and organizations we engage in.

That’s my observation after coming here for over a decade.
I enjoy making people smile and laugh. That gives my life a meaning and a purpose. I get it's a sex site, but why should I be any different? I get that people come on here and pretend. That's cool if that's what they enjoy. Me? I'm just here to have a good conversation, make a connection, and hopeful give someone a smile or a laugh.
 
I also think that US Citizen should be smart enough to understand the 24 hour clock in written and oral speech.
(Of one the multitudinous reasons I am not popular)

Let me guess, you want us to use the metric system too?

I happen to agree with you about the 24 hour clock. I like using it to show off my intelligence and confuse people.
 
It’s no different from that perspective. What sets it apart from other social media sites is that this place is sex centered. People come here to get off. Introducing that element changes everything.
With the way things are trending (and the amount of eyeball bleach I've needed from briefly perusing the sites), I'd argue places like Twitter are also sex centered, just not in as blatant a way.
 
Now I want to come up with all of the different possibilities for WWGD.

What Would Garfield Do (probably my favorite, cause I'd be a sarcastic, lasagna eating cat that sleeps all day if I could as well).

What Would Gargamel Do (also a fave, also because of a slightly villainous cat being involved).
 
I'm thinking it's a two-cup coffee day. Not gonna make any other important decisions until I'm properly caffeinated.
 
Now I want to come up with all of the different possibilities for WWGD.

What Would Garfield Do (probably my favorite, cause I'd be a sarcastic, lasagna eating cat that sleeps all day if I could as well).

What Would Gargamel Do (also a fave, also because of a slightly villainous cat being involved).
What would Gilgamesh do?
 
I spend a considerable amount of time here but not nearly enough to be “popular”. I don’t know how some people do it. We all have different and in many cases deeply personal reasons for coming here. Also popularity has different meanings for different people.

I find the need for popularity among strangers on a sex site peculiar too. But one of the common denominators I have observed is most people, men and women, myself included, need validation. So maybe for many that crosses over into popularity?

There is a certain charge we all get from being the belle of the ball so to speak. There’s nothing wrong with that so long as no one gets hurt. We see the same relationship dynamics in the real world.

Lit is not much different than anywhere else where people come together to meet each other. Bars have the same type of energy. There are regulars who take on the personality of the place, new people trying to fit in and the rest who just stop by for a drink once in a while. What makes this place different is it’s a sex centered site. That’s what draws us all here. So that dynamic is what drives the behavior which is backwards from the real world communities and organizations we engage in.

That’s my observation after coming here for over a decade.
There are many reasons for visiting Lit. Probably as many reasons as there are members. But, we all have one thing in common: we are trying to find something we don't have in real life.

I've also been frequenting this site for many years, leaving and returning, leaving and returning ... at different times, for different reasons. But, I think I return not to be popular (that's something I was never interested in real life), but I think Lost Horizon hit on it. We come here for validation. This site is kind of oxymoronic ... it is a sex site, but how can you have sex with a device? (Okay, okay ... this may be true for some...) But, for the majority, I think we are here to have some kind of human contact ... to find that validating "humanness" that enhances our life outside of Lit.

Yeah, the sexy images and naughty thoughts are an attractive incentive, too. ;)
 
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